Not fancying Spouse anymore.

Abi

hoodwinked wrote: »

seriously? i know there is a lot more to marriage than sex, but the loving relationship is platonic at this stage according the the op, do you not think he should talk to his wife and see if she would like to have the opportunity to find someone who loves her AND finds her attractive?

He is holding all the cards here, she doesn't even get a look in. Pretty selfish I must say.

PC CDROM

Gauss wrote: »

Here's the scenario.

You are married with a mortgage and children. Everything is rosy, the kids are happy, the spouse is happy, you may or may not be happy.

You haven't been sexually attracted to your spouse for the last few years but are still in love with them.

Do you accept it and just keep going as things are or do you break up with your spouse?

This is not a personal issue, a hypothetical scenario.

Remember to clear your internet history tonight! And lock your PC/Laptop.

otto_26

Gauss wrote: »

Here's the scenario.

You are married with a mortgage and children. Everything is rosy, the kids are happy, the spouse is happy, you may or may not be happy.

You haven't been sexually attracted to your spouse for the last few years but are still in love with them.

Do you accept it and just keep going as things are or do you break up with your spouse?

This is not a personal issue, a hypothetical scenario.

Nope do what ever suits you.

Your lucky because we now live in a society where its a me me me world I deserve to be happy...Forget the children's happiness yours is the most important..

As for your husband or wife....Your lucky we live in a society now where what you swore and promised on your wedding days means F all because it's all about your happiness.

So dump the partner and start a fresh because it's you and your happiness is all that matters do what's best for you.

If ya feel any bit guilty just remember it's the 21st century!

Mammanabammana

OU812 wrote: »

^ not the worst suggestion. Friend of mine (female) was in a similiar situation.

Got herself a guy on the side, realised what she was taking for granted with the husband, dumped the guy & really making a go of it. She said the couple of weeks saved her marriage.

Does the husband know about the guy that she had on the side?

anhedonia

otto_26 wrote: »

Nope do what ever suits you.

Your lucky because we now live in a society where its a me me me world I deserve to be happy...Forget the children's happiness yours is the most important..

As for your husband or wife....Your lucky we live in a society now where what you swore and promised on your wedding days means F all because it's all about your happiness.

So dump the partner and start a fresh because it's you and your happiness is all that matters do what's best for you.

If ya feel any bit guilty just remember it's the 21st century!

spiteful much ?

otto_26

anhedonia wrote: »

spiteful much ?

Not at all, just saying it how it is.

Mr Benevolent

OP, 13 of the 34 threads you have created are about sexual inadequacy, infidelity or sexual jealousy. Do you have something to tell us?

Cee-Jay-Cee

Thinly veiled 'I think I'm gay' thread.

Gauss

Confab wrote: »

OP, 13 of the 34 threads you have created are about sexual inadequacy, infidelity or sexual jealousy. Do you have something to tell us?

Yes, topics of interest. Good work Columbo.

repsol

Gauss wrote: »

Here's the scenario.

You are married with a mortgage and children. Everything is rosy, the kids are happy, the spouse is happy, you may or may not be happy.

You haven't been sexually attracted to your spouse for the last few years but are still in love with them.

Do you accept it and just keep going as things are or do you break up with your spouse?

This is not a personal issue, a hypothetical scenario.

I suggest you add up how much a split would cost you financially and what sort of accomodation/lifestyle you could afford with whats left.Factor in how little time you would get with the kids.Bet she is looking better all ready!:D(hypothetically of course).If all else fails this is why light switches were invented

ITS_A_BADGER

OP honestly if you feel that way about it, don't tell her anything yet. Try and maybe do things with just you and her, go out with her a couple of times a week bring her to a dinner/movie/drinks. do things that she likes to do and see how does she respond to doing those things with you. have a DvD night with just you and her on the couch and some wine and chocs. Bring her flowers somedays as a surprise. If you still feel the same way at least you gave it a shot...

Gauss

ITS_A_BADGER wrote: »

OP honestly if you feel that way about it, don't tell her anything yet. Try and maybe do things with just you and her, go out with her a couple of times a week bring her to a dinner/movie/drinks. do things that she likes to do and see how does she respond to doing those things with you. have a DvD night with just you and her on the couch and some wine and chocs. Bring her flowers somedays as a surprise. If you still feel the same way at least you gave it a shot...

I'd love to but since I'm single that would be tricky.

Boombastic

Gauss wrote: »

I'd love to but since I'm single that would be tricky.

Did your OH see the thread?:pac:

ITS_A_BADGER

Gauss wrote: »

I'd love to but since I'm single that would be tricky.

Then why are you worrying/thinking about this scenario so

blacklilly

Gauss wrote: »

I'd love to but since I'm single that would be tricky.

I'm truly shocked

Gauss

ITS_A_BADGER wrote: »

Then why are you worrying/thinking about this scenario so

Most definitely not worried. Find it curious how no one talks about this even though it must be fairly common.

HondaSami

Gauss wrote: »

Most definitely not worried. Find it curious how no one talks about this even though it must be fairly common.

why do you think it's common? no one expects relationships single or married to be loved up all the time. there is more to life and generally people have more in common than just sex.
You ever hear the expression sex is either a feast or a famine?

Jimoslimos

Gauss wrote: »

Yes, topics of interest fantasy. Good work Columbo.

FYP

Gauss wrote: »

I'd love to but since I'm single that would be tricky.

Ah the engagement was broken off so. Well probably for the best so...

Gauss wrote: »

I asked for permission because my fiancé because she wanted me too. It didn't take much effort so fukc it, if it makes her happy. Both me and her dad thought it was stupid but I went through the motions.

It stupid really.

Gauss wrote: »

Hi,

I'm getting married next year and just looking for some suggestions for first dance songs, nothing too over played.

Or was it marriage?? Finding it difficult to keep track of these hypothetical engagements, marriages, interesting sex lives....

Gauss wrote: »

Completely agree, I had a quadruple barrel surname and my wife had a quadruple barrel surname. We refused to choose which quadruple barrel surname to give our son, so he now has an octuple barrel surname. I don't see the issue with it and neither does young Jack Smith-Walton-Grant-Pepperpot-Fowler-Dunne-Blanc-Cooper-Santos. When he grows up he can do as he wishes.

My wife is proud of her quadruple barrel name, it has history and she isn't going to abandon it.

Although I'm guessing that last one was tongue-in-cheek..

Piper101

Johnny? Is that you?

tan11ie

Piliger wrote: »

What utter nonsense. Your perception of love and life is shallow and naive. Love can be deep and wonderful without sex. Marriage is not just a journey of sexual delight. It is a decision to travel through life with a single partner, sharing ALL of life's struggles and rewards together.
Sometimes sexual attraction wains and sometimes is goes. That doesn't mean love goes and it doesn't mean a loving and happy relationship should be thrown in the trash, and kids tossed into the vortex.
And for your information marriage vows rarely say anything about total physical fidelity despite the claims that some people make.

Ah FFS

Gauss

Jimoslimos wrote: »

FYP


Ah the engagement was broken off so. Well probably for the best so...


Or was it marriage?? Finding it difficult to keep track of these hypothetical engagements, marriages, interesting sex lives....

Although I'm guessing that last one was tongue-in-cheek..

The last one is true.

Have you anything to contribute to the actual thread or are you more interested in me?

Pataman

Hippies! wrote: »

Feed her cake and make her chubby.

I suspect that is already the problem

pickarooney

What if you're both 80? Bugger all chance anyone is going to find either of you attractive.

Jimoslimos

Gauss wrote: »

The last one is true.

Have you anything to contribute to the actual thread or are you more interested in me?

You mean do I have any stories for you to jack-off to? I'm afraid not.

On reflection I reckon you have an obsession for infidelity related stories. I'd recommend searching literotica where no doubt you'd find plenty to entertain you but something tells me your fetish is only really fulfilled when you can validate that it is real people cheating (or as real as anonymous posters on boards can be) and not merely fiction.

No doubt you'll soon tire of boards and you'll further your already unhealthy interest in your friends sex lives. Culminating in an inability to gain any sexual satisfaction from your own relationships unless it involves some form of infidelity by either or both partners.

9959

pickarooney wrote: »

What if you're both 80? Bugger all chance anyone is going to find either of you attractive.

As a proud, and some might say, attractive octogenarian, I take deep offence at your 'throwaway' ageist comments.
How dare you presume that 'mature chedder' is distasteful to everyone's palate, why even your namesake Wayne is believed to be partial to the wiley charms of the more experienced bedroom gymnast.

Try me sometime, you cheeky young man/woman, I don't care which, I'm desperate.

Yours in expectation, Doris (87)

P.S. I note, with a frisson of excitement, that you choose to use the word 'bugger' to express yourself, well then, 'let's get it on' as one of my favourite crooners Marvin Gaye once warbled!

hoodwinked

pickarooney wrote: »

What if you're both 80? Bugger all chance anyone is going to find either of you attractive.

Not true my grandmother is 73 (widowed) and still gets propositions from men her age (be they widowed or still single)

repsol

hoodwinked wrote: »

Not true my grandmother is 73 (widowed) and still gets propositions from men her age (be they widowed or still single)

You can still get a tune from an old piano!:D

KwackerJack

Finish it!

Buy a big fast coupe!

House with a big mucky dog and a bar!

Few women to have 'tea' with and live happily ever after

All hypothetically speaking of course, Id never live such a life style

Scanlas The 2nd

I'd stay together for the kids.

ElvisChrist6

Try suggesting you both try out different looks, you might find it refreshing if you do. For example, ask her to grow a beard!

Brain Stroking

Confab wrote: »

OP, 13 of the 34 threads you have created are about sexual inadequacy, infidelity or sexual jealousy. Do you have something to tell us?

Yup spotted that straight away. I reckon he's textually attracted to all our replies and his furiously **** since this thread was created.

Brain Stroking

I'm such a tease.

FullblownRose

hoodwinked wrote: »

The grass is not greener, there is no temptation,one of the many reasons i married my husband is because i knew this,

if my mind/eye/body was ever wandering i would hope i had the balls to tell him rather than being unfaithful,

i vowed to love, honor and obey and i didn't take my vows lightly. others may do, but you can't say all when you don't know every married couple out there and their situation.

Nice to see I'm not the only one who feels that way in my own relationship! I think love is not as common as people think it is.