How much to give at a wedding

Annasopra

bluewolf wrote: »

you should give for declining an invite? eh no

Of course you should

Quorum

jclally wrote: »

What do people think is the right amount to put in a wedding card?

I always used to give €200. We had three weddings in four weeks last year so cash was tight; the first two got €150. The third got €100 and I was really embarrassed giving it, though my girlfriend said it was plenty.

What would / do you give?

Embarrassed, really? At the last wedding I attended, I gave the couple 50 euro. I had just finished college and seeking employment, so that was all I could afford, considering I had to travel for the wedding and stay overnight. But I think 50 is grand, even if money isn't tight.

bluewolf

bluewolf wrote: »

you should give for declining an invite? eh no

In most cases yes you should imo, obviously less than if you went though.

I'm polling my colleagues here and they say no
:pac:
if it's a good friend and you can't make it for some reason yeah sure but your average acquaintance or 5th cousin 10 times removed? no way

cloud493

I find this whole thing ridiculous/ 200 quid to attend a wedding they invited you to? On your bike.

Quorum

Melanoma wrote: »

If you are getting a meal and entertainment (church, band, disco) its a good night out so like 50 euro would not really cover it.

Why would you have to "cover" it?

wicklowgal

I got married recently and plenty of couples gave us €100. People do not have the money these days, it's not fair saying what you are 'supposed' to give. We were very grateful for all of our gifts. Makes me very angry to see couples getting married and seeing the wedding as a money making exercise.

opinion guy

mango salsa wrote: »

Of course you should

Brayden Gorgeous Balcony wrote: »

In most cases yes you should imo, obviously less than if you went though.

Why should you ?

(this is not mean to an argument .....I'm just wondering what your reasoning is)

wicklowgal

opinion guy wrote: »

Yeah the cheek of them not wanting 14 new toasters, 5 new microwaves or a 43rd set of china:rolleyes:

Lighten up - what difference does it make - most people give presents to 'offset the cost of the wedding' anyhow. At least these people are being honest

I would have given this couple nothing. How dare they. A gift is a gift.

podgemonster

False Prophet wrote: »

Basically if you go to a full traditional wedding your suppose to give cash (minimum 100€ for single, 150 for 2 ppl).
If you decline a full wedding invite or go to the afters you should give (25-50€ per person).

What? If I'm relagated to the Afters list, they'll get a nice card and a handsake.

Sure your costing the couple noting but floor space on the dance floor during Rock the Boat, no reason why you should be giving anything.

MJ23

A bag of blue

John Mason

150e a couple? get to fe.ck

they should be happy we made the effort tbh, especially after they organised to have their wedding in the arseend of nowhere and didnt put a bus on. therefore you are left with either having to drive or stay the night.

and they they have the cheek to serve you slop for dinner and some cheap and nasty wine and we are supposed to cover that.

Not a feck hope.

they will accept our photoframe and be happy with it.

dr.bollocko

irishbird wrote: »

150e a couple? get to fe.ck

they should be happy we made the effort tbh, especially after they organised to have their wedding in the arseend of nowhere and didnt put a bus on. therefore you are left with either having to drive or stay the night.

and they they have the cheek to serve you slop for dinner and some cheap and nasty wine and we are supposed to cover that.

Not a feck hope.

they will accept our photoframe and be happy with it.

Digital ones. Tescos. 30 euro. Sorted.

Quorum

Jesus Nut wrote: »

At least €200 per card this day and age.
a 100 pounds was the norm before the Euro came in I tend to remember.

Eh, no...

later12

CJC999 wrote: »

I was at 4 weddings this year, at 3 of them we gave 150. One of them put one of those fuc king 'we have everything please give us money' rhymes in their invitation and so they got a voucher for 100 which TBH was too much as the cheeky feckers were effectively asking their guests to pay for their wedding. I would have refused to go and give nothing at all except it was a family wedding and had to keep the peace and all that ****e.

How did they actually phrase it?

That's incredibly rude. Especially in the current economic climate.

lecker Hendl

BM for upcoming financial woes

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Cienciano wrote: »

Unless you get them a shíte present like a footspa when they request money.

If someone requested money they'd be getting a footspa, to be honest!

Quorum

TheTurk1972 wrote: »

If we adopted a custom that nobody puts their names on the gift I bet the value of gifts would drop. And then the numbers invited to weddings would drop too.

Yep, good point. There is definitely an element of competition for many in wedding gift-giving.

Donadea Leo

Sorry if this is off thread a bit but seems to be a theme of everyone being sick of being invited to weddings - they're great for the bride and groom and their family but they all just follow the same format.

Like everyone else I've been to a load over the last few years, I can never remember one over the other to be honest, and don't get me wrong I generally have a good time but wouldn't it be great if hotels offered different types of weddings - maybe you could choose from a theme and no two hotels within a 40 mile radius are allowed to have the same theme and the theme has to change every year.

ash23

I give 50 from me. Never bring a guest but if I were I'd probably throw in 50 for them too.

I have to dress up, travel, pay for accomodation and babysitters so I can "share the day". So 50 is enough because it's what I can afford.

Muckit

Very hard to make a wedding much different really, especially if kept to the traditional venue of a hotel.

Maybe it's just the way people view things. If a person isn't happy to go to a wedding the way it has been planned and organised by the bride and groom, then just don't go. Simple as. No really, it is that simple. At least your being honest and not twofaced turning up to something you are not happy being at.

As for giving gifts...... what's that about 'it's better to give than to receive'.... ? Just budget for a present, be it cash or otherwise and stop moaning about it. Money will come and go.

If you REALLY can't afford it, and it's not just a case of you being a tight git, then just tick the other box on the invite.....

Rasmus

Quorum wrote: »

If someone requested money they'd be getting a footspa, to be honest!

if someone gave me a footspa as a gift, I would be delighted.

Rasmus

I haven't been to a wedding in years myself (not since gift registers were the norm) but from what I am reading here, the money situation has become ridiculous.

People CHOOSE to have big weddings with 3 course meals, bands, flowers, party favours. When it comes down to it, these things are usually crap at weddings.

200, 500 euro for gifts?? Where are these michelin star meals with the Rolling Stones in the background flanked by willow trees and orchids? I'm mixing in the wrong crowd because I never got an ipod as a party favour! Where's my welcome glass of Opus 1?

If this is what is expected from some folks, then when a wedding invite arrives, best to book your holiday then and send off the happy couple the required 50 euro oneforall voucher. (Sorry we can't come, we have a holiday booked).

If it the done thing to give the couple money, then I'd give 100 euro from the both of us. If they're friends of mine, they'd appreciate that we already are paying for a hotel and what not in order to share the special day.

I am not a wedding fan - I think if you are, you should not expect your mates to finance it wholly.

Quorum

JupiterKid wrote: »

We really could take a leaf out of England's book where weddings are generally a more simple, low key affair.

They're more low key on the day, but having gift lists and expecting presents is actually more de rigeur over there.

Fuinseog

A foreign friend of mine is invited to a wedding next month and they were asking me what they should give as a present. I suggested money or vouchers and they asked how much. the wedding is for a colleague of theirs with whom they socialise now and then. how much would you give in such a situation. fifty or a hundred or more?

ScumLord

Nothing.

Fuinseog

ScumLord wrote: »

Nothing.

???
I only saw this thread now

have people become realistic since the country went bust?

opinion guy

Fuinseog wrote: »

???
I only saw this thread now

have people become realistic since the country went bust?

Are you seriously taking wedding gift advice from a guy named ScumLord ??? :pac:

Especially when Dr Bollocko has your answer!
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=80534856&postcount=214