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Just need a bit of a vent. A friend of my husband and his wife had a baby around the same time as us. All throughout the pregnancy she would make comments and comparisons. Her bump was much bigger than mine and she would say things like 'x is due around the same time as us and her bump is like mine, you're very small' or 'are you sure of your dates?'. There were concerns about my amniotic fluid levels so I was already a bit paranoid about the size of my bump. When I told her that a chemist nearby had a good price on sterilisers she told me she didn't need it because preparing for bottle feeding was preparing to fail at breastfeeding and that she was definitely going to breastfeed for the first year. I felt bad because my attitude was that I'd give breastfeeding a go and if it worked out great and if not I'd have given her a decent start. I figured that I'd use the bottles and steriliser if I was expressing anyway. When the subject of birth plans came up mine was pretty much go with the flow, if I needed an epidural on the day I'd get it. When she heard that, I was given a lot of facts about epidurals and pain relief and how they slow down labour etc and that I'd be better off not getting one. In the end she ended up getting an epidural and I didn't and her comment was that her labour was more intense over being induced after a labour that failed to progress. One of the other wives reminded her that I had been induced too over being ten days overdue and she more or less said that my labour must not have been that bad. Since the babies have come along the comparisons have been coming thick and fast. Is she doing this yet? How much does she weigh? Oh, she gets that much formula, that's an awful lot. When they were 9 and 5/6 weeks respectively I got 'Oh, she's not sleeping through the night? We've been sleeping through the night for a couple of weeks'. I was still breastfeeding at that stage and was happy with her only waking once a night at that stage, breastfeeding hadn't worked out for her. Olivia started sleeping through the night at around 11 weeks which I thought was great, she really found her own schedule whereas they were sleep training from very early on. On the rare occasion myself or my husband puts a picture of little miss looking cute on facebook she puts one of their baby up within the hour. Now of course it could have been coincidence a couple of times but in the 4 months I've put up 7 pictures and each time she's done it. It's all so competitive. Can't really avoid her as there are a few group occasions coming up. Not sure why it's getting to me more the last couple of days but it is. Early on in the pregnancy I stupidly thought it would be nice to have someone to compare notes with!!
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Just need a bit of a vent. A friend of my husband and his wife had a baby around the same time as us. All throughout the pregnancy she would make comments and comparisons. Her bump was much bigger than mine and she would say things like 'x is due around the same time as us and her bump is like mine, you're very small' or 'are you sure of your dates?'. There were concerns about my amniotic fluid levels so I was already a bit paranoid about the size of my bump. When I told her that a chemist nearby had a good price on sterilisers she told me she didn't need it because preparing for bottle feeding was preparing to fail at breastfeeding and that she was definitely going to breastfeed for the first year. I felt bad because my attitude was that I'd give breastfeeding a go and if it worked out great and if not I'd have given her a decent start. I figured that I'd use the bottles and steriliser if I was expressing anyway. When the subject of birth plans came up mine was pretty much go with the flow, if I needed an epidural on the day I'd get it. When she heard that, I was given a lot of facts about epidurals and pain relief and how they slow down labour etc and that I'd be better off not getting one. In the end she ended up getting an epidural and I didn't and her comment was that her labour was more intense over being induced after a labour that failed to progress. One of the other wives reminded her that I had been induced too over being ten days overdue and she more or less said that my labour must not have been that bad. Since the babies have come along the comparisons have been coming thick and fast. Is she doing this yet? How much does she weigh? Oh, she gets that much formula, that's an awful lot. When they were 9 and 5/6 weeks respectively I got 'Oh, she's not sleeping through the night? We've been sleeping through the night for a couple of weeks'. I was still breastfeeding at that stage and was happy with her only waking once a night at that stage, breastfeeding hadn't worked out for her. Olivia started sleeping through the night at around 11 weeks which I thought was great, she really found her own schedule whereas they were sleep training from very early on. On the rare occasion myself or my husband puts a picture of little miss looking cute on facebook she puts one of their baby up within the hour. Now of course it could have been coincidence a couple of times but in the 4 months I've put up 7 pictures and each time she's done it. It's all so competitive. Can't really avoid her as there are a few group occasions coming up. Not sure why it's getting to me more the last couple of days but it is. Early on in the pregnancy I stupidly thought it would be nice to have someone to compare notes with!!
I have a friend similar to that. Its like anything you can do, I can do better!!
But I can guarantee you half of what she is telling you is rubbish! But she will never admit that!!0 -
Just need a bit of a vent. A friend of my husband and his wife had a baby around the same time as us. All throughout the pregnancy she would make comments and comparisons. Her bump was much bigger than mine and she would say things like 'x is due around the same time as us and her bump is like mine, you're very small' or 'are you sure of your dates?'. There were concerns about my amniotic fluid levels so I was already a bit paranoid about the size of my bump. When I told her that a chemist nearby had a good price on sterilisers she told me she didn't need it because preparing for bottle feeding was preparing to fail at breastfeeding and that she was definitely going to breastfeed for the first year. I felt bad because my attitude was that I'd give breastfeeding a go and if it worked out great and if not I'd have given her a decent start. I figured that I'd use the bottles and steriliser if I was expressing anyway. When the subject of birth plans came up mine was pretty much go with the flow, if I needed an epidural on the day I'd get it. When she heard that, I was given a lot of facts about epidurals and pain relief and how they slow down labour etc and that I'd be better off not getting one. In the end she ended up getting an epidural and I didn't and her comment was that her labour was more intense over being induced after a labour that failed to progress. One of the other wives reminded her that I had been induced too over being ten days overdue and she more or less said that my labour must not have been that bad. Since the babies have come along the comparisons have been coming thick and fast. Is she doing this yet? How much does she weigh? Oh, she gets that much formula, that's an awful lot. When they were 9 and 5/6 weeks respectively I got 'Oh, she's not sleeping through the night? We've been sleeping through the night for a couple of weeks'. I was still breastfeeding at that stage and was happy with her only waking once a night at that stage, breastfeeding hadn't worked out for her. Olivia started sleeping through the night at around 11 weeks which I thought was great, she really found her own schedule whereas they were sleep training from very early on. On the rare occasion myself or my husband puts a picture of little miss looking cute on facebook she puts one of their baby up within the hour. Now of course it could have been coincidence a couple of times but in the 4 months I've put up 7 pictures and each time she's done it. It's all so competitive. Can't really avoid her as there are a few group occasions coming up. Not sure why it's getting to me more the last couple of days but it is. Early on in the pregnancy I stupidly thought it would be nice to have someone to compare notes with!!
Tbh Roesy it sounds as tho she is extremely insecure. You sound like you're doing a great job and perhaps this woman is a bit jealous of you? That's the only reason I can think of for all the comparisons. That or she's a complete know-it-all. It's normal to compare notes once or twice but she seems a bit over the top. Just perhaps try and ignore her or change the subject when she brings up the babies.0 -
Just need a bit of a vent. A friend of my husband and his wife had a baby around the same time as us. All throughout the pregnancy she would make comments and comparisons. Her bump was much bigger than mine and she would say things like 'x is due around the same time as us and her bump is like mine, you're very small' or 'are you sure of your dates?'. There were concerns about my amniotic fluid levels so I was already a bit paranoid about the size of my bump. When I told her that a chemist nearby had a good price on sterilisers she told me she didn't need it because preparing for bottle feeding was preparing to fail at breastfeeding and that she was definitely going to breastfeed for the first year. I felt bad because my attitude was that I'd give breastfeeding a go and if it worked out great and if not I'd have given her a decent start. I figured that I'd use the bottles and steriliser if I was expressing anyway. When the subject of birth plans came up mine was pretty much go with the flow, if I needed an epidural on the day I'd get it. When she heard that, I was given a lot of facts about epidurals and pain relief and how they slow down labour etc and that I'd be better off not getting one. In the end she ended up getting an epidural and I didn't and her comment was that her labour was more intense over being induced after a labour that failed to progress. One of the other wives reminded her that I had been induced too over being ten days overdue and she more or less said that my labour must not have been that bad. Since the babies have come along the comparisons have been coming thick and fast. Is she doing this yet? How much does she weigh? Oh, she gets that much formula, that's an awful lot. When they were 9 and 5/6 weeks respectively I got 'Oh, she's not sleeping through the night? We've been sleeping through the night for a couple of weeks'. I was still breastfeeding at that stage and was happy with her only waking once a night at that stage, breastfeeding hadn't worked out for her. Olivia started sleeping through the night at around 11 weeks which I thought was great, she really found her own schedule whereas they were sleep training from very early on. On the rare occasion myself or my husband puts a picture of little miss looking cute on facebook she puts one of their baby up within the hour. Now of course it could have been coincidence a couple of times but in the 4 months I've put up 7 pictures and each time she's done it. It's all so competitive. Can't really avoid her as there are a few group occasions coming up. Not sure why it's getting to me more the last couple of days but it is. Early on in the pregnancy I stupidly thought it would be nice to have someone to compare notes with!!
You ask anyone who has had a baby and they will tell you that they have had some experience of this ha ha it always irritated me but then I had my 2nd and the experience was completely different. On my son I was in absolute Agony and I had the epidural and on my daughter I waltzed it with no pain relief. My so never slept. Total insomniac! My daughter has slept through since 1 week. Breast feeding fail on both. Wasn't arses. If they didn't want the boob I didn't want them to have it. My son was an absolute chunk and hit all the mile stones very early. My daughter is tiny (only in 25 centile in weight but 95 In length so is very gangley lol) and is as lazy at ten months she is moving very little and only has two teeth. Point is I have done nothing different this time around. They are all different. Sure what fun would the world be if they were all the same. She is only making comparisons because of her own insecurity and you will find if you come back with a lot of praise in great a mammy she is it will prob cut a lot of it out :-D0 -
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Just need a bit of a vent. A friend of my husband and his wife had a baby around the same time as us. All throughout the pregnancy she would make comments and comparisons. Her bump was much bigger than mine and she would say things like 'x is due around the same time as us and her bump is like mine, you're very small' or 'are you sure of your dates?'. There were concerns about my amniotic fluid levels so I was already a bit paranoid about the size of my bump. When I told her that a chemist nearby had a good price on sterilisers she told me she didn't need it because preparing for bottle feeding was preparing to fail at breastfeeding and that she was definitely going to breastfeed for the first year. I felt bad because my attitude was that I'd give breastfeeding a go and if it worked out great and if not I'd have given her a decent start. I figured that I'd use the bottles and steriliser if I was expressing anyway. When the subject of birth plans came up mine was pretty much go with the flow, if I needed an epidural on the day I'd get it. When she heard that, I was given a lot of facts about epidurals and pain relief and how they slow down labour etc and that I'd be better off not getting one. In the end she ended up getting an epidural and I didn't and her comment was that her labour was more intense over being induced after a labour that failed to progress. One of the other wives reminded her that I had been induced too over being ten days overdue and she more or less said that my labour must not have been that bad. Since the babies have come along the comparisons have been coming thick and fast. Is she doing this yet? How much does she weigh? Oh, she gets that much formula, that's an awful lot. When they were 9 and 5/6 weeks respectively I got 'Oh, she's not sleeping through the night? We've been sleeping through the night for a couple of weeks'. I was still breastfeeding at that stage and was happy with her only waking once a night at that stage, breastfeeding hadn't worked out for her. Olivia started sleeping through the night at around 11 weeks which I thought was great, she really found her own schedule whereas they were sleep training from very early on. On the rare occasion myself or my husband puts a picture of little miss looking cute on facebook she puts one of their baby up within the hour. Now of course it could have been coincidence a couple of times but in the 4 months I've put up 7 pictures and each time she's done it. It's all so competitive. Can't really avoid her as there are a few group occasions coming up. Not sure why it's getting to me more the last couple of days but it is. Early on in the pregnancy I stupidly thought it would be nice to have someone to compare notes with!!
It's annoying alright! You're both trying to cope, one shouldn't be trying to compete with the other, but support each other. Don't understand it and hope I'm not gonna be like that when my friends have kids!0 -
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My 7 month old has started waking every hour of every night looking to be held.. during the day she's started throwing a tantrum if you don't pick her up.. Please tell me this is just a phase. .
It's just a phase
is there a reason for it? Is she teething? Mine has 2 teeth at 3 months 0 -
June Short Merry-go-round wrote: »It's just a phase is there a reason for it? Is she teething? Mine has 2 teeth at 3 months
She probably is teething but I don't think the teeth will cut for a while so I think this will go on a while I'm also going to go to the doc and demand he give us something for the itching because we haven't had a full night sleep since I can't remember... 0 -
She probably is teething but I don't think the teeth will cut for a while so I think this will go on a while I'm also going to go to the doc and demand he give us something for the itching because we haven't had a full night sleep since I can't remember...
What kind of itching? Is it a rash she has. Try silcox base in the chemist. It's OTC and relatively cheap for a big tub. My gp gave it to us for my son. She will be dribbling a lot and eating her hands with teething. Try a cold teething ring. Put a water or gel filled one in the fridge0 -
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She probably is teething but I don't think the teeth will cut for a while so I think this will go on a while I'm also going to go to the doc and demand he give us something for the itching because we haven't had a full night sleep since I can't remember...
Omg I can't believe the poor child is still itching. I think doctors are reluctant to give prescriptions for things like that. Maybe try a dermatologist?0
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