Someone says I love you. You don't feel the same. It's awkward

shopaholic01

1ZRed wrote: »

In my defence I post a lot of those threads when I've been drinking. But tbh I couldn't give a fuck either way.

I do find you amusing, sometimes despite myself .

dttq

1ZRed wrote: »

I got told I love you by somebody recently. That's alright and fine.

Except it was by text, in full dead on seriousness, after 2 months of knowing this person!:eek:

Naturally, I immediately threw my phone out of my hand onto the couch once I read the text! I might have a few commitment issues but this was just batshit crazy to me and I didn't know how to react because for a start;

I only knew him for 2 months
Wasn't going out with him. AFAIK
It was said by text and by a man. Still not comfortable with that emotional/feelings crap side of being with a guy

So In the end I decided to text back saying "alright I'm going bed. Night prick"

In my defence though, I call him names the whole time. Didn't go down well the first time with him, strangely, but I was just taking the piss and we do it back and forth. I thought of him as a mate not a fucking boyfriend!

Safe to say I pissed the fucker off big time and the last thing I needed was a big angry gay stalker who was in love with me.

But ah well wtf else was I supposed to do? New concept for me!:D
Met up with him in the end and sorted things out. He still feels the same and I'm uncomfortable with the situation but he's a mate to me so I couldn't just ditch him completely.

I just got thinking this wasn't the best experience at hearing it seriously by somebody. In fact, it was pretty shit.


But wtf are you supposed to do in these situations?

Cum on, give them a second chance.

1ZRed

shopaholic01 wrote: »

EdenHazard is the super good-looking, Justin Bieber one who lacks confidence, and therefore can only pull when girls approach him.

1ZRed is the one who considered being a gay porn star to pay his way through college, but was unsure if his manhood was up to the task (concerned about girth, length is fine).

I actually sent my photos on and I heard back from 3 studios. Not going to do it but I did get nicely complimented on my dick so that builds the confidence on that front!

But eh yeah, thanks for the summary. Great to know I'm seen only as the wannabe pornstar but that's something different I suppose

shopaholic01

1ZRed wrote: »

I actually sent my photos on and I heard back from 3 studios. Not going to do it but I did get nicely complimented on my dick so that builds the confidence on that front!

But eh yeah, thanks for the summary. Great to know I'm seen only as the wannabe pornstar but that's something different I suppose

Well I could say more, you're like an old friend now. Loved that thread btw, but I thought you decided to stop posting in AH?

Colmustard

OP I wrote a song about your predicament you wouldn't believe who i got to perform it,

Mr Benevolent

I respect gay people, but there's one thing that gay men are missing out on - the female form. Mother of god is it good. Boobs - fantastic. Legs - wow. Everything else - utterly amazing.

Yet gay guys don't appreciate it. That's criminal. I have a cock, I appreciate it and enjoy it, but it's a cock. Big deal. But women - sweet holy mother of all that's slippery and warm they're good.

TL;DR: Gay men are missing out big time. To clarify, I understand that being gay is not a choice.

1ZRed

shopaholic01 wrote: »

Well I could say more, you're like an old friend now. Loved that thread btw, but I thought you decided to stop posting in AH?

Ah that thread. Got the absolute piss ripped out of me.
I figured it wasn't the worst around here and I've nothing better do

fasttalkerchat

1ZRed wrote: »

I actually sent my photos on and I heard back from 3 studios. Not going to do it but I did get nicely complimented on my dick so that builds the confidence on that front!

But eh yeah, thanks for the summary. Great to know I'm seen only as the wannabe pornstar but that's something different I suppose

But you're gay... would a big dick not be a bad thing?

1ZRed

Confab wrote: »

I respect gay people, but there's one thing that gay men are missing out on - the female form. Mother of god is it good. Boobs - fantastic. Legs - wow. Everything else - utterly amazing.

Yet gay guys don't appreciate it. That's criminal. I have a cock, I appreciate it and enjoy it, but it's a cock. Big deal. But women - sweet holy mother of all that's slippery and warm they're good.

TL;DR: Gay men are missing out big time. To clarify, I understand that being gay is not a choice.

Well look at it this way. It works both ways. I get to appreciate a man and get with them, there's actually a lot of power in it.

I know it's very hard for straight guys to understand the appeal of another man and they don't readily get it but two muscled strong guys having sex is very masculine and a massive turn on because you're conditioned not to do it because it's 'wrong' so there is a massive thrill in it, plus it's rough and rugged. It's not just the individual bits of a guy but the sum of the parts and the whole idea of it that's appealing to me, that's your point with women. You'll never fully get it but it's unreal.

And I am attracted to women enough to have sex with them and enjoy it and a lot of gay guy's do find women very attractive and get drawn to them but not enough to have sex usually. I'm sure some straight guys can appreciate another man sometimes too but not necessarily in a fully sexual way at all if you get me.

I think you could play it both ways definitely and say that gay guys and straight guys are missing out equally.

guitarzero

"Night prick"?

Trying to see what he sees in you and I'm getting nothing. Maybe it was a joke, it had to have been a joke.

barry711

1ZRed wrote: »

But wtf are you supposed to do in these situations?

Well how about not insulting your "mate" for a start by calling him a prick in this situation, regardless if you trade insults with him or not. There is a time and place for it and it was uncalled for in this situation I think. You could of also not started a thread about it and talk **** about the poor guy, wouldn't like to see my friend do something like that on me. All you really had to say was something along the lines of, "Thank you, but I'm not interested/gay" or "I dont feel the same way" End of story. No need to start a thread about it. I suspect you just love drama. As to why he said it after only two months of knowing you...maybe he picked up on your gay vibe you thought you were doing such a good job of hiding.

1ZRed

barry711 wrote: »

Well how about not insulting your "mate" for a start by calling him a prick in this situation, regardless if you trade insults with him or not. There is a time and place for it and it was uncalled for in this situation I think. You could of also not started a thread about it and talk **** about the poor guy, wouldn't like to see my friend do something like that on me. All you really had to say was something along the lines of, "Thank you, but I'm not interested/gay" or "I dont feel the same way" End of story. No need to start a thread about it. I suspect you just love drama. As to why he said it after only two months of knowing you...maybe he picked up on your gay vibe you thought you were doing such a good job of hiding.

Haha gay vibe I'm hiding? I am gay. Had you read down a few posts I would have cleared that up.
We're guys, we slag each other the whole time regardless and since I was caught off guard and didn't know what to do that's what I said, and played it off as a joke with my mate.

I sorted things out with him afterwards in person and I'll do my best to not have an awkward situation between us for his sake. I've had his back and supported him as a friend when he went through some stuff so I now get why he grew close to me.
But I'll keep taking the piss out of him and him to me because that was our friendship and there's nothing worse than having him as a friend and treating him differently and highlighting the fact that I don't feel the same about him.

Johro

1ZRed wrote: »

But wtf are you supposed to do in these situations?

Be honest, and less of a prick.

paddy147

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

Are you in the wrong thread, love?

You obviously didnt listen,understand and then equate it to the thread title.;)

1ZRed

Johro wrote: »

Be honest, and less of a prick.

I did tell him that I didn't feel that way about him but he told me he ment it.
Hardly think I'm that much of a prick when I could have cut him out completely. He's my friend regardless so I think that's at least something good I did.

SugarCoat

OP try telling him you love someone else ie an ex or maybe you can think of an even better white lie to tell him.I appreciate the fact that you don't love him but don't want to hurt either since he's been through stuff.

Itwasntme.

shopaholic01 wrote: »

EdenHazard is the super good-looking, Justin Bieber one who lacks confidence, and therefore can only pull when girls approach him.

1ZRed is the one who considered being a gay porn star to pay his way through college, but was unsure if his manhood was up to the task (concerned about girth, length is fine).

:pac::pac: #tearsrunningdownmyface

Sykk

1ZRed wrote: »

I got told I love you by somebody recently. That's alright and fine.

Except it was by text, in full dead on seriousness, after 2 months of knowing this person!:eek:

Naturally, I immediately threw my phone out of my hand onto the couch once I read the text! I might have a few commitment issues but this was just batshit crazy to me and I didn't know how to react because for a start;

I only knew him for 2 months
Wasn't going out with him. AFAIK
It was said by text and by a man. Still not comfortable with that emotional/feelings crap side of being with a guy

So In the end I decided to text back saying "alright I'm going bed. Night prick"

In my defence though, I call him names the whole time. Didn't go down well the first time with him, strangely, but I was just taking the piss and we do it back and forth. I thought of him as a mate not a fucking boyfriend!

Safe to say I pissed the fucker off big time and the last thing I needed was a big angry gay stalker who was in love with me.

But ah well wtf else was I supposed to do? New concept for me!:D
Met up with him in the end and sorted things out. He still feels the same and I'm uncomfortable with the situation but he's a mate to me so I couldn't just ditch him completely.

I just got thinking this wasn't the best experience at hearing it seriously by somebody. In fact, it was pretty shit.


But wtf are you supposed to do in these situations?

Think you handled it as best as it could be handled

Snowie

1ZRed wrote: »

I got told I love you by somebody recently. That's alright and fine.

Except it was by text, in full dead on seriousness, after 2 months of knowing this person!:eek:

Naturally, I immediately threw my phone out of my hand onto the couch once I read the text! I might have a few commitment issues but this was just batshit crazy to me and I didn't know how to react because for a start;

I only knew him for 2 months
Wasn't going out with him. AFAIK
It was said by text and by a man. Still not comfortable with that emotional/feelings crap side of being with a guy

So In the end I decided to text back saying "alright I'm going bed. Night prick"

In my defence though, I call him names the whole time. Didn't go down well the first time with him, strangely, but I was just taking the piss and we do it back and forth. I thought of him as a mate not a fucking boyfriend!

Safe to say I pissed the fucker off big time and the last thing I needed was a big angry gay stalker who was in love with me.

But ah well wtf else was I supposed to do? New concept for me!:D
Met up with him in the end and sorted things out. He still feels the same and I'm uncomfortable with the situation but he's a mate to me so I couldn't just ditch him completely.

I just got thinking this wasn't the best experience at hearing it seriously by somebody. In fact, it was pretty shit.


But wtf are you supposed to do in these situations?

Some people feel love a lot more then others :eek:
Some people have got love to give...

Some people may be a little insecure!
Some people may just know exactly what they want!

My parents meet and in 6 months they were married there married 40 years...


Mad really but if you got the love for some one say it, if she or he dont return it... Its cool it just means your an exceptionally speachil person to some one..
Think thats a pretty good thing to be last time I checked....

As long as there not sitting on the end of your bed at night watching you then it just gets creepy :eek:

but in your case OP your cold there then the ice Queen of narnia

Dyr

Snowie wrote: »

Some people feel love a lot more then others :eek:
Some people have got love to give...

Some people may be a little insecure!
Some people may just know exactly what they want!

My parents meet and in 6 months they were married ...

And three months later they were parents :pac:

Snowie

Bambi wrote: »

And three months later they were parents :pac:

Nope 5 or 6 years they had excesive partying to do... Our house had graffitti on the inside walls till late into the 80s :cool::D

Funglegunk

OP gets compliments about his dick and has people declaring their unrequited love for him.

Gentlemen start your engines.

1ZRed

Alright, so earlier I decided to text him and to see if I could fix this better for this guy's sake and take your advice and do right by him. I was going to be the good guy.

I said I don't love him straight out even though he clearly knew and I told him he should go looking for other guys and get over me.

Things did not go down all too well.

Turns out I pissed him off a lot by doing this because he put all his trust in me and he is not the type of guy to open up to anyone, and he did to me, so now he has all of this on his mind and I unwittingly brought this all up less than 2 hours before he had a big exam. Perfect timing.

Haha, fuck!

Why did I listen to all of you? Things were perfectly fine when I was the prick, calling him names and taking the piss out him.
Must have been doing something right all along?

It looks like sentiment and me do not mix well so no more of that from now on I think!
I've basically managed to open up a can of worms using nothing but my dick with his guy.

Fuck in hell I'm bad at being gay :pac:


Edit, I'll probably just give him the ride again to sort this out, couldn't do anymore harm I think. He'll be alright

Gummy Panda

1ZRed wrote: »

Alright, so earlier I decided to text him and to see if I could fix this better for this guy's sake and take your advice and do right by him. I was going to be the good guy.

I said I don't love him straight out even though he clearly knew and I told him he should go looking for other guys and get over me.

Things did not go down all too well.

Turns out I pissed him off a lot by doing this because he put all his trust in me and he is not the type of guy to open up to anyone, and he did to me, so now he has all of this on his mind and I unwittingly brought this all up less than 2 hours before he had a big exam. Perfect timing.

Haha, fuck!

Why did I listen to all of you? Things were perfectly fine when I was the prick, calling him names and taking the piss out him.
Must have been doing something right all along?

It looks like sentiment and me do not mix well so no more of that from now on I think!
I've basically managed to open up a can of worms using nothing but my dick with his guy.

Fuck in hell I'm bad at being gay :pac:


Edit, I'll probably just give him the ride again to sort this out, couldn't do anymore harm I think. He'll be alright

This sounds like the plot of Queer as Folk. You must be playing Aiden Gillen's character.

xylophones

you are a despicable person...this guy deserves alot better than you, im sure he'll realise that too, eventually!

1ZRed

Gummy Panda wrote: »

This sounds like the plot of Queer as Folk. You must be playing Aiden Gillen's character.

It's a bad sign when a straight guy is talking about something gay and the gay guy doesn't have a clue

shopaholic01

1ZRed wrote: »

Turns out I pissed him off a lot by doing this because he put all his trust in me and he is not the type of guy to open up to anyone, and he did to me, so now he has all of this on his mind and I unwittingly brought this all up less than 2 hours before he had a big exam. Perfect timing.

Haha, fuck!

Bit harsh there, Redzer!

1ZRed wrote: »

Edit, I'll probably just give him the ride again to sort this out, couldn't do anymore harm I think. He'll be alright

He may very well turn you down ...........................

Johro

barry711 wrote: »

Well how about not insulting your "mate" for a start by calling him a prick in this situation, regardless if you trade insults with him or not. There is a time and place for it and it was uncalled for in this situation I think. You could of also not started a thread about it and talk **** about the poor guy, wouldn't like to see my friend do something like that on me. All you really had to say was something along the lines of, "Thank you, but I'm not interested/gay" or "I dont feel the same way" End of story. No need to start a thread about it.

Exactly.

Johro

1ZRed wrote: »

Alright, so earlier I decided to text him and to see if I could fix this better for this guy's sake and take your advice and do right by him. I was going to be the good guy.




Edit, I'll probably just give him the ride again to sort this out, couldn't do anymore harm I think. He'll be alright

Maybe doing right by him is just leaving him the hell alone, you seem to like playing games.

1ZRed

shopaholic01 wrote: »

Bit harsh there, Redzer!

I don't mean it in a bad or harsh way and I was just trying to do the best for him. I don't think it's fair for him to be hung up on me so I tried to get him to look for other guys so he could be happier.
But he wants me as a friend at the least and I like him as just that so I'm more than happy to have his back and be his mate. I actually think I was doing the best thing when I just got everything out in the open and went on as if nothing happened. I was a bit naive to try to and do the right thing (so I thought and was told) Tbh I'm pretty clueless with gay relationships because I can't see any guy past a mate and don't know what to do when feelings get deeper.

So yeah I text him and I want to hang out with him and go out drinking with the lads one of the nights. We're already back slagging each other and I'm taking it easy so he can get a few diggs in at me. Like a true buddy

shopaholic01 wrote: »

He may very well turn you down ...........................

I was only joking but if I made him feel really bad and he wanted to be close to me I'd let him have it. That probably wouldn't work out so I'm not going down that road.
Relax I was just fucking around with you all on that statement!

Johro

Still, you titled your OP 'Someone says I love you. You don't feel the same. It's awkward', after which you rip the piss out of the guy while making public what we can assume he'd like kept private, and you seem to be having a pretty good time doing it. Real awkward alright.

1ZRed

Johro wrote: »

Still, you titled your OP 'Someone says I love you. You don't feel the same. It's awkward', after which you rip the piss out of the guy while making public what we can assume he'd like kept private, and you seem to be having a pretty good time doing it. Real awkward alright.

Wow, I'm gay and I'm supposed to like having a stick up my ass, what's your excuse?

I'm just discussing it. He's in love with me. I'm hardly showcasing a sex tape of the two of us here. And he's my friend, we rip the piss out of each other back and forth. I do that with all the lads.
Tbh with you, I'm hardly doing anything that severe to him.

Johro

1ZRed wrote: »

Wow, I'm gay and I'm supposed to like having a stick up my ass, what's your excuse?

I'm just discussing it. He's in love with me. I'm hardly showcasing a sex tape of the two of us here. And he's my friend, we rip the piss out of each other back and forth. I do that with all the lads.
Tbh with you, I'm hardly doing anything that severe to him.

I'm just observing that it sometimes takes a fair bit of courage for someone to say they love you, and it's something that leaves you vulnerable. He might not have found it easy to say, probably been thinking on it for a while before telling you. You seem to be treating it as a bit of a joke is what I'm saying.
It's just my opinion, take it or leave it, I'll live either way.
You're posting some pretty personal stuff about yourself and your 'friend', be prepared to take a bit of criticism if it comes your way, that's what happens when you put it in the public domain.

Pdfile

1ZRed wrote: »

I'm a guy and I'm mostly gay.

is the cup half empty or did you chip and nail turning on the kettle ?

paddyandy

People know when they are loved .Saying '' i love you '', is daft .

imelle

happens me all the time. bitches be crazy.

paddyandy

Lust is not Love .Lust is selfish but Love is selfless .

Beruthiel

1ZRed wrote: »

It's a bad sign when a straight guy is talking about something gay and the gay guy doesn't have a clue

Go watch it (the english version), you are the main character personified.

And fer fecks sake, be nice to the poor lad!

Also, he's going to thank you with much gratitude, when he comes across this thread....

Medusa22

shopaholic01 wrote: »

OP, it's a pity EdenHazard isn't gay, you two would really be the perfect couple.

That's so true. When I read their posts I sometimes mix them up!