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Stingy Wedding Presents & None at All

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    #212
    El_Dangeroso
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    Diddler1977 wrote: »
    It was not a bitchy comment - it was the truth. You even admitted yourself that you have not invited +1's because you know that they never want to go anyway.

    Why was it necessary to be applied to my wedding? THAT is what made it a bitchy, sarky, wholly unnecessary comment IMHO.


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    #213
    amdublin
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    El_Dangeroso wrote: »
    Why was it necessary to be applied to my wedding? THAT is what made it a bitchy, sarky, wholly unnecessary comment IMHO.

    It's true about yours and everyone elses wedding.


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    #214
    El_Dangeroso
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    amdublin wrote: »
    It's true about yours and everyone elses wedding.

    It's still a personal bitchy comment, truth or no. It's so funny that people can muster telling people 'the truth' on the internet but cannot muster the cajones to not go to a wedding they don't want to go to. :confused:


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    #215
    Diddler1977
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    El_Dangeroso wrote: »
    Why was it necessary to be applied to my wedding? THAT is what made it a bitchy, sarky, wholly unnecessary comment IMHO.

    What!

    You have admitted it is true and you aren't inviting +1's in order to prevent it.

    But yet when someone says it in relation to your wedding you say it is is bitchy.

    Sorry but it is not bitchy, just a fact (which you even acknowledge yourself!!!)

    Are you being bitchy to yourself???!!!


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    #216
    dr.bollocko
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    Diddler1977 wrote: »
    What!

    You have admitted it is true and you aren't inviting +1's in order to prevent it.

    But yet when someone says it in relation to your wedding you say it is is bitchy.

    Sorry but it is not bitchy, just a fact (which you even acknowledge yourself!!!)

    Are you being bitchy to yourself???!!!

    It was a bitchy and personal comment. It was unnecessary.


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    #217
    amdublin
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    El_Dangeroso wrote: »
    It's still a personal bitchy comment, truth or no. It's so funny that people can muster telling people 'the truth' on the internet but cannot muster the cajones to not go to a wedding they don't want to go to. :confused:

    I don't think it's personal or bitchy. I think you'd be a bit delusional to think that all people love weddings (weddings in general, not yours alone).


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    #218
    Quorum
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    dr.bollocko wrote: »
    It was a bitchy and personal comment. It was unnecessary.

    It wasn't. It was a response to El Dangeroso's certainty that people who don't like weddings don't go to them.

    And do you think her response was personal and bitchy? It was about me, the individual, whereas mine was based on the amount of people I've known who don't like weddings. I know nothing about her wedding celebrations. I know lots of people who find them a chore, whatever the wedding.


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    #219
    ABajaninCork
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    This thread has predictably descended into chaos. Bitchiness and nastiness given free rein as usual...

    Why is that?? :confused:


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    #220
    amdublin
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    Because some brides want more presents.


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    #221
    westies4ever
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    Dear lord will u guys just build a bridge!!!!!!


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    #222
    pwurple
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    I think the My Wedding is so Cooler than Yours stuff in here is fairly repugnant.

    Get over yerselves. Some people like to party, and they have a big party. Some people like small, and they have small. Being offensive about either is unpleasant. Especially in this forum.


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    #223
    Quorum
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    ABajaninCork wrote: »
    This thread has predictably descended into chaos. Bitchiness and nastiness given free rein as usual...

    Why is that?? :confused:

    Bitchiness from various angles too. ;)


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    #224
    amdublin
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    pwurple wrote: »
    I think the My Wedding is so Cooler than Yours stuff in here is fairly repugnant.

    I also find the We gave them a Big Gift so they Need to give us a Big One back stuff is fairly repugnant too.


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    #225
    Diddler1977
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    Or even more repugnant, the "I've had access to their financials, they can afford a much more expensive present then they gave me" and a year after my wedding I'm still bitter about it.


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    #226
    ABajaninCork
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    Quorum wrote: »
    Bitchiness from various angles too. ;)

    What are you on about??


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    #227
    Quorum
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    ABajaninCork wrote: »
    What are you on about??

    That bitchiness is coming from various different people on this thread.


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    #228
    Muckit
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    Diddler1977 wrote: »
    I don't think you are getting it.

    For me if someone arrives to a wedding or an event I am holding without a "gift" (present or money, etc.) I don't see them as arriving empty handed.

    I see them as bringing their company as the gift. The gift is having them there celebrating my happy day. The gift is the hug or kiss they give me when they greet me. The gift is the good wishes that they whisper to me as they hug me. For me it is a gift to have my friends and family in good health around me.

    Hi Diddler1977

    Thanks for explaining things and making them a bit clear for me. I think I'm getting it now.

    So when a friend goes/went to your wedding, they do not need to bring a gift because because their presence is their present... but when YOU go to your friends' weddings you need to bring a gift because your presence isn't quite enough of a present and your hug or kiss doesn't quite give the message that you sincerely love and care about them. Gottcha.


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    #229
    Diddler1977
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    In fairness, I think the OP started it with their bitchy comments about the guests who didn't give here enough money ;)


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    #230
    Quorum
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    Diddler1977 wrote: »
    In fairness, I think the OP started it with their bitchy comments about the guests who didn't give here enough money ;)

    Yeah, the thread continued as it started. Weddings bring out the worst in so many people. Which is another reason I want to avoid. If that makes me superior, so be it.


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    #231
    Muckit
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    Diddler1977 wrote: »
    Again you are not getting the point!

    What is a "stingy" wedding present?

    To me, guests bringing themselves and their good wishes for the bride and groom to a wedding is not a "stingy" present - it is a beautiful gift.

    So what (if anything) would constitute a 'stingy' wedding present in your eyes Diddler1977 ?


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    #232
    Diddler1977
    Registered Users Posts: 3,765 ✭✭✭Diddler1977


    Muckit wrote: »
    Hi Diddler1977

    Thanks for explaining things and making them a bit clear for me. I think I'm getting it now.

    So when a friend goes/went to your wedding, they do not need to bring a gift because because their presence is their present... but when YOU go to your friends' weddings you need to bring a gift because your presence isn't quite enough of a present and your hug or kiss doesn't quite give the message that you sincerely love and care about them. Gottcha.

    Yeah that's their issue!

    A kiss or a hug is enough of a present for ME!


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    #233
    amdublin
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    Muckit wrote: »
    Hi Diddler1977

    Thanks for explaining things and making them a bit clear for me. I think I'm getting it now.

    So when a friend goes/went to your wedding, they do not need to bring a gift because because their presence is their present... but when YOU go to your friends' weddings you need to bring a gift because your presence isn't quite enough of a present and your hug or kiss doesn't quite give the message that you sincerely love and care about them. Gottcha.

    Can't you just take the post as the poster intended rather than rewording it dripping with sarcasm?

    Personally for me, while I do give a gift I don't expect one. If someone doesn't give one I don't judge or deride them, it is what it is.


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    #234
    amdublin
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    Muckit wrote: »
    So what (if anything) would constitute a 'stingy' wedding present in your eyes Diddler1977 ?

    What kind of crazy question is this? From what he/she has described as "not stingy" it's patently obvious that no gift is stingy to them. That whatever a person chooses to give will be accepted graciously.


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    #235
    Muckit
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    ABajaninCork wrote: »
    What a nasty, bitter person you are. I was brought up to show good manners. What about you??

    Hi ABajaninCork

    Thank you for your reply. I cannot figure out why you think I am a nasty and bitter person...? If you read back on my post that you replied to, I asked two questions. I am simply trying to figure out WHY people see it as OK for them to give a present, but that it's OK for others not too. I just don't get it.

    Nobody has, as yet, been able to give me an answer.


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    #236
    Diddler1977
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    Muckit wrote: »
    Hi ABajaninCork

    Thank you for your reply. I cannot figure out why you think I am a nasty and bitter person...? If you read back on my post that you replied to, I asked two questions. I am simply trying to figure out WHY people see it as OK for them to give a present, but that it's OK for others not too. I just don't get it.

    Nobody has, as yet, been able to give me an answer.

    I choose to give presents.

    I choose to not judge people who don't give me what constitutes a typical gift.

    Not hard to understand.


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    #237
    pwurple
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    Muckit wrote: »
    I am simply trying to figure out WHY people see it as OK for them to give a present, but that it's OK for others not too. I just don't get it.

    Nobody has, as yet, been able to give me an answer.

    Plenty of people have given you the answer. Manners.


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    #238
    amdublin
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    I was brought up that it was polite to give a gift.

    I was also brought up that it is polite not to expect a gift.

    And also to accept whatever a person gives you or whatever they don't give you graciously.

    That someone does not give me a gift means no more or less than the fact that I give them a gift.

    It's not difficult muckit.


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    #239
    Madam_X
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    If you gave a friend a gift for their wedding and they gave you absolutely zilch for yours it'd be grand? Sure. It's not about the value or the type of gift, it's the gesture of goodwill and friendship. And god forbid, thanks for the invite to a great day.

    Shur why give Christmas, birthday, anniversary presents so?

    I hate the bridezilla stuff too - it's sick some of it, but I really can't see how it's ok to go to the wedding of a friend and give nothing at all, ever. That is not the same as demanding an extravagant present to recoup wedding costs.


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    #240
    Diddler1977
    Registered Users Posts: 3,765 ✭✭✭Diddler1977


    Madam_X wrote: »
    If you gave a friend a gift for their wedding and they gave you absolutely zilch for yours it'd be grand? Sure. It's not about the value or the type of gift, it's the gesture of goodwill and friendship.

    If they are giving you the gift of friendship they are not giving you zilch.


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    #241
    Madam_X
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    Diddler1977 wrote: »
    If they are giving you the gift of friendship they are not giving you zilch.
    Aren't goodwill gestures part of friendship? Are you saying you'd be cool with a friend never ever reciprocating any nice gesture you've carried out for them. The above comment looks a *tad* obtuse...


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