Okay. This I condone.

starling

JonathanAnon wrote: »

Phallic Message?

PlonkerMail?

starling

The Rad Runner wrote: »

Her post wasn't warranting reporting. I am just pointing out, as Norfolk E said, a bad pattern in the way that particular poster posts here.

It all seems quite personal, it makes for a bad atmosphere IMO.

Killer Wench

starling wrote: »

It all seems quite personal, it makes for a bad atmosphere IMO.

It is personal. But the ignore function exists for a reason and I have a few of those posters on ignore. The only problem with this function is that whenever someone quotes a person ignore, you are able to see what they write. I wonder if I can unfollow my own thread.

FanadMan

Killer Wench wrote: »

There was another thread about a woman who took a picture of a man who was on a train bragging about cheating. She then circulated it around Facebook so that people would know who this cheating dude was. That to me was unacceptable.

But this I condone. I think this was well-played. I have been on dating sites (POF) and have received the unsolicited penis pic. If I want to see your junk, I'll ask to see your junk. I say: Well played, madam. Well played.

http://feministing.com/2013/06/11/guy-sends-unsolicited-dick-pic-woman-send-it-to-his-mother-wins/

While I think fair play to her - was a horrible thing to be sent unsolicited, the whole "she should know how you perpetuate rape culture" thing is a bit heavy handed. It's not just men-to-women that these sort of pics are sent uninvited. Have had them from women as well :pac:

starling

FanadMan wrote: »

While I think fair play to her - was a horrible thing to be sent unsolicited, the whole "she should know how you perpetuate rape culture" thing is a bit heavy handed. It's not just men-to-women that these sort of pics are sent uninvited. Have had them from women as well :pac:

What was your reaction, out of interest?

FanadMan

At the unsolicited pic - disgust. At the "how you perpetuate rape culture" comment - dear god......it was a dating site and some people get their rocks off doing things like that. And the threat to send the screenshots to his mother - nearly wet myself laughing. It serves him right.

As I said, it was on a dating site. I've been sent extremely "detailed" pics and info without asking for them on the very same site as that woman. And not just from women either! Each time, I replied that I didn't ask or want pics of their thingies. And I reported them, as it's not what that particular site is for.

starling

FanadMan wrote: »

At the unsolicited pic - disgust. At the "how you perpetuate rape culture" comment - dear god......it was a dating site and some people get their rocks off doing things like that. And the threat to send the screenshots to his mother - nearly wet myself laughing. It serves him right.

As I said, it was on a dating site. I've been sent extremely "detailed" pics and info without asking for them on the very same site as that woman. And not just from women either! Each time, I replied that I didn't ask or want pics of their thingies. And I reported them, as it's not what that particular site is for.

Yeah no I meant your reaction when you got the unsolicited pics.
Though i think the problem for the lady in the op was just that - some strange dude getting his rocks off without regard for how she felt about it. I would be interested to know whether she also reported him like you did to the site itself. Did they take action when you reported?

Edit: What kind of responses, if any, did you get when you told the people their pics were unwelcome? Personally I think the whole story might not have happened if the dude had just said "Oh ok sorry" instead of pushing it,

FanadMan

starling wrote: »

Yeah no I meant your reaction when you got the unsolicited pics.
Though i think the problem for the lady in the op was just that - some strange dude getting his rocks off without regard for how she felt about it. I would be interested to know whether she also reported him like you did to the site itself. Did they take action when you reported?

Sorry - misread what you meant. My own reaction to receiving those sort of pics was a mixture of amusement and shock. Maybe it's just me being a quiet simple person :pac: but I don't think they were appropriate seeing as my profile stated that I didn't want contact from someone just looking for an "intimate relationship".

There was no contact back from the site when I reported those users but that's to be expected. And I think that they are toughening up on it soon as well, which is a good thing.

Not sure I'd condone it.. The poor mother.

Irish Guitarist

Sending a picture of his penis isn't about power or forcing himself on someone. He'd love it if a woman sent him a picture of her vagina so he assumes women feel the same way about pictures of his penis.

He's not a rapist, just a horny idiot.

That's assuming this story is actually true.

Zulu

I have but 3 things to say.

Firstly: "rape culture" sigh.

Secondly: Putting aside how bad sending the original image was, she should have sent it to the cops, not his mother. She sold out the moral high ground for cheap vengeance. That may be acceptable to some people, but it's no way to progress our society as a whole. It's pretty childish.

And finally:

Killer Wench wrote: »

I just think it is rather sad that not only one but two posters have decided to push those other comments into this thread. I think that's a bit over-done, but that's just me.

But unless you've done it, you don't really care, right?

OnTheCouch

Zulu wrote: »

Secondly: Putting aside how bad sending the original image was, she should have sent it to the cops, not his mother. She sold out the moral high ground for cheap vengeance. That may be acceptable to some people, but it's no way to progress our society as a whole. It's pretty childish.

She probably knew the cops wouldn't take this seriously, or even if they did, wouldn't bother getting involved as they have bigger fish to fry. How many of these type of pictures get sent every day unsollicited? I would imagine at least 100 000. It's not as if he was going around abusing young boys or anything, these two are both presumably adults. I don't think it was a good move on her part, but you can sort of see why she did it.

Zulu

OnTheCouch wrote: »

She probably knew the cops wouldn't take this seriously,...

So she got petty, and forwarded an unsolicited pornographic image to an elderly woman? She's really fighting the cause! :rolleyes:

She's a clown! And, frankly, so are the people who are trying to justify her actions. (Considering their primary objection appears to be with the sending of unsolicited pornographic images)

Daveysil15

She would have got a right kick in the arse if the woman replied, "What's wrong, is my son not good enough for ya?"

UCDVet

'Perpetuate rape culture'?

*sigh* - look, I'm not saying it's 'right' to send people on dating sites your junk; but it is the most efficient way to find people who want to see your junk. It's, quite literally, the same way spam works, or advertisements sent to your house.

The internet is huge. He could spend hours, days, weeks, chatting up women on dating sites and establishing relationships that may or may not progress to the point where it would be appropriate to send a picture of his junk. In most cases, it probably would never reach that point.

Some small percentage of women on dating sites *do* want to see naked guys; and if they like what they see, an even smaller percentage might return the favor or take the encounter to the next level.

Immediately sending a naked picture is not about perpetuating a rape culture - it's about effectively filtering out people who don't want to see it. The guy isn't looking for a meaningful relationship, he's not searching for a soul-mate, he's looking for sex/sex-related activities. And some girls are too. Send them all a picture of himself naked, and the ones that respond positively are the ones he can devote his time pursuing.

This is no different than going up to every girl in a bar/pub/club and saying, 'Hey, let's go back to my place and have some wild crazy sex!' - knowing that 99% of women will respond poorly; but given that there are > 100 women in the club; in just a short period of time, you can find the one that wants to leave with you.

Jester252

So she claims that him sending a duck pic is an example of rape culture.
So in order to get back at him she sends a dick pic.......

McDermotX

What was her reply after getting the pic ? It's cutoff in the second pic.

Wacker The Attacker

"sexual harassment" and "perpetuating rape culture".

Imagine trying to get a shag off her.

Wacker The Attacker

Does he actually have a substantial mickey?

Herb Powell

UCDVet wrote: »

'Perpetuate rape culture'?

*sigh* - look, I'm not saying it's 'right' to send people on dating sites your junk; but it is the most efficient way to find people who want to see your junk. It's, quite literally, the same way spam works, or advertisements sent to your house.

The internet is huge. He could spend hours, days, weeks, chatting up women on dating sites and establishing relationships that may or may not progress to the point where it would be appropriate to send a picture of his junk. In most cases, it probably would never reach that point.

Some small percentage of women on dating sites *do* want to see naked guys; and if they like what they see, an even smaller percentage might return the favor or take the encounter to the next level.

Immediately sending a naked picture is not about perpetuating a rape culture - it's about effectively filtering out people who don't want to see it. The guy isn't looking for a meaningful relationship, he's not searching for a soul-mate, he's looking for sex/sex-related activities. And some girls are too. Send them all a picture of himself naked, and the ones that respond positively are the ones he can devote his time pursuing.

This is no different than going up to every girl in a bar/pub/club and saying, 'Hey, let's go back to my place and have some wild crazy sex!' - knowing that 99% of women will respond poorly; but given that there are > 100 women in the club; in just a short period of time, you can find the one that wants to leave with you.

Ubelieveable.

It's not right, no matter how you try justify it.

Crooked Jack

Herb Powell wrote: »

Ubelieveable.

It's not right, no matter how you try justify it.

Hes not trying to justify it. he says so in the first line.

Herb Powell

Crooked Jack wrote: »

Hes not trying to justify it. he says so in the first line.

Before he goes on to justify it, yes.

Zulu

Some people love being offended.

up for anything

Zulu wrote: »

So she got petty, and forwarded an unsolicited pornographic image to an elderly woman? She's really fighting the cause!

Just how old do you think this elderly woman is? I haven't been able to find the mother's age anywhere.

UCDVet wrote: »

Immediately sending a naked picture is not about perpetuating a rape culture - it's about effectively filtering out people who don't want to see it. The guy isn't looking for a meaningful relationship, he's not searching for a soul-mate, he's looking for sex/sex-related activities. And some girls are too. Send them all a picture of himself naked, and the ones that respond positively are the ones he can devote his time pursuing.

Well no harm done there then. His mother has probably already received one of those unsolicited photos from him if she's on a the same dating site.

Zulu

up for anything wrote: »

Just how old do you think this elderly woman is? I haven't been able to find the mother's age anywhere.

Old enough to be his mother?

up for anything

Zulu wrote: »

Old enough to be his mother?

She could be 40 or 50 or perhaps the frail 120 year old that some posters seem to visualise her as.

Zulu

up for anything wrote: »

She could be 40 or 50 or perhaps the frail 120 year old that some posters seem to visualise her as.

What's the difference?
Agest much?

kylith

Why is everyone assuming that she sent the picture to this guy's mother? She says she would, but it's more than possible that she sent his mother a message telling her that her son is sending unsolicited pornographic pictures to strangers, and that said picture is available should she need proof.

An UCDVet; sending pictures like that isn't 'filtering out people who aren't interested' it's akin to standing in the middle of the street with your knob out; you're forcing people who don't want to see your junk to see it.

starling

kylith wrote: »

Why is everyone assuming that she sent the picture to this guy's mother? She says she would, but it's more than possible that she sent his mother a message telling her that her son is sending unsolicited pornographic pictures to strangers, and that said picture is available should she need proof.

An UCDVet; sending pictures like that isn't 'filtering out people who aren't interested' it's akin to standing in the middle of the street with your knob out; you're forcing people who don't want to see your junk to see it.

It's also illegal afaik; he is basically a flasher with a modem. I don't understand why anyone would feel the need to defend him. How can we not agree that sending unsolicited pictures of your d1ck to strangers is not okay?

Killer Wench

starling wrote: »

I don't understand why anyone would feel the need to defend him.

Maybe because they have sent unsolicited images of their junk to someone and now they are justifying their own actions, the guy is simply a proxy?