Passive aggressive things people do that annoy you.

1ZRed

pirelli wrote: »

Lefty liberal equality laws might be preventing him from expressing his true disgust at you. So he just drops sly hints. Sounds like a career problem, or something similar...is it?

What?

1ZRed

Hobbes wrote: »

The only way to combat PA is to give it no where to go. For your example, the first sly comment made, ask them what they mean by it. Don't let them shrug it off. Then do it again. Ask them point blank to say if it is related to the incident or not. If not then tell them STFU.

PA only works because they try not to give you an opening to attack back. So you ignore it and go straight for the comment.

I found a better solution. Told him to go fvck himself and that I couldn't be arsed being around him.

--Kaiser--

El_Dangeroso wrote: »

Standing up for yourself does not mean you have to be aggressive, you can firmly, repeatedly and persistently make your point without displaying one single element of aggression (raising your voice, getting in someone's face, instigating a physical conflict etc.)

There has to be a hint or threat of aggression behind the action. If I tell someone who cuts in front of me to get to the back of the line, if I say it with assertiveness there is a hint that I will forcibly remove him if he doesn't comply. Without the hint the attempt at assertiveness is useless.

Anyway, my cherry picked dictionary definitions of assertive are 'confidently aggressive' or aggressive self assurance' so back off!

The One Who Knocks

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I think that problem seems to affect the older generations more than us...we seem to be accustomed to googling absolutely anything on our minds, ...it's pretty much second nature to us, while for others the thought doesn't necessarily come into their heads

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bnt

I get annoyed when I express an opinion and people try to turn it back on me - as if anything I say about anything else is always about me.

For example, if I'm on a crowded bus with someone, I might say "this bus is crowded", and the response is "are you claustrophobic?" No, I'm not claustrophobic, the bus is just crowded. I've had another person go in to a near meltdown trying to diagnose me of commitment-phobia, just because I'm not married - the kind of thing that made people hate Carrie on Sex and the City. (It takes, like, two, you know?)

There's a certain type of passive-aggressive amateur psychologist who tries to analyse everything said by anyone, looking for clues about that person. I wish they'd just stop it. Sometimes a statement is just a statement, not an expression of a latent personality disorder. Unless you're a professional psychologist, and I'm paying you for your opinion, you're almost certainly wrong about me.

(If you're now thinking of replying to me in that kind of way ... gee, you're so smart to think of that, aren't you? No-one would ever see that coming ... )

Lunni

heisenburger wrote: »

When self righteous residents in the estate I park in for work leave nots on my car telling me to 'STOP parking here', and that 'what you are doing is WRONG!'

Then when ever I bump into anyone that lives up there while getting into my car at 5 they say nothing.
Some people...

You're lucky nobody has keyed your car yet. That's what happened to most of my mates who parked on other people's estates. I wouldn't get angry over a note. You ARE in the wrong.

bnt wrote: »

I get annoyed when I express an opinion and people try to turn it back on me - as if anything I say about anything else is always about me.

For example, if I'm on a crowded bus with someone, I might say "this bus is crowded", and the response is "are you claustrophobic?" No, I'm not claustrophobic, the bus is just crowded.

Yeah, I hate that...when you make a remark just to make a remark and they assume you were trying to imply something because that's what THEY do! I went into my kitchen the other day and commented on how hot it was. The flatmate goes, 'I've been cooking for ages, I'll open the window as soon as I can!' in a really snappy voice. All I was doing was starting a conversation. If I'd wanted her to open a window, I'd have said that. That's the worst thing about passive aggressive people - they assume everyone is as sad and b*tchy as they are.

Rango555

Defiler Of The Coffin wrote: »

People who write 'Cheers' at the end of a message/post in a condescending manner. They should have their entrails ripped out and burned and then be eaten alive by zombiefied rats.

Me too Cheers!

TheRealSquishy

Lunni wrote: »

You're lucky nobody has keyed your car yet. That's what happened to most of my mates who parked on other people's estates. I wouldn't get angry over a note. You ARE in the wrong.

Surely once the tax is paid on the car you can park it where you like, within reason and the law obviously? Maybe I'm wrong too but once there was no 'residents only' sign up I would park there too. And if I came back to find a note or scratch there would be no passiveness, just aggression, cause I've got balls.*

Also imagine your life being so sh1t that you have to key cars or leave childish messages on them to get your kicks. I have never understood why people take it personally anyway, as long as it's not in their driveway what difference does it make.


*May not actually have balls.

Roisy7

Brain Stroking wrote: »

First World Problems

First world problems is the most annoying phrase ever!

I hate text messages which just read "k"...