Long termers TTC

hedgehog2

Lucyfur wrote: »

I'm out. Again.

I was pretty fecking devastated yesterday but I'm grand again today

Put it behind ya and focus on next month.
It must be tough depending what age you are as our circle seems to be just popping them out.
I can't open my facebook without seeing some friend either pregnant or having just had a kid.
We r not trying to conceive but have friends who are and from reading here often peopke dont know the struggles.
Merry Christmas and good lick with trying in 2014

Lucyfur

Ah I've no problem with anyone else sharing their good news! I love hearing of friends expecting

Thanks and Merry Christmas to you too

carolinespring

Well ladies, Happy Christmas. Hope each and everyone of us has a fantastic time.

I was Due my period today but thankfully it arrived 3 days ago so I was spared the the "Christmas moodiness" I am also over the birthday and no officially 41..... New year ahead and new baby hopefully.

Just about to hit the hay, we have a full house tomorrow. I am on chef duty.

carolinespring

How are we all doing?

Neyite

carolinespring wrote: »

How are we all doing?

I found out that my mother, in response to all the "Has Neyite set any date for the wedding yet" question, has told my uncles and aunts (so therefore my cousins also know) that I'm not setting a date until we are successful in getting (and staying!) pregnant with #2. I've got uncles saying novenas and lighting candles for me to get pregnant.

Mortified and pressurised is not the word for it!

I love my mum, really I do. We are very close and she has a heart of gold, but this kind of over-sharing makes me not want to confide in her. But if I tell her that its hurt me, she will be so upset, which will stress me out more.

Its peak time for me now. Got a + on the OPK yesterday. So will give it a go, but I'm a bit "meh" this month for some reason.

How are you?

Penny Dreadful

Neyite wrote: »

I found out that my mother, in response to all the "Has Neyite set any date for the wedding yet" question, has told my uncles and aunts (so therefore my cousins also know) that I'm not setting a date until we are successful in getting (and staying!) pregnant with #2. I've got uncles saying novenas and lighting candles for me to get pregnant.

Mortified and pressurised is not the word for it!

I love my mum, really I do. We are very close and she has a heart of gold, but this kind of over-sharing makes me not want to confide in her. But if I tell her that its hurt me, she will be so upset, which will stress me out more.

Its peak time for me now. Got a + on the OPK yesterday. So will give it a go, but I'm a bit "meh" this month for some reason.

How are you?

The over sharing is rotten. I found out that my cousin who had a baby on Dec 26th last year is pregnant with her 3rd again. I got lots of " why aren't you having lots of babies" from various aunts and uncles over Christmas. My Mum was great about telling them to mind their own business but if she knew that we were ttc for a while now with nothing she wouldn't be able to help herself and would think that she was doing me a favour!

pennyloves

I just got my period and I am close to breaking down. I feel like I am slowly going insane as I want to scream the house down with every curse I know. I am so sick of trying to stay positive and listening to platitudes from well meaning people. I just got over one of the worst years of my life and when my doctor told me I actually ovulated 2 weeks ago I allowed myself to believe that I could be pregnant. I have spent every night since then sitting up and thinking about my little one, how we'd break the news etc. I can't go through another year of this roller coaster of emotions, I don't think I am mentally able. I know that sounds dramatic but I think about it 24/7. I don't know what to do. I am in tears writing this, I need to get this out before I ring my husband because I know that he won't react the same as me so I will resent him for it. He says that I am obsessed but that's because we've been trying so long. Sorry about this awful post, hopefully I will get over this in a few days - why does everything have to be so bloody hard?

hedgehog2

pennyloves wrote: »

I just got my period and I am close to breaking down. I feel like I am slowly going insane as I want to scream the house down with every curse I know. I am so sick of trying to stay positive and listening to platitudes from well meaning people. I just got over one of the worst years of my life and when my doctor told me I actually ovulated 2 weeks ago I allowed myself to believe that I could be pregnant. I have spent every night since then sitting up and thinking about my little one, how we'd break the news etc. I can't go through another year of this roller coaster of emotions, I don't think I am mentally able. I know that sounds dramatic but I think about it 24/7. I don't know what to do. I am in tears writing this, I need to get this out before I ring my husband because I know that he won't react the same as me so I will resent him for it. He says that I am obsessed but that's because we've been trying so long. Sorry about this awful post, hopefully I will get over this in a few days - why does everything have to be so bloody hard?

As siht as today may seem there is always hope and self belief.
Even if you dont feel like it today,pamper yourself,distract the mind or go for a walk.
Look to 2014 as a new start and forget about how long your trying its the past.
You have to keep positive for yourself and your relationship and go see a mate today as thinking about it all day wont help.

bobskii

Ah penny that's just crap . you said you've had a **** year so tomorrow at midnight put the whole year behind you and start with the mindset that this is your year.

The lack of control over ttc would drive you insane on its own,then your slapped with period and hormones and you just b wanna scream . I know I've been there and still am.

bobskii

Ah penny that's just crap . you said you've had a **** year so tomorrow at midnight put the whole year behind you and start with the mindset that this is your year.

The lack of control over ttc would drive you insane on its own,then your slapped with period and hormones and you just b wanna scream . I know I've been there and still am.

pennyloves

Well it was the first time I have stayed in for New Year's and I have to say that it was a disaster. However it was a shixxy end to a shxxy year so it's onwards and upwards from here. I hope 2014 will be a good one for all of us. X

Hollywood130

Yes the start of a new! Here's to trying in 2014! I'm just over my first ovulation of 2014 and I had no pains so don't think I did ovulate...

Can I ask, have all you ladies got health insurance? Need to renew mine today and wondering if I should go without...

Penny Dreadful

I do and would certainly think hard of dropping it. Expensive as it is I'd hate to be without it.

Hollywood130

I was thinking about just going for a basic plan this time, maybe one that doesn't cover private hospitals, prob be better off with it. Trying to buy a house this spring so want to keep all the outgoings down this year!

Penny Dreadful

Hollywood130 wrote: »

I was thinking about just going for a basic plan this time, maybe one that doesn't cover private hospitals, prob be better off with it. Trying to buy a house this spring so want to keep all the outgoings down this year!

Dropping down a level makes sense then and at least you still have cover.

Hollywood130

Yeah, that's true, going to phone them back this eve and renew then. Thanks ladies!

Neyite

I cancelled mine altogether. I was happy going through the public system for pregnancy, and fertility treatment isnt covered anyway. I did get some tests/procedures private and was covered by VHI, like the HSG for instance. But outside of that, I didnt need it really.

And remember to claim your med expenses back from revenue like GP fees

Lucyfur

I still have mine. It's a big expense, but it's a bit of comfort having it.

Like Neyite, I'm a public patient for most things. My GP somehow managed to get me an appointment with a fertility specialist within weeks of expressing concerns, so we had no real reason to go private.

Hollywood130

That's what I'm wondering too, I am public for everything so far, i have Endometriosis which they won't cover for another 3 years because it's a pre-existing condition. I'm having a HSG carried out in publicly in February and there is no charge for it, so I'm wondering really what am I paying Health Insurance for... I suppose if I did get pregnant they would pay for part of the overnight stay in hospital?

With the Endo I know I'll need to have future operations but the last one was 1 night stay in a public hospital but it only cost €75, so hard to decide

petalchild

Hi ladies - happy new year!
I'm in that horrible 2WW and am having some strange stomach cramps- I'm sure it's just the aftermath of Christmas excess but it really is hard not to overthink these things! Anyone got any tips on switching off the ever in over drive TTC symptom watching?! It only makes AF so much more upsetting when she inevitable arrives!

Penny Dreadful

petalchild wrote: »

Hi ladies - happy new year!
I'm in that horrible 2WW and am having some strange stomach cramps- I'm sure it's just the aftermath of Christmas excess but it really is hard not to overthink these things! Anyone got any tips on switching off the ever in over drive TTC symptom watching?! It only makes AF so much more upsetting when she inevitable arrives!

It certainly does! The last two cycles were particularly bad for me in that way, the last one especially. I got my period yesterday (5 days later than expected) and was quite upset, even had a little cry in the kitchen this morning about it.
Have resolved (and hopefully will stick to it) not to over think every tiny twinge and tender boob next time.

Hollywood130

It is so very hard not to over think it, I have done it so much over the past while, nowadays I just try so hard to keep myself busy so that I'm not thinking about any of it, although it's never completely gone, there will always be a 'what if', I have a constant pain I get in my back this last year when my period is coming so when I get that I know whats on the way, maybe try and pinpoint a constant each month, something that may happen before each period. It may or may not work we're all different after all but it it does it may help.

Good Luck and Happy New Year

pennyloves

I do, my op to remove a septum in my womb was completely covered in Mount Carmel. It was only one less thing to worry about. However I got a measly 20 back in August for all of my consultant's fees!!!!

Hollywood130

Lucky you, I didn't even get that!! Going to go ahead with a cheaper plan this year to see how it goes, next year I might have a better idea of whether or not I feel it's ok for me to go without

pennyloves

It's all built on fear! I am looking into ivf at the moment and the cost is just ridiculous. I cannot help that I cannot have a baby, my body was made like this and yet our state makes no provision for hard working, heart broken people who cannot afford to spend thousands of euro on procedures that may or may not work. I have this month and next left on clomid and then I will be faced with the inevitable. My husband said that we'll find the money somehow but what if the first cycle doesn't work? I don't know what I will do as we bought our house during the boom and now we are in negative equity. I am hoping for a miracle this month.

bobskii

I hear ya penny . I got a total from them today €6075.in a way the long waiting time has giving us time to save a bit . It's ridiculous that you don't even get one free go.

nemo32

Not sure if I posted here before. I am tccing 2 years and am potentially looking at IVF aswell. The cost just kills me. I will definitely not be able to afford more than one go. Would you consider traveling aboard?
I have been resecarching and am thinking of going aboard. Check this thread out.

http://www.rollercoaster.ie/Discussions/tabid/119/ForumThread/141408654/Default.aspx

pennyloves

I just read all the information from that link you posted. It is great to have more option. I must admit that the thought of going abroad for such a stressful treatment is quite daunting. I am definitely going to investigate further if it means that I can have more than one chance at ivf. Thanks a million Nemo x

Hollywood130

Aw Penny, we're all praying for you this month x It is so very hard, it's awful what we have to go through, IVF is always on my mind too because I'm 4 years ttc, I have more tests happening in the next 2 months, looking for answers during that time and I think if nothing happens this year I'll be saving for IVF, I'd love to go abroad as it so cheaper but it is the stress of having to do that, the language barrier would stress me and of course the time off work may be a problem. But I suppose when you want something bad enough, nothing will get in your way!

Hollywood130

nemo32 wrote: »

Not sure if I posted here before. I am tccing 2 years and am potentially looking at IVF aswell. The cost just kills me. I will definitely not be able to afford more than one go. Would you consider traveling aboard?
I have been resecarching and am thinking of going aboard. Check this thread out.

http://www.rollercoaster.ie/Discussions/tabid/119/ForumThread/141408654/Default.aspx

Nemo, would love to hear if you do decide to go, I'm thinking about it too but it won't be this year, I'm hoping it will happen this year for me and if not IVF is the next step