What do men really want look for in a woman

SineadMarie

Hi,

Looking to start a new thread to help me and any other single ladies. Guess feeling a bit down in the dumps lately and being that dreaded V day also doesnt help.

Basically is it all about the chase with men, do they not want a nice girl that is pretty good to them funny..so confused lately by a certain someone playing hot and cold and would be nice to get peoples opinions on it

howardmarks

breasts

judgefudge

There is a thread on this. Men are different and want different things. End of.

Rabidlamb

About 8 years ago my girlfriend at the time went out & bought me beer to while I was watching the British Open golf.
She's obviously now my wife.

AnarchistKen

PM Sent

Ficheall

The old chestnut:

"Q- What men want in a woman?
A -Their penis."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1qD4LtaRIU

1ZRed

judgefudge wrote: »

There is a thread on this. Men are different and want different things. End of.

BS, everyone knows all men are the exact same and look for all the same things. Why else would we have so many threads like this saying so?

THENORTHSIDER

personality of course.

SineadMarie

judgefudge wrote: »

There is a thread on this. Men are different and want different things. End of.

I havent seen it please feel free to close if this has already been discussed!

Kettleson

Men take a lot longer to wise up...try and spot one who isn't a male bollocks and one who has genuine respect for women and the good sense to know how lucky he is to have found you.

mailforkev

As long as you're not a crazy, just be yourself.
And if you want something say it.

Mind games = goodbye.

SineadMarie

A wise friend once told me let them miss you...they cant miss what they can have when they want!

Havent even gotten a vals day text from him i guess its blowing cold week!!

SunnyDub1

SineadMarie wrote: »

Hi,

Looking to start a new thread to help me and any other single ladies. Guess feeling a bit down in the dumps lately and being that dreaded V day also doesnt help.

Basically is it all about the chase with men, do they not want a nice girl that is pretty good to them funny..so confused lately by a certain someone playing hot and cold and would be nice to get peoples opinions on it

You are only gonna get smart arse answers here :rolleyes: it's AH !!

But what kind of question is that ?
not all Men or woman are the same. We all look for different things in a person, and are attractive to different personality's, looks etc.
Some like a big smile, some like shy, some like slim, some like sexy, some like cute, some like funny, some like serious ... and so on and so on!!!

Why would you want to be in the company of someone who plays "hot & cold" with you?
sounds to me that he is di*k that doesn't seem interested in you, and you are just his amusement for when he is bored.
If he was interested in you - he wouldn't treat you the way he is.
Sorry to be blunt but that's just how I see it.

smash

SineadMarie wrote: »

Guess feeling a bit down in the dumps lately and being that dreaded V day also doesnt help.

You should definitely bring Hallmark to court for causing you depression!

Snowie

I'd just like to meet a girl who's attractive cool and easy going.

bazza1

A pulse!

howamidifferent

SineadMarie wrote: »

Basically is it all about the chase with men, do they not want a nice girl that is pretty good to them funny.

Not about the chase with me...
Think all the game playing is stupid and a waste of time.
If you like someone let them know. There's a 50% chance they'll be willing to test the water and go out/meet up...

Also while physical looks are what first attracts most men, its definitely not the most important thing. A few minutes with boring wannabe model and I'd be gone. I find physical attractions grows on you as you begin to find the person more attractive personality wise.
So yes, a nice girl , meaning normal, no game playing, girl next door type is for me.

SineadMarie

smash wrote: »

You should definitely bring Hallmark to court for causing you depression!

Smartarse!!!!!!!!!!! Havent a clue.....

Sarky

What I want look for in a woman is having been far even as decided to use even go want to do look more like.

tin79

SineadMarie wrote: »

What do men really want look for in a woman

Basic grammar skills?

BBDBB

they want the moon on a stick

SineadMarie

tin79 wrote: »

Basic grammar skills?

Thank you teacher!

smash

SineadMarie wrote: »

Smartarse!!!!!!!!!!! Havent a clue.....

Well you said you were feeling down because it was V Day...

wonderfulname

SineadMarie wrote: »

A wise friend once told me let them miss you...they cant miss what they can have when they want!

Havent even gotten a vals day text from him i guess its blowing cold week!!

I don't find your friend very wise, I have no time for mind games.

Did you send him a valentines text? Does he know you have any interest in the day?

SineadMarie

smash wrote: »

Well you said you were feeling down because it was V Day...

I'm looking for some advice not smart comments think thats fair enough. Sorry for the poor grammer also i'm sending this via my phone and didnt think to proof read it!

Anyone

SineadMarie wrote: »

A wise friend once told me let them miss you...they cant miss what they can have when they want!

Havent even gotten a vals day text from him i guess its blowing cold week!!

Maybe he doesnt want his wife to see it?

SineadMarie

wonderfulname wrote: »

I don't find your friend very wise, I have no time for mind games.

Did you send him a valentines text? Does he know you have any interest in the day?

No i havent and yea i think maybe he knows i don't like the day in general cos its also the day my dad passed away suddenly 5 years ago..just need some advice on how to play this. i am nice pretty we get on but i have no time for games from either side.

smellslikeshoes

Not being an absolute bitch is usually a good start. I've known women who complain about being single then when a guy approaches them that doesn't meet their exact parameters they put him down in the harshest way possible and then laugh about it after.

sfwcork

wrote:

Snowie

I'd just like to meet a girl who's attractive cool and easy going.

why dont the OP and this guy get it on?

SineadMarie

sfwcork wrote: »

why dont the OP and this guy get it on?

haha matchmaker

tin79

SineadMarie wrote: »

Thank you teacher!

Sarcastic wit eh. I do like that in a woman.

Also:

Intelligence to some degree (no Daily Mail or blame the gubbernment types)
Nice eyes
A pretty smile
Sense of humour
Not an alcoholic or bad drunk
Breasts (gotta love em!)
And lastly an accent that does not rile up the blood (Australian, NZ, Norn Iron or D4 for example would drive me mad)

Plumpynutt

someone who is easy going is by far the most important imo

SineadMarie

tin79 wrote: »

Sarcastic wit eh. I do like that in a woman.

Also:

Intelligence to some degree (no Daily Mail or blame the gubbernment types)
Nice eyes
A pretty smile
Sense of humour
Not an alcoholic or bad drunk
Breasts (gotta love em!)
And lastly an accent that does not rile up the blood (Australian, NZ, Norn Iron or D4 for example would drive me mad)

Thanks Yes it is a bit thrown together hate new phones!

SunnyDub1

SineadMarie wrote: »

I'm looking for some advice not smart comments think thats fair enough. Sorry for the poor grammer also i'm sending this via my phone and didnt think to proof read it!

You posted in AH.. what do you expect!:rolleyes:
As I said in my previous post, you are gonna get smart comments :rolleyes:
If it's bothering you that much and you want advice.... personal issues this way -->

Wendolene

Sarky wrote: »

What I want look for in a woman is having been far even as decided to use even go want to do look more like.

That is truly the most bizarre collection of random words I have ever read.

Merkin

SineadMarie wrote: »

A wise friend once told me let them miss you...they cant miss what they can have when they want!

Havent even gotten a vals day text from him i guess its blowing cold week!!

I can tell you categorically that anyone who plays hot and cold with you is not interested. It really is very simple. If they're playing head-fcuks with you and you never know where you stand then they really couldn't care less. I'd be getting my coat if I were you.

And in answer to your question, I think most people want very basic things like:

Kindness
Hot Sexual attraction
Honesty
A shared sense of humour/someone to have a laugh with

And then you have more specific needs based on what appeals to the individual. Intelligence, for me, gives me fizzy knickers. Simple as. While some women wouldn't care if their partner were as thick as pig sh1t. A man who is very bright and educated and well-read is a big thing for me and thankfully my husband is just that. But that's just my thing. Everyone has more specific things that they go for - I'm sure you tick all the boxes for thousands of boys out there so don't be disheartened.

Also, there's no definitive "list" people use. There's a shared expectation that people will be attractive to them and that they'll like them as a person but apart from that everyone is different.

naughtysmurf

If I may ask the OP, how bendy are you?

Ush1

Don't believe all the nonsense people say trying to sound deep and original.

Men are animals filled with testosterone, they want boobs and butt. Nice body, nice skin, etc....

Look at the women that get attention on nights out.

D1stant

SineadMarie wrote: »

A wise friend once told me let them miss you...they cant miss what they can have when they want!

Havent even gotten a vals day text from him i guess its blowing cold week!!

Wow you have low expectations. I like that in a woman

howamidifferent

Wendolene wrote: »

That is truly the most bizarre collection of random words I have ever read.

Makes perfect sense to me

SunnyDub1

Merkin wrote: »

Intelligence, for me, gives me fizzy knickers. Simple as..

That's something I've never heard before :pac::pac:

Wendolene

howamidifferent wrote: »

Makes perfect sense to me

Clearly, I'm not very familiar with the grammatical rules of your native language.

SineadMarie

Wendolene wrote: »

Clearly, I'm not very familiar with the grammatical rules of your native language.

ditto

howamidifferent

Wendolene wrote: »

Clearly, I'm not very familiar with the grammatical rules of your native language.

Twas tongue in cheek!

orestes

Nerd/rocker/goth/gamer/geek/writer/artist/singer/musician/quirky/weird ladies = win.

Merkin

adkinstoreturn wrote: »

but i bet he doesn't have big biceps,6 pack,broad shoulders,a nice car,big shlong and lots of $$$$ now does he?

OK:
Huge biceps check from all the sailing and surfing he does
6 pack - did have but has become a 4-pack since we got married because I feed him too much yummy food
Very broad sexy shoulders....hmmmmm
Nice car - An absolute banger but he loves it
Big shlong....it's bloody massive, and he sure knows how to use it too, why do you think I married him?
Not lots of money but we're pretty comfortable

So yes. You don't have to compromise and make do. I've struck gold and I realise that but I was terminally single for ages because I refused to do just that. It paid off. Don't see yourself short!

MiseryMary

smellslikeshoes wrote: »

Not being an absolute bitch is usually a good start. I've known women who complain about being single then when a guy approaches them that doesn't meet their exact parameters they put him down in the harshest way possible and then laugh about it after.

I also thought it was the other way around

mackg

Kettleson wrote: »

Men take a lot longer to wise up...try and spot one who isn't a male bollocks and one who has genuine respect for women and the good sense to know how lucky he is to have found you.

If this was a thread about women and you were a man there would have been several posts calling you bitter already, and with good reason.

tin79

Merkin wrote: »

Intelligence, for me, gives me fizzy knickers. Simple as.

Come on over to mine and we can roll around in the printed results of that online IQ test I took :P

Does 140 do it for ya! I also play scrabble.

ibarelycare

SineadMarie wrote: »

No i havent and yea i think maybe he knows i don't like the day in general cos its also the day my dad passed away suddenly 5 years ago..just need some advice on how to play this. i am nice pretty we get on but i have no time for games from either side.

So you expect him to acknowledge the day, yet you said he knows you don't like it. So which is it? You haven't acknowledged it to him either, Valentine's day is supposed to be for COUPLES, not just for one half of the couple!

smash

SineadMarie wrote: »

I'm looking for some advice not smart comments think thats fair enough.

Ah come on... this isn't Dear Deirdre, it's after hours!