Do you have to give up the pubs/ clubs

shadowcomplex

I really want to quit drinking but as a single guy I don't want to stop going out Friday and Sat nights , it's a very well and good recommending other activities and I will be doing this also but these activities don't take place on Friday and Saturday nights

Sunnyisland

shadowcomplex wrote: »

I really want to quit drinking but as a single guy I don't want to stop going out Friday and Sat nights , it's a very well and good recommending other activities and I will be doing this also but these activities don't take place on Friday and Saturday nights[/QUOTE


Many of us (well me)found it too difficult and nerve racking to put ourselves in social situations where alcohol is around in early sobriety. Many find it is useful to get some alcohol free time under their belt first, through staying away from situations where drinking is, and get some firmer footing in our sobriety,until we're feeling stronger,Giving up or stopping alcohol is a major challenge and is not easy,changing your whole lifestyle may will be a part of that.
Concentrate on the solution not the problem.:)

xzanti

I can only speak for myself, but it was important for me personally to keep getting out and socialising.. particularly at the beginning.. I still love going to clubs and dancing.. I don't like pubs, they bore me.. but if there's a big night out ahead and the promise of a bit of clubbing, I'll happily go along.. in the comfort of my momo

I think it's important to separate drink and 'going out'.. you really don't need to be on the p1ss to enjoy a good night out.. but like I said, that's just me..

hubba

I'm a bit weird in that I never liked going out, even when younger so drinking became even more important to get me through the night. I didn't enjoy the dressing up, the small talk, the big crowds and noise. Now that I don't partake, I don't go out at all unless there is something specific on to celebrate which suits me fine these days as I'm usually whacked after a full day out and about.:D

stefan idiot jones

I gave up drinking in my mid thirties, way after all the madness of pubbing and clubbing when I was younger. But I was initially worried if I could be around drink and pubs. Luckily for me that I wasn't still in that circle but that anxiety soon vanished when you go into a pub sober and have to listen to all the boring, repetative sh!te that drunks talk. If they say it once, they say it a dozen times.
Now eight and a half years on, I often go to pubs with my OH but throughout my sobriety I rarely stay late not because of temptation or anything like that, it's just the fu@kin' idiots who you have to conversate with.
Maybe I'm just a miserable old sod, but I can't be doing with drunk talk. (HIPOCRITE ALERT)
It gets easier and easier, then like me you can climb to a moral high ground and heap scorn on the drunken gobsh!tes !!!!!!

Aykina

hubba wrote: »

...I never liked going out, even when younger so drinking became even more important to get me through the night. I didn't enjoy the dressing up, the small talk, the big crowds and noise...

Me too! Wish I'd figured that out properly years ago though. Drinking and some of the going out drama got all mixed up for me, when young I didn't really get that it was ok to be a little introverted/reclusive! Now I'm older (late 30's ) and out of the scene I only dress up for weddings/funerals and only go out if there's a good gig on or for movies/theatre/coffee. Luckily I've a few like minded friends. For me it's a relief to be off the social merry-go-round

Corvo

I have to avoid the pub in total or I will end up drinking. Just too hard not too.

stefan idiot jones

Its probably because you only relate to getting drunk with the pub which has you worried.
The main reason we all went to pubs was to drink, but you have to try to think about the other benefits you get from the pub, like chatting with friends or watching sport ?
I go to pubs often sometimes on my own to catch some of the sports atmosphere of a big game and you'll surprise yourself if you focus on what you are getting out of that trip rather than what you are missing out on (which is absolutely nothing).
Believe me, it is the thought of it and the trepidation that is far worse than buying a coke and watching the Lions stiff the Aussies.

It depends on the pub/club event. I find it hard to go to the pub with my old drinking buddy and listen to the same story he's been telling five times a night for the last year, while sober. It's tough to sit at the bar watching him down beer after beer and not have one. But I can go to the pub with a big group of friends and stay sober easily; they're all drinking but just having a pint of water in my hand is enough. Never been to a club, except while sober! Don't like clubs and only go when a friend is having some sort of party.