My mother thinks

Oranage2

Sure what else would a mother be doing and if you're so concerned about her you should help your mother make the sandwiches!

AnonoBoy

Maybe your mother won't do anything for you because she reads your threads on boards? :pac:

jamesbondings

Lucena wrote: »

If Ireland was a civilised country the mammy in question would've found someone else i.e. a boyfriend/2nd husband, to share her life with. This being Catholic Ireland however, it just wouldn't look right.

Hence all the attention being given to the sons.

Not in most cases i would think.......sure my dads on his third wife and he isn't even sixty.....

Op is your relationships with your brothers frayed because of this? If so then your mam needs to change as its unfair. But if you all get along then maybe your mam doesn't even think about it

Scioch

Can say the same about parents being worried about their daughters attire being too revealing. Doesnt mean they are on the game, so why is an over indulgent mother proof the son is disabled ?

Double standards there I think. Men now are looked down on for not doing everything for themselves because women have a chip on their shoulder about gender roles.

Jesus Christ, OP. How many times have you posted a variation of this same topic?

I can't believe a grown adult goes on like you do. This is the kind of petty, silly little problem I'd have worried about when I was 12.

My family get on my nerves a bit as well which is why I moved out 9 years ago and now I see them when I choose to. I don't concern myself with how much money my parents are giving my brother for college compared to what they gave me or how they treat him compared to me BECAUSE I'M AN ADULT NOW.

I couldn't imagine being in my thirties and worrying about petty sh1t like this.

Move out and grow up, FFS :mad:

Tomk1

jamesbondings wrote: »

We are not helpless. Clever is what we are. Why would we do anything if you are going to.......

Ps op have you ever spoke to you mam about it......

Actually I think it's kind of the opposite or equal, (you don't even have the option), like a friend of mine, lives in his own house. His mother makes him dinner after work, packs a lunch for him, sometimes goes to his house and cleans it, puts on washing.
Form her perspective it's her job as being part of his life, showing love, to make sure his taking care of himself. On the otherside, there's nothing he wouldn't do, buy them a new TV, look after them growing into old age, cut the lawn, hedges, paint the house, pay for insulation. At the end of the day she's his mother and mother's have the right to interfer in it, if the mother puts down the law, that's it, we know who's the boss.

When my mother was alive and I was in collage, she would be offended if I said I'ld do my own washing, & independence could be my middle name.
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OP, just be glad you have a caring mother, one day she will be gone, so stop your pettyness and try to enjoy n' learn something from someone as great as your mother. IMO your post does sound more about you & your mother than your brother & I'm guessing that she sees her own strength in you.
You know this might go against your core, but next time why don't you do something for your mother, like dare I say it even washing your brothers clothes, not for him but for her, show her you can take some burden of her, that you can take care of her n' your family just like her, or instead you could be resentfull & disrespectfull to her untill she dies, at which point you can't take it back. (by disrespectfull I mean disrespecting her natural good actions, doesn't matter if you disagree, just stand back in silence and look at who she is)

Seriously Life is too short.