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Girlfriend moving into my house, advice.

um7y1h83ge06nx · 2012-10-17 20:01:53

Hi guys, We've decided that my girlfriend moves into my house in about a month or so. We've discussed that she would pay me a rent so to speak, and we will split the bills which are in my name. As unromantic as it sounds is there are pitfalls that I should be aware of in case the relationship breaks down? I'm aware of the…

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Hi guys,

We've decided that my girlfriend moves into my house in about a month or so.

We've discussed that she would pay me a rent so to speak, and we will split the bills which are in my name.

As unromantic as it sounds is there are pitfalls that I should be aware of in case the relationship breaks down?

I'm aware of the Civil Partnership Act and the additional rights for partners after living together for 5 years (or 2 years if they have a child)

Thanks.

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#2 17-10-2012 9:03pm

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Rule #1 always leave the toilet seat up.

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#3 17-10-2012 9:07pm

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My advice - don't play house. You should wait until you are married.

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#4 17-10-2012 9:09pm

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I don't have advice but a recent thread in Gentlemans Club forum had lots of info about moving in together and Civil Partnership Bill and dangers for your assets in a breakup

Long thread but have a read
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056752360

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#5 17-10-2012 9:20pm

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Go to a solicitor prior to her moving in. You can opt out of a civil partnership agreement and therefore protect your assets in the event of a split. You will probably have to get separate, independant advice, but it will save any potential problems later.

It's not romantic - neither is a court case, arguing over assets nor paying maintenance if your partner is a low earner/unemployed.

Having said all that, good luck and I hope you will both be very happy.

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#6 18-10-2012 9:42am

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Thanks for all the advice, always good to be realistic.

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#7 18-10-2012 10:49am

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Good luck telling her to go see a solicitor before she can move in because you basically want a pre-nup, wear a helmet if at all possible!

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#8 18-10-2012 11:18am

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Is it possible to opt out of the civil partnership before the idea of her moving in comes up? Or do you need both parties to sign the opt out together?

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#9 18-10-2012 1:26pm

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senordingdong wrote: »

Is it possible to opt out of the civil partnership before the idea of her moving in comes up? Or do you need both parties to sign the opt out together?

I think the wrights of the person under cohabitting couple as would be in this case are not an opt in opt out option. Its the law.

OP. Best to lay out the rules before she moves in. If she doesn't like it then she doesn't have to move in. Keep it simple.

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#10 18-10-2012 1:33pm

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deanlandon wrote: »

My advice - don't play house. You should wait until you are married.

How are people to know they are compatible if they don't live together first? I thought religious folk took marriage seriously.

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#11 18-10-2012 4:29pm

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deanlandon wrote: »

My advice - don't play house. You should wait until you are married.

What a stupid post

How is anyone suppose to know if they get along or not if they dont live together first, this isnt some backward middle eastern country

Op if you really think, that if your relationship does break down your GF will go after everything or try take your house then really are you sure she is right for you....

I know you think you are being cautious but if you really need to ask these question now then I dont hold any hopes for your relationship so why even put both of you through the hassle

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#12 18-10-2012 4:34pm

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Yeah, being honest if things do break down I wouldn't think there would be hassle.

I just think it's the Engineer in me being analytical and knowing that there is a huge gulf between theory and practice.

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#13 18-10-2012 4:43pm

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Go for it and enjoy it and live life for the here and now because its short and we have no idea what will happen tomorrow

I moved in with my OH after 6mths of knowing him, it was sink or swim and 13yrs later we are still going strong, if you dont take risks in life then whats the point in breathing

Best of luck to both of you

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#14 18-10-2012 5:36pm

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Janey mac OP, don't fret so. I am guessing you are both quite young? Enjoy it,relax and just go with each others flow. It takes a period of adjustment moving in with anyone,be prepared for that but don't worry so.If it works out- brilliant, if not well one would like to think there would not be any court cases or solicitors involved!True there is unromantic stuff involved in the day to day but that's just all part of it.2 adults of sound mind ought to be able to work out the fact that bills have to be paid and clothes have to be washed etc.Have fun!

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#15 18-10-2012 8:07pm

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Gileadi wrote: »

pre-nup

Pre-nups aren't worth sh|t in Ireland. Ensure the money she gives you is classed as "rent" and not "money towards the mortgage" (if you own the house).

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