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nikpmup

Cheers folks, think I'll pick up a couple of soothers today and see how I get on. It's only when he's hungry that he sucks his thumb - I have to say, it is VERY cute! But I do reckon I'm storing up problems if he gets into a thumb sucking habit.

MurdyWurdy

Cute!! My boy will only take one brand and type of soother so just a heads up you might need to try a few

nikpmup

MurdyWurdy wrote: »

Cute!! My boy will only take one brand and type of soother so just a heads up you might need to try a few

My sister is a dental nurse and she recommends orthodontic ones, I'll get one or two different brands of them and see how I get on. He will suck my little finger furiously if he's hungry so I'm hoping he takes one.

Das Kitty

I gave my first a dodie. Once he was walking it was confined to the cot and the car. One night, when he was 2 he just decided he was too old for one and chucked it in the bin before bed.

I sucked my thumb until I was 12. It was so hard to stop, what with it being literally within arm's reach at all times!

Xdancer

I gave my little girl a soother from a few weeks old. She was never really attached to it, but did use it for sleeping. At 10 months she just stopped taking it. Sometimes I wished she held onto it a bit longer as it was a surefire way of settling her, but now when I see toddlers her age using them I'm glad she gave it up herself.

Synyster Shadow

I started the soother from nearly day 1 hubby sucked his and needed braces big time. You can take the soother away but you can't there thumb. Then when they are of a certain age tell them they got to leave there soother out for Santy so they get presents. Really works

Rose35

I actually forced a soother on my little fella, well first day he was born the doctor on his rounds said to me did you bring a soother, i had one in the bag(sure i had everything just in case like) and so I gave it to him, he said we recommend soothers, great job, look he loves it etc etc, well he didnt love it, he rarely ever took it, but I kept giving it to him and 14 months later he is obsessed with it, it's dodie dodie dodie, it's a god send at times though, i have always given him the ortho ones and keep changing them though, luckily he doesnt have a favourtie dodie, just in case it gets lost. So yes guess i am a fan of the dodie, just be aware you may end up having to do "dodie runs" in the middle of the night when he can't find it .

MurdyWurdy

If it wasn't for the fecking drive runs my boy would sleep through the night. He no longer needs a feed during the night (as long as he gets a dream feed at 11pm) but I'm up 5/6 times a night shoving the dummy back in his mouth!

cant26

nikpmup wrote: »

Cheers folks, think I'll pick up a couple of soothers today and see how I get on. It's only when he's hungry that he sucks his thumb - I have to say, it is VERY cute! But I do reckon I'm storing up problems if he gets into a thumb sucking habit.

Such a gorgeous baby! I tried for about two months to get my little guy to take a soother. Tried so many different ones he wasn't a bit interested so i just gave up. Now at five months he has just started sucking his thumb when he is really tired. I never really thought of down the road! I just thought it was really cute... Hope your little guy is more successful with the soother!

Suucee

I sucked my thumb until about 13 . My teeth are ridiculous. And i found it very hard to give up.
We gave our daughter one at 2 days old but she still kept putting her thumb in. At about 4 or 5 months she was sucking her thumb more than soother. We bought loads of different types but no joy . Even tried the 6 months plus .
We just gave up and let her off with her thumb. She does have a "raggy" . When she gets her raggy she sucks her thumb. She rarely sucks it without raggy so we just keep that out of sight during the day .
The only advantage though is we never really had to do the night time dodie runs as she just popped the thumb in. Now at 18 months and in her "big" bed she loses her raggy alot so we have started giving her 2 going to bed.
No 2 is going to have a dodie. Will be in the hospital bag ready to go.
I dont know if we have much of a choice. I see my sil with her 5 month old and she is the same as my daughter spitting out dodie and finding her thumb but my sil is continueing with it for now anyway.

Blueskye

Babies up countless times in the night, so tired today. Then I burn my hand making their bottles earlier. It hurts I've a deadline to finish an application form by Thursday with a dodgy hand...argh...stress!!

yellow hen

Today has been the worst day. I have a horrible cold with aches, pains the lot. My balcance seems off so managed yo walk into the coffee table and yhen ehack my shins of the oven door... queue 3 ugly bruises to my already grim looking legs
The little man had a cold too and is teething (which he has been for months ). Today he's had 6 dirty nappies... 3 of which were just pure diarrhoea. Did your little ones get diarrhoea before cutting first teeth or does it sound like the end of his cold?

Suucee

yellow hen wrote: »

Today has been the worst day. I have a horrible cold with aches, pains the lot. My balcance seems off so managed yo walk into the coffee table and yhen ehack my shins of the oven door... queue 3 ugly bruises to my already grim looking legs
The little man had a cold too and is teething (which he has been for months ). Today he's had 6 dirty nappies... 3 of which were just pure diarrhoea. Did your little ones get diarrhoea before cutting first teeth or does it sound like the end of his cold?

Looks like the cold is affecting your typing also :-)
My now 18 month old gets bad nappys with every tooth. Today has had about 4 or 5 and now has a fairly sore bum.
If he develops a sore bum a bit of bread soda i the bath works wonders.
I then use sudo cream and caldascene powder but the bread soda bath is great.
She is now cutting tooth no 15 and 16 .
Ugh and the smell of the nappies. Jeez

yellow hen

Ha succee, I am actually the worst typist on an iPhone... Can't manage it at all!
God I really hope he is cutting his teeth... He's 8 months and still nothing but he's been teething for over 4 months

Digs

YH my LO is cutting her teeth, they are about half way up but I really wish they were fully up, it seems to be taking forever. Poor thing is in a complete heap. Nappies are dreadful, not quite diarrhoea but they stink to high heaven cheeks are red and cracked and she is so unsettled.

Can you feel anything on his gums? One day L seemed to be drooling like mad and low and behold I could feel the sharp edge of a tooth, bottom left.

yellow hen

Digs wrote: »

YH my LO is cutting her teeth, they are about half way up but I really wish they were fully up, it seems to be taking forever. Poor thing is in a complete heap. Nappies are dreadful, not quite diarrhoea but they stink to high heaven cheeks are red and cracked and she is so unsettled.

Can you feel anything on his gums? One day L seemed to be drooling like mad and low and behold I could feel the sharp edge of a tooth, bottom left.

I had a root on his lower front gum today and there's defo nothing there. I can't get a proper look as he won't let me. I hope it's teeth as I'd be worried about those nappies otherwise. My little fella struggles with constipation so today was completely out of the ordinary.

Digs

Sorry I'm not much help to you Ls nappies would usually be soft(ish!!) it's the smell and the frequency that's changed for us.

Maybe if it's completely out of the ordinary he might need a trip to the doc if no improvement tomorrow? I know there is varying opinion on teething causing diarrhoea. Take it he's not running a temp or anything?

yellow hen

No temp digs but if he's the same tomorrow I'll go to the docs. Just hoping for a nights sleep tonight!

pwurple

My 2 1/2 year old has started spitting at people! wtf! It's disgusting. Not sure if my disgusted reaction is making it worse as well, she thinks it's hilarious.

On the sore bum teeth thing... I think myself that it's just easier for them to pick up bugs when their gums are broken and everything is going into the mouth for a chew. All sorts of bugs can get in easier through that route. It's an impossible task when you are out, but in the house I tried to keep everything she was mouthing super hygienic during that time. I washed her hands every hour or so, washed the floors with dettol solution at night. I convinced myself it worked for the first 8 teeth, but as soon as she went to creche that went out the window obviously. Can't be expecting them to disinfect all the children constantly.

January

Any attention is good attention to a 2 year old! Ignore it completely and she should get bored of it.

Neyite

pwurple wrote: »

Can't be expecting them to disinfect all the children constantly.

I now have an image of a sheep-dip type of pond for toddlers inside the door of all creches. This could be my Dragons Den moment...

Mink

yellow hen wrote: »

The little man had a cold too and is teething (which he has been for months ). Today he's had 6 dirty nappies... 3 of which were just pure diarrhoea. Did your little ones get diarrhoea before cutting first teeth or does it sound like the end of his cold?

And that's the end of my oxtail soup...:D

Lots of diarrhoea (sp?) when the first set of molars were coming up. His poo's didn't smell for some reason so I couldn't always tell when he had one. One night he did diarrhoea into a fresh nappy right before bed and I hadn't realised, he slept in it all night and his arse was raw for days. Had to leave him out of nappy each day for a spell to air it, lots of bepanthen, baths etc. Poor thing was howling at nappy changes.

Lola92

pwurple wrote: »

My 2 1/2 year old has started spitting at people! wtf! It's disgusting. Not sure if my disgusted reaction is making it worse as well, she thinks it's hilarious.

E went through a phase of doing that too. Each time she spat/looked like she was going to I brought her to the bathroom and got her to spit in the sink. I found it worked beacuse she already had the association of spitting out her toothpaste into the sink so it was building on that.

Generally speaking, rather than the 'no *insert behaviour here* ' approach, we try to say *this behaviour* is appropriate in X situation, and as much as possible do it there and then. Hoping to avoid the attraction of banned behaviour!

January

Saoirse had a poo on the stairs today Poor child couldn't hold it any longer. Fun times

loubian

+1 on the back problems

Non motherhood related though, there's an oul fella on the bus coughing his lungs up. It's disgusting!

nikpmup

So, I got him some soothers, he doesn't really know what to do with them but I'm going to persist

wolfpawnat

loubian wrote: »

+1 on the back problems

Non motherhood related though, there's an oul fella on the bus coughing his lungs up. It's disgusting!

A week after S was born, we went to the local Dunnes, the OH was waiting with the kids while I was in the bathroom. An old woman came over next to them, sneezed all over them, and walked off again. For no bloody reason!!! Could have landed S in hospital with her tiny immune system!!!

My rant is my daughter seems to think my boobs are chew toys! Seriously, she is gnawing on them!!!!

nicowa

While hubby's away the mice can play... Literally. One of the teenagers walked into the kitchen two nights ago to see a mouse run behind the fridge. So I spent all day yesterday (when not breastfeeding) cleaning the kitchen and disinfecting all shelves and counters. Bought takeaway cos I didn't get it all done and still refused to eat in the kitchen. We had the traps down only a few hours and we had a snap.

Mouse down!

I've still kept a few traps placed out - out of reach of little hands - but hopefully it's taken care of. Though the man who sold the traps said people had been in all week - the weather was bringing the mice in. Just a warning.

So I was knackered last night and baby A didn't sleep till 11:30. I didn't even hear the toddler this morning. Luckily I'd already asked the oldest boy to get up with her for the first hour or two. He's in college so he's in no rush this morning.

Plus one on the bruised legs. I walked right into my MILs coffee table the other day and my leg is black and blue...

And I think I was having nightmares last night. I know I woke at about 1am feeling like I'd been having bad dreams...

nicowa

And the reason I didn't hear her at her usual 6;30 was... Well I don't know. She might have been awake. Maybe she didn't wake cos the shower didn't go - because the second teenager didn't hear his alarm... So we've all just been asleep? That's odd... She's up now definitely.


I'm a bad mother.

wolfpawnat

Nicowa, I have hired an employee specifically for mouse control. Only thing is he is a lazy fécker of a cat!

Little miss decided to stay awake half the night, and the next door neighbour is seemingly dying with a flu by the coughing from the apartment. So little sleep for me Ah well, onward and upward. Found some great stuff on adverts.ie for S so I am happy with that.

MurdyWurdy

wolfpawnat wrote: »

Nicowa, I have hired an employee specifically for mouse control. Only thing is he is a lazy fécker of a cat!

Little miss decided to stay awake half the night, and the next door neighbour is seemingly dying with a flu by the coughing from the apartment. So little sleep for me Ah well, onward and upward. Found some great stuff on adverts.ie for S so I am happy with that.

My cat brings in live mice sets them free and then loses interest and has a kip on the couch instead, he's lucky I love him so much ! He did it a few weeks ago and I had to hide in the bedroom with the baby until my husband got home from work and caught it

xzanti

Wish I'd spotted this thread the other day.. could really have used a good vent!!

My 2.5 yo got a horrible dose of a virus the same day my Father in Law passed away so I had to juggle the loss of my FIL, a grieving OH and a sick toddler..

I think I got no more than about 3 hours sleep per night from Thursday up until Monday..

And because I had been sleeping in beside the little one for those nights (he had a raging fever) he grew accustomed to me being there and has been waking up crying for me every few hours ever since.. so even last night I had to keep going in and getting him back to sleep.. he also still has a cough that's driving him insane

Thank God for family who are ready and willing to help out!

Rachineire

Im a bad mom today.i yelled at my lo because I was so frustrated with him. My lo has been whinging and crying with me all day- trying to get ready for work was a nightmare, he was crawling around behind me screaming crying, I pick him up he cries to go down, get him down he cries even harder. My childminder said he was happy all day but as soon as he sees me whinging starts again. All evening same thing I can't make him happy. I picked my husband up from work and now im hiding up in bed watching fraiser. Feeling so guilty but relieved for the break.

yellow hen

Rachineire wrote: »

Im a bad mom today.i yelled at my lo because I was so frustrated with him. My lo has been whinging and crying with me all day- trying to get ready for work was a nightmare, he was crawling around behind me screaming crying, I pick him up he cries to go down, get him down he cries even harder. My childminder said he was happy all day but as soon as he sees me whinging starts again. All evening same thing I can't make him happy. I picked my husband up from work and now im hiding up in bed watching fraiser. Feeling so guilty but relieved for the break.

God you make me feel terrible.. I shout at my little man too often for my liking! I need to develop more tolerance and patience but I'm fecked if I know how i do that

MurdyWurdy

Sure, we all do it. We're only human and it's seriously hard work, this baby lark.

Glad you are getting a break anyway

angelfire9

xzanti wrote: »

Wish I'd spotted this thread the other day.. could really have used a good vent!!

My 2.5 yo got a horrible dose of a virus the same day my Father in Law passed away so I had to juggle the loss of my FIL, a grieving OH and a sick toddler..

I think I got no more than about 3 hours sleep per night from Thursday up until Monday..

And because I had been sleeping in beside the little one for those nights (he had a raging fever) he grew accustomed to me being there and has been waking up crying for me every few hours ever since.. so even last night I had to keep going in and getting him back to sleep.. he also still has a cough that's driving him insane

Thank God for family who are ready and willing to help out!

2.5? Ahem is he not almost 3

xzanti

angelfire9 wrote: »

2.5? Ahem is he not almost 3

Oh he is indeed.. where does the time go :eek:

iguana

So sorry for your loss xzanti. It really is very tough isn't it. I feel awful for being worn out from visiting my mother in law in the time she has left but I'm also grieving losing her, while knowing my loss is nothing compared to my husband's and the rest of his family's.

Re shouting at the babies, what works for me is to bark. When S gets into that grisly, can't be pleased mood I bark at him. It sounds weird but he finds it hilarious and starts laughing, while I get to let off a bit of steam before ending up laughing myself.

loubian

So *yawn* so *yawn* tired *yawn*

xzanti

iguana wrote: »

So sorry for your loss xzanti. It really is very tough isn't it. I feel awful for being worn out from visiting my mother in law in the time she has left but I'm also grieving losing her, while knowing my loss is nothing compared to my husband's and the rest of his family's.

Thanks Iguana

It's heartbreaking isn't it you feel so helpless

wolfpawnat

MurdyWurdy wrote: »

My cat brings in live mice sets them free and then loses interest and has a kip on the couch instead, he's lucky I love him so much ! He did it a few weeks ago and I had to hide in the bedroom with the baby until my husband got home from work and caught it

We had a little wren brought in the other day, spent twenty minutes scrubbing blood off the carpet after he toyed with the terrified little thing. I also had a family of mice butchered on my balcony the other day. Honestly, you'd swear I wasn't feeding him!

yellow hen wrote: »

God you make me feel terrible.. I shout at my little man too often for my liking! I need to develop more tolerance and patience but I'm fecked if I know how i do that

I get so mad at my fella, I really lose the rag, and yet he still loves me, I feel so bad some dayd

Rachineire

yellow hen wrote: »

God you make me feel terrible.. I shout at my little man too often for my liking! I need to develop more tolerance and patience but I'm fecked if I know how i do that

Oh I don't mean to make you feel bad! I get impatient with my baby all of the time, its just yesterday was particularly bad. I think we were both having a bad day. He knew when I shouted at him I was angry because his little face just crumpled up and he burst into tears and I felt like a monster! ! Its nice to know that im not the only one out there who has moments like that. I feel like I see so many moms out there that are just breezing through things and have more than one baby and im struggling with my one over here!

Rachineire

P.S. im sitting in my car again while he naps in the car seat. Third time this week. Im sure I could open a window and keep an eye on him from the house but I'm much too paranoid to do that lol. I have gotten smarter though, latte and a biscuit here with me while I boards. Makes me actually rest while he naps instead of clean which is good I suppose

nicowa

MurdyWurdy wrote: »

My cat brings in live mice sets them free and then loses interest and has a kip on the couch instead, he's lucky I love him so much ! He did it a few weeks ago and I had to hide in the bedroom with the baby until my husband got home from work and caught it

My husband hates cats so no joy there. Though from the sound of it they're not always much help!

Reb does this thing where if I get really mad at her she starts sniffing and crying and whimpers "Hug?" with the arms out. I mean? What can you do only hug her?

And my OH has been away on work since Monday. Everything has been fine. Luckily. Abi has been very settled and Reb has always been a great sleeper. And the few weeks beforehand it was like we were waking each other up in the bed. But now I'm so rested (it's all relative) I can't get to sleep for missing him in the bed beside me...

How Strange

It's awful when you get frustrated with them but it's hard sometimes when they just keep whinging. Rachineire that sounds like separation anxiety. Is he around 8 months? My son was exactly the same. I couldn't even go to the toilet without him becoming hysterical.

I've found that it all gets easier by degrees after 18 months. Once they learn some words and you can start communicating together they relax a bit and I definitely became more patient. I'd say I find our toddler much easier most days than our baby even though she's so placid and happy. It's just that you can do things with the toddler. Sometimes it seems with a baby it's all give on your side.

I'm not a patient person but I've learned how to be. Also I found reading a parenting book very helpful. We're not born with parenting skills so I wanted to learn how to be patient rather than one of those harassed screaming ones you see out and about. Although some days I'm definitely harassed and screaming! I really like David Coleman and found his book excellent.

vitani

Rachineire wrote: »

Oh I don't mean to make you feel bad! I get impatient with my baby all of the time, its just yesterday was particularly bad. I think we were both having a bad day. He knew when I shouted at him I was angry because his little face just crumpled up and he burst into tears and I felt like a monster! ! Its nice to know that im not the only one out there who has moments like that. I feel like I see so many moms out there that are just breezing through things and have more than one baby and im struggling with my one over here!

Oh god, there's nothing worse! I have occasional days where I get stressed and impatient and end up picking on my LO for every little thing she does 'wrong'. More often than not, it ends in her crying in the most heartbreaking way and then I feel like the most awful mother ever, and that I'm going to end up scarring her for life.

lolademmers

Having a bad day today. LO is only 8 days old. I feel so overwhelmed with the responsibility. He kept bringing back up all his feeds today I'm trying to continue with breast feeding but I'm giving him bottles too coz my nipples are cracked. I was convinced he was sick even though he is in great form otherwise. Really resented my OH too. He took a week off work to be at home but had yet to spend a full day with us. At 4 o clock today all I had to eat was a cup of tea and scone. Really thought he would look after me better. Sorry for the rant!!

lolademmers

Having a bad day today. LO is only 8 days old. I feel so overwhelmed with the responsibility. He kept bringing back up all his feeds today I'm trying to continue with breast feeding but I'm giving him bottles too coz my nipples are cracked. I was convinced he was sick even though he is in great form otherwise. Really resented my OH too. He took a week off work to be at home but had yet to spend a full day with us. At 4 o clock today all I had to eat was a cup of tea and scone. Really thought he would look after me better. Sorry for the rant!!

Das Kitty

Make sure you tell your OH that lolademmers. He needs to look after you.

I'm moving Rory over to formula at the moment. Even with the nipple shields I am suffering. They're just stupidly sensitive. Even let-down is like razorblades and after suffering on with James I'm not prepared to go through that again.

The one thing I'm finding as I'm gradually swapping out feeds is that I'm getting very weepy. I know it's natural, but it's much stronger than it was with James at 14 weeks. I guess it's because Rory is younger and my body is processing the lessening of milk as the baby dying (sorry to be morbid). Maybe I should have gone cold turkey!

My friend was over today and I was loathe to let her hold him, so I guess the bonding is strong this time. Which is absolutely brilliant, but scary all the same.

How Strange

Ah Das Kitty it's tough when you stop breastfeeding no matter if it's after a month or a year. The hormone levels definitely change. It'll pass in a few days. However you're doing it the best way. You could end up with mastitis if you stopped cold turkey and you'd be doubly miserable then.