Someone says I love you. You don't feel the same. It's awkward

1ZRed

I got told I love you by somebody recently. That's alright and fine.

Except it was by text, in full dead on seriousness, after 2 months of knowing this person!:eek:

Naturally, I immediately threw my phone out of my hand onto the couch once I read the text! I might have a few commitment issues but this was just batshit crazy to me and I didn't know how to react because for a start;

I only knew him for 2 months
Wasn't going out with him. AFAIK
It was said by text and by a man. Still not comfortable with that emotional/feelings crap side of being with a guy

So In the end I decided to text back saying "alright I'm going bed. Night prick"

In my defence though, I call him names the whole time. Didn't go down well the first time with him, strangely, but I was just taking the piss and we do it back and forth. I thought of him as a mate not a fucking boyfriend!

Safe to say I pissed the fucker off big time and the last thing I needed was a big angry gay stalker who was in love with me.

But ah well wtf else was I supposed to do? New concept for me!:D
Met up with him in the end and sorted things out. He still feels the same and I'm uncomfortable with the situation but he's a mate to me so I couldn't just ditch him completely.

I just got thinking this wasn't the best experience at hearing it seriously by somebody. In fact, it was pretty shit.


But wtf are you supposed to do in these situations?

J. Marston

1ZRed wrote: »

I got told I love you by somebody recently. That's alright and fine.

Except it was by text, in full dead on seriousness, after 2 months of knowing this person!:eek:

Naturally, I immediately threw my phone out of my hand onto the couch once I read the text! I might have a few commitment issues but this was just batshit crazy to me and I didn't know how to react because for a start;

I only knew him for 2 months
Wasn't going out with him. AFAIK
It was said by text and by a man. Still not comfortable with that emotional/feelings crap side of being with a guy

So In the end I decided to text back saying "alright I'm going bed. Night prick"

In my defence though, I call him names the whole time. Didn't go down well the first time with him, strangely, but I was just taking the piss and we do it back and forth. I thought of him as a mate not a fucking boyfriend!

Safe to say I pissed the fucker off big time and the last thing I needed was a big angry gay stalker who was in love with me.

But ah well wtf else was I supposed to do? New concept for me!:D
Met up with him in the end and sorted things out. He still feels the same and I'm uncomfortable with the situation but he's a mate to me so I couldn't just ditch him completely.

I just got thinking this wasn't the best experience at hearing it seriously by somebody. In fact, it was pretty shit.


But wtf are you supposed to do in these situations?

At that moment, this is what you did to that guy.

That's cold.

fasttalkerchat

J. Marston wrote: »

At that moment, this is what you did to that guy.

That's cold.

In fairness, he was probably just after the ride.
After 2 months he was desperate not to get friendzoned.

1ZRed

J. Marston wrote: »

At that moment, this is what you did to that guy.

That's cold.

Haha That's not true. Lisa felt bad after doing that. I didn't!:p


No in seriousness, I call him prick the whole time in an affectionate sort of way so on a normal day he wouldn't think anything of it. Wish it was a normal day tbh.

I do care about him and I would have his back but I don't feel that way. I didn't like that I made him feel bad, I'm not that much of an asshole but I see him more as a friend is all.

Tombi!

How about explaining you're not gay for one?

fasttalkerchat

Brutal Deluxe wrote: »

How about explaining you're not gay for one?

He is gay... I think.
Looking at previous post it seems that she's a he and he is gay.
I had assumed the OP was female, sorry OP.

Tombi!

fasttalkerchat wrote: »

He is gay... I think.
Looking at previous post it seems that she's a he and he is gay.
I had assumed the OP was female, sorry OP.

I thought OP was a straight man and his friend was gay and told him he (the friend) said he loved the OP and the OP just seems him as a friend.

jayteecork

Suck his cock.

1ZRed

fasttalkerchat wrote: »

In fairness, he was probably just after the ride.
After 2 months he was desperate not to get friendzoned.

He's gotten the ride but that doesn't get him out of the friendzone

Brutal Deluxe wrote: »

How about explaining you're not gay for one?

That would go against the comment above.

jayteecork wrote: »

Suck his cock.

He would be the one going down on me if that was ever the case again.

girl in the striped socks

Op, I love you xxx

jayteecork

The case again?


Thought you never went near him?

Tombi!

1ZRed wrote: »

That would go against the comment above.

I'm confused.

What gender are you and if you're a fella, are you gay?

1ZRed

jayteecork wrote: »

The case again?


Thought you never went near him?

I've fucked around with him once. Got to be near enough for that.

Brutal Deluxe wrote: »

I'm confused.

What gender are you and if you're a fella, are you gay?

I'm a guy and I'm mostly gay.

Gummy Panda

1ZRed wrote: »

I'm a guy and I'm mostly gay.

He mostly cums on guys, mostly.

I'd feel very awkward if someone told me they love me and wasn't in a relationship with me. I'd think they're confusing feelings and wouldn't want to hurt them.

Jesus Wept

I love you Gummy Panda

/waves

1ZRed

Gummy Panda wrote: »

He mostly cums on guys, mostly.

I'd feel very awkward if someone told me they love me and wasn't in a relationship with me. I'd think they're confusing feelings and wouldn't want to hurt them.

In/on hardly makes a difference, mostly.


It is awkward and the friendship is a lot more forced because of it. I wish he was confusing feelings because the "you're only in lust with me" card was my shot out of this shit but he made it perfectly clear how he feels and he really wants to be with me and is indeed in love with me. Great.
But it's ok because he says he never feels this way about anybody.
Well ffs don't I feel special.

Wompa1

Post in After Hours. Thinly veiled I'm gay and special thread.

Personal Issues is data way ---->

Swampy

Gummy Panda wrote: »

He mostly cums on guys, mostly

Nice rejigged aliens quote.
/thanks given.

Corvo

Woah woah woah. What the **** is going on here again? Run it by me one more time?

mikemac1

1ZRed wrote: »

I might have a few commitment issues

But wtf are you supposed to do in these situations?

Commitment issues?

Aren't you a secondary school student and living with your parents? You have so many threads I feel I know your life story by now

You make it sound as if you're about to settle down with someone

You're young OP, relax a bit

tan11ie

Be honest...simple as

Colmustard

tan11ie wrote: »

Be honest...simple as

And as gently as,

But you can be a bit knocked sideways by an unexpected comment like that.

jayteecork

mikemac1 wrote: »

Commitment issues?

Aren't you a secondary school student and living with your parents? You have so many threads I feel I know your life story by now

You make it sound as if you're about to settle down with someone

You're young OP, relax a bit

He's also completely bent.

Colmustard

jayteecork wrote: »

He's also completely bent.

Huh has he got spinal problems.

Grayson

1ZRed wrote: »

I'm a guy and I'm mostly gay.

Which parts are straight? Cos if you're gay, but your cock is straight, you're going to encounter some difficulties.

Wacker The Attacker

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X3wFHEm33Aw

I love spending time with you too

Bad Panda

1ZRed wrote: »

I'm a guy and I'm mostly gay.

Hmmm

Ficheall

Ah, the old "****ing around with a friend because you're horny and then regretting it when they want something more and genuinely like you whereas you just saw them as a convenient piece of ass" chestnut...

shopaholic01

OP, it's a pity EdenHazard isn't gay, you two would really be the perfect couple.

Hardonraging

1ZRed wrote: »

I got told I love you by somebody recently. That's alright and fine.

Except it was by text, in full dead on seriousness, after 2 months of knowing this person!:eek:

Naturally, I immediately threw my phone out of my hand onto the couch once I read the text! I might have a few commitment issues but this was just batshit crazy to me and I didn't know how to react because for a start;

I only knew him for 2 months
Wasn't going out with him. AFAIK
It was said by text and by a man. Still not comfortable with that emotional/feelings crap side of being with a guy

So In the end I decided to text back saying "alright I'm going bed. Night prick"

In my defence though, I call him names the whole time. Didn't go down well the first time with him, strangely, but I was just taking the piss and we do it back and forth. I thought of him as a mate not a fucking boyfriend!

Safe to say I pissed the fucker off big time and the last thing I needed was a big angry gay stalker who was in love with me.

But ah well wtf else was I supposed to do? New concept for me!:D
Met up with him in the end and sorted things out. He still feels the same and I'm uncomfortable with the situation but he's a mate to me so I couldn't just ditch him completely.

I just got thinking this wasn't the best experience at hearing it seriously by somebody. In fact, it was pretty shit.


But wtf are you supposed to do in these situations?

Hooks for hangs brah !!! but i still love you !!

And if i might .. "To burn with desire and keep quiet about it is the greatest punishment we can bring on ourselves"

omgitsthelazor

I don't think I'll ever have this problem.

Shryke

bluewolf wrote: »

I love spending time with you too

You're stone cold! Malicious intent, bun go bar.

Best to cut the person out if you don't feel it OP, for them not you. If they do feel strongly then they'll only be a mess inside while you're around them.
Please though, get yourself a blog or something.

1ZRed

mikemac1 wrote: »

Commitment issues?

Aren't you a secondary school student and living with your parents? You have so many threads I feel I know your life story by now

You make it sound as if you're about to settle down with someone

You're young OP, relax a bit

I was being light hearted there but I mean I don't like getting close to guys, emotionally. I'm not comfortable with that.

bluewolf wrote: »

I love spending time with you too

He didn't even get that sort of love out of me. I told him "I like spending time with you"

shopaholic01 wrote: »

OP, it's a pity EdenHazard isn't gay, you two would really be the perfect couple.

Haha fuck sake give me some credit, I'm not that gay! :pac:

marshbaboon

I had a girl tell me she loved me after knowing her for a week.

She asked me to marry her 6 months later... Daddy issues eh

NegativeCreep

Been in the same position as you OP (although not with another bloke)
People are too quick to say those three words in my opinion.
Best thing to do is, straight away, say that you don't love him. And if you're not intent on having a relationship with him then make that perfectly clear aswell. Say you want to stay friends but also make it clear that you mean JUST friends and not f*ck buddies (unless that's what you're after) :pac:

CavanCrew

Hardonraging wrote: »

And if i might .. "To burn with desire and keep quiet about it is the greatest punishment we can bring on ourselves"

Sure HardOn is in Lurve, ARNT YA!

Hardonraging

CavanCrew wrote: »

Sure HardOn is in Lurve, ARNT YA!

In love with life ? buy a big diamond ring for me ??

CavanCrew

Hardonraging wrote: »

In love with life ? buy a big diamond ring for me ??

No.

Vicar in a tutu

Haha OP I do that all the time, I'll text someone going hello wanker etc :pac: , It just means I like them :pac:

Yeah the whole loving someone after 2 months though is kinda over the top, very needy:eek:

1ZRed

Hardonraging wrote: »

In love with life ? buy a big diamond ring for me ??

Any particular song stuck in your head today?

paddy147

Lesson 4-"Interpersonal Skills"

......."you dont sweat much for a fat bird".........:D

Teyla Emmagan

paddy147 wrote: »

Lesson 4-"Interpersonal Skills"

......."you dont sweat much for a fat bird".........:D

Are you in the wrong thread, love?

Cee-Jay-Cee

I think the only sensible way to sort it out is to make him prove it by setting him all sorts of difficult tasks sort of like on big brother (you could video them too) The first thing you should get him to do is fuck off and never ever ever ever speak to you again, ever! If he can manage that then he really does love you and you two crazy kids should hook up.

1ZRed

We were texting there just now and he said he watches Jersey shore and Geordie shore sometimes.


He needs to be cut out of my life.

marshbaboon

1ZRed wrote: »

We were texting there just now and he said he watches Jersey shore and Geordie shore sometimes.


He needs to be cut out of my life.

Can I have his number? I'm not even gay... but I am incredibly desperate.

Miss Lockhart

shopaholic01 wrote: »

OP, it's a pity EdenHazard isn't gay, you two would really be the perfect couple.

I couldn't agree more! I often mix the two of them up. Which one loves Justin Bieber again? Or is it one wants to be with him and one wants to be him??

1ZRed

Miss Lockhart wrote: »

I couldn't agree more! I often mix the two of them up. Which one loves Justin Bieber again? Or is it one wants to be with him and one wants to be him??

Let me clear some things up right here.

I despise Justin bieber. I do not want to be him nor do I want to be with him.
I wouldn't even spite fuck him if I was offered money.

In fairness I don't see how I'm like EdenHazzard. No offence to the guy but he plays up to the stereotype I'm supposed to be more than myself.

Miss Lockhart

1ZRed wrote: »

Let me clear some things up right here.

I despise Justin bieber. I do not want to be him nor do I want to be with him.
I wouldn't even spite fuck him if I was offered money.

In fairness I don't see how I'm like EdenHazzard. No offence to the guy but he plays up to the stereotype I'm supposed to be more than myself.

I suppose it's just that you're both young male posters who seem to detail every problem of your lives on boards and constantly look for advice and reassurance here. I lose track of which issue belongs with which poster.

1ZRed

Miss Lockhart wrote: »

I suppose it's just that you're both young male posters who seem to detail every problem of your lives on boards and constantly look for advice and reassurance here. I lose track of which issue belongs with which poster.

In my defence I post a lot of those threads when I've been drinking. But tbh I couldn't give a fuck either way.

shopaholic01

Miss Lockhart wrote: »

I couldn't agree more! I often mix the two of them up. Which one loves Justin Bieber again? Or is it one wants to be with him and one wants to be him??

EdenHazard is the super good-looking, Justin Bieber one who lacks confidence, and therefore can only pull when girls approach him.

1ZRed is the one who considered being a gay porn star to pay his way through college, but was unsure if his manhood was up to the task (concerned about girth, length is fine).