why do some people play others?

ilovesleep

There's something similiar here in afterhours already but it's about cheating and this is about playing people.

For the life of me I can't understand why some people play others. Players will persue you then afterwards play you. They introduce an expectation just to leave you hanging. I mean why say anything at all if you don't mean it? Is it not better to be honest with someone? They know where they stand instead of leaving them hanging.

I was played not so long ago. I fell for his words which were a clasp to hook me, no doubt, and I was left hanging on it until I asked him and it was nothing more but excuses, skewing me more. And I felt rotten for ages and for so, so long. And it wasn't until it was all over and much, much later you come to realise that he (or she) played you.
Why mess with someone's emotions like that? Why play people?

xDramaxQueenx

Don't hate the playa's. Hate the game. :cool:

4zn76tysfajdxp

ilovesleep wrote: »

why do some people play others?

There's a lot of money in acting if you're lucky and get the right parts.

Tombi!

Can you clarify?
You mean people who just want sex but will use whatever romantic/sweet tactics they can to get you into bed?

The Big Red Button

ilovesleep wrote: »

There's something similiar here in afterhours already but it's about cheating and this is about playing people.

For the life of me I can't understand why some people play others. Players will persue you then afterwards play you. They introduce an expectation just to leave you hanging. I mean why say anything at all if you don't mean it? Is it not better to be honest with someone? They know where they stand instead of leaving them hanging.

I was played not so long ago. I fell for his words which were a clasp to hook me, no doubt, and I was left hanging on it until I asked him and it was nothing more but excuses, skewing me more. And I felt rotten for ages and for so, so long. And it wasn't until it was all over and much, much later you come to realise that he (or she) played you.
Why mess with someone's emotions like that? Why play people?

Didn't you start a similar thread not so long ago ...?

The only person you'll get any real relevant answers off is the guy who did this.

If that's not a possibility, to get answers from him, then just chalk it up to experience, and move on.

Bear in mind that, while it's always good to maintain a certain level of cynicism and skepticism, there are some good decent people out there, too.

mauzo

I was seeing someone recently, told him I'm good with the physical stuff, no dates etc. Basically I just wanted sex with no strings.
He insists on dating, dinner, movies, walks up the mountains, not seeing other people.
That was all well and good, until one day he sends me a text and says, its been emotional
I was like what the hell?!
The sex was amazing, we had the same sense of humour, lived 2 minutes apart, and he says we aren't relationship compatible. Ugh men....

marzic

ilovesleep wrote: »

There's something similiar here in afterhours already but it's about cheating and this is about playing people.

For the life of me I can't understand why some people play others. Players will persue you then afterwards play you. They introduce an expectation just to leave you hanging. I mean why say anything at all if you don't mean it? Is it not better to be honest with someone? They know where they stand instead of leaving them hanging.

I was played not so long ago. I fell for his words which were a clasp to hook me, no doubt, and I was left hanging on it until I asked him and it was nothing more but excuses, skewing me more. And I felt rotten for ages and for so, so long. And it wasn't until it was all over and much, much later you come to realise that he (or she) played you.
Why mess with someone's emotions like that? Why play people?

Theres a Nigerian scam in here somewhere, but i just cant see it.:D

racso1975

mauzo wrote: »

I was seeing someone recently, told him I'm good with the physical stuff, no dates etc. Basically I just wanted sex with no strings.
He insists on dating, dinner, movies, walks up the mountains, not seeing other people.
That was all well and good, until one day he sends me a text and says, its been emotional
I was like what the hell?!
The sex was amazing, we had the same sense of humour, lived 2 minutes apart, and he says we aren't relationship compatible. Ugh men....

PM sent

Pottler

"Full Moon Girlie thread" - all men are bastards. No, not all men, just mostly those who want no strings sex. Average, decent men are generally happy enough with the "strings". Some of us even quite like the "strings".:)

Gongoozler

"Why do **** things happen?"

well because some people are dicks, some do dickish things without realising, and some do nothing wrong but interact with overly sensitive people.

If you're going to be so vague, how do you expect a helpful answer?

ilovesleep

Brutal Deluxe wrote: »

Can you clarify?
You mean people who just want sex but will use whatever romantic/sweet tactics they can to get you into bed?

I suppose that too would be playing. Lying giving false expectations to get sex just to drop them straight away aftetwards.
For me, there was no lying involved to get me into bed but aftetwards was spent giving empty promises and false expectations. There was no need in my books for that kind of crap but anyways his words hooked me.

LETHAL LADY

My hubby likes to refer to it as a bit of strumming.

Giselle

Pottler wrote: »

"Full Moon Girlie thread" - all men are bastards.

Full moon girlie thread? One girl made one thread. About players, not men in general.

Nobody said all men are bastards.

Gongoozler

Brutal Deluxe wrote: »

Was it sweet talk to keep you in bed, though?
Honestly, some people (usually men for obvious reasons) are complete and utter fúckers when it comes to getting sex from a women.
Women are usually after the money and gifts and all that.

And before anyone jumps down my throat, think about it; men lie for sex from the women and women lie for presents from the men (generally speaking when it comes to liars on both genders)

Oh sweet jesus. you cannot be serious.

4zn76tysfajdxp

mauzo wrote: »

I was seeing someone recently, told him I'm good with the physical stuff, no dates etc. Basically I just wanted sex with no strings.
He insists on dating, dinner, movies, walks up the mountains, not seeing other people.
That was all well and good, until one day he sends me a text and says, its been emotional
I was like what the hell?!
The sex was amazing, we had the same sense of humour, lived 2 minutes apart, and he says we aren't relationship compatible. Ugh men....

He wanted something different from the relationship and ended it. What's the problem exactly?

senorwipesalot

LETHAL LADY wrote: »

My hubby likes to refer to it as a bit of strumming.

Turns into speed metal after a feed of drink.

steddyeddy

mauzo wrote: »

I was seeing someone recently, told him I'm good with the physical stuff, no dates etc. Basically I just wanted sex with no strings.
He insists on dating, dinner, movies, walks up the mountains, not seeing other people.
That was all well and good, until one day he sends me a text and says, its been emotional
I was like what the hell?!
The sex was amazing, we had the same sense of humour, lived 2 minutes apart, and he says we aren't relationship compatible. Ugh men....

See this? Its a hormone called Oxytocin. Its released often during sex and stimulates pair bonding behaviour. Pull back from texting and sex and his will increase making him want you more! That way you can control him (probrably shouldnt be saying that) :P

mauzo

Sarai Rich Photocopier wrote: »

mauzo wrote: »

I was seeing someone recently, told him I'm good with the physical stuff, no dates etc. Basically I just wanted sex with no strings.
He insists on dating, dinner, movies, walks up the mountains, not seeing other people.
That was all well and good, until one day he sends me a text and says, its been emotional
I was like what the hell?!
The sex was amazing, we had the same sense of humour, lived 2 minutes apart, and he says we aren't relationship compatible. Ugh men....

He wanted something different from the relationship and ended it. What's the problem exactly?

I want sex.

Tombi!

Gongoozler wrote: »

Oh sweet jesus. you cannot be serious.

What?
I said generally speaking...
As in stereotypes, what's expected from genders, etc.

I didn't mean to offend anyone.

Giselle

mauzo wrote: »

I want sex.

And posting that on this forum is a perfect way of going about getting it.

BUBBLE WRAP

No body ever plays BUBLLE WRAP.

mauzo

Giselle wrote: »

mauzo wrote: »

I want sex.

And posting that on this forum is a perfect way of going about getting it.

Worked before

4zn76tysfajdxp

mauzo wrote: »

I want sex.

He probably doesn't find you very attractive. I feel your pain.


Well, not really. :cool:

opinion guy

steddyeddy wrote: »

See this?

NO!

It doesn't fit on my 21inch screen

BUBBLE WRAP

mauzo wrote: »

I want sex.

Your my kind of woman.

mauzo

Sarai Rich Photocopier wrote: »

mauzo wrote: »

I want sex.

He probably doesn't find you very attractive. I feel your pain.


Well, not really. :cool:

Can't blame him

Giselle

Brutal Deluxe wrote: »

I didn't mean to offend anyone

I don't see how anyone could be offended...

Brutal Deluxe wrote: »

And before anyone jumps down my throat, think about it; men lie for sex from the women and women lie for presents from the men (generally speaking when it comes to liars on both genders)

Tombi!

Giselle wrote: »

I don't see how anyone could be offended...

I'm honestly really confused.
Anyway I'll go delete it, sorry.

mhigh86

ilovesleep wrote: »

For the life of me I can't understand why some people play others. Players will persue you then afterwards play you. They introduce an expectation just to leave you hanging. I mean why say anything at all if you don't mean it? Is it not better to be honest with someone? They know where they stand instead of leaving them hanging.

Was this a game of backgammon or chess or something.

4zn76tysfajdxp

mauzo wrote: »

Can't blame him

None of that. You're supposed to counter with a withering sarcastic reply.

mauzo

Sarai Rich Photocopier wrote: »

mauzo wrote: »

Can't blame him

None of that. You're supposed to counter with a withering sarcastic reply.

I did

ITS_A_BADGER

sounds to me that he was just after the sex and didnt want to get involved with you, so he kept you sweet by promising this and that to you to keep you happy and so he could continue to get his hole

Maybe im wrong tho

Gongoozler

Brutal Deluxe wrote: »

What?
I said generally speaking...
As in stereotypes, what's expected from genders, etc.

I didn't mean to offend anyone.

No need to delete it (plus no point really), but you're right, I shouldn't be offended. I suppose my reaction is a reflection on my feelings if someone were to assume something like that about me.

I think it's something lots of men assume about women. As to how true it is though, I couldn't say. So no apology needed. At least not by me.

BUBBLE WRAP

Great first post. Your a fine specimen of humanity...

Tombi!

Gongoozler wrote: »

No need to delete it (plus no point really), but you're right, I shouldn't be offended. I suppose my reaction is a reflection on my feelings if someone were to assume something like that about me.

I think it's something lots of men assume about women. As to how true it is though, I couldn't say. So no apology needed. At least not by me.

Well I did delete it, just incase anyone else did get a bit upset. I honestly was trying to make it clear than generally the "players" of both genders go for different things. At least from what I've experienced from personal relationships and other people's relationships.

I wasn't having a go at men or women, TBH.

Maybe I didn't make it clear and maybe you just mistook it the wrong way so it was a mistake on both our parts?

steddyeddy

Both men and women play each other. I think its a horrible thing to do to someone. Theres a woman in our circle of friends playing a mate of mine at the moment and its not easy to watch. I have had both female and male friends who had their confidence destroyed because of players. Their not good people and theres not much more to say about them.

steddyeddy

Ilovesleep at the end of the day these people are tramps (men or women) and theyll be seen as such. The girl playing my mate is trash and my other mates will ignore her because of that. The same gos for any man playing you or any girl.

Giselle

Brutal Deluxe wrote: »

I wasn't having a go at men or women, TBH.

Maybe I didn't make it clear and maybe you just mistook it the wrong way so it was a mistake on both our parts?

I know what you were trying to say, but it might be better to find another way of saying it

Tombi!

Giselle wrote: »

I know what you were trying to say, but it might be better to find another way of saying it

Heh, I can only imagine in a pub!
*bottle across the head*
"oh, you didn't mean it like that? Sorry for hitting you with a bottle".

I understand alright; I actually could have worded it a bit more accuractely.:o

MusicalMelody

I think people that are players are doing it for their own personal gain. Kind of like users they will do anything in a situation to get what they want and when it's bled dry up and leave. I know a girl who is a social player she will latch on to a group get as much as she can out of that group before moving on to the next. Unfortunately there are just people like this in the world and you just have to be wary if you come across one.

The King of Moo

mauzo wrote: »

I was seeing someone recently, told him I'm good with the physical stuff, no dates etc. Basically I just wanted sex with no strings.
He insists on dating, dinner, movies, walks up the mountains, not seeing other people.
That was all well and good, until one day he sends me a text and says, its been emotional
I was like what the hell?!
The sex was amazing, we had the same sense of humour, lived 2 minutes apart, and he says we aren't relationship compatible. Ugh men....

Ugh, women ...

1ZRed

It seems like a lot of women around here need to man up and enjoy the ride while it lasts

Sharpshooter

ilovesleep wrote: »

There's something similiar here in afterhours already but it's about cheating and this is about playing people.

For the life of me I can't understand why some people play others. Players will persue you then afterwards play you. They introduce an expectation just to leave you hanging. I mean why say anything at all if you don't mean it? Is it not better to be honest with someone? They know where they stand instead of leaving them hanging.

I was played not so long ago. I fell for his words which were a clasp to hook me, no doubt, and I was left hanging on it until I asked him and it was nothing more but excuses, skewing me more. And I felt rotten for ages and for so, so long. And it wasn't until it was all over and much, much later you come to realise that he (or she) played you.
Why mess with someone's emotions like that? Why play people?

OP, you already have a thread in Ranting and Raving on this topic.
There is no need to post a second thread here.

Thread closed.