What makes someone a failure at life?

Hercule Poirot

kidneyfan wrote: »

Hating disabled people makes someone a failure at life in my opinion.

Hating someone because they are disabled is of course very wrong. But just because someone is disabled it doesn't neccessarily make them automatically a nice person. It is perfectly acceptable to dislike, maybe even hate, a disabled person if they are have unlikable personalities imo.

seven_eleven

Fighting Irish wrote: »

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lol @ people who need to work to be happy(they're be bored otherwise :rolleyes:)

What if working is something a person enjoys? I love my work! Not every job is a boring 9-5 desk job, and I'm sure there are even people who love that kind of job too.

Duckjob

People who dont know how to aspire to better things while at the same time being contented by what they have today.

People who don't get that your life is nothing more and nothing less than what you make of it.

People who continually bitch about their jobs and live for the next coming weekend when they'll just go out and drink themselves into oblivion, and then rinse-repeat to next monday.

People who continually talk about emigrating in the tone of "I'm going to get away from this dump", as if their attitude isn't the problem and they'll magically become a happy person when they leave the country.

Fighting Irish

seven_eleven wrote: »

What if working is something a person enjoys? I love my work! Not every job is a boring 9-5 desk job, and I'm sure there are even people who love that kind of job too.

If you really love what you do that's fine

hardCopy

Using an iPad as a camera in public

darced

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IM0

dying

Wabbit Ears

kidneyfan wrote: »

Hating disabled people makes someone a failure at life in my opinion.

Its more of a life failure to believe that you have to like someone just because they have a disability.

I'd have agreed if you said, 'Hating people for being disabled' but thats not what you meant at all.

kowloon

WumBuster wrote: »

People who use the term 'failure' as a part of their everyday vocabulary.

Anyone involved in reliability testing .


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I Luv Crysis

kidneyfan wrote: »

Hating disabled people makes someone a failure at life in my opinion.

What if they use their disability to create a social media storm out of nothing tarnishing the reputation of a specific business and causing someone to lose their job?

Duckjob

I Luv Crysis wrote: »

What if they use their disability to create a social media storm out of nothing tarnishing the reputation of a specific business and causing someone to lose their job?

Oooooohhhhh. Topical.

kowloon

I wonder if quite a few people don't choose other groups as failures in order to make themselves feel better and prop themselves up.
Maybe it's worth taking a stab at what a success is? Is it personal goals? Is it producing offspring? Is it improving the lives of others?

If it's personal goals then the whole idea goes out the window and success or failure are entirely at the mercy of the individuals opinion.

Offspring is more easily judged, and would make me a total failure.

Improving the lives of others? By that criteria most of us are dead weight. If I fell down the stairs and snapped my neck in two today I can honestly say that the world would be a better place. Only a tiny handful of people would miss me and the rest of the population would have a tiny, tiny little bit more to go around. That tiny, tiny bit being my proportionally larger share than the rest of the planet because I live well.

ToddyDoody

Tom_Cruise wrote: »

What would you consider a failure?

Not being me. Not being like me. Not as ridiculous as it sounds, both grandiose and humble at the same time. Goodnight Vienna. (Boards readers up and down the country)

ashers222

kowloon wrote: »

I wonder if quite a few people don't choose other groups as failures in order to make themselves feel better and prop themselves up.
Maybe it's worth taking a stab at what a success is? Is it personal goals? Is it producing offspring? Is it improving the lives of others?

If it's personal goals then the whole idea goes out the window and success or failure are entirely at the mercy of the individuals opinion.

Offspring is more easily judged, and would make me a total failure.

Improving the lives of others? By that criteria most of us are dead weight. If I fell down the stairs and snapped my neck in two today I can honestly say that the world would be a better place. Only a tiny handful of people would miss me and the rest of the population would have a tiny, tiny little bit more to go around. That tiny, tiny bit being my proportionally larger share than the rest of the planet because I live well.

I think what your getting at is success is subjective. Or relative.

feargale

kowloon wrote: »

I wonder if quite a few people don't choose other groups as failures in order to make themselves feel better and prop themselves up.

Yes, as Ashers says, it's subjective, but so is much in life.

kowloon wrote: »

Maybe it's worth taking a stab at what a success is? Is it personal goals?

Leaving the world a better place than one found it.

kowloon wrote: »

Improving the lives of others? By that criteria most of us are dead weight. If I fell down the stairs and snapped my neck in two today I can honestly say that the world would be a better place. Only a tiny handful of people would miss me and the rest of the population would have a tiny, tiny little bit more to go around. That tiny, tiny bit being my proportionally larger share than the rest of the planet because I live well.

Less cynicism and more common sense, please. We are not lemmings.

old hippy

darced wrote: »

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I used to like my job but the industry has changed a lot over the years. It's not what it used to be. I work there so I can pay the mortgage and so that myself and the wife can enjoy life when out of the work environment.

alphabeat

I would have thought being dead would have made someone a failure at life.

is it just me ? feel like im taking crazy pills here .

frank reynolds

old hippy wrote: »

I used to like my job but the industry has changed a lot over the years. It's not what it used to be. I work there so I can pay the mortgage and so that myself and the wife can enjoy life when out of the work environment.

fair play to ye Old Hippy, my sentiments exactly. you might not enjoy your work - that's why it's called "work". but the life it can give you when you put in the hours is great. travelling and living a nice life as well as working which keeps a good balance to keep your mind going too.

eamonnq

Killer Wench wrote: »

But I bet they are desirous of peace and stability.

Thanks, I learnt a new word today, had never come across 'desirous' until now.

libidoontour

someone who cheats on their partner of 5 years whom they have a house and child together

dd972

alphabeat wrote: »

I would have thought being dead would have made someone a failure at life.

is it just me ? feel like im taking crazy pills here .

No, you're on the crazy pills :P

Dejvice

Failures
Functional alcoholics (look that one up, loads of you out there).
Men and women ´who let themselves go' (see functional alcoholics).
Parents who bring their kids to the pub.
Smokers (any dependency is a weakness).
Men who cheat on their partner.
Women who cheat on their partner.
Married couples not doing it after 10 years marraige (loads of you out there).

That about covers the lot. Most people are failures in some way.

eamonnq

Dejvice wrote: »

Men who cheat on their partner.
Women who cheat on their partner.
Married couples not doing it after 10 years marraige (loads of you out there).

Married couples who are not cheating after 10 years of marriage are failures ??

cartell_best

Nobody is ever a failure in life, well...not in the conventional terms. I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and that we are the author of our own life story, to a certain extent and sometimes, people take a direction in life that from an outsider point of view, we cannot or may never understand, that direction a person has taken. When we are growing up, all kinds of things have an influence on us and if you experience a certain amount of similar situations in life, it will of course play a part in the design of your existence. "Sitting on your arse all day and not working or contributing to society and having a sense of entitlement" is no more a failure than "the lack of showing compassion, empathy or just being a damn nice person" in any given situation. In either case, none is a failure. Life's a bit*ch... But for the most, we either get on with it or just become bitter.

feargale

Dejvice wrote: »

Failures
Functional alcoholics (look that one up, loads of you out there).
Men and women ´who let themselves go' (see functional alcoholics).
Parents who bring their kids to the pub.
Smokers (any dependency is a weakness).
Men who cheat on their partner.
Women who cheat on their partner.
Married couples not doing it after 10 years marraige (loads of you out there).
That about covers the lot. Most people are failures in some way.

So, you're against fags, women and drink. What do you do out of the way? The bookies? <:=>

Slo_Rida

Tom_Cruise wrote: »

What would you consider a failure?

Dying?

Dejvice

eamonnq wrote: »

Married couples who are not cheating after 10 years of marriage are failures ??

are you still living at home?

"doing it" = getting it on, nooky, sex.

Dejvice

feargale wrote: »

So, you're against fags, women and drink. What do you do out of the way? The bookies? <:=>

Guess I touched a sensitive issue for you.

Regards

eamonnq

Dejvice wrote: »

"doing it" = getting it on, nooky, sex.

Ah....why didn't you just say that in your post? It would have saved the confusion.

dark crystal

Dejvice wrote: »

Failures
Functional alcoholics (look that one up, loads of you out there).
Men and women ´who let themselves go' (see functional alcoholics).
Parents who bring their kids to the pub.
Smokers (any dependency is a weakness).
Men who cheat on their partner.
Women who cheat on their partner.
Married couples not doing it after 10 years marraige (loads of you out there).

That about covers the lot. Most people are failures in some way.

Not you though, I bet.

Dejvice

dark crystal wrote: »

Not you though, I bet.

Guess you are sensitive about a few things onthe list too.

regards.

Dejvice

eamonnq wrote: »

Ah....why didn't you just say that in your post? It would have saved the confusion.

No problem old chap, happy to oblige.

sorsha

This world is a failure, so I am not sure if to be successful (wealthy -famous -have power?) is a real success..maybe not be a failure means just to be happy, but how can you be fully happy when things are so wrong around?
Today I saw someone driving over a dog on the road - could be avoided.. and I have lost probably a good job offer because of that -will be off work for another while because I took that dog to vet.
Am I a failure?

eamonnq

I have a desire to be a functioning alcoholic now..............damn you!! There I was tapping away being all 'non-desirous' and now I feel like a failure.................better bring the kids down the pub, have a few smokes and see if I can cheat on the wife while I let myself go.

Sounds like a plan now, better not forget the not doing ' it ' bit now as well so that I have the full house.

Dejvice

eamonnq wrote: »

I have a desire to be a functioning alcoholic now..............damn you!! There I was tapping away being all 'non-desirous' and now I feel like a failure.................better bring the kids down the pub, have a few smokes and see if I can cheat on the wife while I let myself go.

Sounds like a plan now, better not forget the not doing ' it ' bit now as well so that I have the full house.

Carry on.

Madam_X

Dejvice wrote: »

Failures
Functional alcoholics (look that one up, loads of you out there).
Men and women ´who let themselves go' (see functional alcoholics).
Parents who bring their kids to the pub.
Smokers (any dependency is a weakness).
Men who cheat on their partner.
Women who cheat on their partner.
Married couples not doing it after 10 years marraige (loads of you out there).

That about covers the lot. Most people are failures in some way.

Dejvice wrote: »

Guess I touched a sensitive issue for you.

Regards

Dejvice wrote: »

Guess you are sensitive about a few things onthe list too.

regards.

Being this miserable that you'd project it onto others = being a failture.

Dejvice

Madam_X wrote: »

Being this miserable that you'd project it onto others = being a failture.

Really? That so nice from you. Thanks.
Which one on the list are you?

Czarcasm

Dejvice wrote: »

Really? That so nice from you. Thanks.
Which one on the list are you?

People who seek out failure in others. It would serve them better to examine their own life and see how they could improve as a person.

Working on their bitter attitude towards other people would be a good start.

Madam_X

Dejvice wrote: »

Which one on the list are you?

Why do you keep saying you reckon people who dispute you on a discussion forum belong somewhere on your list? It could be argued they're failings (apart from the not having sex after 10 years of marriage one - if physical attraction goes, despite working on it, that's hardly something people can control) but to err is to be human, and it's not unreasonable to disagree that one of these failings constitutes being a failure at life.
You, like us all, have failings, but you don't think you are a failure at life based on them alone.

ArtSmart

Hercule Poirot wrote: »

Someone who is happy to sit on the dole for years and years and never bother to try working for a living

one man's meat...





(is another man's mashed potato)

ArtSmart

lol.

a millionaire is a failure to his billionaire friends.

etc etc.


see 'Einstein's Theory of (annoying) Relatives'.

suicide_circus

Someone who does not laugh

someone who does not not seek his own truth

Cienciano

Dejvice wrote: »

Failures
Functional alcoholics (look that one up, loads of you out there).
Men and women ´who let themselves go' (see functional alcoholics).
Parents who bring their kids to the pub.
Smokers (any dependency is a weakness).
Men who cheat on their partner.
Women who cheat on their partner.
Married couples not doing it after 10 years marraige (loads of you out there).

That about covers the lot. Most people are failures in some way.

"That about covers the lot"???
So being a serial killer who kidnaps and keeps people in an old well in the basement, gets them to moisturize regularly (by lowering the moisturiser down to them in a bucket on a rope) and then kills them to wear their skin as garments is ok, but bringing your kid to a pub is not?
Your morals are weird

Dejvice

Czarcasm wrote: »

People who seek out failure in others. It would serve them better to examine their own life and see how they could improve as a person.

Working on their bitter attitude towards other people would be a good start.

Wow. Another one. Was not expecting this. Which one's hit your button?

Dejvice

Madam_X wrote: »

Why do you keep saying you reckon people who dispute you on a discussion forum belong somewhere on your list? It could be argued they're failings (apart from the not having sex after 10 years of marriage one - if physical attraction goes, despite working on it, that's hardly something people can control) but to err is to be human, and it's not unreasonable to disagree that one of these failings constitutes being a failure at life.
You, like us all, have failings, but you don't think you are a failure at life based on them alone.

Never said I had no failings. Never said or reckoned people who disputed me are on my failure list.
Nevertheless, you can carry on.

Regards.

Dejvice

Cienciano wrote: »

"That about covers the lot"???
So being a serial killer who kidnaps and keeps people in an old well in the basement, gets them to moisturize regularly (by lowering the moisturiser down to them in a bucket on a rope) and then kills them to wear their skin as garments is ok, but bringing your kid to a pub is not?
Your morals are weird

Opps......forgot that one.
So which ones are you?

Regards.

eamonnq

Dejvice wrote: »

Opps......forgot that one.
So which ones are you?

Regards.

Which one are you ?

Just post a list on the internet and then if anyone responds ask them the question above.

So which one are YOU ???!!! :rolleyes:

Madam_X

Dejvice wrote: »

Never said I had no failings.

But you did say people are failures at life for making any of the mistakes you listed. One failing doesn't make a person a failure at life though. If that's the case, we're all failures at life, including you.

Never said or reckoned people who disputed me are on my failure list.

Actually you did. You keep on implying to anyone who disputes you that they must obviously be on your list. It's possible that they can view what you're saying as very unreasonable without any of it applying to them.

Dejvice

Madam_X wrote: »

But you did say people are failures at life for making any of the mistakes you listed. One failing doesn't make a person a failure at life though. If that's the case, we're all failures at life, including you.

Actually you did. You keep on implying to anyone who disputes you that they must obviously be on your list. It's possible that they can view what you're saying as very unreasonable without any of it applying to them.

Wow.

Never said that I was not a failure.
Never implied anything, asked a question but did not imply anything.
What i will say is that the list I posted probably some of the points apply to most people.
Carry on.
Opps forgot........ Have a nice day.

Dejvice

eamonnq wrote: »

Which one are you ?

Just post a list on the internet and then if anyone responds ask them the question above.

So which one are YOU ???!!! :rolleyes:

None.

Regards