Dad can't go to Confirmation

Missyelliot2 · 20-02-2013 11:11pm #1

Hello all,
Would really appreciate some advice. My husband has to go abroad to start a job. Unfortunately, this coincides with our daughters confirmation. She is distraught. I've no idea of what to say to her, but she's really teary, worried something will happen her dad and just so, so sad.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated on how to handle this....thanks!

Orion · 21-02-2013 3:20am

Just explain to her that while her big da is important to him too he has to do this for his career also.

Would he be able to ring/skype her during that day?

Missyelliot2 · 21-02-2013 5:25pm

Thanks Orion....that might be a plan! It's just a teary age..... and don't want to make too much of a fuss about her Dad not being there.

Boombastic · 21-02-2013 5:30pm

Missyelliot2 wrote: »

Thanks Orion....that might be a plan! It's just a teary age..... and don't want to make too much of a fuss about her Dad not being there.

You could organise a family day out to celebrate her confo before the father leaves?

Missyelliot2 · 21-02-2013 6:39pm

That's very true Boombastic....we might try that. Her Dad will be home this weekend, so maybe the two of them could go out for a hot chocolate and chat.

Thanks for all the help folks!

echo beach · 22-02-2013 12:39am

It might be worth checking if your daughter could make her confirmation in another parish at a time when her father could attend. A friend of ours had to to that when her confirmation clashed with a family wedding abroad.

Missyelliot2 · 22-02-2013 12:43am

echo beach wrote: »

It might be worth checking if your daughter could make her confirmation in another parish at a time when her father could attend. A friend of ours had to to that when her confirmation clashed with a family wedding abroad.

Thanks so much echo beach. She would still need to be with school friends.....she's so shy. We will soldier on with the hot chocolate...but I really appreciate you taking time to reply

Mr. Muddle · 22-02-2013 10:52am

Hi

I'm the Mam of two girls aged 12 and 13. I would guess that your daughter's upset may be more about the changes in you house than the confirmation. Kids worry so much more than we think about lots of things.

Kids worry about money, about parents splitting up, starting secondary school, leaving her friends from primary and all sorts of thing. One of mine can burst into tears for any reason its a very difficult age with the onset of puberty and all the hormones and worries that it brings and add to that her Dad working away from home.

I think you are right that she needs to make her confirmation with her friends, they are so important to little kids. Could you go to the same restaurant as some of the other families from her class afterwards and maybe next time her Dad is home after the confirmation could he bring her and a friend or to out for a treat.

Good luck, reassure her that things are fine, that her Dad has not left you or her (this idea has probably not even crossed your mind but it may be on hers especially if she reads books like Jacqueline Wilson) and that there is nothing to worry about and try to get her to talk if she is worried.

Missyelliot2 · 23-02-2013 12:51am

Thank you so much Mr. Muddle.....your Jacqueline Wilson suggestion was spot on! She has just read Lola Rose, so I do think you are absolutely spot on! Lots of insecurities going round in her little head. (Who would wish to be that age again!!!)

Really appreciate the help. I've booked a bite to eat with one of her friends. I'm sure that time will help.

Thanks though....it was so kind of you!

Dad can't go to Confirmation

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