Long termers TTC

stickybean

Hollywood I would say if you are more comfortable with a female doctor, switch! They will pass of your records and for the most (from what I see), your doctor (GP) has little involvement once you move over to the specialists.

dreamstar

Hollywood130 wrote: »

Prob not a huge issue but would any of you think now would be a bad time for me to switch doctors??? I've been trying to get a female doctor in my area for a while, a new clinic opened and there is one there that specialises in Womens health so I'd like to try her. Can NEVER get into see my own doctor when I go, rang yesterday to book in for bloods this week and they couldn't take me, how crazy is that...

I don't think it would be an issue to switch at all. If you're having hassle getting appointments it's better in the long run. Plus as Stickbean says they sent your files etc on. Do it! :D

Moanna

What clinics are ye with girls and how do u find them. I'm not getting much hop from sims been told fails are down to embryo quality which they can't do anything about. I suggested I go for immune bloods as wasn't tested previously which I thought would be part of initial testing. If fet fails I may consider moving

mark_jmc

Hi All,
first post here but I have been following this thread for a long time I would like to share a positive story. My wife and I were TTC for 5 years then last year we went through 2 IUI cycles. neither worked so this year we went for IVF and it has worked first time! my good wife is now 5 weeks pregnant- very early days but fingers crossed.
I wanted to share this as I know that all of this can be very stressful for couples but often there is light at the end of the tunnel!
Best of luck to you all

lowkeys

Hi all,
i,ve been reading this thread on and off for a few months now. It is good to hear your good news mark and hope all goes well for you.
I'm 37 and have been trying to concieve for 3 years and a few months ago had my 2nd failed icsi cycle. I'm trying to be positive about being off meds and look forward to enjoying the summer without thinking about appointments and medication. My husband and i feel like we just really need a break for a few months without ttc taking over our lives as it seems to do.
I'm not sure where to go from here after the summer. Dont seem to have any explanation as to why i cant get pregnant. Like you moanna it seems to be embryo quality (i,m with sims also) but i really dont know what to change to get a positive result. What are the immune tests for?
Does anyone have any positive advice on who to talk to about different options and tests? It seems like a waste of emotional and physical energy not to mention money to go through another cycle without changing anything?
Best of luck to all of you-this seems like a really supportive thread and it is good to be able to get advice from people having similar problems!

Hollywood130

Think you're definitely right there Sticky. Well I've done it, went to the new doctor, I'm not sick so can't really comment on that!!

Moanna, I'm with Galway, just starting IVF with them now, 1st round, can't fail them so far, the staff are lovely, very helpful but all will be revealed in the coming weeks

Always good to hear the good news stories Mark, thanks for sharing!

Iowkeys, taking a break can always help, it's good to have a great and get your mind off it for a while & god knows what could happen when you are not thinking about it. It's a very tough journey and time out is needed. Might be no harm phoning other clinics for advice, have you booked to speak to the lab staff, I know that is an option in my clinic but maybe it might be worth your while asking to meet with them?

druiddreams

Thanks Dreamstar and Hollywood for your kind welcome and support. It really does help knowing that there are other people out there who know what we are going through. We've decided to go to sims if there is no good news this month. Did you guys all get your bloods and his tests done before the first appt?

Finding this week really hard (would have been due if things had gone differently) and seem to see pregnant women everywhere I look : (.

Hollywood130

druiddreams wrote: »

Thanks Dreamstar and Hollywood for your kind welcome and support. It really does help knowing that there are other people out there who know what we are going through. We've decided to go to sims if there is no good news this month. Did you guys all get your bloods and his tests done before the first appt?

Finding this week really hard (would have been due if things had gone differently) and seem to see pregnant women everywhere I look : (.

It's always the way Druiddreams, we had bloods etc done at the clinic.

Ladies, for IVF did you all (coffee lovers) completely cut it out, cold turkey style or what?? I had no coffee today until 10mins ago & at that I only had a half cup, but feeling not myself at all, tired, depressed, cranky, headache... Surely this is worse than having one a day?? I normalyy have 2 very weak cups ot tea in the day too, what do I do?? Please help

bobskii

I think like I switched to decaff after embryo transfer Hollywood . It depends on how much you drink a day really . I continued with my tea but them lost all interested in coffee once I was pregnant . the headaches don't last tho if that's any consolation.

dreamstar

Oh druiddreams I'm so sorry you're having a tough time. I know how hard it is coming up to the due date. And seeing pregnant women everywhere. My sister in law announced her pregnancy around my date and it was so hard. I promise it will get easier. Be patient with yourself hun.

Hollywood130

Bobskii, how much coffee were you drinking before ET? Really all I'll have is the one in the morning, I do have defcafe but it just ain't cutting it especially on a Monday morning 😂

If I got pregnant I don't think I'd even need coffee I'd be on such a high!! Today I just feel terrible, no motivation at all. Just don't want to harm my chances in any way

yellow hen

Hollywood130 wrote: »

Bobskii, how much coffee were you drinking before ET? Really all I'll have is the one in the morning, I do have defcafe but it just ain't cutting it especially on a Monday morning 😂

If I got pregnant I don't think I'd even need coffee I'd be on such a high!! Today I just feel terrible, no motivation at all. Just don't want to harm my chances in any way

I drink ALOT of coffee but I gave it up whilst pregnant and I was ok with the decaf stuff. Didn't have much withdrawal. Due to start clomid again next week so I'm going to go back to decaf again. It's a bit cringey because anyone who hears me ordering it will assume I'm pregnant......and alas I'm not

bobskii

I used to drink 3 mugs a day and if I was out shopping I'd really enjoy my coffee and people watching I cut it down to one then pregnancy killed my taste for it.

Hollywood130

I'm the same YH, the coffee machine at work is broke & it's a great excuse for me! Trying 2 hide the whole decafe bit! Due to start nasal spray next week so surely only having 1 cup a day is ok until I get further along? From what I can remember they say cut down not out? Will ask again next week see what they say!

Nothing like meeting friends at the weekend for coffee, really don't mind the decafe in the coffee shops though, anyone recommend a tasty enough decafe? Bought the Aldi one at the weekend & it's not great

bobskii

carte noir ,tad expensive but definitely worth it!I'm back drink in the decaf again now and it's the only one I like tastes like proper coffee

Hollywood130

That's what I'm looking for, one that actually tastes like coffee! Would you have a proper coffee at all or just decafe all the way? I'm having a cappuccino as we speak but that is all I'll have today, I'll have weak tea after this and lots of water!

Going to get myself some carte noir and see how that goes then! Thanks bobskii

stickybean

Congrats to you and your wife Mark, that's fantastic news!!! Really nice to hear a good story. Do you mind me asking, where did you attend?

Lowkeys I am with the Merrion Fertility Clinic (they are linked to Holles Street Hospital), so far I have found them very good and very thorough, I was to start ICSI on the next cycle but they have put me off by a month. I had several Letz procedures and they wanted to be sure there was a good path way, so they are running a test run inserting the catheter. The appointments are long and they always have time for questions and really explain everything. I have moved very far yet, but will keep you updated x

Druidsdream - Hope you are doing okay xxx I started through the public system, I got the standard tests, but over time I think we covered all tests. When I went private they reviewed them and repeated the testosterone and did a HIV screening. But there was loads of other results but as they were within 6 months (and 12 months for some) they didn't need to repeat

Hollywood, wow, things are really starting to move for you... keep us updated xxx

bobskii

I love proper coffee Hollywood om actually obsessed with it . nut om breastfeeding and anytime I have proper coffee it seems to affect the baby so I said is stick with decaf until im finished feeding her.

Hollywood130

Sure will Stickybean xx

Better stick to the decafe bobskii!!

I need to have a rant ladies, my OH's cousin & his girlfriend are expecting, weren't even trying. He's knows exactly what we are going through, how long we've been trying, preparing for IVF etc and I'm CONSTANTLY getting snaps about baby things from him, yesterday it was nappies, today it's a cot he's setting up. OH is heading to help him set all up too. Like I know he's excited and that's great but please don't send me all these snaps... it's like a total kick in the teeth with every picture I open.... am I being a b***h, I probably am??? I feel sad now :-(

Neyite

No. You are NOT being a bitch. Not at all. He's probably gotten carried away in his excitement the unthinking idiot, but I think you'd be perfectly within your rights to send him a polite text to ask him to ease off.

I had to tell people to back off last year. The Clomid was affecting me very much emotionally and I really couldn't stand the amateur diagnostics that people would come out with, so I just banned any fertility talk around me until I was better placed to deal with it.

stickybean

Hollywood you are in no way being a b!tch.

If he knows he is either being an insensitive idiot OR in a weird man-like way trying to include you??? I know that sounds silly, but when my friend had her baby she was throwing her at me. She thought it would make me feel better, but really it was as you said a kick in the teeth. I had to avoid her for a while till I was in a better place.

Could your other half have a quiet word with him?

WHY is infertility such a taboo subject? I wish it was something we could talk about more freely, it would save a lot of pain

Neyite

stickybean wrote: »

WHY is infertility such a taboo subject? I wish it was something we could talk about more freely, it would save a lot of pain

I know, its so weird. Usually the only time I've found out that other people were struggling was when they were out the other side in a well established pregnancy. It really is a hidden hurt for a lot of people.

dreamstar

stickybean wrote: »

Could your other half have a quiet word with him?

Hollywood you are not being unreasonable in the slightest. People just don't understand how difficult it is. Your cousin is probably just excited and doesn't realise the affect it can have seeing the pics etc.

I agree with sticky - perhaps your other half could just bring it up in conversation and say how hard you find it. The last thing you want is for it to be an issue. I know I find it difficult when people are awkward around me too - it's hard to get the balance right.

dreamstar

stickybean wrote: »

Hollywood you are in no way being a b!tch.

WHY is infertility such a taboo subject? I wish it was something we could talk about more freely, it would save a lot of pain

It would save a lot of pain but I know for me sometimes I like to try and forget about it. The thoughts of someone knowing I'm TTC and asking me iof I'm ok would juat upset me. So I don't discuss it with anyone - not even my Mum. But I guess everyone is different.

Hollywood130

That's honestly what I feel like doing Neyite, I mean coming to terms with IVF is bad enough without that being in your face all the time, My thoughts exactly Stickybean I thought about asking my OH to politely have a word or drop a hint that I'm finding it tough, can only imagine what I'll be like in a few weeks with all the drugs I'll be taking. I feel the same as you, I'm not in a place at the moment to be able to deal with it.

I know, why is it such a weird subject, some days I'm like I don't even care who knows & then other times I don't want anyone to know. Thank God for this thread, it's great to get that much off my chest. I wouldn't feel like this at all if he didn't know, that's the annoying thing, I don't know... it's going to have to stop anyway I really can't deal with it, time for a chat with himself after all it's him that'll have to deal with the melt down when it occurs!!!!!

Dreamstar, I have one very close friend who I meet at least once a week and relay all this stuff on, I don't talk to my Mum about it at all because she would just worry, my sister seems to forget everytime I tell her anything so I don't bring it up there either, she has 5 kids so I don't think she knows what to say to me.... it's hard.

stickybean

I think if it was more of an "acceptable" subject we would feel better talking about it. I have a couple of close girls friends and my mam and I can speak to them. To be honest I think my other half hates to talk about it. I think he feels like it is his fault (which believe my I have spend too many hours reassuring him it is not).

But I second that point. Thank God for this thread!!! I'd be so lost without you guys xxx

dreamstar

stickybean wrote:

Thank God for this thread!!!

Absolutely! I've gotten some great advice on these threads and it's reassuring to feel I'm not alone. Someone understands!

yellow hen

Girls I'm due to start clomid on cd2 and I can feel my period coming on. I know it's going to appear any minute now but would you really class this as day 1?

bobskii

I know when I was on clonmid they told me the first full day of bleeding was counted as day 1.

yellow hen

bobskii wrote: »

I know when I was on clonmid they told me the first full day of bleeding was counted as day 1.

I think that's reasonable. I'll go with that! Thanks bobskii