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''Friends with Benifits'' Can it work ?

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  • #52
    Mariasofia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,887 ✭✭✭Mariasofia


    I want a friend with benefits .....sounds like great craic;-)


  • #53
    Boscoirl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,245 ✭✭✭Boscoirl


    Best first post ever :)


  • #54
    Mariasofia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,887 ✭✭✭Mariasofia


    Thanks and to think i was so nervous ;-) what else haven't i done hmm?


  • #55
    Mariasofia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,887 ✭✭✭Mariasofia


    Thanks and to think i was so nervous ;-) what else haven't i done hmm?


  • #56
    shopaholic01
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,916 ✭✭✭shopaholic01


    Mariasofia wrote: »
    I want a friend with benefits .....sounds like great craic;-)
    Just sit tight and await the PMs. ;)


  • #57
    Czarcasm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,076 ✭✭✭✭Czarcasm


    shopaholic01 wrote: »
    Just sit tight and await the PMs. ;)


    That's what HE said! :p


  • #58
    Super-Rush
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,473 ✭✭✭✭Super-Rush


    Just deleted a load of flirty crap.

    Take it to pm or anywhere other than here please.


  • #59
    seenitall
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,723 ✭✭✭seenitall


    WittyKitty1 wrote: »
    Fair enough. But how on earth do you get into a situation like that with someone or even bring it up if theres no romantic feelings involved..You said you shared a taxi home and it happened, how do you even bring it up?
    I'm pretty close to a few male friends of mine but I'd never talk about my sex life with them..

    not judging anyone or anything, i'm genuinely interested in knowing how it could happen between two people who have absolutely no feelings for each other, unless there was some kind of flirting or something going on..

    For me, there were feelings, just not that all-encompassing kind of the "OMG I can't live without you, you have to be my boyfriend" sort. This was someone I knew very, very well and whom I trusted implicitly, but also someone who I knew to be a bit of a bastard and a player when it came to romance, so I knew that I'd be getting the very best of him by keeping the friendship to the fore and the durtyness as a delish bonus; and so it was.

    Of course there is flirting when you're getting sexual with someone? :confused: Flirting doesn't imply "feelings" though, does it?


  • #60
    Three Seasons
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 548 ✭✭✭Three Seasons


    seenitall wrote: »
    For me, there were feelings, just not that all-encompassing kind of the "OMG I can't live without you, you have to be my boyfriend" sort. This was someone I knew very, very well and whom I trusted implicitly, but also someone who I knew to be a bit of a bastard and a player when it came to romance, so I knew that I'd be getting the very best of him by keeping the friendship to the fore and the durtyness as a delish bonus; and so it was.

    Of course there is flirting when you're getting sexual with someone? :confused: Flirting doesn't imply "feelings" though, does it?

    So you found him sexy and attractive but he wasn't boyfriend material, I don't see how that is confusing people.


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  • #61
    Ando's Saggy Bottom
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,628 ✭✭✭Ando's Saggy Bottom


    I think the only way it could work more ling term is if you didn't like the person but found them physically attractive.


  • #62
    ToddyDoody
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,417 ✭✭✭ToddyDoody


    andym1 wrote: »
    In the early 90s ( I am 50), I shared a flat with another guy I worked with and 2 women. Over time I started to sleep with one of the women and we would get it on occasionly, normally one of us would come home pissed and go to bed and have a good shag but she fell in love with me and It happened again 3 years later in a different gaff when I fell in love with her (different woman)

    I think either you or her (him) will crack and want more than just casual sex and want a relationship with the other so I think It normally ends in tears so Friends with benifits is usually short lived. Ever been there ?

    can't you just have a w*nk instead?


  • #63
    Hardonraging
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,641 ✭✭✭Hardonraging


    shopaholic01 wrote: »
    Just sit tight and await the PMs. ;)


    /drools ..


    Anywho .. as the self confessed casual FWB addict that i am, I can officially say it's only ever happened once where the girl got to me ... these days it's all above board, aloof if you will ... altho i could do with a secretary to keep my diary in order ..


  • #64
    Pug160
    Registered Users Posts: 1,088 ✭✭✭Pug160


    It might work for some but in most cases that sort of lifestyle is unrealistic. I have a friend who's a pretty successful 'player', and he finds it extremely difficult to hold on to any of the girls he ever pulls. They figure out that's all he's after and 99% of the time they're gone. Even the ones who are up for it are usually just in transitional periods of their lives and once an opportunity comes along for a proper relationship - they're off.

    Women who are up for casual sex long term are usually the ones who cheat on their boyfriend or husband, either because they're greedy or because they have unfulfilled/nonexistent sex lives with them.


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