Loungers Love Science. And cake. And stuff and things.

x Purple Pawprints x

I might need that soon I think. Thank you.

Miaireland

Again, I am not being horrible but can I ask why you need to wait. To be fair to your ex if you have blocked him from everything but text then you are giving him a signal that there is a chance you will get back together.

Sorry again for being cruel

Daisy78

x Purple Pawprints x wrote: »

I'll see if my phone can do that.

I don't know, I'm so confused.

New number. The only way you can deal with this is to cut contact completely, no emails, no texts or phone calls. It's harsh but its the only.thing that will work.

x Purple Pawprints x

It's not that simple really. I never gave him any signal that we'd get back together.

seosamh1980

x Purple Pawprints x wrote: »

It's not that simple really. I never gave him any signal that we'd get back together.

But it is that simple, stop having contact with him, simples.

x Purple Pawprints x

No it isn't. I can't switch my emotions off like a tap. I don't love him anymore but that doesn't mean that I don't want him to be happy.

seosamh1980

x Purple Pawprints x wrote: »

No it isn't. I can't switch my emotions off like a tap. I don't love him anymore but that doesn't mean that I don't want him to be happy.

You have to be logical though, and practical, ignore emotions. It's not good for either of you to keep going back and forth "take me back" "no" "please" "no" etc etc. You can't let emotions be an excuse for torturing yourself and giving yourself unnecessary grief.

x Purple Pawprints x

I know that. This is a lot easier for people on the outside though. I'm in the middle and I don't know if I'm coming or going.

WesternNight

x Purple Pawprints x wrote: »

No it isn't. I can't switch my emotions off like a tap. I don't love him anymore but that doesn't mean that I don't want him to be happy.

No-one's suggesting you should switch off your emotions. Just your accessibility.

It might seem cruel, but the longer he's able to contact you and get replies/reaction from you, the longer it'll take him (and you) to move on.

The friends contacting you thing is weird, and it kind of sounds like he's telling them things so that they'll tell you. If that's the case, then the best thing to do is not get sucked back in.

Obviously it's entirely up to you, we don't know him and we don't know the ins and outs of the situation. But if you're telling him no and he's not getting the message, then something has to change.

x Purple Pawprints x

I know. I'm just all over place. My head hurts

seosamh1980

x Purple Pawprints x wrote: »

I know that. This is a lot easier for people on the outside though. I'm in the middle and I don't know if I'm coming or going.

Yeah and some of us have been in that position too, how do you know what experience everyone giving advice has in this type of situation? People are trying to help you and offer advice on their experiences which they are in a position to give rationally as outsiders. You can't always give in to your emotions in life, you have to try to look at it from the outside and see what is the best thing to do for yourself. He's not your problem anymore, and he's only trying to manipulate you.

Roesy

x Purple Pawprints x wrote: »

I know. I'm just all over place. My head hurts

PP, it probably feels overwhelming with a lot of people who don't know you or your ex trying to help but it all seems very sound advice. Is there any member of his family you could contact and let them know you are worried and tell them about what is happening before fully cutting off contact? At least that way you might feel like someone responsible and close to him is keeping an eye and you mightn't feel as torn about walking away.

x Purple Pawprints x

Roesy wrote: »

PP, it probably feels overwhelming with a lot of people who don't know you or your ex trying to help but it all seems very sound advice. Is there any member of his family you could contact and let them know you are worried and tell them about what is happening before fully cutting off contact? At least that way you might feel like someone responsible and close to him is keeping an eye and you mightn't feel as torn about walking away.

I could contact someone on Facebook but I have no phone numbers because I deleted them. My head is spinning. I just wasn't expecting this at all.

Mod

Guys, I hate to have to do this, but this is not Personal Issues.

Purple Pawprints, I'm trying to be cruel to be kind here. You are naturally going to get advice, it's human nature and there is a community here that want to help each other.

You don't appear to like the advice that other loungers give, so I am afraid I have to ask you not to post in the chat thread when you are facing these issues. If you do want advice I suggest you post in the Personal Issues forum.

If you have any queries on same, please ask them via PM only.

Roesy

x Purple Pawprints x wrote: »

I could contact someone on Facebook but I have no phone numbers because I deleted them. My head is spinning. I just wasn't expecting this at all.

You are in a horrible position, I don't envy you at all. Personally, I think I would let one of his family know and then try and block his messages. Maybe talk to one of your close friends though and see what advice they have? They probably know the situation better than what we have picked up from your posts. Take care of yourself xx

CathyMoran

I fit into teen sized clothing A lot cheaper, I knew that there were advantages to being tiny :P

Twee.

All my small footed friends get their shoes from New Look's teen department. Damn my size sevens!!

x Purple Pawprints x

I bought kids shoes last week as well, size 2! I usually take a 4 so they must be massive fitting!

Rawr I'm bigfoot, size 8
/stomp stomp
bigfoot needs to buy a nice bronze nail polish

CathyMoran

Twee. wrote: »

All my small footed friends get their shoes from New Look's teen department. Damn my size sevens!!

Next go up to a size 7 for teens (am that size in shoes), got great red sparkly shoes last christmas there!

Have a giggle monster on my chair! Is nice to be able to dress her up in really cute stuff now (she is 2!).

iwantmydinner

Size 7s break my heart. Never in the sales. Grrr.

Twee.

bluewolf wrote: »

Rawr I'm bigfoot
/stomp stomp
bigfoot needs to buy a nice bronze nail polish

I have a nice one from Models Own, I'll check the colour name when I'm home!

Work was so crap today. I hate doing Sundays. Seriously only the crazy/dopes people come out on Sunday.

Miaireland

I am between a six and a half and a seven in shoes. I find 6 1/2 slightly too small and a 7 too big. Actual had a bad fall down the stairs because of a size 7 shoes and ended up with broken ribs as a result.:(

Links234

I'm a size 9

I've not got a new pair of shoes in ages either, was bidding on stuff on ebay and didn't get 'em sads

kate.m

Going to watch an animated film - and bake some of those Jam cupcake things from the cooking club *goes to get ingredients in Tesco*.
I was ditched twice this weekend so I figure I might as well do something fun :cool:

Links234

kate.m wrote: »

Going to watch an animated film

which one?

Roesy

I'm a size 8 in most shoes too. Apparently your feet can get bigger during pregnancy, I really hope that doesn't happen!

Das Kitty

Roesy wrote: »

I'm a size 8 in most shoes too. Apparently your feet can get bigger during pregnancy, I really hope that doesn't happen!

Wider. Due to the relaxing ligaments and the extra weight. They go back though. Don't worry.

Roesy

Das Kitty wrote: »

Wider. Due to the relaxing ligaments and the extra weight. They go back though. Don't worry.

Phew, even though I have wide enough feet to begin with! Himself has really wide feet too, our baby will probably be born with flippers

rebel girl 15

Got the news I'm staying in the school I'm in until the end of the year, delighted!!!

Like the new title! Always have to have cake!!!

Links234

rebel girl 15 wrote: »

Always have to have cake!!!

or pie :pac:

Chattastrophe!

Twee. wrote: »

All my small footed friends get their shoes from New Look's teen department. Damn my size sevens!!

I'm size six, I always buy shoes in the teen section there, sooo much cheaper!

Roesy wrote: »

Apparently your feet can get bigger during pregnancy, I really hope that doesn't happen!

Feck, I didn't know that ... yet another weird and wonderful thing to look forward to. :rolleyes:

I've now lost almost 1.5 stone since I got pregnant (13 weeks in now) ... anyone who wants to lose weight should try getting knocked up, best diet ever! I'm seriously noticing the lack of extra padding on my arse these days when I sit down, though. The chairs all seem so hard now!

LenaClaire

I will need to check out New Look teen area. I wear a 3.5 and have a hard time finding shoes small enough sometimes

Twee.

bluewolf wrote: »

Rawr I'm bigfoot, size 8
/stomp stomp
bigfoot needs to buy a nice bronze nail polish

The colour is Copper Pot by Models Own. Might be a bit too orangey if you want bronze.

I am starving, think I'll order pizza. No food in the house!

Twee.

Twee. wrote: »

The colour is Copper Pot by Models Own. Might be a bit too orangey if you want bronze.

I am starving, think I'll order pizza. No food in the house!

Thanks!
It's a teeny bit orange
I was thinking like
http://www.lipglossiping.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/11/accessorize-duochrome-nail-polish-bronze-41-2web.jpg

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_lg_ApQOEUrA/TNRSjvH0SyI/AAAAAAAAAK0/ucMo67vvM8U/s1600/sdc11699.jpg

x Purple Pawprints x

Bluewolf I have a nice bronze one that you could probably find easily in Boots, that's where I got it. Copper by Seventeen.

CathyMoran

Am I sad, i am watching Michael Buble on the TV...

rebel girl 15

Links234 wrote: »

or pie :pac:

not a fan of pie!!

23 degrees outside Loving this weather!

LenaClaire

rebel girl 15 wrote: »

not a fan of pie!!

My dad hates cake so every year for his birthday, we have a birthday pie :pac:

Links234

rebel girl 15 wrote: »

not a fan of pie!!

not even pecan pie!? :pac:

kate.m

Links234 wrote: »

which one?

trying to find one I haven't seen! open to suggestions though (even if not animated)

CathyMoran

OK, I like Buble, he reminds me personality wize and the spark in his eye like my husband...nice...

x Purple Pawprints x

He comes across as really sweet in interviews

rebel girl 15

Links234 wrote: »

not even pecan pie!? :pac:

nope! Now Baileys Cheesecake would be a completely different story!

CathyMoran

One glass of wine - well 1/2 of one so far, giddy already :P

Links234

kate.m wrote: »

trying to find one I haven't seen! open to suggestions though (even if not animated)

Seen Howl's Moving Castle?

x Purple Pawprints x

^ Snap! Although I probably shouldn't be anywhere near drink.

kate.m

Links234 wrote: »

Seen Howl's Moving Castle?

Downloading it as we speak! Haven't seen it before no. Looks awesome!

CathyMoran

I am up 1kg as it is coming up to my period but it still upset me this morning...hubby reminded me that I was fine...

Links234

kate.m wrote: »

Downloading it as we speak! Haven't seen it before no. Looks awesome!

It is! everyone should see Howl's Moving Castle at least once, even just for Calcifer