Long termers TTC

fits

Id definitely take another test.

lashes34

Any update farmer? Have everything crossed for you.

emzibob

Has anyone tried acupuncture for fertility? I was just talking with a friend who said it worked for her but I've never heard of it in Ireland so was wondering if anyone here had tried it?

fits

I tried it but didnt put much faith in it. Especially as practitioner sold me a load of expensive herbs as well (totally guilted me into it somehow). A load of twaddle in my opinion.

( I did get pregnant though, but I was already pregnant unbeknowns to myself when I went to her)

bee06

I tried it once and didn't like it at all. Found it really uncomfortable. She also tried to sell me a load of herbs that would have me taking 15 tablets a day that would have cost about 65 Euro a month.

Now I did get pregnant about 3 weeks later (after a year and a half but I put that down to starting FSH instead of clomid for my ovulation induction.

Lucyfur

I did. Found it lovely and relaxing but it didn't help me conceive

emzibob

I'm 12 weeks post D and C this week and still no sign of AF so was thinking of trying the accupuncture... might be a waste of money by the sounds of it though, anyone else have this long a wait after?

babydream

Im currently going for acupuncture been for 5 sessions and finding it brilliant. I suffer with period like cramps throughout my whole cycle and irregular cycles.

On my first visit she told me it can take 12 sessions to regulate your cycle and basically if it hasn't worked by then it probably wont work. After 5 sessions I now have very little pain (first AF due this week) and im also sleeping at night which for me is a benefit alone as I suffered with broken sleep due to the pain.

She never once mentioned anything about herbs all she recommended was taking the Trying to Conceive pregnacare supplement for me and my partner which we were already taking anyway. And she also told us only eat organic dairy products and meat due to high use of hormones used in animals.

She specialises in fertility issues and is based in North Dublin if anyone wants her details feel free to PM.

I don't know if this will help me conceive but cant do any harm and I am finding benefits in pain and sleep so totally worth the €40 a session

fits

babydream wrote: »

And she also told us only eat organic dairy products and meat due to high use of hormones used in animals.

Hormone use is illegal in Europe. (Not so in US)

babydream

http://www.independent.ie/life/health-wellbeing/baby-loss/i-feared-i-would-never-have-a-family-gp-on-the-heartache-of-ivf-and-miscarriage-36054460.html

Anyone read this

bilbot79

babydream wrote: »

http://www.independent.ie/life/health-wellbeing/baby-loss/i-feared-i-would-never-have-a-family-gp-on-the-heartache-of-ivf-and-miscarriage-36054460.html

Anyone read this

Just sent might wife that earlier. Sounds like our story playing out.

Fingersandtoes

I'd a negative result from our first attempt at IVF. It's soul destroying. We've had one TSI, three IUI attempts and one IVF all with the same result. All five attempts involved weeks of injections. However, IVF is considerably harder emotionally and physically. Financially it made a big dent in our savings. We knew it was a gamble. I'm glad we took that gamble. If all of this never works I don't want any regrets.

There's more fight in me and I'm not giving up. My husband feels the same and is unbelievably hopeful. All around me I see pregnant women and families with two children. I find that upsetting and I know I'm already lucky. I have a toddler and I thank my lucky stars for her. However, if one more person says when are we going to have another I may kill them!! It's a very hard difficult journey that is unexplainable to anyone who hasn't endured it. I hope everyone is doing ok.

babydream

Fingersandtoes wrote: »

I'd a negative result from our first attempt at IVF. It's soul destroying. We've had one TSI, three IUI attempts and one IVF all with the same result. All five attempts involved weeks of injections. However, IVF is considerably harder emotionally and physically. Financially it made a big dent in our savings. We knew it was a gamble. I'm glad we took that gamble. If all of this never works I don't want any regrets.

There's more fight in me and I'm not giving up. My husband feels the same and is unbelievably hopeful. All around me I see pregnant women and families with two children. I find that upsetting and I know I'm already lucky. I have a toddler and I thank my lucky stars for her. However, if one more person says when are we going to have another I may kill them!! It's a very hard difficult journey that is unexplainable to anyone who hasn't endured it. I hope everyone is doing ok.

Im so sorry to hear IVF didn't work this time around. But it sounds like you have an amazing attitude and im sure that will benefit you. Take some time for yourselves over the next couple of weeks and see what the IVF clinic have to say. They may have a different plan for next time that will work

I feel you with the pregnant women all around you a girl I work with just announced her 5th pregnancy and as much as im delighted for her I just cant help but feel seriously number 5 all I want is one!!!!! And then I feel like a horrible person for thinking that im just sitting here waiting for AF to arrive today so feeling crap anyway

CCCHIA

Ok so this is my first time every posting - been like a stalker for a while, searching for anything that could give me hope - sounds desperate which I'm not, I'm very hopeful for the future, its just that we've been ttc for sometime and I'm tired, so very tired. My AF arrived again this week, was convinced that this was it - finally? but alas it was not to be. I have never been pregnant and I have been through all those lovely tests, lap & dye, scans everything! My husband has been tested too and we're all good so ya know 'just relax' and it will happen. We are due to go back to the fertility clinic in a couple of months to discuss 'next steps'. I feel like a drama queen and I know that we are very lucky not to have any glaringly obvious fertility issues but this has put me in limbo (I do have long cycles - 35 to 38 days). I feel I am a nutcase, it has consumed me and for the last 18 months I feel like I'm holding my breath, waiting patiently (and impatiently if you ask my husband). I feel like a monster when my friends announce their pregnancies, I know I'm allowed to be sad for me and be happy for them but it is hard. I am spending a small fortune on reflexology (the lady made me very sad), acupuncture (actually really enjoy this) and herbalists (I take something that smells and tastes like slurry). I don't really have anything to share other than my mini rant. I just wanted to talk to people that know what I am going through as its a lonely route.

babydream

CCCHIA wrote: »

Ok so this is my first time every posting - been like a stalker for a while, searching for anything that could give me hope - sounds desperate which I'm not, I'm very hopeful for the future, its just that we've been ttc for sometime and I'm tired, so very tired. Got my period again this week, was convinced that this was it - finally? but alas it was not to be. I have never been pregnant and I have been through all those lovely tests, lap & dye, scans everything! My husband has been tested too and we're all good so ya know 'just relax' and it will happen. We are due to go back to the fertility clinic in a couple of months to discuss 'next steps'. I feel like a drama queen and I know that we are very lucky not to have any glaringly obvious fertility issues but this has put me in limbo (I do have long cycles - 35 to 38 days). I feel I am a nutcase, it has consumed me and for the last 18 months I feel like I'm holding my breath, waiting patiently (and impatiently if you ask my husband). I feel like a monster when my friends announce their pregnancies, I know I'm allowed to be sad for me and be happy for them but it is hard. I am spending a small fortune on reflexology (the lady made me very sad), acupuncture (actually really enjoy this) and herbalists (I take something that smells and tastes like slurry). I don't really have anything to share other than my mini rant. I just wanted to talk to people that know what I am going through as its a lonely route.

This is definitely the place where you can rant away!!!

I always find it funny spent most of my early 20's wishing for my period to arrive and now I spend every month wishing it doesn't show up :rolleyes:

ali_d

CCCHIA wrote: »

Ok so this is my first time every posting - been like a stalker for a while, searching for anything that could give me hope - sounds desperate which I'm not, I'm very hopeful for the future, its just that we've been ttc for sometime and I'm tired, so very tired. My AF arrived again this week, was convinced that this was it - finally? but alas it was not to be. I have never been pregnant and I have been through all those lovely tests, lap & dye, scans everything! My husband has been tested too and we're all good so ya know 'just relax' and it will happen. We are due to go back to the fertility clinic in a couple of months to discuss 'next steps'. I feel like a drama queen and I know that we are very lucky not to have any glaringly obvious fertility issues but this has put me in limbo (I do have long cycles - 35 to 38 days). I feel I am a nutcase, it has consumed me and for the last 18 months I feel like I'm holding my breath, waiting patiently (and impatiently if you ask my husband). I feel like a monster when my friends announce their pregnancies, I know I'm allowed to be sad for me and be happy for them but it is hard. I am spending a small fortune on reflexology (the lady made me very sad), acupuncture (actually really enjoy this) and herbalists (I take something that smells and tastes like slurry). I don't really have anything to share other than my mini rant. I just wanted to talk to people that know what I am going through as its a lonely route.

I had to respond to you as I feel that we have a similar story. Like you, nothing major to indicate a problem other than longish cycles, but still regular, and nothing wrong with hubby.
We did 3 rounds of ovulation induction and got pregnant on 2nd round of IUI.
In my mind, I was sure that there was some problem in there when it came to the egg meeting the swimmers and it just needed a direct route!!
I just wanted to share my positive story so that it might help you focus on the future and give you hope. Believe you will be a mother.
How I got through it without losing my mind is allowing myself to cry as much as I needed to the day of my period arriving and be positive from day 2. It's important not to bottle your feelings. Xx

CCCHIA

ali_d wrote: »

I had to respond to you as I feel that we have a similar story. Like you, nothing major to indicate a problem other than longish cycles, but still regular, and nothing wrong with hubby.
We did 3 rounds of ovulation induction and got pregnant on 2nd round of IUI.
In my mind, I was sure that there was some problem in there when it came to the egg meeting the swimmers and it just needed a direct route!!
I just wanted to share my positive story so that it might help you focus on the future and give you hope. Believe you will be a mother.
How I got through it without losing my mind is allowing myself to cry as much as I needed to the day of my period arriving and be positive from day 2. It's important not to bottle your feelings. Xx

Thank you ali_d, yes I have a funny feeling that that is our thing too, those lovely swimmers just haven't got a great sense of direction and we just need a helping hand - I am positive and feel very lucky to have all these options available to us and I truly believe that our time will come and the biggest plus side is that I think that it has made us stronger as a couple. I do try to minimise my crying to the day my period arrives as I know that it hurts my husband to see me like this (I am a great actress and to the outside world I'm the happiest person ever so no one else knows apart from him).

- like babydream said too, I spent my 20's trying my hardest not to get pregnant and then I just like thought I'm ready and just expected it to happen - I'm now thinking (yes I over think) that this is a good character building exercise - nothing like a few knock backs to make you stronger.

lashes34

I was the same, everything was unexplained. Done 3 rounds of OI that didn't work and I didn't react to the injections well at all so IVF wasn't an option.

Took a break while I got more surgery and tests (6 months) and then a further 6 months on a waiting list for a hormone pump. That worked for us first time with IUI and I am currently 24 weeks pregnant. Fingers crossed it all works out for you.

CCCHIA

That's great news, congratulations!! - it is very reassuring to hear all the positive stories

LegacyUser

Hi all,
Im not looking for advice just want to know has anyone been in similar situation. Myself and hubby trying to conceive 9 years.
This month 7 days before AF was due to arrive I had mild spotting and very sharp pain below like a stabbing pain.
Im not sure if AF arrived 2 days ago because there was no blood flow but only showed when wiped. It wasnt a normal red colour that normally comes when I have AF but quite dark red/ brown. I am confused now as it stopped by day 2 and now only very light brown spotting.
I was wondering to myself could it be implantation or just a strange AF?
Thanks

Toots

I'd often spot for a couple of days before my period properly starts, so the way I'd count it is that if it's heavy enough for me to need to use a liner or a pad, then it's my period. I used Fertility Friend to track, and it would often show sample charts with spotting for one or two days at the end of a cycle,

bilbot79

Yogaqueen54 wrote: »

Hi all,
Im not looking for advice just want to know has anyone been in similar situation. Myself and hubby trying to conceive 9 years.
This month 7 days before AF was due to arrive I had mild spotting and very sharp pain below like a stabbing pain.
Im not sure if AF arrived 2 days ago because there was no blood flow but only showed when wiped. It wasnt a normal red colour that normally comes when I have AF but quite dark red/ brown. I am confused now as it stopped by day 2 and now only very light brown spotting.
I was wondering to myself could it be implantation or just a strange AF?
Thanks

My wife had a stabbing pain that she believes reflected implantation

Lucuma

Yogaqueen wrote: »

Hi all,
Does anyone know from their own experience how to count the first day of new cycle?
I know that Day 1 is when AF arrives but my problem is I had brown spotting for 5 days before AF was due. Then I had dark red/ brown blood but it did not flow out only seen when wiped. Never happened before!
I thought this was AF but it was lighter than normal. It lasted a day and now Ive had another 3 days of spotting.
Im not sure if Im on a new cycle now?
Many thanks

On both kids I had an ''implantation bleed'' which was pink tinged cervical mucus.

Yogaqueen

bilbot79 wrote: »

My wife had a stabbing pain that she believes reflected implantation

Hopefully this is what it is. Feeling quite nauseous especially after dinner last night and I was awake most of the night. Another thing is I have had very upset bowels past two days, which can be a sign...but who knows. Fingers crossed.

bilbot79

We're about to start the process again. Thought AF was gonna skip a month or two after the mc but ovulation seems to have occurred. Thought 2017 would be our year but maybe it's 2018. Maybe.

Toots

Really hoping everything works out for you this time.

lashes34

Good luck bilbot79, are ye doing IUI again? (I think ye done IUI last time?)

skallywag

Just a small note to show that you never know what's gonna happen ...

We went through 7 rounds of ICSI ourselves, the second of which resulted in a success, now a 7 year old with a big personality. The 5 tries after were a rollercoaster, a mix of no success at all and early failures. There was never a known medical reason why it could not happen for us, just one of those things. We put it all behind us about 4 years ago, happy with our lot.

I got a call in work this morning to let me know that we are now pregnant. My OH is 44. She was a few weeks late but we never in our wildest dreams thought that this would happen. I know it's very early days, and at this stage of life there are a lot of added complications, and the odds of this and that are increased, etc.

But still. Just goes to show ...

catrionanic

skallywag wrote: »

Just a small note to show that you never know what's gonna happen ...

We went through 7 rounds of ICSI ourselves, the second of which resulted in a success, now a 7 year old with a big personality. The 5 tries after were a rollercoaster, a mix of no success at all and early failures. There was never a known medical reason why it could not happen for us, just one of those things. We put it all behind us about 4 years ago, happy with our lot.

I got a call in work this morning to let me know that we are now pregnant. My OH is 44. She was a few weeks late but we never in our wildest dreams thought that this would happen. I know it's very early days, and at this stage of life there are a lot of added complications, and the odds of this and that are increased, etc.

But still. Just goes to show ...

That’s nothing short of incredible. Congrats!!!

skallywag

catrionanic wrote: »

That’s nothing short of incredible. Congrats!!!

I know. We are both absolutely dumbfounded by it, to be point of being in shock!. We had let the whole thing go after so much time passing, we had both naturally moved on and were genuinely happy with what we have. I guess all of the failures we encountered have left us both very cynical these days, and it all seems just too good to be true. Our expectations are pretty low of it actually working out I think, at least that's what we are telling each other. I know it's important to stay positive, etc, but when you have been through the mill so many times without success (though we have had one success of course, I mean trying for no.2) it grinds you down I guess.

You know something, even if it doesn't work out I still think it will be something to look back on and smile about, albeit in a sad way even. We really thought that the chances of winning the Euromillions would be lower than this