Long termers TTC

bee06

I hit 12 weeks last Tuesday and I'm only getting my head around the idea. Until I got to the 12 weeks I didn't want to get my hopes up either. It's a long wait as well counting down the time. Best of luck with it.

fits

Oh wow. Good luck now. Had one of those very very faint lines meself last year. Turned out to be twins 😄

Toots

Yaaaaayyy!!!! Congratulations bilbot!!!

brokensoul

bilbot79 wrote: »

It's amazing. Still sinking in, all morning we've been talking about the disappointments in this process. Got to keep our feet on the ground till the 12 week thing, that's when we can really start believing were going to have a baby right?

I'm hopeful now, my girl has been really good about her diet/health etc. Now that bubs is in there I'd like to think it'll stick around

Delighted for ye!

I carried around the pregnancy test with me in my handbag until the 12 week scan just to remind myself that it was real ;-)

Toots

brokensoul wrote: »

Delighted for ye!

I carried around the pregnancy test with me in my handbag until the 12 week scan just to remind myself that it was real ;-)

Same I did that until we got an early scan and carried all the scan photos with me until the day he was born! This baby I had the test with me, then we had a dating scan last weekend, so I've that picture with me in the handbag.

dreamstar

Delighted!!!!! Congratulations bilbot!

catrionanic

Wow, there's been a lot of good news in this thread in the last few months! Delighted. Congrats!

Lucyfur

Woohoo! Congrats bilbot:D

Digs

bilbot79 wrote: »

Woke up to a hysterical wife 10 mins ago plus this little fella ðŸ˜႒

This is the bizz bilbot. Extremely happy for complete strangers, I've been following your updates.

I've been on this board twice over the last six years and have two beautiful daughters out of it. Probably heading here shortly again, the happiness I get from seeing others get that positive though is just brilliant. Happy and healthy nine months to you and the missus

Lucuma

Woo hoo! I was catching up on posts after a few days and I first read your very moving post about staring into the abyss followed immediately by opening the pic of the positive test, I cried a tear at my desk! Unreal ye must be so excited.
And I can´t get over how many successes this thread has had from long termers on here in recent times, so wonderful to read

Daisy 55

Morning all! I just wanted to say that it's lovely to see support for one another in such difficult circumstances. I dip in now and again to see the lovely kindness and encouragement for and from strangers.
Congrats on the good news for some and hoping for the best for all!
Stay positive!

bilbot79

Thanks everyone. Still in shock to be honest, we're so used to disappointment now we're half expecting it to be taken away from us but it's not, it's going well..so far. Did another test tonight and the positive line is twice as strong

Will join the 'Due Feb 2018' thread soon! Really appreciate your kind words and I hope others can experience this fortune.

Part of me wants to worry because we're nowhere near the 12 weeks yet but the other part wants to just indulge in the moment.

Toots

You could always book one of those early scans just for a bit of reassurance. It's a lot more real when you see the little blob on the screen. The place I went recommends any time after 6 weeks because the heartbeat is detectable then.

bilbot79

Were booked in for a scan on the 4th July. Bit of a wait mind you!

Toots

Is that with the hospital?

bilbot79

Toots wrote: »

Is that with the hospital?

It's actually with the Hari clinic. I guess that would be the last we see of them all going well.

Toots

Yaaay!! If you really wanted you could go to one of those private scan places but it'd probably only be a week earlier so might not be worth the hassle.

Ooh you should get one of those digital tests - seeing "pregnant" spelled out on the screen is awesome! Take a pic though, cos the screen only stays active for 24 hours after it's peed on.

Lucuma

Yeah the Clearblue tests shoudl go up from +1 week to +2 week to + 3week if you do one, once a week on the same day. That's a sign the pregnancy hormone is increasing. Note: they don't go any higher than +3! So once you're past that stage don't panic if on the 4th week it still says +3.
Also as this was with HARI clinic, they might give your Mrs some pregnancy supports in the form of maybe supplemental progesterone or something like that. Ask them about it.

heldel00

I bought quite a few ovulation sticks about 2 months and only ended up needing to use a few of them. PM me if interested and I'll pop them in the post.

Nerd Queen

Had to start seeing a councellor to help deal with the vaginismus that I have. She suggested I think about how I would feel if I never have kids - would I be ok. Really struggling with that this week. The road to conceive has been 18 months so far for us with little progress due to the aforementioned issue! Struggling today to be be positive about it

Lucuma

Nerd Queen wrote: »

Had to start seeing a councellor to help deal with the vaginismus that I have. She suggested I think about how I would feel if I never have kids - would I be ok. Really struggling with that this week. The road to conceive has been 18 months so far for us with little progress due to the aforementioned issue! Struggling today to be be positive about it

I remember a counsellor saying that to me once as well! It's good to reflect on it but it's also good to keep the faith. Would you consider IUI? It's relatively inexpensive, a couple of hundred euros last time I checked (which was a few years ago)

lashes34

We paid 750 for IUI in March along with 144 for thwthe drugs if you needed them

Nerd Queen

Lucuma wrote: »

I remember a counsellor saying that to me once as well! It's good to reflect on it but it's also good to keep the faith. Would you consider IUI? It's relatively inexpensive, a couple of hundred euros last time I checked (which was a few years ago)

I am trying to keep the faith alright its just I can't seem to get past this vaginismus! I am back with my specialist Dr Moss in the Beacon in late july so hopefully we can discuss other paths! Its great to have this thread to see all the good news and give people hope.

Thanks for the IUI rec its definitely something to look into. I have PCOS so I'll talk to Dr Moss re that option! How is everyone else doing?

emzibob

I've just had a miscarriage on my first pregnancy after trying for two years to get pregnant, it was a bit more complicated than normal and in the end I needed to have a d and c procedure. I am really struggling with waiting to try again I have pcos so not going to hold out for first cycle it might not come for months but will wait the advised 6 weeks but I'm finding it so tough any advise on how long people waited or how to best deal with the waiting would be gratefully received!
Also sorry to interrupt with sad news as I've only read the last few posts but everyone has been doing so well with their results I wish you all happy healthy pregnancies!!

dreamstar

Hey emzibob. I'm so sorry. Miscarriage is so hard. We had a miscarriage a few years back. I wasn't ready to try for a while after. We ended up trying for almost a year. I did have other medical complications then. But I was sorry I'd left it so long after the miscarriage coz I heard you're extra fertile after.
Anyway I'm not much help really but hope you're doing ok. Xx

Toots

I'm so sorry emzibob.

Nerd Queen

Sorry to hear it emzibob

Lucyfur

Sorry for your loss:(

I only waited after one miscarriage and the only reason I waited was because I had to have surgery where my uterus was opened so was strongly advised to wait.

Besta luck x

brokensoul

emzibob wrote: »

I've just had a miscarriage on my first pregnancy after trying for two years to get pregnant, it was a bit more complicated than normal and in the end I needed to have a d and c procedure. I am really struggling with waiting to try again I have pcos so not going to hold out for first cycle it might not come for months but will wait the advised 6 weeks but I'm finding it so tough any advise on how long people waited or how to best deal with the waiting would be gratefully received!
Also sorry to interrupt with sad news as I've only read the last few posts but everyone has been doing so well with their results I wish you all happy healthy pregnancies!!

So sorry for hear that. I had a miscarriage post IVF and like you had to have a D&C. I know that the wait is really tough. In my case because we were going for a frozen embryo transfer we were guided by the clinic on waiting time. I had the mis in July, and they advised waiting 2 months so we tried again with a transfer in October, which didn't work and then one in November which did.

One thing I found useful during my wait was I signed up for the couch to 5k thing. I am not sure why but it made me feel that I was back in some sort of control of my body. I set myself the goal of completing that and eating healthy for the two months in preparation for trying again. It made me feel like I was doing something constructive with the time toward my goal of pregnancy.

Be good to yourself, it is a really really crap thing to have to go through.

bilbot79

Sorry to hear that. We're doing well right now at 6 weeks but still terrified because we know it could all be taken away from us. Wish you all success in the future.