i think i married the wrong woman

Legs.Eleven

lost in cork wrote: »

i will say it again you dumbass i wasnt asking for advice on my situation i simply asked did anyone else feel that they had married the wrong person ,now do you understand that,its very clear?

So you wanted to start a thread on people confessing that they married the wrong women? That sounds grim as fcuk if you don't mind me saying. Why would you want to start something like that?

lost in cork

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

So you wanted to start a thread on people confessing that they married the wrong women? That sounds grim as fcuk if you don't mind me saying. Why would you want to start something like that?

life can be grim ,its not all hearts and roses

BorneTobyWilde

Did you seek out this first chick on facebook
Did you go looking for her, and start initial contact

If so,
Why
You're married

Legs.Eleven

lost in cork wrote: »

life can be grim ,its not all hearts and roses

Course it is but why would you want to start a thread on something so depressing? A load of men post up saying how much they want to leave their wives? Why?

hatrickpatrick

If you've genuinely lost all interest in someone beyond friendship, in my view you have a moral obligation to end it. It's totally unfair on them to expect them to stay faithful to you while at the same time you're not remotely interested in them. You're asking someone to stay in a lonely relationship when instead they could be looking for someone who IS interested.

Just my view. If you're no longer into your partner you have no right to demand that they remain into you.

Busted Flat.

lost in cork wrote: »

i will say it again you dumbass i wasnt asking for advice on my situation i simply asked did anyone else feel that they had married the wrong person ,now do you understand that,its very clear?

Did you ever try muff diving in the Jack Lynch tunnel.

argirl

Just because you became friends on facebook doesnt mean the first one will want to get back with you. I'd say she'd be still fairly pissed off that the 2nd one convinced you to break up with her!

shopaholic01

Tough crowd, OP!

I know a lot of people in long term relationships who look back and think about an ex. It's normal, LTRs can get tedious - you get bogged down by the daily routine especially if you have kids. It's the 'grass is greener on the other side' syndrome. Most people get over it and acknowledge what they have.

You were persuaded to leave this girl once, so that's an indication that it wasn't a perfect relationship. If you acted on this, chances are you will look back in a few years times and think that what you had with your family was bliss and berate yourself for throwing it all away.

Your wife no doubt has the same thoughts, it's unlikey that you're not 100% happy and she is. How would you feel if she was fantasising about an ex?

Best thing is to talk to her, make time to have fun togehter and try to offload the kids at least once a month so you can act like a couple, instead of just parents.

All relationships have their ups and downs, if you feel unhappy continuosly you might need to consider calling it a day.

Good luck either way!

rolliepoley

lost in cork wrote: »

When i was 22 i had a girlfriend and everything was going well so we moved in together in a flat we rented,things were ticking along nicely till i met an ex girlfriend who persuaded me to ditch my gf ,i did this and then had a relationship with this girl but it soon went sour and finished ,i moved on and eventually married a woman who made me happy ,but as time moved on it has become clear to me that we are just friends no more than that,on top of this i have just become friends on facebook with the first girl i lived with and she looks stunning and after chatting with her she is still a great laugh ,think i made a big mistake years ago,has anyone else married the wrong woman

Two words,self pitty.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=haVEnVXBkrY

Three Seasons

Catphish wrote: »

You've given us X amount of information, I can only answer you based on what you've given us. No point getting snotty with me, I've answered your question from the information at hand. Drop the sanctimonious accusation, you don't know which end is up when it comes to what you want with women, the problem is clearly on your side.

Look, if you're going to get defensive and not take on board anything anyone has said here, then why not divorce your wife and let her find happiness with someone willing to give her happiness?

Again, theres only so much information we have here. You say she spends half the day in bed. Is she depressed?

So you should probably read the information he has written, when did he ever say he doesn't put in the work in his relationship or that he's going to leave his wife?

He simply explained his feelings that he has no control over.

IM0

Id say about ohhhh 90% of people feel the same way OP, well eventually anyway, never ends well

Catphish

Three Seasons wrote: »

So you should probably read the information he has written, when did he ever say he doesn't put in the work in his relationship or that he's going to leave his wife?

Oh I read it all right, have you not? I asked a very valid question about why his wife was in bed for half of the day. It's not normal behaviour.

He simply explained his feelings that he has no control over.

That might be so, but it's selfish of him to stay in the marriage if that is how he feels. His deserves a chance to be happy.

Our little conversation however is pointless, there is a lot NEITHER of us know, and furthermore he doesn't give a **** anyway. He's looking for others to say they've been in the same boat. I gave my tuppence worth because it is a discussion forum after all, and everyone will form their own opinion.

Three Seasons

Catphish wrote: »

Oh I read it all right, have you not? I asked a very valid question about why his wife was in bed for half of the day. It's not normal behaviour.


That might be so, but it's selfish of him to stay in the marriage if that is how he feels. His deserves a chance to be happy.

Our little conversation however is pointless, there is a lot NEITHER of us know, and furthermore he doesn't give a **** anyway. He's looking for others to say they've been in the same boat. I gave my tuppence worth because it is a discussion forum after all, and everyone will form their own opinion.

One could say it's selfless to stay in the marriage and keep the family unit together for his kids.

lecker Hendl

next on Jeremy Kyle...

Catphish

Three Seasons wrote: »

One could say it's selfless to stay in the marriage and keep the family unit together for his kids.

Okay, I can see your point, granted. But, unless that is agreed with the wife, where does that leave her? As an aside, plenty of children are brought up with parents living apart, it's how you help them deal with the change is all that matters.

Legend_DIT

Your wife married the wrong man!

CaraMay

Todd Gack wrote: »

Easy, leave the wife and kids and move to England...everyone's a winner (well apart from your wife and kids)

Well I think she would be winning by losing a sleazy husband and moving on to meet someone nice in the future.

Steve O

CaraMay wrote: »

Well I think she would be winning by losing a sleazy husband and moving on to meet someone nice.

WTF is he sleazy for fancying someone else?!

CaraMay

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

Course it is but why would you want to start a thread on something so depressing? A load of men post up saying how much they want to leave their wives? Why?

To make himself feel better of course.

CaraMay

Steve O wrote: »

WTF is he sleazy for fancying someone else?!

He is acting on it by being in contact with the ex who he now fancies again on Facebook. That is sleazy as its underhand and deceitful.

Three Seasons

CaraMay wrote: »

He is acting on it by being in contact with the ex who he now fancies again on Facebook. That is sleazy as its underhand and deceitful.

If by being in contact on facebook you mean fukcing her then yes your comment makes sense.