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Mother In Law playing favourites!

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  • #32
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    They sound like a nightmare to be honest. You and your family should be happier without them in the long run. Of course it will hurt for awhile but I think ye will just keep getting consistently hurt if ye continue to see her and she keeps putting ye down.

    Maybe your husband could speak with a counsellor about his feelings. It must be horrible to be singled out negatively like that by your parents. :-(

    Best of luck whatever ye decide.


  • #33
    freshpopcorn
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 31,636 ✭✭✭✭freshpopcorn


    After reading this thread OP and offering you advice.
    I have come to the conclusion that situation is not going to change. You have your views about your in laws and your not going change them. You simply feel better(you might be, I don't know the situation so I can't tell if you and your husband are the better people or if it your in laws).
    You also don't know everything that goes on in your in laws lives. You have know idea what they might have went through in the past. Your husband doesn't know everything. Just because ye now have more money doesn't make ye better people it just makes you richer.
    Clearly these people are different to you and your husband and in away ye're better off without them if they cause you so much bother.
    Good Luck.


  • #34
    K_P
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 577 ✭✭✭K_P


    OP, I'm sorry that something bad happened over the weekend, but if the result of it is that you'll be keeping a distance from your in-laws in future, then that might not be such a bad thing overall for you, your husband and kids.

    I'm sure you think I'm one of the posters who's being "PC" and is against you so you'll probably dismiss what I'm saying. But I have no agenda here whatsoever other than giving some advice. You HAVE to let go of the bitterness you have towards your in laws. That doesn't mean you have to like them or approve of how they live. But turn a blind eye to all the details of their lives that are none of your business and that annoy you. By focusing on these, you're only creating resentment and bitterness within yourself.

    I mean, you still remember how much your in laws earned over a decade ago. They didn't help you out at the time when you were struggling. Unfair? Very possibly. But WHY focus on that now? You can be damn sure no one else remembers that, yet it's still something that upsets you.

    You badly need some mental and emotional distance from these people. All the physical distance in the world won't matter if you can't let go of the past and change your attitude to these people. Why should you be the one to change? Because the only ones hurting here are you and your husband and the only person's whose behaviour you can change is your own.


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