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i wish i had friends ..

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  • 18-01-2013 2:27am
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    chloe90
    Registered Users Posts: 42 ✭


    :( been here for like 3 months still not one friend, i'm not a real mushy people person but i miss having them to do stuff with and make up an excuse why i cant hang out ...sometimes


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    MrFrisp
    Registered Users Posts: 2,221 ✭✭✭MrFrisp


    chloe90 wrote: »
    :( been here for like 3 months still not one friend, i'm not a real mushy people person but i miss having them to do stuff with and make up an excuse why i cant hang out ...sometimes


    Would this be of any interest to you.?? http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056855204

    Coming up soon.

    Plus this if your after just a girlie social.. http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056824148
    .


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    surferrod
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    But what in the case of not interested people


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    MrFrisp
    Registered Users Posts: 2,221 ✭✭✭MrFrisp


    surferrod wrote: »
    But what in the case of not interested people



    What do you mean?


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    Milly33
    Registered Users Posts: 8,651 ✭✭✭Milly33


    Do not be sad... be happy...


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    ABajaninCork
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    I kind of know what you mean OP. I've been here for 4 years and only have one friend! :(

    It's very difficult to get to know people when you're unemployed. You don't really want to mix with other unemployed people as you don't want any more negativity to 'rub off' on you. (I don't mean that to sound snobby) But anything you do to try to get to know people costs money!!

    Fortunately, I can keep in touch with my mates from home via FB and the good old dog 'n' bone. Some of them have been over to visit which is nice. Some more Irish friends would be good too!


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    MrFrisp
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    ABajaninCork wrote: »
    I kind of know what you mean OP. I've been here for 4 years and only have one friend! :(

    It's very difficult to get to know people when you're unemployed. You don't really want to mix with other unemployed people as you don't want any more negativity to 'rub off' on you. (I don't mean that to sound snobby) But anything you do to try to get to know people costs money!!

    Fortunately, I can keep in touch with my mates from home via FB and the good old dog 'n' bone. Some of them have been over to visit which is nice. Some more Irish friends would be good too!


    Well said...Fair dues to you.
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    chloe90
    Registered Users Posts: 42 ✭chloe90


    yah i know what you mean right now i have no job and like i told my fiance like it's so hard to find friends when i met all my old friends at work etc. , i do go on fb too but idk miss hanging out and making fun of things together or idk playing rock band at someones house. its really hard just i mean how do you make a friend who is a girl , like i don't want anyone to think i'm a weird lesbo. i hope once i get a job it will be better tho otherwise i will go crazy and just start random conversations with anyone i meet hoping one is as lonely as i am on week days between 12-5 pm ..


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    cantdecide
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    You're being silly, tbh. You're going to have to get out of your comfort zone and do new things or maybe things that you never would have considered doing before. When you do meet new people, you could also gently let them know that you're new to the area and you have no social circles to fall back on. Other girls will take you under their wing. I've seen this happen tons over the years.


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    topcatcbr
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    chloe90 wrote: »
    :( been here for like 3 months still not one friend, i'm not a real mushy people person but i miss having them to do stuff with and make up an excuse why i cant hang out ...sometimes
    I lived in cork for ten years from1993 to 2003 an found the local people great to get along with. Many have very tight knit social circles but most are open to getting to know new people. I have moved about the country a fair bit and find getting out and getting involved at a local level in clubs pubs or community associations great for meeting people. Small local pubs are always better than big city pubs if you like a drink (I know it's expensive).


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    Milly33
    Registered Users Posts: 8,651 ✭✭✭Milly33


    Are you around town or kinda outside town. Im fecking bored off my nut most weekends, and im off two days also so normally end up cleaning the house which i shall scrub away soon enough. And himself if normally away at the weekend so hello vino..

    If you fancy meeting up for walks or anthing if your close id be more than willing to meet. Just to note im not a lesbian either not that it would matter. But same thing most of my friends are abroad or have kids so there goes the social life.. Meet up with two girls on this for walks and they were loverly, tried to volunteer in loadsa places too, to take up the free time and dya know tis harder to volunteer than it is to find work..


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    eternal
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    Milly33 wrote: »
    Are you around town or kinda outside town. Im fecking bored off my nut most weekends, and im off two days also so normally end up cleaning the house which i shall scrub away soon enough. And himself if normally away at the weekend so hello vino..

    If you fancy meeting up for walks or anthing if your close id be more than willing to meet. Just to note im not a lesbian either not that it would matter. But same thing most of my friends are abroad or have kids so there goes the social life.. Meet up with two girls on this for walks and they were loverly, tried to volunteer in loadsa places too, to take up the free time and dya know tis harder to volunteer than it is to find work..
    That is sadly true about voluteering. I am a trained chef and numerous times I tried to contact Penny Dinners to offer help. No reply from them whatsoever and the same from other places I tried. To be fair I am a full time student and have chronic illnesses, my time is precious enough. It makes me wonder why I bother.


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    Milly33
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    Glad I am not the only one so. I found it very odd. I always here Penny Diners saying they are looking for help, then as you say you offer but hear nothing. There is a poster up in the Post Office in Ballintemple for meals on wheels they are looking for a Monday chef but kinda every other Monday as such, if you wanted to try I can get the number for you.


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    bogman
    Registered Users Posts: 1,328 ✭✭✭bogman


    chloe90 wrote: »
    :( been here for like 3 months still not one friend,

    Get out walking, around the Lough for example, 2 or 3 laps around it and you will feel the better in your head, God knows you will meet plenty people enjoying themselves Chloe


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    eternal
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    Milly33 wrote: »
    Glad I am not the only one so. I found it very odd. I always here Penny Diners saying they are looking for help, then as you say you offer but hear nothing. There is a poster up in the Post Office in Ballintemple for meals on wheels they are looking for a Monday chef but kinda every other Monday as such, if you wanted to try I can get the number for you.
    Have college during the week but thanks anyway. It is pretty ignorant out of them though all the same.


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    Shine7
    Closed Accounts Posts: 96 ✭✭Shine7


    I'm in a similar position and came on here to see if I could catch wind of any kind of social group to meet new people in a similar position but I guess I am what the OP refers to as a "weird lesbo" so that appears to rule me out as being friend material.....:rolleyes:


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    ABajaninCork
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    Shine7 wrote: »
    I'm in a similar position and came on here to see if I could catch wind of any kind of social group to meet new people in a similar position but I guess I am what the OP refers to as a "weird lesbo" so that appears to rule me out as being friend material.....:rolleyes:

    Why? :confused:


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    MrFrisp
    Registered Users Posts: 2,221 ✭✭✭MrFrisp


    Would this be of any interest to anyone?

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056868205

    Contact KingTut if anyone wants to go.
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    kingtut
    Registered Users Posts: 6,487 ✭✭✭kingtut


    MrFrisp wrote: »

    Contact KingTut if anyone wants to go.
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    :eek::eek::eek:

    The more the merrier ! :)


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    Armaiti
    Registered Users Posts: 23 ✭Armaiti


    Just got here (two months ago) and left all my friends behind. I'm a really friendly and easygoing girl, but it's not easy to make new friends when you don't know anyone, didn't find any job yet and... you come from abroad :)

    I'm a little bit older then the girl who started the thread (I'm 27), but well, if this doesn't bother you I'm here :D


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