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I hope it's okay to do this.
I thought I would draw attention to this post where a mother threw a knife that went through her husband's cheek, but she concocted a story that he was the one who was violent:
https://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=117020830&postcount=408
If you want to discuss that specific incident, best to discuss it on that thread.
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http://www.nuigalway.ie/about-us/news-and-events/news-archive/2021/may/nui-galway-to-launch-first-domestic-violence-leave-policy-in-a-higher-education-institution-in-ireland-1.htmlNUI Galway to Launch First Domestic Violence Leave Policy in a Higher Education Institution in Ireland
UI Galway will launch a Domestic Violence Leave Policy, the first Higher Education Institution to do so in Ireland. The policy will be launched by Minister for Further and Higher Education, Research, Innovation and Science, Simon Harris TD on Wednesday, 26 May.
The purpose of NUI Galway's Domestic Violence Leave Policy is to provide for a period of paid time away from work for staff members who have suffered or are suffering from domestic violence or abuse. This leave will enable the staff member to take the time they need to seek assistance in a structured and supported environment.
Violence be it physical, sexual or emotional abuse by an intimate partner, family member or a child has significant consequences for physical and mental health as well as overall wellbeing. The World Health Organisation has documented the severe health consequences of interpersonal violence including premature death, long-term morbidity, poor mental health, increased risk of substance abuse, and risk with pregnancy outcomes among others.
Less recognised is the impact of domestic violence on the victim’s work. Research by economists in the US, UK and other European countries have established that women who experience domestic violence are at increased risk of absenteeism, more irregular work history, reduced performance at work, limited occupation mobility, dropping out of the labour force and ultimately lower earnings.
Globally there is a growing movement across various jurisdictions that the Equality, Diversity and Inclusion agenda must also address the consequences of domestic violence in addition to workplace harassment and bullying. The International Labour Organisation Convention on Violence and Harassment in the World of Work, to which Ireland is a signatory, explicitly calls for governments and employers to address the risks and impacts of domestic violence in workplace policies.
Higher Education Institutions are not only institutions of learning that contribute to knowledge on deep-rooted social problems such as domestic violence; they are equally places of work committed to creating a safe and respectful working environment that promotes dignity and wellbeing of all members of their communities.
Minister Harris commented: “The impact of domestic violence on victims and their families can be devastating physically and emotionally and their stress can be compounded by the worry of work or not being paid. Support for victims who are working, in the form of paid leave, could be crucial in ensuring that they retain their employment and have the economic capacity to escape an abusive relationship.
“The introduction of the Domestic Violence Leave Policy at NUI Galway marks a critical step forward in ensuring that Higher Education Institutions are safe and supportive workplaces. I really want to commend NUI Galway for this important work and I hope it will be the first of many institutions to adopt such a policy.”
Speaking in advance of the launch, President of NUI Galway, Professor Ciarán Ó hÓgartaigh, said: “NUI Galway is proud to introduce this Domestic Violence Leave Policy, which aligns with our vision and values of respect and excellence of our students and staff as citizens connected to, and contributing to, community and society in Ireland and internationally for the public good.”
New research including that from the Centre for Global Women’s Studies at NUI Galway has quantified the impact of domestic violence on productivity loss with women on average missing 7 to 15 days of work and being less productive for an additional 5 to 10 days. An overwhelming majority of those who experience domestic violence globally are women, with 1 in 3 women reporting a lifetime experience of physical and/or sexual violence by an intimate partner. In Ireland, the equivalent figure is 1 in 6 (15 per cent of women). More women face emotional violence, and in Ireland, twice as many women experience a lifetime of emotional abuse by a partner (31 percent).
Annually, it is estimated that 50,000 women experience physical and/or sexual violence by a current or former partner and approximately 117,000 experience psychological violence by a current partner. During Covid-19 there has been a sharp increase by nearly 43 per cent in calls to organisations such as Women’s Aid and Safe Ireland.
Dr Nata Duvvury, Director, Centre for Global Women’s Studies at NUI Galway said: “More than 30% of women experience emotional violence in their lifetime by a partner, which affects women’s working lives leading to lower productivity and wellbeing. For example, women experiencing domestic violence miss on average 15 days of productive work on a yearly basis.”
Speakers at the launch will include Minster Harris, Professor Ciarán Ó hÓgartaigh and Dr Nata Duvvury, NUI Galway, Louise O’Reilly, Sinn Fein TD for Dublin Fingal and Sinn Fein Spokesperson on Enterprise, Trade, and Employment, Professor Audra Bowlus, Department of Economics, University of Western Ontario, Canada, Josephine Hynes, HR Director, NUI Galway and Eileen Mannion, Interim Chair Equality, Diversity and Inclusion Committee, Údarás na hOllscoile, NUI Galway.
Read NUI Galway's Domestic Violence Leave Policy is available here. The online launch will take place on Wednesday, 26 May from 1pm-2pm and is open to the public.
To register to attend the launch visit: https://teams.microsoft.com/_#/broadcastPlaybackScreen.
The Office of the Vice-President for Research and Innovation have developed the first in a series of ‘research impact case studies’ modelled on the UK Research Excellence Framework. One of the case studies includes Dr Nata Duvvury on the impact of her work in the area of domestic violence. See: https://www.nuigalway.ie/researchcommunityportal/researchimpact/.
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I don't know what the situation is worldwide, but the most relevant data for Ireland are Irish data, and this would not be a fair representation of the situation here.An overwhelming majority of those who experience domestic violence globally are women0 -
New research including that from the Centre for Global Women’s Studies at NUI Galway has quantified the impact of domestic violence on productivity loss with women on average missing 7 to 15 days of work and being less productive for an additional 5 to 10 days. An overwhelming majority of those who experience domestic violence globally are women, with 1 in 3 women reporting a lifetime experience of physical and/or sexual violence by an intimate partner. In Ireland, the equivalent figure is 1 in 6 (15 per cent of women). More women face emotional violence, and in Ireland, twice as many women experience a lifetime of emotional abuse by a partner (31 percent).
Interesting that they didn't feel the need to include the statistics on males receiving domestic abuse, or the lack of research into the area.
Women's studies... As if that doesn't carry historical bias... Meh.
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When I discuss the above with feminist types they jump on the offensive before I can finish the sentence.
I get great satisfaction in saying, "lets leave straight men out of this for a second..." and proceed to talk about lesbian relationships and domestic violence. Watch the wires in their head cause them to twitch. Then talk about homosexual male relationships etc (this one usually results in "yea but thats men" etc therefore it doesn't matter)0 -
Deleted User wrote: »Interesting that they didn't feel the need to include the statistics on males receiving domestic abuse, or the lack of research into the area.
Women's studies... As if that doesn't carry historical bias... Meh.
Oh, I do think it's a good thing.. if it was balanced. But it's not. Its focused entirely on women, with men being the aggressors. Which means that any application will be skewed, and likely unfair towards men.
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http://www.nuigalway.ie/about-us/news-and-events/news-archive/2021/may/nui-galway-to-launch-first-domestic-violence-leave-policy-in-a-higher-education-institution-in-ireland-1.html
I don't know what the situation is worldwide, but the most relevant data for Ireland are Irish data, and this would not be a fair representation of the situation here.
https://twitter.com/ResearchatNUIG/status/1397538014943879172
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https://kildare-nationalist.ie/2021/06/17/kildare-senator-calls-for-a-domestic-abuse-shelter-for-men/KILDARE SENATOR CALLS FOR A DOMESTIC ABUSE SHELTER FOR MEN0 -
No mention of male victims in this Irish Times article:Pandemic has had ‘unprecedented’ impact on victims of domestic abuse
Women’s Aid highlights 43% increase in contacts with its services
https://www.irishtimes.com/news/social-affairs/pandemic-has-had-unprecedented-impact-on-victims-of-domestic-abuse-1.4599570The report says the family law system was “failing to adequately protect children and their mothers when considering custody and access arrangements”.
It is critical that longer-term reforms are introduced with a view to building a “victim-centred family law system that prioritises the safety of women and children subjected to abuse”, it states.
---“Behind each ‘statistic’ we talk about are women we know. Women in our families, in our circle of friends, in our workplaces and at the school gates. Women who are trying to protect and keep safe themselves and their children in the face of unrelenting and devastating abuse.”
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Stats show someone you know must be affected by a violent partner or parent
By refusing to accept that violence against women is not just a problem but an epidemic — we are complicit, writes Louise O’Neill
https://www.irishexaminer.com/opinion/columnists/arid-20433252.html
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Sounds like the opposite of a happy marriage!
https://www.irishtimes.com/news/crime-and-law/man-refused-to-call-ambulance-for-wife-who-was-having-heart-attacks-court-told-1.4600539Man refused to call ambulance for wife who was having heart attacks, court told
Judge grants Protection Orders to man and woman who have been married for 40 years“He drinks heavily, shouts at me and calls me nasty names,” the woman told the judge. “He knows all my movements and where I have been. I am afraid of him.”
Judge Larkin granted the woman the protection order and also granted the husband a protection order after he alleged that his wife hit him with a frying pan.
He said of his wife: “She told lies about me. She said I was abusive and roaring and shouting at her and that I was drinking. She is constantly roaring and shouting at me.”0 -
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By refusing to accept that violence against women is not just a problem but an epidemic
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https://www.irishtimes.com/news/crime-and-law/garda%C3%AD-criticised-by-policing-authority-over-cancellation-of-999-calls-1.4602474Gardaí criticised by Policing Authority over cancellation of 999 calls
Some 3,000 domestic violence calls cancelled with no Garda response for some callers
I'm a bit confused about what exactly happened. At one point, it suggests that some of the issue is a technical "botch" but then later it suggests something a bit different.In some cases when domestic violence victims called 999 they received no response and their calls were cancelled without reason. In other cases, Garda personnel were dispatched to, and arrived at, the home of the caller seeking emergency help. But when a record of the incident was later made on the Garda’s system, that recording process was botched and the call was classified as “cancelled”.The internal Garda investigation into the matter has also found that in some cases, when gardaí called to domestic violence victims’ homes, they failed to follow procedures for dealing with such cases. They did not make further checks, either phone calls or visits, to the victim in the days that followed.
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https://www.irishtimes.com/news/crime-and-law/garda-commissioner-apologises-to-domestic-violence-victims-whose-999-calls-were-cancelled-1.4602571Garda Commissioner apologises to domestic violence victims whose 999 calls were cancelled
Women’s Aid says controversy over Garda emergency calls ‘extremely troubling’
Apart from the reference to Women's Aid, I noticed just one mention of a specific gender in the article based on a quick skim:A large number of domestic violence victims - including vulnerable women and some children - whose calls were not dealt with properly, or at all, reached out for emergency help during periods of strict lock-down last year.0 -
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https://www.irishtimes.com/news/crime-and-law/garda-commissioner-apologises-to-domestic-violence-victims-whose-999-calls-were-cancelled-1.4602571
Apart from the reference to Women's Aid, I noticed just one mention of a specific gender in the article based on a quick skim:
I noticed that the Virgin Media 8pm news gave numbers for the Samaratins and Women's Aid at the end of the piece but gave no mention of any men's support groups.
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A 70-year-old Dublin woman accused of breaking a protection order has been granted bail with a warning she must not put a frightened family member in fear.
The woman, who cannot be identified due to reporting restrictions, appeared before Judge Cephas Power at a weekend sitting of Dublin District Court after she was arrested under the Domestic Violence Act.
The pensioner had been served a protection order on July 21 in which she had been directed not to use or threaten to use violence, or to abuse the man, the court heard.
However, she was arrested at the weekend for breaking the terms of protection order. The judge heard the complainant was “put in fear” and he called gardaí.
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Domestic violence: ‘You don’t know what you are facing when that call comes in’
Families in peril need safe, independent living units, Monaghan-based service Tearmann says
According to official Garda statistics the number of reports of domestic abuse by women in Cavan-Monaghan in 2019 was 224, while there were 55 reports from men.
Note there is some evidence that men may be less inclined to ring the police.
Just one other mention of men in this article:
"While the physical violence is a sickening reminder of why women, and sometimes men, need a safe place to go,"
There was some other gender neutral language such as "families".
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Dear Mary: My ex-girlfriend’s anger towards me may have been abuse, so should I get back together with her?
I became concerned when we had arguments very often, which became very stressful, and in which I began to feel nervous about her behaviour.
On one significant occasion, during an argument, she grabbed my hand and twisted my thumb so that it sprained; on another occasion, while she did not do anything, I felt that she was going to scratch my face if I did not give her the right answer to a loaded question she had asked.
Although it was many years ago, I can still recall a male client who was attending on his own for help with his relationship, and his sense of shame as he showed me his glasses that his wife had broken in a fit of anger. He felt shame because, he said, he had somehow failed her — that was his reasoning for why she broke his glasses.
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Using UK data
The Great Covid Domestic Abuse Epidemic That Never Was
Conclusions
- The police recorded data on numbers of reported incidents classified as DV have been trending up across almost all police forces for at least a decade.
- This contrasts with CSEW [Crime Survey for England and Wales] data on numbers of DV victims which has not been trending up, but either trending down or roughly static.
- A larger number of police recorded DV incidents in 2020 compared with 2019 cannot be taken as indicative of a Covid lockdown effect as it was expected, without Covid, based on current trends.
- Instead the issue of whether 2020 brought an unexpectedly large volume of DV incidents must be explored by measuring any exceedance of reported incidents from that expected based on trends. This measure is provided here by the defined Index of Change.
- More police forces reported data which indicated that the volume of incidents in 2020 was less than expected based on trends than the number of forces reporting greater volumes than expected. This suggests there was no significant “Covid lockdown” enhancement of DV prevalence in 2020 across England and Wales as a whole.
- Based on summing incidents across the 32 police forces responding to my FOI, the overall Index of Change for women victims was negative (-2.3%) whilst for male victims it was positive (+3.8%). These are only small deviations from expectation, but if there is a “Covid lockdown” enhancement of DV across England and Wales as a whole it applies only to male victims.
- Some police force areas do have positive Index of Change, indicating possible local lockdown effects (though I have no evidence that lockdowns are the cause of any enhancement). Of these the West Midlands is by far the most significant, with a 33% excess of incidents involving male victims and an excess of 22% for female victims.
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I notice that this article, "At least 21 serving gardaí have had barring orders issued against them" https://www.irishexaminer.com/news/arid-40722528.html , which doesn't mention gender is classified under "violence against women".
#VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN PLACE: IRELAND PERSON: DREW HARRIS ORGANISATION: AN GARDA SIOCHANAORGANISATION: POLICING AUTHORITYORGANISATION: IRISH EXAMINER
Also interesting the paper has a category for "violence against women". No sign of it being categorised as under "violence against men".
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‘I am beginning to feel trapped and controlled by my partner’
She orders my food, tells me what to wear and constantly checks my phone
The response from the therapist/agony aunt starts as follows:
It does seem as though your partner has an issue with insecurity, and this often manifests as controlling behaviour. It is easy to understand why this insecurity has grown recently as it is only now that she has had to share you with the world and it seems lockdown provided you with a safe environment of only two people and this did not threaten her.
It continues along a similar vein.
There is probably a lot of truth to what she says but it does seem to contrast with how men are talked about if they are controlling.
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What can happen when a biased view of domestic violence is promoted.
And, in particular, if police are trained by biased material (as I believe could happen in Ireland e.g. I've read in the past that Women's Aid can train the Gardai here), it increases the chances of something like this happening where the victim is the person attacked by the police.
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CHICAGO (WLS) -- Body camera footage was released of the deadly police shooting of Michael Craig, a Gresham man who family members say was a domestic violence victim.
https://abc7chicago.com/michael-craig-shooting-bodycam-video-chicago-police/11195538/
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Building Custodian Michael Craig Called 911 Saying Wife Had Knife To His Throat, But Craig Was The One Shot And Killed By Police
https://chicago.cbslocal.com/2021/11/03/copa-police-shooting-michael-craig-auburn-gresham/
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More than 2500 hair salons around Ireland have joined a new initiative to detect signs of domestic abuse among clients and follow up with assistance and support. The partnership between Women’s Aid and the Hair and Beauty Industry Confederation (HABIC) will see staff trained on how to identify domestic abuse among clients and offer help. It also aims to educate both customers and employees on the prevalence, nature of domestic abuse and support pathways that are available.
Skimming the article, it only highlights female victims and presumably the campaign will do something similar.
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I can't help but see the connection between the above post and the one just before it.
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Domestic abuse and coercive control: Are men inherently violent and misogynistic?
Richard Hogan looks at domestic abuse and the dangers of coercive control
https://www.irishexaminer.com/lifestyle/people/arid-40745412.html
As one person commented on Twitter:
Write that headline about any sub-group and and it would be clearly racist etc. And then it’s not backed up with data (and I’m sure there’s plenty out there), just anecdotes. One day it will be seen as embarrassing.
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'Extremely limited' housing options mean domestic abuse victims are 'hidden homeless'
People leaving an abusive household can experience "hidden homelessness", with many left to cope independently in the absence of adequate financial means to find a solution.
A new report for Focus Ireland also found that children who leave an abusive home can have unmet needs and that there were "numerous" barriers of access to domestic violence services, including capacity issues.*
The research project, conducted by Dr Paula Mayock and Fiona Neary, began in April 2019 and includes findings from February of this year. It involved more than 120 participants, including 17 parents as well as local authority personnel and focus groups working in the domestic violence and homeless service sectors.
https://www.irishexaminer.com/news/arid-40760217.html
*My comment: Or no accommodation services at all for male victims
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From the full report:
"Coercive control is highly gendered, with women the victims and men almost exclusively the perpetrators (Stark, 2007)."
Stark, E. (2007) Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life. Oxford: Oxford University Press.
I'm not convinced
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Pope Francis condemns domestic abuse as 'almost satanic'
but only against women it seems 🙁
Pope Francis has condemned domestic violence against women as "almost satanic", in some of his strongest language yet on the issue.
The head of the Catholic Church made the remark during a programme broadcast on Italy's TG5 network on Sunday.
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Great to see this article in the Irish Independent yesterday. Unfortunately, it is behind a paywall.
‘We’ve had calls from men who have suffered 50 years of domestic abuse. They can’t start a second home’
Around one in seven men in Ireland have been subjected to domestic violence, with very few reporting it to the Gardaí or confiding in others. We look at why the level of reporting is so low, and ask why there is no refuge for male victims of domestic abuse and their children
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Great to see this article in the Irish Independent yesterday. Unfortunately, it is behind a paywall.
‘We’ve had calls from men who have suffered 50 years of domestic abuse. They can’t start a second home’
Around one in seven men in Ireland have been subjected to domestic violence, with very few reporting it to the Gardaí or confiding in others. We look at why the level of reporting is so low, and ask why there is no refuge for male victims of domestic abuse and their children
Some extracts:
But there is a lack of recognition of male victims of domestic abuse at a government level. There is simply not enough money, regardless of gender, being put into the whole area. “We receive 1pc of the €26 million national budget. We don’t want a bigger cut of the pie, we want a bigger pie,” says Bentley.
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And yet there are no wrap around services provided by the state. No social workers to help them with their social welfare, housing issues, the gardaí or even counselling for children if their mother is the aggressor.
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He says: “It was happening so slowly I didn’t see it. It started off as breaking cutlery, throwing stuff on the ground or in my general direction. After a while she was throwing them at me.”
James was working nights to pay the mortgage. “While I was in work she’d cut up my clothes or throw water in the bed so I couldn’t get to sleep. Or she’d slash my tires so I couldn’t go to work. Eventually she stabbed me.”
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“I got a protection order. After that, you are given a date by the court for a safety order. But she went tit for tat, and we were both granted it, even though she had no evidence and I had both police and hospital records. That’s when the guards told me I had to be really careful. It ended up just putting me in more danger. I then moved out.”
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Bentley says: “There is no consistency with judges in terms of their ruling. They haven’t done training to be able to understand the dynamics of domestic violence. Safety orders are not enforced and men must have a higher burden of proof. It is also much more difficult for men to obtain protection and safety orders when experiencing emotional and mental abuse.”
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Again, no mention of male victims:
Violence against women insults God, Pope says in New Year’s message
Francis appears in good form at St Peter’s Basilica for church’s World Day of Peace
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Francis wove his New Year’s homily around the themes of motherhood and women – saying it was they who kept together the threads of life – and used it to make one of his strongest calls yet for an end to violence against them.
“And since mothers bestow life, and women keep the world (together), let us all make greater efforts to promote mothers and to protect women,” Francis said.
“How much violence is directed against women! Enough! To hurt a woman is to insult God, who from a woman took on our humanity – not through an angel, not directly, but through a woman,” he said, in a reference to Jesus’s mother Mary.
During an Italian television programme last month, Francis told a woman who had been beaten by her ex-husband that men who commit violence against women engage in something that is “almost satanic”
Since the Covid pandemic began nearly two years ago, Francis has several times spoken out against domestic violence, which has increased in many countries since lockdowns left many women trapped with their abusers.
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https://www.rte.ie/news/2022/0102/1269512-mens-aid/
Men's Aid has reported a 30% increase in demand on its domestic violence support services in 2021 compared to 2020.
The charity has reported disclosures of female partners biting, scratching, kicking, slapping and stabbing and men attending appointments with visible bruises, black eyes and stitches.
It also reports daily disclosures of coercive controlling behaviours; invisible abuse that family, neighbours, and work colleagues cannot see.
Emotional, psychological, verbal, and mental abuse were reported as the most harming and difficult to heal from, Men's Aid said.
The service says that even if legal orders are in place such as safety, protection or barring orders, there are no consequences for breaches, as judges have not to date put a female in prison for domestic violence / coercive control crimes.
Men ranging in age from 18 to 88 used the service in 2021, from all backgrounds, Men's Aid said.
It supported men of 25 nationalities in the first quarter of 2021.
Helplines to help you this Christmas
Men's Aid also said there was an increase of over 100% on child protection referrals to Tusla during 2021 compared to 2020.
Kathrina Bentley, CEO of Men's Aid, said despite the prevalence of violence against men in Ireland, they were very disappointed that no refuge accommodation was available to men, for fathers and children to flee abusive homes this Christmas.
"We are awaiting the final draft of the Accommodation Review and are hopeful it makes invisible men visible.
"We are also waiting on the third National Strategy document which is due out in March by the Department of Justice. This strategy will be addressing domestic violence for the next five years, including funding allocation, and it is imperative that it reflects reality with an equality, inclusion, victim centric approach," she said.
Men's Aid said on Wednesday this week, its first full day open since Christmas Eve, it had 17 calls to its helpline, and made one child protection referral to Tusla.
"We are heading into a difficult few weeks when we usually see an increase in men struggling with their mental health due to an abusive partner, family violence during Christmas," Ms Bentley added,
"To date our funding is less than 1% of the approx. €30m funding for women services, it's not about taking funding from women’s services who need more, but increasing the funding to be equal so we can respond with adequate service provisions."
Men's Aid Ireland
Supporting men experiencing domestic violence
01 554 3811
www.mensaid.ie
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Trinity, UCC, UCD and DCU to introduce paid domestic violence leave in 2022
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Mr Harris warned that domestic violence remains “a pervasive problem in our society”, noting that cases had increased significantly during the pandemic.
“Figures for 2020, show that the Gardaí received some 43,000 calls to respond to domestic abuse incidents, a 16 per cent increase on 2019,” he wrote.
“Nearly 15 per cent of women between the ages of 18-74 have experienced physical and sexual violence in their lifetime, and nearly 31% have experienced psychological violence,” he added.
“While the risk to women is higher, domestic abuse also affects a significant number of men.”
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Domestic abuse funding
UK
Women £500+m
Men £0.5m
Scotland
Women £12.6m
Men £12.6k
Can you see it?
https://twitter.com/LizArch17512994/status/1464290198876004355?s=20
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Hi Antoinette,
We created a bespoke module for AGS with the help of Karl Heller’s experience. For AGS to learn about recognising responding referring a male victim. Unfortunately no one has reached out to us just yet to start introducing this new online/in person module #Training
https://twitter.com/katebentleykb/status/1480099306304638979?s=20
Chief Executive @mensaidireland
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Great to see another good article on Independent.ie male victims of domestic violence and this time it's not behind a paywall:
‘I was so terrified of my abusive ex,’ says husband thrown out of home
One-third of victims of domestic violence are male, yet they receive only 1pc of the budget allocated to the issue
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‘Real men don't hit women’ – Gardaí confront man who allegedly hit a woman on Dame Street in Dublin
I wonder would he have talked to a woman who had/appeared to have hit a man, like that?
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New refuges to be opened as part of government plan to tackle domestic violence
There are nine counties that still do not have refuges for women and children
No sign of any refuges for men. So much for any sort of effort to have equal access to services based on gender.
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Fifth of young women feel they have no control over their money
https://www.irishexaminer.com/news/arid-40800075.html
Training by Women’s Aid is currently being rolled out across the banks, focusing on recognising and responding to customers who may be subject to financial abuse and coercive control, the BPFI said.
I wonder whether this training is gender neutral? Parts of the rest of the article suggest that my not be the case:
According to Women's Aid, coercive control is a "persistent pattern of controlling, coercive, and threatening behaviour, including all or some forms of domestic abuse".
The abuse can be emotional, physical, financial, or sexual, including threats by a boyfriend, partner, husband, or ex. It traps women in a relationship and makes it impossible or dangerous to leave, Women's Aid says.
Women's Aid also stated that financial abuse is a "form of domestic violence in which the abuser uses money as a means of controlling his partner".
It is a tactic that an abuser uses to gain power and dominance over his partner and is designed to isolate a woman into a state of complete financial dependence, the organisation says.
Can anyone find this report
The press release seems quite biased only focusing on young women, even though they don't seem to be doing the worst in every category:
The key findings from the research, carried out by Amárach, show:
One in five (22%) younger women (18-34 years old) said they did not have control over their financial affairs – twice the proportion for all respondents (11%)
41% of younger women reported finding it difficult to manage money, compared with 29% overall
36% of younger women said they found it difficult to collect money owed to them, compared with 23% overall
Almost one-third (31%) of younger women said they had relied on help from others and almost half of those were being helped at the time of the survey. This compared to 21% and 25% across all respondents respectively.
Despite emerging as a cohort experiencing difficulty in managing their finances, younger women are less likely to be concerned that someone might take advantage of them financially, with only 17% expressing concern compared with 27% overall.
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Same research, another article, mentions:
But men had more anxiety about financial exploitation, with 30pc saying they were concerned someone would take advantage of them financially compared to 23pc of women.
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‘I thought he was the best thing since sliced bread’ – ex-partner of abusive Fair City actor speaks out in RTÉ special on domestic abuse
Offaly is one of nine counties that has no refuge.
“The midlands seem to be this black hole – we seem to be getting the scraps from the table,” Offaly Domestic Support Services manager Anne Clarke tells RTÉ Investigates.
“Coercive control is extremely common for a male victim. If you are a man in this country, you have zero options for a refuge, there is nowhere to go.”
“Some services do help, and support men, but there are very few. Women predominantly remain the highest ratio as domestic abuse victims, and that is why the services are directed more for women.
“Our service is different, we support male victims as well, percentage wise 25pc of our clients would be male.”
International figures indicate one in nine men have experienced abuse from their partner.
RTÉ Investigates spoke with a male victim, who took his case through the courts.
“It is something that just crept up on me and I didn’t realise I was in that situation until the day I called a halt to it,” Peter (not his real name) said.
“I realised things were not normal. My goodness today I can look back and say no, things were not normal. It is not normal to not have control of your money, it’s not normal to be put down, it’s not normal to have things thrown at you, to be slapped. You are treated like, nearly like a dog.
“I did not see it until the end. You cannot help a person like that. You have to run, I should have run years ago. The warning signs were there. Who do you turn to? Who is going to believe you? And if you even tell someone, are they going to believe you?”
RTÉ Investigates - Domestic Abuse, A Year Of Crisis, this Monday, February 7 at 9.35pm on RTÉ One and RTE Player
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‘We talk a lot about women not being safe outside – but for so many, being at home is the most dangerous place’
Ann, originally from Kells in Co Meath but now living in Berlin, has created the graphics that illustrate the harrowing testimonials of abuse victims on this evening’s episode of RTÉ Investigates Domestic Abuse, A Year in Crisis. (RTÉ One, 9.35pm)
In preparation, the production team sent Ann over audio recordings of survivors’ accounts. The clips were disturbing and resonated with her at a profound level.
She only seems to talk about drawing women, which suggests nearly all the survivors on the programme were female.
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Here is how RTE themselves describe it. Looks very imbalanced though I haven't read the article.
Domestic abuse in Ireland - a year in crisis
RTÉ Investigates spent time in a number of women's refuges across the country, hearing stories of women who had suffered domestic abuse.
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Woman put coins in husband’s food during ‘appalling’ marriage breakdown
Child’s welfare in jeopardy, says judge, due to ‘vile’ behaviour of couple forced to live together
At the Family Law Court, the man said that he was “at the end of my tether” after his former partner at one stage put coins from their daughter’s piggy bank into his pasta and on other days threw rubbish onto his food and threw his “settling” steak on the floor.
The woman admitted to putting coins in the pasta but did not recall throwing the steak on the floor.
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Well they couldn't spend any time in any men's domestic violence refuges because there aren't any.
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State's response to domestic and sexual violence to be overseen by new agency
Sexual and gender-based offences also to fall under remit of proposed new statutory body
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Functions of the new agency, while yet to be fully determined, will include the delivery of services to victims of DSGBV, as well as providing helplines and other support, coordinating government action, and gathering data to inform future policy and awareness campaigns. The new agency will answer to the Minister for Justice and follow policy direction they set.
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Irishwoman jailed in Australia for killing her fiancé is to be freed and deported this week
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The fatal incident occurred when Mr Walsh launched an unprovoked attack on a man who had been invited back to their house in Padstow, Sydney, by Cahill and two other female housemates after they met him at a pub.
Cahill, who had also been drinking, tried to stop the attack, then took out a large, very sharp knife from the cutlery drawer and stabbed him.
Police and paramedics were called, but he was pronounced dead at the scene.
At the time she had been on a good behaviour bond after she was convicted of recklessly wounding him with a glass candle holder in 2015.
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#BAMS4NI (Boys And Men Strategy for Northern Ireland) is a campaign in Northern Ireland to try to get a specific strategy for domestic abuse of boys and men in Northern Ireland.
More information here:
and here:
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Most attacks on women carried out by partners, Garda statistics show
Experience of violence very different for men and women, according to data
“It’s quite different for men in that the ‘blood relative’ is still a factor, there is familial violence. But the overwhelming set of cases
for men is where the offender is unknown to them; that unexpected attack or violence.”
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Female victims were “almost exclusively” attacked by partners, former
partners or other family members. However, the vast majority of males
who fell victim to attack were assaulted by people who were not known
to them, Mr O’Sullivan said.
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This was posted to a group I'm on. I've only just realised from 2011 but still interesting enough.
Pioneering Domestic Violence Advocate Who Refused to Discriminate Leaves Lasting Legacy
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Aug 15, 2011, 07:35 ET
TORRANCE, Calif., Aug. 15, 2011 /PRNewswire-USNewswire/ -- She changed the lives of thousands, perhaps millions, but few know her name. Patricia Shanley Overberg, MSW, died of heart failure in Torrance, California, on August 11, 2011, with her children at her side. Overberg, a native of Providence, Rhode Island, was 77.
With the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) due for reauthorization this year, Overberg's views on discrimination are particularly timely. Trained in an era before most social work programs adopted the philosophy that all domestic violence is rooted in patriarchy, she believed that family violence needs to be viewed holistically. Her commitment to the principle of equal treatment for all informed everything she did.
Although most VAWA-funded battered women's shelters force mothers of boys over age 12 to place their sons in foster care or be denied entrance, Overberg refused to require mothers to choose between their own safety and their children's well-being.
When male victims, whether on their own or with their children, sought help, she didn't turn them away. Overberg was director of the Valley Oasis Shelter in Lancaster, Calif. from 1989 through 1998. During that time, Valley Oasis was the only shelter in the U.S. that men needing help could turn to. Even today Valley Oasis remains one of the very few shelters in the U.S. that offers the same level of services to male as to female victims.
Overberg treated gay men and lesbians with the same respect and level of service accorded to everyone she helped. She pioneered in bringing a transgendered volunteer on board at Valley Oasis.
Erin Pizzey, founder of the first modern battered women's shelter, says: "Pat was a brave, honest and courageous woman. She faced persecution from her colleagues in the domestic violence field and fought back. All of us who work at the coal face of human relationships owe Pat a great deal."
Because of Overberg's principled refusal to discriminate based on sex or sexual orientation, many of her peers treated her as a pariah. In a 2002 sworn deposition, Overberg testified that she "was subjected to continuous abuse by other shelter directors for sheltering battered men." (http://www.ncfmla.org/pdf/overberg.pdf)
Undaunted, Overberg encouraged the National Coalition for Men (NCFM) to bring suit to end the discrimination against male victims of abuse and their children. Helped by Overberg's testimony, NCFM won a landmark ruling that held it is unconstitutional for California to exclude male victims from state-funded domestic violence services. (David Woods v. Horton (2008) 167 Cal.App.4th 658, http://law.justia.com/cases/california/court-of-appeal/2008/c056072.) The effects of this ruling are far-reaching. All states are now on notice that equal protection clauses in constitutions mean what they say. State funds cannot be used to support agencies that discriminate on the basis of gender.
Overberg's legacy lives on for all victims of domestic violence and in efforts to provide equal access to services for people everywhere.
RADAR (http://www.mediaradar.org) & NCFM (http://www.ncfmla.org)
SOURCE RADAR & NCFM
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Pay-walled article that's well worth checking out:
‘When men contact us, the first thing they’ll talk about is the constant, day-after-day putdowns’
Andrea McDermott is the social care manager for Men’s Aid Ireland and says there has been a surge in the number of male domestic abuse victims seeking support over the last 18 months
A few extracts:
When men get in contact with us, the first thing they’ll usually talk about is the mental torture and the constant, day-after-day putdowns — ‘You’re useless, look at the size of you, who’d want you?’
When I ask if there is violence in the relationship, they will generally say no. But then, as we get to the end of the call, they might say, ‘Well, she throws things at me every now and again’ or ‘There’s been a few slaps but I’m okay with that’.
They don’t see the violence as significantly as when I’m working with a woman who is being abused. The first thing she will talk about is the violence, whereas it’s the last thing a man will talk about.
And men will usually play it down and make excuses for their partner’s behaviour. They’ll say, ‘It’s not her fault, she grew up in an abusive household’. Or if she comes from a different country, they’ll say, ‘It’s her culture, she doesn’t mean to do it’.
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There tends to be more violence, sexual abuse and murder when the perpetrator is male, while female perpetrators are more inclined to use coercive control and make false allegations. They say things like, ‘If you don’t do as I say, I’ll tell everyone you’re the abuser. I’ll go to court and get a domestic abuse order and they’ll believe me because I’m the woman’. Or they’ll say, ‘If you leave, you’ll never see the children again’. Some men feel like they can’t leave the relationship because she has threatened suicide.
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