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Real life confrontation, how good are you?

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  • #52
    3ndahalfof6
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,184 ✭✭✭3ndahalfof6


    Ghost Buster wrote: »
    Any grown adult who decides to pick a row and can then be brought to tears with words has obviously been put into their box deservedly.

    wrong, I was brought to tears because I could not understand the words, I am holding your sphincter, is there anything you would like me to tell it.


  • #53
    Ghost Buster
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,172 ✭✭✭Ghost Buster


    Martyn1989 wrote: »
    See and this is the attitude, theres nothing wrong with standing your ground but you parade the fact you make people cry. It's that unattractive quality.

    Or perhaps holding a mirror up to an individuals ugly side is too much of a home truth but one which may eventually help them stop being a dick


  • #54
    Martyn1989
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,561 ✭✭✭Martyn1989


    Ghost Buster wrote: »
    Or perhaps holding a mirror up to an individuals ugly side is too much of a home truth but one which may eventually help them stop being a dick

    Which is not the action of a nice person, it is the action and attitude of someone who is confrontational.


  • #55
    jessiejam
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 778 ✭✭✭jessiejam


    Ghost Buster wrote: »
    Or perhaps holding a mirror up to an individuals ugly side is too much of a home truth but one which may eventually help them stop being a dick
    I agree with this. Way too many bullys getting away with bullying in this world. Problem is where and when do you stop? when they cry? when they apologise for being a dick?. Thats my problem, if I don't get the reaction that I want I continue until I do. Guilt then kicks in. Guess I'm not very good at confrontation. To answer your original question op :o


  • #56
    jessiejam
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 778 ✭✭✭jessiejam


    Martyn1989 wrote: »
    Which is not the action of a nice person, it is the action and attitude of someone who is confrontational.

    BS. Its the action of someone who is sick of being picked on by a gowl who thinks they are allowed to carry on like a dick to others. And get away with it. No harm in taking someone down a peg or two when they deserve it.


  • #57
    Ghost Buster
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,172 ✭✭✭Ghost Buster


    Martyn1989 wrote: »
    Which is not the action of a nice person, it is the action and attitude of someone who is confrontational.

    And you get all of this insight from posts on boards? Not knowing the individuals involved, the circumstances leading up to these particular spats you can assertain that I am not nice and am confrontational.
    I stand corrected..


  • #58
    Martyn1989
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,561 ✭✭✭Martyn1989


    jessiejam wrote: »
    BS. Its the action of someone who is sick of being picked on by a gowl who thinks they are allowed to carry on like a dick to others. And get away with it. No harm in taking someone down a peg or two when they deserve it.

    No there isn't, but mirroring their behaviour, making them cry, boasting about it, then claiming to hate confrontation and play the victim. Two wrongs and all that.


  • #59
    Ghost Buster
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,172 ✭✭✭Ghost Buster


    Martyn1989 wrote: »
    No there isn't, but mirroring their behaviour, making them cry, boasting about it, then claiming to hate confrontation and play the victim. Two wrongs and all that.

    And yet again you jump to wildly speculative conclusions and present these conclusions as fact.
    Where is the mirroring of behaviour?
    Where is the boasting.? (Saying that one is not inclined to confrontation but can dish it out when pushed is not boasting)
    You cannot make any of these claims without knowing the personalitys involved. End of...really..


  • #60
    Martyn1989
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,561 ✭✭✭Martyn1989


    Ghost Buster wrote: »
    And you get all of this insight from posts on boards? Not knowing the individuals involved, the circumstances leading up to these particular spats you can assertain that I am not nice and am confrontational.
    I stand corrected..

    I've posted my views on what you posted, thats what boards is for. I'm just discussing whats on the thread, I don't have any preconceived idea about what kind of person you are but IMO your posts have pointed in that direction. Don't take it personally I'm just a stranger on the internet.


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  • #61
    jessiejam
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 778 ✭✭✭jessiejam


    Martyn1989 wrote: »
    No there isn't, but mirroring their behaviour, making them cry, boasting about it, then claiming to hate confrontation and play the victim. Two wrongs and all that.

    I don't think he meant mirroring their behaviour literally, but meerly pointing out their behaviour. If you read the original post again, I don't think the op "gets off" on making someone cry. I gathered from the post that he confronted someone who was acting the muppet, brought them down a peg or 2 and they got upset. I'm guessing that person was acting in this way for a while and eventually got their comupance, therefore the op was elated. I think you are taking him up the wrong way.

    Thats the way I read it anyway.


  • #62
    Ghost Buster
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,172 ✭✭✭Ghost Buster


    jessiejam wrote: »
    I don't think he meant mirroring their behaviour literally, but meerly pointing out their behaviour. If you read the original post again, I don't think the op "gets off" on making someone cry. I gathered from the post that he confronted someone who was acting the muppet, brought them down a peg or 2 and they got upset. I'm guessing that person was acting in this way for a while and eventually got their comupance, therefore the op was elated. I think you are taking him up the wrong way.

    Thats the way I read it anyway.

    I never even assumed he had read 'holding a mirror up to them" to mean mirroring their behaviour. Jesus but martyn really is off on a tangent and wildly misunderstanding posts.
    This is exactly what i meant. Thanks.


  • #63
    Pottler
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,073 ✭✭✭Pottler


    I get paid to argue, prod, cajole and err, motivate. I'm usually the one pushed to the front if there is a verbal row to be had and generally, I'm good at it - I grew up in a family that loved to argue, so I've had a waay head start on anything anyone else might come up with.


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