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Really struggling with the lack of sleep this week. Our eight week old goes down at 9pm and wakes at 1am, 3am and 5 am for a feed. I'm bf and to make both our lives easier I usually go to bed at 9 as well. Last night we were with my brother for dinner and didn't leave until 9.30,i was absolutely shattered. I backed the car into a wall, gave us all a horrible fright and then had to pull to the side of the road to feed the baby. Finally got her down at 11 but she still woke for her 1 and 3 feeds. I was wide awake from 3 onwards and spent most of the night crying. It's the second time this week I've been wide awake for hours in the wee small hours, my sleep patterns are just so out of whack and she's had lots of off nights.
She's going through a leap according to the WW app so I'll try and ride it out but its really bloody hard. It also means I can forget about having any kind of social life, no matter how casual, for a long while as she also settles aftrr the boob
:-( that sounds really tough! Would you consider combination feeding?0 -
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For sure it's tough but it gets better honest
I used to find if my partner did the nappy change and presented her to me to feed then took her off me to settle her back to sleep it helped a lot. It was only really on the weekends but still.
Hopefully you get some respite soon one way or another.0 -
Are you expressing at all? That can be a good way to give you a few more hours at night while maybe your partner gives a bottle? Can also be used for cinema escapes and a cheeky night out. Not a social life as such but could give you a break
I am, I have a decent enough stash building up in the freezer. Long gone are the tubs of ben and jerrys, now it's 20 odd bags of breast milk
Her dad normally gives her a bottle before bed, but at night time it's easier for me to give her the boob than warm the milk and all that jazz. She sleeps beside me so I'd be waking up regardless.
Emmadilemma for some reason I'm really resistant to combination feeding I think I'd feel huge guilt if I was to introduce a bottle, and if it didn't do anything to help I'd feel worse again. I'm very close to trying a formula feed before bed but I hear lots of conflicting stories about whether it works or not. 0 -
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For sure it's tough but it gets better honest
I used to find if my partner did the nappy change and presented her to me to feed then took her off me to settle her back to sleep it helped a lot. It was only really on the weekends but still.
Hopefully you get some respite soon one way or another.
That's what we do at weekends too! I count down the days until Friday evening when I know my husband will be with us for two full days
During the week though there's not really much use in us both being up so he stays in the spare room and gets his rest. He got a promotion at work a little while ago and I don't want his work to suffer from lack of sleep.
Hopefully it will get lots better soon, we'll stick it out for a while yet.0 -
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You are doing really great with the breastfeeding Jerrica, and I know the temptation to cave when you are at the end of your tether to introduce a formula feed. It gets you at your lowest ebb. Its a personal choice. I waited until 3 months before doing it, but it didnt make the baby sleep any sounder or in longer stretches, but for another baby it could have worked a charm. I think seeing how things are after this WW spurt and then deciding about it is a good idea.
All I can say is that this will pass. That was my mantra in the early days, and you'll find in another month or so, the feeds will stretch out and give you more of a break between them. Let yourself have that cry, try to nap where you can, and pat yourself on the back that what you are doing right now is very demanding physically on your body, like a boot camp (boob camp?) but it will get easier. Another few weeks and you will have that social life back, a bit more sleep and you'll feel like you are on top of things again.
That's not to say you'll see the end of those days entirely - I've just been up half the night with a teething toddler and I'm quite frayed this morning. But I know its occasional now and tomorrow he will likely sleep for Ireland and therefore I will too. 0 -
Thanks Emmadilema, not that I'd wish a year of a non-sleeping baby on anyone but it's quite reassuring to hear other people's experiences, and even moreso that they got through it!!
And thank you Neyite, it's very isolating having those bad nights, you feel like you're the only person in the world awake at that awful hour and you'll never sleep or feel sane again!!
Herself has just gone for her morning nap so it's time I joined her...0 -
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@ Baby0103....I'm aware it's normal, I'm just finding it tough, that's what this thread is for right? And as I'm breastfeeding I'm the one who does all the feeding so I don't get a break at all.
I'm not talking about partying every weekend, but to discover that I got that tired half an hour after my usual nine pm bedtime was a bit of a shock, it means spending any time with friends or family in the evening is out the window.
But thanks for your understanding.
it gets better, we are at 20 weeks now and i can stay up until 11pm now
but when he was 8 weeks, i was in bed at 830pm every night, i was so tired :)i couldnt even read.
it will better without you realising. One night you will realise "OMG its 10pm and i am still up"
hang in there, and dont feel pressured into giving your baby formula. the more your baby feeds at night the better it is for you, him and your supply0 -
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I actually feel tormented. Everyone told me solids would help S's reflux. I didn't introduce them until 6 months. Everything we introduce causes the same reaction: hours of screaming. She has full body sweats. She's on the max dose of Losec. On top of that I'm waiting on results to see if there's something wrong with her immune system, which means I'm avoiding toddler groups with my 2 year old in case S ends up in hospital again. C is going through the terrible twos... She misses the groups.
Poor baby and poor you! How long have you had her on solids and what have you tried? Our LO had silent reflux and we too held off as long as possible before starting solids - good job too as the first 3 weeks were very tough on her little tummy She spent every night crying with gas pains and constipation. After the initial 3 weeks she was flying and 4 months on she no longer has reflux. Hope things work out for ye 0 -
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Started her at 25.5 weeks so just 6 months and she's on them just 3 weeks now: so far she's had baby rice, porridge, toast, sweet potato, carrot, parsnip, apple, pear, avacado and banana. And rice cakes. I know it will improve but I'm heartbroken from the screams. She's dropped to the 50th percentile too (from the 93rd). Reflux sucks!! I ate my stir fry using a spoon with her on my lap today because she only wanted me: a fork is a luxury some days
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Wife's been in hospital 5days and I'm home with 2 young kids and now a broken fridge.
The baby hasn't slept so well at night in 9 months and my other son is going to sleep on his own at night.
Last night got the kids bathed, house tidy and a pile of ironing done and fell into bed at 1230. Baby woke at 6 with a dirty nappy and is beside me playing with his feet
I need her home soon.0 -
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