March 14th Steak & Blow Job Day

cdaly_

krudler wrote: »

That awkward moment when you arrive home and your mam is cooking a steak and your dad is in bed "resting".

I look forward to the day when my sons have that moment...

jeanjeani

Morag wrote: »

So today is Steak and Blow job day.

Is it something silly, a bit of fun you can choose to take part in.
Or is it sexist and wrong to promote it?

What do you ladies think?

I think it's fun and there shouldn't be any pressure, any bloke who 'demands' either would be told not a hope. But what is wrong with a bit of a saucey day?

I agree with you. I am from America and moved here to be withmy Irish husband. I believe everyday should be a saucy day... Thats what keeps a marriage together.:rolleyes:

openup

I kinda surprised by the responses to this?
I know it may be meant as fun but I think it's bizarre and, honestly, sexually aggressive.
First I don't like that it furthers this idea that Love and feeling are just for girls and sex is just for boys. Then it proposes the idea that if he acts loving towards you or, even worse, spends money on you then you owe him sex (and meat?). I don't know, it makes me very uncomfortable (or at least it would if it was widely known).

I'm of the opinion that the little things, like jokes, that contribute hugely to things like sexual entitlement in our society. Don't get me wrong, I love giving blow-jobs...but not as part of some sort exchange, even if it is "just a bit of fun". If it wasn't a direct response to V day then I wouldn't mind.

I think I'll stick to Pi(e) day! :pac:

Morag

Well I am the one in my relationship who eats steak so no one is demanding meat form me and I would not be in a relationship with someone who demanded oral sex from me as a right or as part of a trade off.

I am not a fan of Valentines day, I prefer something more along the lines of meat and sex day, so I choose to take part in it.

openup

Morag wrote: »

Well I am the one in my relationship who eats steak so no one is demanding meat form me and I would not be in a relationship with someone who demanded oral sex from me as a right or as part of a trade off.

I am not a fan of Valentines day, I prefer something more along the lines of meat and sex day, so I choose to take part in it.

I wasn't implying that your partner is demanding anything! All I meant was that it adds to the already ridiculously prevalent and damaging idea that men only do nice things for women when they are going to be rewarded with sex.
It also implies that men aren't loving; valentine's day is just for girls.

If you choose to take part in it then that's your choice and I wasn't getting at you personally.

The Corinthian

I don't know any man who takes this day seriously. Of course it's a joke.

However, there is a slightly more serious side to it, which I remember discussing over a few beers with some guys, and that is that it is often used as a gentle reminder of the effort and expense that many men will go to for Valentine's day for their other halves.

Now, some women don't care about Valentine's day. Others like it to be only nominally recognised (some flowers and/or a card). Others again will expect a romantic evening out or more - not joking, I've known men who got the cold treatment when they 'fell short'.

So sometimes it doesn't hurt to remind the one you love that relationships are quid pro quo, because you'd be surprised how many out there take what their men will do for Valentine's day for granted.

Otherwise, it is just a joke.

Personally, I think 'turn up the heating to full and spend the day naked at home doing naughty things with each other as you go about your day' day, is a lot more fun for both.

Lyaiera

The Corinthian wrote: »

I don't know any man who takes this day seriously. Of course it's a joke.

However, there is a slightly more serious side to it, which I remember discussing over a few beers with some guys, and that is that it is often used as a gentle reminder of the effort and expense that many men will go to for Valentine's day for their other halves.

Now, some women don't care about Valentine's day. Others like it to be only nominally recognised (some flowers and/or a card). Others again will expect a romantic evening out or more - not joking, I've known men who got the cold treatment when they 'fell short'.

So sometimes it doesn't hurt to remind the one you love that relationships are quid pro quo, because you'd be surprised how many out there take what their men will do for Valentine's day for granted.

Otherwise, it is just a joke.

Personally, I think 'turn up the heating to full and spend the day naked at home doing naughty things with each other as you go about your day' day, is a lot more fun for both.

You do realise Valentine's day is for both people in the relationship? It's not "Man does something for Woman day." All my friends in relationships did things for each other (one couple both baked each other cakes, so they'd have twice as much cake.)

The Corinthian

Lyaiera wrote: »

You do realise Valentine's day is for both people in the relationship? It's not "Man does something for Woman day." All my friends in relationships did things for each other (one couple both baked each other cakes, so they'd have twice as much cake.)

TBH, most men would prefer stake rather than a cake; we just go along with it, a lot (but not all) of the time, because it's what makes her happy and not because we're all that into it. That's not to say that there's no quid pro quo in many cases, but in many others it's pretty asymmetric and in a few only one way.

Like it or not, that's how Valentine's day is perceived, at least by most men - that it's, at best principally, about her. If it wasn't, they wouldn't release chick flicks rather than action movies for the day and there wouldn't be any Stake and Blowjob day gag in the first place.

Legs.Eleven

Is it something a decent percentage of the population celebrate? I thought it was just a novelty thing.

Sonics2k

Lyaiera wrote: »

You do realise Valentine's day is for both people in the relationship? It's not "Man does something for Woman day." All my friends in relationships did things for each other (one couple both baked each other cakes, so they'd have twice as much cake.)

Partially true (Alright, mostly true), but I unfortunately feel the need to poke my head in here and object a wee bit.

There is tremendous pressure on males (both in relationships and single) to do the whole courtship/romance/spoiling stuff on Valentines day.

Whilst women do get gifts for their partners, I'd happily say the vast majority of men, from gaming nerds, jocks, gym buffs and so on, really don't give a flying donkey about anything big on Valentines day. The guy on the other hand is basically expected to treat his love to a night out, cards, chocolates a nice meal and so on. And we do it, because it's expected of us as well as out of love.

Now personally, as a guy, I hate Valentines Day and always have. I find the whole idea to be a mockery and a shame on what a true relationship should be about. I don't like the idea of having to take my girlfriend out on a certain night, I'd rather do it on a spontaneous whim or a surprise to show my affection and love, I'm pretty sure most people prefer it.

I'd honestly say though, that Valentines Day is more about the woman in the relationship than the man, and this is obvious when portrayed in every day advertising and what people are in restaurants on the day.

S&BJ day was made as a simple parody of it, and again, I can't think of any guy who -really- takes it seriously. It's more like a vague hope :P

shoos

In defence of Valentine's Day, I find it quite a nice day to set aside and do something with your partner.

I've heard time and time again guys say:

Sonics2k wrote: »

Now personally, as a guy, I hate Valentines Day and always have. I find the whole idea to be a mockery and a shame on what a true relationship should be about. I don't like the idea of having to take my girlfriend out on a certain night, I'd rather do it on a spontaneous whim or a surprise to show my affection and love, I'm pretty sure most people prefer it.

That is a nice sentiment. And I hope Sonics2k does treat his girlfriend to romantic whims throughout the year.

My boyfriend took the same stance except we never do any nice romantic whims together. He argued with me saying "we can go out for dinner anytime, we can go to see a movie anytime, we can go to the zoo anytime".

We can. But we don't. We're both working quite a lot, busy, and it's hard to find the time to set aside a day to just spend together that doesn't end up sitting in watching telly cause we're so wrecked. Valentine's is the one day that can be planned beforehand and you can actually make a really nice day of it. All this "we can do that anytime" is grand if it's true. But I've been told so many times I'd be taken out to do X, Y, Z for years now and it's still never happened.

The Corinthian

shoos wrote: »

My boyfriend took the same stance except we never do any nice romantic whims together. He argued with me saying "we can go out for dinner anytime, we can go to see a movie anytime, we can go to the zoo anytime".

Some guys are like that, I'm afraid. Personally, I don't go overboard, but I'll still spontaneously come home with a rose or chocolates about a half dozen times during the year. Or organize day trips for the two of us a few times per year. Or go for dinner every month or two. And there are guys who do it an awful lot more often than this. You get all sorts of guys.

At the same time you'll get some women who'll never do anything for the guy. They'll suggest going to the zoo as something to do together, but that's something she wants to do, not him. Most guys aren't into the same things and for us a true sign that the woman we're with loves us is when she does something that we like rather than something 'romantic' that's in reality only of interest to her. So, you get all sorts of gals too.

Caveat on flowers: As I am sure many of the ladies here are aware, flowers are a godsend to most men in relationships. Depending on the woman in question, they can be a serious 'get out of jail card' for any thoughtless or selfish behaviour we may be guilty of (or sometimes, just perceived to be guilty of). In that case, the flowers aren't for her, they're really for us.

I thankfully haven't come across it but I have heard of it on forums - he's taking me away for valentines, he's doing xyz for valentines. Any question of "and what are you doing for him?" seems to be like I'm a crazy person for wondering

p.s. no thanks on flowers
Unless they specifically like them or you get their favourite type, it's such a lazy "I did something wrong but sure I'll get this generic yoke you may or may not like"

Think someone on here posted awhile ago about a bf getting her flowers... which he knew she was allergic to :pac:

Whispered

Ah sure it's all just a joke. My birthday happens to fall on s&bj day so I spend the day teasing him about how unlucky he is that I get a "free pass".

Regarding valentines day, well I'd be waiting a loooong time for romance, so I guess it's lucky that I don't care all that much. I'm lucky in that he does nice things for me anyway, like going for dinner on a Wednesday just to get out of the house, or if he gets a snack bag working late he'll always bring back the chocolate muffin to me. Maybe that's why the one day a year he's "supposed" to do these things doesn't matter to me?

In saying that, I don't think there is any shame in being a girly girl and liking all that stuff and I don't see any harm in having a day to celebrate your relationship. I think some girls go overboard, but likewise a lot of men "hate valentines day" out of some sort of silly principle. If your partner just wants a bit of spoiling and you think she deserves it then who cares if it's a manufactured day. Take the opportunity to do something to make her happy. Assuming of course she does similar for you!

(oh and if a man looks forward to March 14th, then it might be time to have a look at your sex life and your diet! :P)

The Corinthian

bluewolf wrote: »

p.s. no thanks on flowers
Unless they specifically like them or you get their favourite type, it's such a lazy "I did something wrong but sure I'll get this generic yoke you may or may not like"

Doesn't work for everyone, but I think we've established in this thread that you ultimately can't paint everyone with the same brush and there will always be exceptions; sometimes lots of them.

Think someone on here posted awhile ago about a bf getting her flowers... which he knew she was allergic to :pac:

Getting ideas of what to do for your other half is actually a common topic amongst men, when we meet up, in the run-up to Valentines day. And sometimes we do get it terribly, terribly wrong... :eek:

macvictory

It's too easy to let life slip by without making time to enjoy it.

chughes

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

Is it something a decent percentage of the population celebrate? I thought it was just a novelty thing.

Statistics show that 69% of the population celebrate this event