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Child Maintenance

  • 24-09-2013 8:59am
    #1
    stressedchick
    Registered Users Posts: 12 ✭


    Hi, I am a married woman and I have a 3 children. My oldest son (now 12) has never met his father, not my choice but within the last 3 years has asked about him , so I told him who he was , I have tried messaging the fathers fiancé and I went out to their house to see would they agree with visiting my son. I never put the fathers name on the birth cert. I don't think im getting anywhere as the father made it plain and simple from day one he doesn't want anything to do with my son, and after visiting his fiancé she made it quite clear she didn't want anything to do with us. I am quite frustrated as my son is heartbroken his dad doesn't want anything to do with him, so I was thinking of taking a legal route to see would it crack him (the father) to visit his child.because im not getting anywhere as it is. Any advice as to what I should do ? As his name is not on the birth cert and 12 years have gone by will that effect the matter?!... What grounds do I have legally on this matter?


Comments

  • #2
    godtabh
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators Posts: 23,231 Mod ✭✭✭✭godtabh


    why would you force someone to do something they dont want to do? While it might be bad for your son now imagine what it would be like spending time with some one who has been forced to do it. Doesnt sound healthy


  • #3
    manonboard
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,102 ✭✭✭manonboard


    Op, to clarify, is your question regarding your legal options to have father spend time with his son?

    Or is it your legal options to financial child maintenance?


  • #4
    stressedchick
    Registered Users Posts: 12 ✭stressedchick


    Hi manonboard , both being honest to have the father spend time with his son and the child maintenance ...


  • #5
    Gatling
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40,291 ✭✭✭✭Gatling


    stressedchick wrote: »
    Hi manonboard , both being honest to have the father spend time with his son and the child maintenance ...

    You might get child maintaince if he's the biological father, he may request you pay for a DNA test for proof but he can't beforced to see or take your son ,

    Might be worth leaving that till your child is old enough to ask himself why his father didnt/doesn't want a relationship
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  • #6
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    To be honest the poor child sounds like he's better off not spending time with him. Realistically speaking, I can't see the time spent with his dad being very enjoyable considering its not something he has any interest in, and the kid will pick up on that and it's not his fault.

    But, I think you should sow it in him maintenance wise, he was there when your child was conceived its not realistic for him to pretend like he has no responsibility towards the child.


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