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My 13 mt old though, is still eating like a bottomless pit. I cannot keep her fed. She wallops down her own food, and then screams her head off until she gets some of everyone else's. She has trained her elder sister, as she now hands over most of her own food to the baby when I'm not looking. Randomers passing in the street with food, roars and tries to grab it off them. People in restaurants/cafes with food on plates? Will go right up to them and try to grab their food. On the bus, I pray that no-one sits down and starts to eat anything in front of her. I'm mortified by it. It's like I never feed her.
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:D:D So funny!!! Can just picture it! Just goes to show how different they all are 
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Sorry to hear about all the sick babas – hope all are well soon.
Apologies in advance as this is going to be long - I’m just a big ball of guilt and exhaustion today and I feel completely lost. My little boy is 11 months old and has been in crèche for the past 2 months. He’s a very active and social little fella so he settled into crèche immediately without a single tear shed. In the evenings when I collect him I’ve found he’s a little clingier than he used to be but he’s getting to his tired time too and he’s completely manageable. So daytimes are all good and happy.
Night time is the problem. He has never really slept through the night, but until around a month ago he would only need a pat on the head/some reassurance and he’d go back to sleep. More often than not I might take him into bed with me in the early morning to get an extra hour or two before getting up. On bad nights we might co-sleep for more of the night. When I went back to work this had to stop as I get up for work in the early hours of the morning and OH doesn’t leave for work/crèche drop-off until a couple of hours later. So for the first month or so we made a big effort to keep him in his cot – which meant a lot more time standing by the side comforting him but needs must. However the last few weeks have been terrible. He goes down to sleep no problem – kiss goodnight, we leave the room, and he falls asleep within a few minutes. But when he wakes he is absolutely inconsolable unless I pick him up and hold him or else sleep beside him. He will actually hold onto me in the bed and sleeps with his face an inch from mine. This started happening a few weeks ago at 2/3am but in the last week it’s moved up to 10/11pm so I’m getting no sleep at all before it starts.
Then in the morning when I get up early I have to try and detangle myself and settle him in his cot which inevitably results in him waking and crying. So I’m leaving a crying baby and OH is stuck trying to keep him happy for a couple of hours while he tries to get ready for work. It’s such a stressful start to the day. I was in tears leaving today after a few hours broken sleep and seeing his little face looking at me going.
I know he’s experiencing some sort of separation anxiety and my number one priority for the last 11 months has been to make him happy but something has to give. I think we need to do some sort of sleep training with him to make all our lives easier but I’ve researched it a bit in the past and the key part of all of the training is getting baby to settle himself to sleep at bedtime – which my fella has been doing from when he was tiny. We have tried leaving him to cry for a few minutes but he just gets worse and I don’t think either of us have the stomach for cry-it-out. I feel horrible even thinking about this when he's obviously dealing with a big change in his life - but we need a plan as this just can’t go on... can anyone offer any advice?0 -
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Mary, can I ask why you put him back in the cot when you get up, and not just leave him snoozing beside your partner? If you snuck out but he was still snuggled into your partner and in a warm bed he might not wake up. We got these bed rails that will fit on any ordinary bed for our toddler's bed so you could put that up after you get out.
Our guy would wake up being transferred into a cold cot and he was a terrible sleeper too so we just went along with it for the quiet life. We had a double bed in his room so one of us would go into the bed with him, at least the other parent got a decent sleep. If we had to leave him sleeping, the bed rails went up.
The comforter objects for us were a teddy and soothers, and he needed them more when he started in creche or when he moved to a new room in creche - anytime there was major change in his routine. The soother is gone now, but there is consternation when teddy isn't there.
I will say though, it WILL pass. He's just missing you even though he's probably loving crèche too. But it does feel awful in the mornings leaving to go to work when they are roaring their little hearts out, I used to feel so wretched. 0 -
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We have this too.
He was never the best sleeper. i think the problem for us is creche. he went from being with me 24/7 to seeing me for less than 2 hours a day. So we put it down to seperation anxiety. He got over it with lots of cuddles and reassurances.
he is in the middle of leap 8 at the moment and it is back with a bang.
for the first time ever, I brought him into the bed with me at 9.30pm last night, as i have heavy cold and needed sleep. he slept all night.
my husband isnt going to want to sleep in the office again tonight, so it will probably be me and the man, squished in a single bed in his room, with him snoring in one ear while my husband snores in the double bed and me lying awake screaming in my head for both of them to get away from me or planning an escape route and what bare essentials i need!!
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Hi all,
I'm new around these parts. My son is almost 4 weeks old, and is just fab.
If it's ok to have a it of a moan I'm having a bad day about my own recovery after having him. I developed pre eclampsia and he was born early because of it. I still have high bp problems and while I do my best to stay positive and I've recovered very quickly from the section itself and the mental torture of a prolonged stay in hospital today the bp stuff is really getting me down. It also seems to be bringing back up all the fear and worry of my prolonged hospital stay, emergency section, and the fact that I have no idea how this will pan out and any lasting effects it will have on my body and the idea of any future pregnancies. I feel like every time I pick myself up and tell myself it's all going to be ok a bad bp reading or a pessimistic talk with the consultant bring me crashing down again 0 -
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I'm definitely not an expert, my son is just a month old, but I wouldn't expect a routine at this stage, theyre too young, any routine is pure fluke. Mine did the same, woke every 1.5-2hrs at night for a few days after starting out doing 3-6hr stretches, could be a growth spurt, could be lots of things. He's back now to waking every 2-3hrs, but sometimes he's woken after 40 mins, other times I've gotten 3.5 whole hours...wooo He struggles with windy nappies, its just their digestive system adjusting to being used.. They get bigger, take bigger feeds, sleep longer at a time, but each baby is different. My friend's baby slept for 8+ hours at about 5 weeks with one dreamfeed, she'd have slept all day and night if you let her. Then others have babies still waking multiple times months/years later.
I have the same problem with one offering "help", she seems to think I want a break since the day we came home (I just got him I dont need a fecking break) and when she does visits she just jigs him about driving him mad and doesnt get that if she just handed him to me he'd stop crying. And as for backwards comments about breastfeeding, babywearing, do I not want a drop of Guinness etc70 -
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