Do people take your posts personally or do you take theirs personally?

steddyeddy

Some people seem to take threads and posts in a very personal way. I know there are issues which people feel very strongly about but I dont think theres a need to take things as personally as some posters do. Animal rights vs hunting, private vs state run schools, they're all contentious issues but I don't see the point in taking things personally. Surely at the end of the day they are just personal opinions.

Do you take other peoples posts personally or do you think people take yours to personally?

vicwatson

Ah p*** off will ya

cuana

in after hours NO

Galwayguy35

No because I don't know any of the people here and they don't know me.

A guy on another forum wanted to meet up for a fight, I think he took the whole difference of opinion a bit too personally though.

Kylo Ren

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

No because I don't know any of the people here and they don't know me.

A guy on another forum wanted to meet up for a fight, I think he took the whole difference of opinion a bit too personally though.

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fro9etb8j5qsl2

There's one boardsie that springs to mind (without naming or giving anything away), this person knows a little bit about the forum that they post in but they reckon that they're an expert. The forum itself has strict posting rules and is quite adequetly moderated But this person still goes around stalking all the new threads and reporting them and commenting on them that the OP has broken the rules etc and says it in such a patronising and belittling way that they might as well be calling the OP a pathetic imbecile And when this person is told to put up or shut up, they take it seriously personally. Even when a mod jumps in and tells them that they're wrong, more often than not the response is 'well I'm right so even if I get banned it'll be worth it' FFS grow up like!


so basically yes, I take EVERYTHING personally

Ruu

Not at all, it's an internet forum at the end of the day and you can't get yourself bogged down about things that happen on it, not that it can't happen.

dodderangler

Everyone is entitled to an opinion
Like if I say I don't like certain people I get branded a racist
So what I don't like some people I can't be forced to like someone no one can
And there's always someone that no matter what the thread title or what it's about will call someone a racist
Cop on folks

Yitzhak Rabin

It all depends on the forum.

If someone was being a d1ck in long-term illness or something, and I was in there asking for advice, then yeah that would be upsetting.

But I think if you get upset in a place like AH, then you are taking the place far far too seriously.

Cavehill Red

Opinions are like arseholes. Everyone's got one and most of them are full of sh1t.
Why in the name of God would you take what some anonymous punter on the internet says personally?

Galwayguy35

Keno 92 wrote: »

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If you want to go searching thru the connecting singles forum from over 2 years ago then fire away.

TeddyTedson

I don't get offended by anything on here. Tbh I don't really get offended in real life anyway. I'm a very mellow person.

Love all my boards.ies.

Ruudi_Mentari

it's not something one can afford to do here. not take nor make, will only hurt yourself ultimately

and nothing is really personally intended from me unless I'm trying to put someone at ease, so at ease, random reader.

Celly Smunt

If you get offended seriously by somebody on the internet,i think it's time to give up on life which would benefit everybody.

Call Me Jimmy

I think we have all lost the focus in our lives to a point where we are taking something personally. I can't find my keys and I'm screaming at the universe to stop playing with me. The same happens online, we aren't logical or rational so it's easy to point out that 'this or that shouldn't affect you' but its a bit hypocritical because there isn't one of us who hasn't been bent out of shape by something ridiculous.

PandyAndy

I don't know, I don't think people take my posts personally. I never asked them either so can't say for certain. Anybody taking this post personally? If so, tough shít.

K-9

Rarely lose my cool, but it has been known to happen, as Call me Jimmy points out, we all have personal hates or irrationalities.

I find it's pointless taking opinions too seriously, chances are the person you totally disagree with on one topic will totally agree with you on another, so it's pointless taking a viewpoint to heart.

orestes

Why would anybody take anything I say on here personally or take what somebody else says personally Even if I happen to be on the opposite side of a discussion to somebody it's not like we're actually in a potentially violent personal confrontation or anything. I might not agree with everyone on here all of the time but it's not like I have anything against anybody.

Except you. You can go fukk yourself.

Gatling

Rarely get offended or intentionally set out to offend in a post but it seems people can come into a thread and label people as racist or a bigot and dont contribute to a discussion at all ,
Some Moderator's have a habit of doing it or saying it knowing if you react your banned but when its raised in feed back its not an insult or abusive

Allyall

I doubt it. I don't know anything, and only post in after hours when i'm not altogether.. (When my brain comes up with stupid stuff, it thinks i can answer but can't.)

But if they ever did....

Napper Hawkins

orestes wrote: »

Why would anybody take anything I say on here personally or take what somebody else says personally Even if I happen to be on the opposite side of a discussion to somebody it's not like we're actually in a potentially violent personal confrontation or anything. I might not agree with everyone on here all of the time but it's not like I have anything against anybody.

Except you. You can go fukk yourself.

Aw can I? Thanks.

Czarcasm

All about context really, there's often been times when I'd utter some salty language and I'd want to tear a poster a new one over a post they've made, but then I have to remind myself that just like anything in life there are rules and regulations that must be adhered to; one is being civil, even to a poster who you think comes off as a complete knob-end, you still have to keep in mind the "attack the post, not the poster" rule, and then there's the often ignored by many around these parts "don't be a dick" rule.

As for how people perceive my posts, well, again it's all about the context and completely on what forum I'm posting in. I'm sure by that same token, I can come across as an awful knob-end to some people, and more people probably just have me pegged as a harmless gob****e. I prefer the latter, as certainly I'd never intentionally set out to offend anybody around these parts.

Something I DO find actually around these parts, meaning boards.ie as a discussion forums site, and meaning social networking and various other sites as "the internet (or the internet at large, as a whole)", is that often the attitude that flies fine on social networking sites and the 4chans and the world star hip hops, can often leak it's way onto boards.ie where there's a certain level of posting style that's acceptable, and a certain posting style that, well, isn't.

Some posters often fail to distinguish between the two, and that tends to do the perception of boards.ie no favors.

1ZRed

Some smarmy, condecending bastard tried 'to teach me a leson' once on something I won't say, in the most condecending way possible saying I was 'too young and naive to understand the world' and I effectively told him off logically point by point.

Since then anything negative that gets written about me he will thank. It's actually the most petty thing I've ever witnessed for someone who doesn't even know me to do over the internet.

Although the initial comment annoyed me the latter doesn't bother me in the slightestl They've shown themselves to be a less than admirable person themselves, but I choose to take the high road and don't bother pointing it out just to get even.

Stereomaniac

I aim to provoke people sometimes, but that is a problem that I have, and it is something I need to change.

DeanAustin

1ZRed wrote: »

Some smarmy, condecending bastard tried 'to teach me a leson' once on something I won't say, in the most condecending way possible saying I was 'too young and naive to understand the world' and I effectively told him off logically point by point.

Since then anything negative that gets written about me he will thank. It's actually the most petty thing I've ever witnessed for someone who doesn't even know me to do over the internet.

Although the initial comment annoyed me the latter doesn't bother me in the slightestl They've shown themselves to be a less than admirable person themselves, but I choose to take the high road and don't bother pointing it out just to get even.

You're a prick.

*I don't even know you, I just want to see if he thanks this.

Oranage2

Yes, maybe a little too personal, I've many nemesis on boards, usually people that correct my post and makes me look stupid, I write their name on a posted note and stick it to the screen, then its the waiting game till I can get them back!

You know who yous are.

Uriel.

Oranage2 wrote: »

Yes, maybe a little too personal, I've many nemesis on boards, usually people that correct my post and makes me look stupid, I write their name on a posted note and stick it to the screen, then its the waiting game till I can get them back!

You know who yous are.

hmmmmm.....

hooradiation

Cavehill Red wrote: »

Opinions are like arseholes. Everyone's got one and most of them are full of sh1t.
Why in the name of God would you take what some anonymous punter on the internet says personally?

This is the most common and also most full of shit platitude people trot out.

If people don't take what "some anonymous punter" says personally, why then do people continue engage and argue with said "punter" when they've got polar opposite and deeply entrenched viewpoints?

This "ahh shure I don't take it personally" is a comforting lie that people like to spit up just so they don't have to admit that they do take it personally.
Because apparently it is some manner of peculiarity that if someone takes a belief you have and shits all over that you'd react at all.

Ihatecuddles-old

Not at all. If someone takes the piss out of me I can laugh at myself, and if someone disagrees with something I say that's fine.
I'm impossible to offend! I also hope I've never offended anyone by taking the piss out of them!

I mostly post in light hearted threads and rarely in any heated discussions.

DeanAustin

Have to be honest, I sometimes take stuff personally. Stupid I know but I'm not the only one. I've gotten into many arguments on the net over stupid stuff and have often been too pig headed to let the other person have the last word. When they've been as pig headed, the argument has gone on forever. It's a sitting and waiting job to see them reply and they're obviously doing the same.

I love that cartoon about yer man refusing to go to bed with his wife because "someone is wrong on the internet". Sums me up sometimes.

Slowly starting to realise my stupidity. Nothing wrong with airing your point of view, having a debate, and then agreeing to disagree. I've never really seen anyone change their opinion much in those sorts of argument.

Thing is, I think a lot more people are like that than will admit it here.

Prodigious

The atheists take every single thing the Roman Catholic Church do extremely personally, it seems. Pisses me off that they can't just shut the f*ck up and let people get on with it.

steddyeddy

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

Not at all. If someone takes the piss out of me I can laugh at myself, and if someone disagrees with something I say that's fine.
I'm impossible to offend! I also hope I've never offended anyone by taking the piss out of them!

I mostly post in light hearted threads and rarely in any heated discussions.

Except when someone offers a cuddle :-P

Legs.Eleven

I do and I have done in my previous incarnation but I bring it on myself. I always get stuck into the most controversial threads and rant my head off, bringing on the wrath of the usual suspects. It's not so much that I get upset or offended, more pissed off and it puts me in a bad mood for the day and I walk around grumbling to myself with a head something like this: :mad:

It's more of a reflection on me and perhaps my own insecurities than anything. If I believe strongly about something, I want everyone to agree with me and if they don't, I have to convince them otherwise in the worst possible way. It's fairly childish but hey, no one is perfect. I THINK I'm getting a bit better though. Luckily I'm not like this in the real world.

Edit: Actually it's not fairly childish, it's childish to the extreme.

steddyeddy

Well I suppose we all take things personally to a degree are only human. What I find annoying is when people take a complete dislike to another poster based on their views on one topic and carry this on no matter what the thread. It only happened to me once and he closed his account but still it was a but weird. And all because I disagreed with him that some other animals may remain undiscovered.

nozzferrahhtoo

Some people seem to take mine seriously enough it seems. Probably more seriously than I take them myself when writing them. Philologos for example went on a long rant about how I was the only user he put on ignore, solely because I made some points he could not rebut, and has since fled the forum. A user called The Bishop! also went on a personal abuse campaign on threads and in PM against me before flouncing off the site and closing his account.

Some people certainly do lack the inner calm required to deal with the... concentrated.... social requirements that forums require of us compared to "normal" real world encounters and circles.

Lenin Skynard

steddyeddy wrote: »

And all because I disagreed with him that some other animals may remain undiscovered.

You Philistine!

:pac:

steddyeddy

Lenin Skynard wrote: »

You Philistine!

:pac:

cuvier's rash dictum my friend!

Do I sometimes get annoyed with people's opinions? yes. If I feel myself getting in any way riled - I leave the thread and forget about it 10 minutes later.

Do I take anything that's posted in public forums actually personally? Not even a little bit. I used to though, definitely.

Sergeant

I've never changed my opinion/outlook on a single controversial or decisive topic based on the opinions of others on a message board. Usually just strengthens my opinion.

Would never take the opinions of others seriously in a place like AH. Stupid thing to do.

Legs.Eleven

steddyeddy wrote: »

Well I suppose we all take things personally to a degree are only human. What I find annoying is when people take a complete dislike to another poster based on their views on one topic and carry this on no matter what the thread. It only happened to me once and he closed his account but still it was a but weird. And all because I disagreed with him that some other animals may remain undiscovered.

You have to admit there has been a few **** in AH over the years. I dislike **** in the real world so it follows that I will dislike them in here. I usually put them on ignore but it's so tempting to see what other guff they come out with that I sometimes take them off again. I suppose it passes the time. Makes a boring day a little more interesting. People troll just to get a reaction (I'm guessing because they're bored) and some people react to them and are like a dog with a bone (to pass the time). I suppose in a perverse way, many of us get enjoyment out of it. T'would be a boring auld world if we all got along.

steddyeddy

Well I have changed my opinion on certain things. Its not a game to see who can keep the same opinions throughout the thread :-P

Earthhorse

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

I think we have all lost the focus in our lives to a point where we are taking something personally. I can't find my keys and I'm screaming at the universe to stop playing with me. The same happens online, we aren't logical or rational so it's easy to point out that 'this or that shouldn't affect you' but its a bit hypocritical because there isn't one of us who hasn't been bent out of shape by something ridiculous.

Very well put. Everyone has been upset over trivial things.

What's amusing is seeing someone get upset over something and then seeing them back down and claim that of course they weren't when it's clear from their behaviour that they are.

KyussBishop

After years of debating stuff online, I don't take anything personally, and don't really worry about others taking things personally; doesn't mean I don't view negatively, some peoples views or methods of argument, but it does mean I'm more apt to rigorously point of the flaws in what they're saying (even wondering about motives for some), without minding how they take it.

krudler

Nah not really, had plenty of arguments on here but tis just the internet, and it's not really an argument, its just me explaining why I'm right.

hoodwinked

krudler wrote: »

Nah not really, had plenty of arguments on here but tis just the internet, and it's not really an argument, its just me explaining why I'm right.

me too , but honestly like it has been said ill disagree on one thread and agree in others.


i take nothing in After hours seriously.

Oranage2

Uriel. wrote: »

hmmmmm.....

ha, That's the joke.

Though now people are wondering if red something was talkin about me,but in one word - yes and no, but mostly no. Though I'm as intrigued as everyone else to know who it is.

Fr_Dougal

Nah, what happens on thread stays on thread. Bound to have a difference of opinion with even the soundest of posters from time to time.

cartell_best

It's a bit like if you're dealing with the public in your working life. Emotions in certain situations may run high and it is hard to say to yourself "count to ten" when you're dealing with someone who has tunnel vision, they only see it one way...their way. There's very little room for manoeuvre and if someone locks horns with another, and a discussion or argument ensues, sometimes people won't allow their opinions to be swayed, even when they're faced with fact. And sometimes, these people may resort to a direction with responses that can be interpreted as a personal attack. Its just all down to how people construct their responses. We're only human...

Steve O

The only posts that annoy me are the "oh noes this thread again", this line is trotted out by people that spend a wee bit too much time on boards. If we weren't allowed to make subjects that may have been made before, it would be a desolate forum.

Backseat mods are a pet peeve too.

pablomakaveli

Id definately agree with the opinion that a lot of people take it more personally than they'd admit but thats human nature after all. You only have to look at the many heated debates across boards to see that people do take it a bit personally.

Hell i take it a bit personally sometimes, not so much just over a difference of opinion but more so when other posters make snide remarks and veiled insults towards me or even other posters. Also posters who have an overall ****ty attitude i dont get on well with either. I'd go so far as to say there are some posters i dont like though only a tiny few.

Ive also had other posters get heated with me. One told me she hoped id never be able to have children because i disagreed that it was societies obligation to filter the internet for her kids rather than hers as a parent to monitor themselves. While it was a bit of a horrible thing to say to me and a massive overreaction it did make me laugh.

Then there was another guy who decided to start calling me a girl on the thread over and over as well as posting it on my user page because i disagreed with his views on abortion.

So from what ive seen on my few years on Boards is that people do take it personally often enough.

KyussBishop

pablomakaveli wrote: »

Hell i take it a bit personally sometimes, not so much just over a difference of opinion but more so when other posters make snide remarks and veiled insults towards me or even other posters. Also posters who have an overall ****ty attitude i dont get on well with either. I'd go so far as to say there are some posters i dont like though only a tiny few.

Yea this kind of thing seems to be a whole method of argument for some, and it is pointing out this kind of stuff on-thread which is the closest to getting personal for me I think; not me taking it personally, but something others are likely to take personally when called out on it.