And I'm the weirdo

o1s1n

Madam_X wrote: »

Yes, taking off her bra just to look at her tits can clearly be compared to lifting a sobbing woman's ear-phones to ask if she wants help.

That's not what he said though. He said he 'popped them out'

There's a difference between lifting a headphone set from someone's ear and popping out in ear earphones.

Both are bloody weird, but the popping version is weirder as that would require force rather than just lifting.

Duckworth_Luas

Did her headphones look like the guys in this photo?

Cienciano

I've a similar story OP. Some girl was on the train, standing holding the hand rail. I went up to her and told her she had nice boobs and rubbed around her boob and tweeked her nipple. Some girls can't take a complement. Probably a lezzer

Icyseanfitz

jesus she could have manned up a bit ha should have just pointed and laughed teddy

St.Spodo

So you picked the headphones out of her ears? Yeah, that is a sketchy thing to, and I doubt you'd be too happy if a fella did that to you.

Madam_X

People being very upset in public though causes awkwardness. If the person is very overtly upset, it's uncomfortable just to leave them crying, even if they say they're fine. Such awkwardness could easily cause someone to act clumsily or accidentally do something they wouldn't normally do. I think the OP deserves to be cut some slack. He meant well, he just enacted it in the wrong way, due to being caught up in the moment.

Fair play to him for trying to be nice to an upset person.

Henlars67

If somebody puts in earphones it is clear that they don't want to talk to you.

The fact that one wouldn't realise this is a sign of stupidity of the highest order.

Praetorian Saighdiuir

Your tales get weirder and weirder Teddy.

Do you write for Podge and Rodge?

The Glasses and the mustache dont help either. Always remember ...

Never go hand to face.

Madam_X

Madam_X wrote: »

People being very upset in public though causes awkwardness. If the person is very overtly upset, it's uncomfortable just to leave them crying, even if they say they're fine. Such awkwardness could easily cause someone to act clumsily or accidentally do something they wouldn't normally do. I think the OP deserves to be cut some slack. He meant well, he just enacted it in the wrong way, due to being caught up in the moment.

Fair play to him for trying to be nice to an upset person.

God forbid you should feel a bit awkward when someone else is clearly devastated.

What normal people do is ask if everything is OK. If the person says yes and is not in any immediate danger, you leave them the fck alone. You don't keep harrassing them and you definitely don't pull out their earphones.

I agree with the posters saying he wouldn't have done it if it were a man. It IS patronising and weird. People have the right to be upset without having to explain themselves to complete strangers.

Lollipops23

When you were just trying to comfort her, it was ok.

But yanking her headphones out of her ear-I'd have flipped too. Waaaay too much contact going on there. She didn't want to talk, you should respect that and not invade her personal space.

Up until then I'm sure she appreciated your kind gesture of consoling her.

SteM

Madam_X wrote: »

People being very upset in public though causes awkwardness. If the person is very overtly upset, it's uncomfortable just to leave them crying, even if they say they're fine.

Then he should have acted like a proper Irishman - stared out the window and acted like nothing was happening! Are we all turing into damned yanks!?

Cienciano

You should have got out at her stop and followed her home. She would have appreciated you making sure she got home safely. Just walk about 10 meters behind her so you don't cramp her style.

charlemont

The moral of the story is never try to help a strange woman, They will throw it back in your face..

SCOOP 64

SteM wrote: »

Then he should have acted like a proper Irishman - stared out the window and acted like nothing was happening! Are we all turing into damned yanks!?

I bet he wish he did now!

Madam_X

charlemont wrote: »

The moral of the story is never try to help a strange woman, They will throw it back in your face..

Yep, all women are exactly the same.

(Wasn't there enough of the above stuff over the last few days?)


Still believe it's possible that the OP was just in an awkward, unsure moment and acted wrongly but not with malice of forethought. People should really try and picture the situation instead of jumping on him with "You're a weirdo" comments, which I know is more fun, but... not all that fair.

Larianne

Well, I don't believe you.
You probably don't even get the luas.

SteM

Hannibal Smith wrote: »

was it the green or the red line? ..if green she was in the wrong...if the red you're lucky the security lads weren't on board

Had to be the green line. If it was the red line she would have called him "a ****in' ****ebag" instead of "a weirdo" and then stabbed him for his trouble.

Praetorian Saighdiuir

Larianne wrote: »

Well, I don't believe you.
You probably don't even get the luas.

Meeeeoooowwww!

1ZRed

In fairness if someone was crying hysterically beside me I'd feel very uncomfortable to even ignore it and I'd have to try to make it stop.

If they said they were ok, but continued crying, I would most likely stop there but at that point it's up to them to pull it together in a public place.

If they got some reassurance, but they've said it's fine, then they should try to stop making everyone else feel uncomfortable.

The Dagda

TeddyTedson wrote: »

So there I was going home on the luas Sunday evening when a woman about my own age sat down beside me. She took out her phone anyway and was texting away.
So I decided to start masturbating vigorously.
After about 5mins I could see tears in her eyes and asked her what was wrong. She just looked at me and didn't answer. The crying was getting worse now so I said it again and she continued to ignore me. The poor girl was quite hysterical at this stage so I patted her on the back to let her know everything was going to be ok and she sort of smiled at me, but still said nothing. Then she put her headphones in and I popped them out of her head for a second to talk again and she screamed out so that the whole luas could hear, "get off me you weirdo". The stares I then got off everyone was scary. I had to get off at the next stop because I actually thought a mod was going to form.
You try to be nice and almost get killed in this country. In the states I would have been normal, but here I'm seen as a weirdo. I mean what's the problem with people!

Post makes sense now.

Mr Benevolent

Madam_X wrote: »

Yep, all women are exactly the same.

(Wasn't there enough of the above stuff over the last few days?)


Still believe it's possible that the OP was just in an awkward, unsure moment and acted wrongly but not with malice of forethought. People should really try and picture the situation instead of jumping on him with "You're a weirdo" comments, which I know is more fun, but... not all that fair.

He's obviously not a weirdo, he was being thoughtful and considerate, but he acted very weirdly towards that woman by any normal European standards.

Reoil

Links234 wrote: »

Oh and I think you have pretty conclusive proof that you are in fact the weirdo

And this is coming from the mod of the Transgender forum. You know **** got real...

Banned

Praetorian Saighdiuir

Reoil wrote: »

And this is coming from the mod of the Transgender forum.

WOW

o1s1n

charlemont wrote: »

The moral of the story is never try to help a strange woman, They will throw it back in your face..

That's right, as men it is our duty to help women when they look like they're upset.

We must also tell them to cheer up when they walk passed us in the street and look a bit down.

Or how about we don't do any of that and just leave people we don't know the hell alone?

Call Me Jimmy

Would you have been as compassionate to man or a not-really-attractive woman?

BraziliaNZ

1ZRed wrote: »

In fairness if someone was crying hysterically beside me I'd feel very uncomfortable to even ignore it and I'd have to try to make it stop.

If they said they were ok, but continued crying, I would most likely stop there but at that point it's up to them to pull it together in a public place.

If they got some reassurance, but they've said it's fine, then they should try to stop making everyone else feel uncomfortable.

Even if it was a middle aged man? I really dont think so

TeddyTedson

Reoil wrote: »

And this is coming from the mod of the Transgender forum. You know **** got real...

That's a horrible thing to say!

BraziliaNZ

o1s1n wrote: »

That's right, as men it is our duty to help women when they look like they're upset.

We must also tell them to cheer up when they walk passed us in the street and look a bit down.

Or how about we don't do any of that and just leave people we don't know the hell alone?

Yeah lol, givuz a smile love

1ZRed

1ZRed wrote: »

In fairness if someone was crying hysterically beside me I'd feel very uncomfortable to even ignore it and I'd have to try to make it stop.

If they said they were ok, but continued crying, I would most likely stop there but at that point it's up to them to pull it together in a public place.

If they got some reassurance, but they've said it's fine, then they should try to stop making everyone else feel uncomfortable.

Don't get this sentiment at all. I'd feel bad for the person and hope everything was OK, but I wouldn't be annoyed at them for making me feel uncomfortable. I'd assume whatever they were going through was more important than me feeling a bit awkward. People don't generally cry in public unless something awful has happened and a lot of awful things are things you don't want to talk about.

Mince Pie

Reoil wrote: »

And this is coming from the mod of the Transgender forum. You know **** got real...

You're joking right? Bloody hell. :eek:

GalwayGuy2

And this is coming from the mod of the Transgender forum.

What's wrong with Transgender men or women?

That's right, as men it is our duty to help women when they look like they're upset.

No, but it's a persons duty (:rolleyes:) to help people when they look upset.

SteM

I bet she was only crying because the battery on her phone died. Some people take that sort of thing very hard.

Reoil

Mince Pie wrote: »

You're joking right? Bloody hell. :eek:

Well yes. AH license, pinch of salt and all that.

tony 2 tone

TeddyTedson wrote: »

You try to be nice and almost get killed in this country. In the states I would have been normal, but here I'm seen as a weirdo. I mean what's the problem with people!

Dear OP, you were in the wrong. I don't know where you got the idea the in the States it would have been ok. Maybe some fluffy romcom flick. In the real world you probably would have been tasered/pepper sprayed. If she didnt answer when you asked what was wrong it's a signal to leave well the **** alone.

/2 cent

Thud

If you do this when you are sober, Teddy, you have to wonder what sh!t you get up you when are blacked out

Iwasfrozen

tony 2 tone wrote: »

Dear OP, you were in the wrong. I don't know where you got the idea the in the States it would have been ok. Maybe some fluffy romcom flick. In the real world you probably would have been tasered/pepper sprayed. If she didnt answer when you asked what was wrong it's a signal to leave well the **** alone.

/2 cent

This. I don't know what make believe world the OP thinks America is in but it's not ok to pull out strangers head phones over there.

Angron

Reoil wrote: »

Well yes. AH license, pinch of salt and all that.

Oh thank goodness. It's far too hard to convey tone with just text.

ejmaztec

I wonder if the woman has uploaded the video of her "strange encounter" to Youtube yet, and what she's called it?

TeddyTedson

TeddyTedson wrote: »

Then she put her headphones in and I popped them out of her head for a second to talk again !

This is extremely out of order, she obviously didn't want to talk after your first few attempts why would you keep at her, touching her was bad enough never mind pulling out her headphones when she obviously put them on in order to be left alone.

She would have been well within her rights to give you a lash across the face.

AnonoBoy

To be fair you're lucky you didn't get a box in the face for taking her earphones out.

Praetorian Saighdiuir

I hope Teddy makes it to the next beers. We can light a fire and listen to his stories of love, life and psychotic inane ramblings..

Il miss you when you are gone Ted.

1ZRed

Julius Plump Bargain wrote: »

Don't get this sentiment at all. I'd feel bad for the person and hope everything was OK, but I wouldn't be annoyed at them for making me feel uncomfortable. I'd assume whatever they were going through was more important than me feeling a bit awkward. People don't generally cry in public unless something awful has happened and a lot of awful things are things you don't want to talk about.

Maybe I'm wrong. I'll see how I react when it happens to me sometime in future and report back :P

I also wouldn't be annoyed at them, I'd just be so uncomfortable. Girls crying would have to be the scariest thing ever. I haven't a clue what to do!

Itwasntme.

Madam_X wrote: »

Yep, all women are exactly the same.

(Wasn't there enough of the above stuff over the last few days?)


Still believe it's possible that the OP was just in an awkward, unsure moment and acted wrongly but not with malice of forethought. People should really try and picture the situation instead of jumping on him with "You're a weirdo" comments, which I know is more fun, but... not all that fair.

I agree with this. He made an unfortunate judgement call in what must have been an extremely awkward and uncomfortable situation for both of them. An error in judgement does not a weirdo make and I don't think people should be so quick to say he's one.

Lapin

In Fairness - We all knew Teddy was a weirdo long before Headphonegate.

Hank Scorpio

Duuuuuuuuuude

Duggy747

Yeah, you crossed the personal boundary by taking out her headphones. Most people would've told you to fùck off at that point.

Thread isn't going as planned :pac:

Gymsey

Oh Ted you old rascal you!

SCOOP 64

1ZRed wrote: »

In fairness if someone was crying hysterically beside me I'd feel very uncomfortable to even ignore it and I'd have to try to make it stop.

If they said they were ok, but continued crying, I would most likely stop there but at that point it's up to them to pull it together in a public place.

If they got some reassurance, but they've said it's fine, then they should try to stop making everyone else feel uncomfortable.

A better approach!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0GW0Vnr9Yc

naughtysmurf

Unless you know the girl very well, you really shouldn't touch her buds , it never ends the way you think it will