Is being "on the pull"in your 40's sad?

Eve_Dublin · 31-08-2012 10:20am

smash wrote: »

I think for men there's a greater stigma though.

40 year old fellas going to clubs filled with young ones is creepy though. I've been 18 in a club getting hit on my much older guys and it wasn't nce at the time tbh. 40 year old guys going to clubs with a more mixed age group, both young and old...I don't think there's a stigma attached to that, at least in my experience.

Biggins · 31-08-2012 10:52am

Dravokivich wrote: »

Well, what if someone's choice was not to be in such a relationship? As long as someone else isn't under false impression that they will and both know what's going on, what's wrong with being on the pull? Doing so doesn't mean you aren't mature either.

As long as all is consenting and is aware of the full situation, I don't see where anyone else should be interfering.
To do so, is imposing one personal opinions on a situation that doesn't maybe want or need them.

bronte · 31-08-2012 11:18am

Jesus christ, God help some of them if their partner leaves them or sadly kicks the bucket. I suppose they'll just lock themselves away for fear of being seen as "sad"

anncoates · 31-08-2012 11:18am

Newsflash: a 40yr old man can go to a late bar or night club without chasing young women. Sometimes they end up there, you know, for a late drink. Most men at that age don't have any interest in some dopey ronseal-hued 18yr old

smash · 31-08-2012 11:22am

bronte wrote: »

Jesus christ, God help some of them if their partner leaves them or sadly kicks the bucket. I suppose they'll just lock themselves away for fear of being seen as "sad"

There should be government funding for hookers for people over 40 who are single so that young ones can go to a club without having to see anyone older than them trying to enjoy themselves.

LordSutch · 31-08-2012 11:25am

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

Is being "on the pull"in your 40's sad?

No, its not sad at all.

bronte · 31-08-2012 11:25am

smash wrote: »

There should be government funding for hookers for people over 40 who are single so that young ones can go to a club without having to see anyone older than them trying to enjoy themselves.

Coke too!

Quorum · 31-08-2012 1:11pm

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

Define sleazy.

This:

Brutal Deluxe wrote: »

Depends. If you're in your 40s and going to a club were the crowd is usually 18-20 and most of the crowd consist of "who can get drunk fastest and pass out", yes, sad.

Colmustard · 31-08-2012 1:14pm

I am with the OP I am in my 40s and single, I really should curl up and die.

anncoates · 31-08-2012 1:16pm

Brutal Deluxe wrote: »

Depends. If you're in your 40s and going to a club were the crowd is usually 18-20 and most of the crowd consist of "who can get drunk fastest and pass out", yes, sad.

If I ended up in a place like that at 40, I'd love nothing more than to hit on some of them.

With a baseball bat.

alphabeat · 31-08-2012 1:26pm

two words :

SUGAR DADDY

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 31-08-2012 1:28pm

I think the whole idea of "on the pull" is a bit sad when it's the focal point of you social life either before or after 40. That said, if you're single, 40 50 or 60, still got it and enjoy it, flaunt it.

starbelgrade · 31-08-2012 1:32pm

It's only sad if you go home alone.

Scanlas The 2nd · 31-08-2012 1:57pm

Ikky Poo2 wrote: »

I think the whole idea of "on the pull" is a bit sad when it's the focal point of you social life either before or after 40. That said, if you're single, 40 50 or 60, still got it and enjoy it, flaunt it.

Maybe focal point but no one said that. Eating food as your focal point is also sad, the list goes on....

holystungun9 · 31-08-2012 2:04pm

JJJJNR wrote: »

Its ok for men to sleep with many women, but its not ok for women to sleep with many men.

I'm guessing this guy ➜ :rolleyes: inserted at the end would have saved you from that yellow.

castletownman · 31-08-2012 2:06pm

Where can I find these cougars?

I'll have you know I'm on quite the streak with the older ladies.

castletownman · 31-08-2012 2:09pm

Ikky Poo2 wrote: »

I think the whole idea of "on the pull" is a bit sad when it's the focal point of you social life either before or after 40. That said, if you're single, 40 50 or 60, still got it and enjoy it, flaunt it.

Totally agree. Just yesterday I saw a man that must have been 70+ in the queue ahead of me in Tesco buying a 12 pack of condoms. Stallion!

MHalberstram · 31-08-2012 2:18pm

The only thing that is sad is that so many people are wrapped up in the act of judging what other people do with their lives.

ultra_other · 31-08-2012 2:26pm

Not if you are on the pull for someone your own age group, a bit older or a bit younger but if its someone lets say 21 or younger than that's sad, but there are some people who do that, both men and women

Varied · 31-08-2012 3:09pm

anncoates wrote: »

Newsflash: a 40yr old man can go to a late bar or night club without chasing young women. Sometimes they end up there, you know, for a late drink. Most men at that age don't have any interest in some dopey ronseal-hued 18yr old

"ronseal hued"

:D:D

Gonna steal that wan!

davet82 · 31-08-2012 3:13pm

Is being "on the pull"in your 40's sad?

once it dosen't involve break dancing its fine :rolleyes:

smash · 31-08-2012 3:20pm

davet82 wrote: »

Is being "on the pull"in your 40's sad?

once it dosen't involve break dancing its fine :rolleyes:

What's wrong with older people dancing?

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 31-08-2012 3:21pm

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

Maybe focal point but no one said that. Eating food as your focal point is also sad, the list goes on....

Yeah, I know, but for some people it IS the focal point of their live. That, to me, is more sad than doign it at a certain age.

I should clarify though: by "on the pull" I take it as trying to get a shag and not being all thart discerning, not going out socially to meet people.

hatrickpatrick · 31-08-2012 3:22pm

If you're happy, you're happy.

If others feel the need to look down on you for it, they're probably not very happy themselves.

anncoates · 31-08-2012 3:30pm

Varied wrote: »

"ronseal hued" :D:D

Gonna steal that wan!

There's better ways to sort things out than kidnapping, young man.

Varied · 31-08-2012 3:39pm

anncoates wrote: »

There's better ways to sort things out than kidnapping, young man.

Pfft, you sound just like my probation officer.

SharpshooterTom · 31-08-2012 3:58pm

My uncle in his 40s is dating a girl who's mother is younger than him. He's getting a slagging for it, but I guess its other peoples business what they do in their private lives.

ITS_A_BADGER · 31-08-2012 4:25pm

whats wrong with the 40's tryna get their hole? sher they're only human too like, 40 i dont think is that old as long as the're not in a club that full of 18 year olds it fine imo

Varied · 31-08-2012 4:35pm

ITS_A_BADGER wrote: »

whats wrong with the 40's tryna get their hole? sher they're only human too like, 40 i dont think is that old as long as the're not in a club that full of 18 year olds it fine imo

I read this in a strong cork accent.

smash · 31-08-2012 4:36pm

Varied wrote: »

I read this in a strong cork accent.

You could read it?

ITS_A_BADGER · 31-08-2012 4:46pm

Varied wrote: »

I read this in a strong cork accent.

LOL im not from cork, wrong part of the country altogether

smash wrote: »

You could read it?

Not that hard to read, dont worry you'll get there eventually

Varied · 31-08-2012 4:51pm

ITS_A_BADGER wrote: »

wrong part of the country altogether

It sure is.

Chuck Stone · 31-08-2012 5:17pm

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

I'm 32....I'd be considered a sleazy auld one to most posters here in AH.

I don't think you should be going to any night club with your looks...

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

My face has been compared to that of a turnip....with lettuce hair, tomatoes sliced in half for ears, two little raisins for eyes, carrot mouth and a french onion for a nose.

.... shure the lads would only try to ate the face off ya!

:pac:

Madam_X · 31-08-2012 5:20pm

The views of sheltered, clueless 19-year-olds are not important.

Varied · 31-08-2012 5:23pm

Madam_X wrote: »

The views of sheltered, clueless 19-year-olds are not important.

And why are sheltered, clueless 19 year olds not allowed an opinion?

That's racist man.

Colmustard · 31-08-2012 5:24pm

I'm in my forties and I go out, not necessarily on the pull, but it still happens, I have no idea how I do it. I am actually not attracted to younger, I much prefer my own age group plus or minus 10 years. But have gotten approaches from younger, looks wise I am not bad and in good shape, but I still don't understand that, like I usually shod them off.

smash · 31-08-2012 5:24pm

Varied wrote: »

And why are sheltered, clueless 19 year olds not allowed an opinion?

That's racist man.

They're not a race, they're a demographic.

Madam_X · 31-08-2012 5:25pm

Varied wrote: »

And why are sheltered, clueless 19 year olds not allowed an opinion?

That's racist man.

Only if they're not white!

Love your sig btw - that f'ucking quote...

Tombi! · 31-08-2012 5:29pm

Varied wrote: »

And why are sheltered, clueless 19 year olds not allowed an opinion?

That's racist man.

Because they're 19 year olds.
When their parents tell them what to think, they may preach it. :pac:

Varied · 31-08-2012 5:40pm

smash wrote: »

They're not a race, they're a demographic.

http://files.sharenator.com/thats_the_joke_This_post_is_good_ss_jokes-s452x339-297672-535.jpg

old hippy · 31-08-2012 5:44pm

As a reasonably handsome young man in his 40s, I still occasionally get chatted up by twenty somethings. It's very flattering, I have to say

Colmustard · 31-08-2012 5:45pm

old hippy wrote: »

As a reasonably handsome young man in his 40s, I still occasionally get chatted up by twenty somethings. It's very flattering, I have to say

The same here, I do be looking around for the candid camera.

old hippy · 31-08-2012 5:48pm

Colmustard wrote: »

The same here, I do be looking around for the candid camera.

It's a curse but what can one do?

Eden3 · 31-08-2012 9:41pm

I'm 41 year young female + defo like Old Hippy's frame of mind! Call me ...:D:D

cartell_best · 31-08-2012 9:46pm

20, 30, 40, 50, 60?......Me personallly, nah...the days of people giving a ****e who goes out with who is over! (I hope so)...It gives me a pain in my skull when I think people still sit in a stage whereas they believe that if you're somewhat older or younger than your perspective partner...then its..."game over"...

SuperInfinity · 31-08-2012 9:48pm

I don't agree with the concept of calling anything "sad". I think it's a meaningless term... sad for who and why? I find it ridiculous, the word gets under my skin a bit.

old hippy · 03-09-2012 12:50pm

Eden3 wrote: »

I'm 41 year young female + defo like Old Hippy's frame of mind! Call me ...:D:D

Howdy

Teyla Emmagan · 03-09-2012 12:55pm

Another few years and I will be going on the pull in my 40s!

I cannot wait...

suicide_circus · 03-09-2012 1:03pm

Back in my single days i was often delighted to spy a gamey auld wan across the dancefloor at the end of the night. I do declare, there were times when i felt so lonesome, i took some comfort there....lye lye lye.

anncoates · 03-09-2012 1:12pm

SuperInfinity wrote: »

I don't agree with the concept of calling anything "sad". I think it's a meaningless term... sad for who and why? I find it ridiculous, the word gets under my skin a bit.

Not even if one of those Andrex puppies lost his mother to canine flu and was crying his eyes out?

Is being "on the pull"in your 40's sad?

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