Restrict wifi at home.

Miss Lockhart

How are people posting "your house your rules" contributing to the topic? Quite obviously the OP can set whatever rules they like in their own home, but they didn't ask that - they asked what other people's opinions were on those rules.

Personally I think it's counterproductive to baby an adult so much. You are not helping them to learn responsibility.

Ciarabear

Miss Lockhart wrote: »

Quite obviously the OP can set whatever rules they like in their own home, but they didn't ask that - they asked what other people's opinions were on those rules.

And it seems that the popular opinion is that they are entitled to impose whatever rules they want within their own home without question.

Queen-Mise

sgds wrote: »

Do many other parents do this or am I being too strict?

I put a password on the main computer in the house (12 & 8), so the kids weren't coming down at 6am and going straight onto the computer.

12 year old has just gotten XBOX Live in his bedroom this week - because of novelty he has been on it for 3/4 days straight. I let that go - moving forward from next week. I will want time online/gaming and time out playing roughly 50/50 (this changes obviously winter & rainy days, but I'd try and distract them elsewhere).
If they don't self regulate - even now, then suddenly around the same time, their mammy suddenly had them doing lots of housework, funny that:D

TBH - I think you are going dictator parenting rather than dealing with bad manners & self discipline.
If my kids didn't self regulate, then I would block the internet, but due warning would be given.
The internet in itself isn't bad - there is lots of quality stuff there.

On a different note - I must figure out how to block ask.fm completely especially for my daughter.

GarIT wrote: »

Social skills, I agree somewhat but have two points to make on that. Social is changing, I'd argue that Facebook is as social as you can get, that's a matter of opinion. I find old people generally say things like would you not go out with friends, when you're actually in with friends all the time. Gaming is more social than ever with the best parts of most modern games being multiplayer. Point two is that You can still have a good social life and rack up hours online. I don't think social skills are declining, I think they are changing and it probably wasn't reflected in whatever you read.

I agree with Gar and a lot of his points. FB is social, as is gaming.

At the moment my son, at 12, is playing with his two first cousins, one fifty miles away and the other in another country - and they are chatting and playing Minecraft. He wouldn't be spending this time chatting with them only for the XBOX Live.

terryduff12

Can`t wait to see what these kids will end up like staring into phones 5 - 7 hours looking at youtube videos or facebook, something like what happens in the movie Idiocracy with luke wilson. Im 32 had sega megadrive, gameboy, playstation 1 when i was younger now have a xbox 360 and i didnt spend the day inside playing them while it was good outside. Shacked up with the girlfriend who has a 12 year old from previous relationship he`s had fair few gadgets ps2,3ds,3ds xl xbox 360 and smartphone, he`s gass he`ll spend hours looking at youtube videos mostly of minecraft hogging the bandwith, herself doesnt see much wrong with it odd time she`ll tell him get off it and go out but he come back in and say theres nothing to do.

We had good few days off nice warm weather and he`s there in his room staring into the phone makes me sick nothing to do outside im board he`s in for a big wake up call no more than a few others he cant even tie his shoes properly and his writing is scribble if i mention anything herself is like why are ya always picking on him, so i dont bother anymore her nephew is a bigger waste of space stuck in front of a 32 inch telly playing xbox all day headaches especially while at school has ipad, computer xbox live if he wants something mammy will buy it for he`s 14 now he`ll still be leaching of her into his fifties. i can remember spending hours out playing with cats and kittens great times i wasnt board then have been board plenty of time while i was in the bog at that age but got on with it. At the most an hour is enough for them thing are happening outside ,that thing were the blue sky is not in a screen connected to a router there will be plenty of time for that when there older.

What`s the proudest thing they will be able to say when there older i sat in a room for my childhood reading facebook playing games and watching videos on youtube great life.

riclad

There,s an article about this in the new york times book section,today,
About a parent concerned her kids are looking at screens,
ipod, tablet etc she,s feels its out of control.
EG she feels she must put some limits on them.

eg no fb ,youtube,twitter , web acess until their homework is done.

THE job of parents is to set down boundarys, rules,
children are not mature enough to do it themselves.
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/08/19/books/3-books-offer-ways-to-cut-the-cord-if-only-briefly.html?ref=books&_r=0

PucaMama

terryduff12 wrote: »

Can`t wait to see what these kids will end up like staring into phones 5 - 7 hours looking at youtube videos or facebook, something like what happens in the movie Idiocracy with luke wilson. Im 32 had sega megadrive, gameboy, playstation 1 when i was younger now have a xbox 360 and i didnt spend the day inside playing them while it was good outside. Shacked up with the girlfriend who has a 12 year old from previous relationship he`s had fair few gadgets ps2,3ds,3ds xl xbox 360 and smartphone, he`s gass he`ll spend hours looking at youtube videos mostly of minecraft hogging the bandwith, herself doesnt see much wrong with it odd time she`ll tell him get off it and go out but he come back in and say theres nothing to do.

We had good few days off nice warm weather and he`s there in his room staring into the phone makes me sick nothing to do outside im board he`s in for a big wake up call no more than a few others he cant even tie his shoes properly and his writing is scribble if i mention anything herself is like why are ya always picking on him, so i dont bother anymore her nephew is a bigger waste of space stuck in front of a 32 inch telly playing xbox all day headaches especially while at school has ipad, computer xbox live if he wants something mammy will buy it for he`s 14 now he`ll still be leaching of her into his fifties. i can remember spending hours out playing with cats and kittens great times i wasnt board then have been board plenty of time while i was in the bog at that age but got on with it. At the most an hour is enough for them thing are happening outside ,that thing were the blue sky is not in a screen connected to a router there will be plenty of time for that when there older.

What`s the proudest thing they will be able to say when there older i sat in a room for my childhood reading facebook playing games and watching videos on youtube great life.

what are you more worried about? as you say your "shacked up" with the girlfriend and her 12 year old, and hes "hogging the bandwith" is this whats bothering you or the childs welfare?

and calling the two children a waste of space :mad:what a horrible attitude you have. you have NO way of knowing the child will still be living with his mother into his 50s. :mad:

terryduff12

Have a browse through previous pages and have a look at the title, nothing you have stated in the comment has brought anything to the table

I don't have kids, though If I did I would be using OpenDNS to manage and restrict my network.

It's straight forward, you can block types of content, porn, social media, etc or individual sites.

Here's a video for those who are interested, and I'm sure if anyone has any difficulties, folks in the tech forums will help.