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  • 14-09-2012 10:04pm
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    well fed up
    Registered Users Posts: 5 ✭


    hi, can anybody help, my ex partner and i broke up about a year ago, we are in council housing and both our name are on the house, i broke up with him because he was a control freak, he is refusing to move out of the house, we have a child together who has autism which makes it harder, hes not a nice guy and theres not many people left on our estate that talk to him he is doing everything in his power to upset me and is now starting to say things to our child to use against me, ive been through everyone i can think of now: doctors, solicitor, guards, council and TD's im not sure how much more of this i can take before me and my child end up homeless, he has a good job and earns a good wage and yet still refuses to leave me alone, im just wondering if anyone out there has been in a similar situation or may know of a solution.


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    christmas2012
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,827 ✭✭✭christmas2012


    If you cannot work things out,or come to an agreement on some issues,its going to be difficult for you.

    Could you try womens refuge?Do you know of any womens shelters in your area?


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    Doom
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    I feel for you, if he has a good job and good money why the council house? Can you not move out, surely he cannot stay in the council house if he has such a good job....


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    Milk & Honey
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    Barring order?


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    StillWaters
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    Doom wrote: »
    I feel for you, if he has a good job and good money why the council house? Can you not move out, surely he cannot stay in the council house if he has such a good job....
    All sorts of people live in council/social housing. Those who earn more, pay more, right up to market rent.

    OP what does the Housing Officer say? I imagine it is the same as a breakup normally. It is really up to you both to come to a resolution. Would he be open to mediation at all?
    It sounds like a dreadful situation, if he is not for budging, it might be better fir yourself and your child to move out and make your own way.


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    MagicMarker
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    It's clear after a year that he's not going to leave, if you have tried all legal options with no success then it looks like you just have to bite the bullet and leave, for the sake of yourself and your child.

    Maybe you and your child could move in with a family member, and get yourself back on the waiting list for another house?
    StillWaters wrote: »
    All sorts of people live in council/social housing. Those who earn more, pay more, right up to market rent..

    Yes but not everyone is entitled to social housing, you have to be earning under a certain amount. So the guys wage can't be that good.


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    The_Conductor
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    Contract FLAC- you need access to a proper family law solicitor. If your current solicitor has not managed to resolve this issue- he or she is not aware of Irish family law as it stands, and you need access to someone who specialises in this aspect of Irish law. FLAC have a number of very good family law solicitors on their books.


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    #8
    well fed up
    Registered Users Posts: 5 ✭well fed up


    I'm going to go about getting a barring order for emotional abuse and if that fails then i will have to leave with my child, as for getting the council house i applied for the housing on my own and he had me add his name in after.


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    well fed up
    Registered Users Posts: 5 ✭well fed up


    StillWaters wrote: »
    All sorts of people live in council/social housing. Those who earn more, pay more, right up to market rent.

    OP what does the Housing Officer say? I imagine it is the same as a breakup normally. It is really up to you both to come to a resolution. Would he be open to mediation at all?
    It sounds like a dreadful situation, if he is not for budging, it might be better fir yourself and your child to move out and make your own way.

    i would have to get a mediator to get him to agree to meet a mediator


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