Net cost of wedding

Melanoma

Hi folks wondering if you had a wedding costing 25,000 for 250 guests. Well what type of presents might you get and how far into the cost of the wedding would it go.

This is not for myself I'm not getting married I'm just curious if anyone did get married without 250 guests.

Variables like if your from a wealthy background obviously I'm just thinking about if it was your average couple getting married.

That said I don't mind any answers but I don't want to qualify it with answering loads of questions, just looking for a quick answer.

Thanks,

P

January

That's like asking how long is a piece of string.

Assume each couple gives at least 100 euro.

12,500?

Some won't give a gift, some will give more and some will buy an item for a gift.

Melanoma

January wrote: »

That's like asking how long is a piece of string.

Assume each couple gives at least 100 euro.

12,500?

Some won't give a gift, some will give more and some will buy an item for a gift.

Okay so I will try to be clear I know that its like how long is a piece of string my point is I'm just looking for people opinions 12,500 is one. I don't mind if people are accurate and would prefer if people just say from their own experience what happened. I know some people will buy gifts too. I am more interested in a ball park figure than definitive answers as I know there is no such thing.

Moonbeam

Our wedding cost more with less guests.
I think we had 150 guests.
The presents do not go anywhere near covering the cost of the day but we did not expect them to either.
We wanted our friends there with us to have a big party not to pay so that we could have one.

Millem

Melanoma wrote: »

Hi folks wondering if you had a wedding costing 25,000 for 250 guests. Well what type of presents might you get and how far into the cost of the wedding would it go.

This is not for myself I'm not getting married I'm just curious if anyone did get married without 250 guests.

Variables like if your from a wealthy background obviously I'm just thinking about if it was your average couple getting married.

That said I don't mind any answers but I don't want to qualify it with answering loads of questions, just looking for a quick answer.

Thanks,

P

My friend tells me roughly you get 50-60% back in cash. And the expect to be surprised who gives you what! She found a lot of people who would not have spare cash to be very generous and others who are very comfortable to give much less or nothing in some cases.

Melanoma

Moonbeam wrote: »

Our wedding cost more with less guests.
I think we had 150 guests.
The presents do not go anywhere near covering the cost of the day but we did not expect them to either.
We wanted our friends there with us to have a big party not to pay so that we could have one.

I am sorry to say that this is not really answering the question that I have asked. Please reserve answers to actual amounts. So far people are just telling me what I already know which I appreciate.

Some people might not have gone over with a calculator or had time to I can totally appreciate that too.

I am only interested in those though that did.

So maybe,

Cost of wedding =
Value of money presents =
Value of other presents approx =

That's all folks.

Toots

Why are you looking for this information, OP?

Melanoma

Toots* wrote: »

Why are you looking for this information, OP?

Does that matter? I am curious, I'd like to know. I suppose if I ever was to get hitched it might be good to know ahead of time instead of asking people closer to the time. I enjoy knowing things. I'm fairly mathematical. It would be embarrassing to ask someone in person and it might be hard for them to answer. Only so many people you ask would remember or have recorded it.

Please only answers. Why so many questions for a very simple question??

I dunno maybe I sound annoyed but I'm just trying to satisfy my curiosity.

Melanoma

Millem wrote: »

My friend tells me roughly you get 50-60% back in cash. And the expect to be surprised who gives you what! She found a lot of people who would not have spare cash to be very generous and others who are very comfortable to give much less or nothing in some cases.

Thanks, I guess you can look at other answers in boards.ie for costs etc. but its hard to know roughly what the net cost would be. If assuming your maths was correct for a cost of 25,000 and I know circumstances so many variables but by that it might cost 12,500 maybe 10,000 if your lucky.

That is more than I'd though but I am not surprised either. Of course there could be higher costs or lower but this was her experience and that's exactly what I am looking for actual people's experience

Millem

Melanoma wrote: »

I am sorry to say that this is not really answering the question that I have asked. Please reserve answers to actual amounts. So far people are just telling me what I already know which I appreciate.

Some people might not have gone over with a calculator or had time to I can totally appreciate that too.

I am only interested in those though that did.

So maybe,

Cost of wedding =
Value of money presents =
Value of other presents approx =

That's all folks.

In relation to the presents she didn't put a monetary value on them. She got an unbelievable about of wine glasses (all different sets) and cutlery. Oh and random pictures! She actually exchanged some of the gifts to the shop where possible.
Costs vary widely for price per guest for wedding some people pay €50 some places go well over €100 per person and that is just for food and wine! One place I looked at was coming in at €230 a head ! (Insane) don't forget then to add photographer, band, flowers, cars etc the list goes on!

catrionanic

i think it also depends on the type of venue, cost per head etc. most people will give more money towards a fancy wedding where they know their places cost 70 a head, than they would for a hog roast in a village hall that cost 25

Melanoma

catrionanic wrote: »

i think it also depends on the type of venue, cost per head etc. most people will give more money towards a fancy wedding where they know their places cost 70 a head, than they would for a hog roast in a village hall that cost 25

Very true.

I'm looking for the average wedding average couple ANSWERS, if people give answers for really cheap wedding or really expensive I'm not really interested but its up to people to use between their ears to determine that and I'm interested in answers!!!!

Just remember folks if your reading I don't care about anything but answers involving money cause other factors I already know but can't write a 20,000 word essay going over every qualifying factor.

In any case earlier someone said 10,000 - 12000 net on a 25,000 budget which seems fair enough.

Anyone do a wedding (traditional, hotel, good meal your more normal wedding) think differently?? Remember its the net cost I'm interested in.

Other aspects like if you have a red carpet spend an extra 1000 on flowers etc not interested. I dont need to know all the details of a specific wedding.

A cousin of mine got married and it must have cost over 40,000 but he had plenty of money.

I'm just interested in the net cost people EXPERIENCE when spending circa 25,000 euro.

ahnowbrowncow

Melanoma wrote: »

I am sorry to say that this is not really answering the question that I have asked. Please reserve answers to actual amounts. So far people are just telling me what I already know which I appreciate.

Some people might not have gone over with a calculator or had time to I can totally appreciate that too.

I am only interested in those though that did.

So maybe,

Cost of wedding =
Value of money presents =
Value of other presents approx =

That's all folks.

No.

It's a pretty stupid thread for a number of reasons. The main one being no one knows the answer. I also dislike the mentality of getting your guests to pay for your wedding.

Melanoma

Millem wrote: »

In relation to the presents she didn't put a monetary value on them. She got an unbelievable about of wine glasses (all different sets) and cutlery. Oh and random pictures! She actually exchanged some of the gifts to the shop where possible.
Costs vary widely for price per guest for wedding some people pay €50 some places go well over €100 per person and that is just for food and wine! One place I looked at was coming in at €230 a head ! (Insane) don't forget then to add photographer, band, flowers, cars etc the list goes on!

Yea I have a handle on costs through other posts in boards.ie

The hotel I'd be interested in costs 54 euro a head for there medium priced meal package and it is a good package.

I guess most people loose track of the costs as they go and don't really count it all up so I know this is a hard question to answer but I feel there are people out there that can give me their experience the details of costing etc I'm not interested in.

January

He wants people to tot up what they paid for their wedding versus what people gave them in gifts. Only greedy people do that.

Melanoma

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

No.

It's a pretty stupid thread for a number of reasons. The main one being no one knows the answer. I also dislike the mentality of getting your guests to pay for your wedding.

Guest will not pay for your wedding but big difference between a 25000 budget and a 12,500 budget net. Of course its maybe a bit crass but that's why I'm asking it here. Its a genuine question and there are several variables but as I say I'm only interested in answers not being told my question is wrong.

NinjaTruncs

January wrote: »

He wants people to tot up what they paid for their wedding versus what people gave them in gifts. Only greedy people do that.

I think s/he is trying to figure out how many people to invite to break even.

lazygal

I don't know anyone who's wedding paid for itself with cash gifts. Its a silly way to budget, some people won't give even a card, others are beyond generous.


Sensible people budget for their parties,weddings included, and don't expect guests to foot the bill.

Melanoma

January wrote: »

He wants people to tot up what they paid for their wedding versus what people gave them in gifts. Only greedy people do that.

Maybe January if you don't like the question then you don't have to answer.:D

I think making a 12,500 cost on a 25,000 budget is hardly being greedy. That is to say if you greedy you would be making a profit. This loss making venture is about creating a great day for guests and having great memories and its never about just the cost, but right here right now in this thread that is all I want to know. That is totally not the case in the actual world where I would be far more concerned about other aspects and I feel bad that you are calling me greedy when I have only in my mind been trying to figure out a genuine concern about the cost of getting married and having some idea of what that would be.

Sure I just want an answer sure its a bit mechanical maybe so but its wrong to say that makes me greedy. It wrong factually in the question being asked and it would not describe me.

Its totally legitimate to want to know. Some people go abroad to avoid the big expense and hassle involved and others over spend and later regret it.

There is no harm, nothing wrong with wanting to know ahead of time. If you have lots of money fine but if you do not surely this is a genuine question. I'm just not at all sure any question on money to do with weddings and costs and the net cost will ever be something that is easy to ask but I'm asking it and I'm not greedy, I just want to know so I could plan for the net cost and its hard to believe that something that will cost you money would mean your greedy!!!:D

Melanoma

lazygal wrote: »

I don't know anyone who's wedding paid for itself with cash gifts. Its a silly way to budget, some people won't give even a card, others are beyond generous.


Sensible people budget for their parties,weddings included, and don't expect guests to foot the bill.

I am looking for people to answer the question about what they experienced not to pay for the wedding ???? is this just trolling???

Melanoma

NinjaTruncs wrote: »

I think s/he is trying to figure out how many people to invite to break even.

No i am not

Pinch Flat

Its a bit sad to read such a materialistic slant on a wedding

lazygal

Melanoma wrote: »

I am looking for people to answer the question about what they experienced not to pay for the wedding ???? is this just trolling???

Why do you want to know? Are you trying to plan how to pay for a wedding?

Moonbeam

In that case allow 250x50 so 12500.
Some people give more,some people give presents and some people give less but allowing 50 euro as an average per guest is probably as accurate as you will get.

I kind of feel sorry for anyone relying on money from their guests to pay for the wedding. They must feel under tremendous pressure to put on a big day.

lazygal

I don't know why anyone expects others to contribute to their decision to hold a celebration when they solenmise a relationship. It costs 200 euro total to get married in Ireland. Any costs outside that are a choice, and referring to it as a loss making venture is bizzare. Its a party, not a business proposal.

Millem

Melanoma wrote: »

Yea I have a handle on costs through other posts in boards.ie

The hotel I'd be interested in costs 54 euro a head for there medium priced meal package and it is a good package.

I guess most people loose track of the costs as they go and don't really count it all up so I know this is a hard question to answer but I feel there are people out there that can give me their experience the details of costing etc I'm not interested in.

My friend's meal was around the €60 mark (her wedding cost around €25,000) and had around 250 guests she said she got around €15,000 in cash presents which would be around 60% of the cost. Her venue also let her pay a big part of the bill the next day which was very handy as a lot of people gave her the presents a few days before the wedding. Her brother in law got married a year earlier (so a lot of the same guests) had the same number of guests and cost around the same but got less monetary presents around €12,500.

Melanoma

Millem wrote: »

My friend's meal was around the €60 mark (her wedding cost around €25,000) and had around 250 guests she said she got around €15,000 in cash presents which would be around 60% of the cost. Her venue also let her pay a big part of the bill the next day which was very handy as a lot of people gave her the presents a few days before the wedding. Her brother in law got married a year earlier (so a lot of the same guests) had the same number of guests and cost around the same but got less monetary presents around €12,500.

Thanks a lot Millem, just goes to show that there is a huge variation in presents but the idea that say 50% might be realistic in planning the wedding puts the cost between say 10 and 12,500 for a 25000 budget.

Others might find it costs more than that but it gives you an idea of what might happen.

Whatever way it works out its going to be expensive but its no harm having some idea ahead of time.

clint_silver

Number of factors involved, how much they had to spend to get to your wedding, how well youre liked, when its on, how old they are, how much is family so theyed know your own situation and know you could do with the cash rather than wine glasses.

That said, the average as said many times on here is 100 per couple. You might invite 100 people and expect to get 5k if that was the case but you may get less than the average which maybe 4k

You may invite 250 people and expect to get 12.5k but end up with 15k as you get over the average or then again you may get under the average and end up with 5k if your not really liked and people have to travel from dublin to the backend of nowhere where accommodation costs 300e a night.

Electric Sheep

clint_silver wrote: »

Number of factors involved, how much they had to spend to get to your wedding, how well youre liked, when its on, how old they are, how much is family so theyed know your own situation and know you could do with the cash rather than wine glasses.

That said, the average as said many times on here is 100 per couple. You might invite 100 people and expect to get 5k if that was the case but you may get less than the average which maybe 4k

You may invite 250 people and expect to get 12.5k but end up with 15k as you get over the average or then again you may get under the average and end up with 5k if your not really liked and people have to travel from dublin to the backend of nowhere where accommodation costs 300e a night.

Why would someone attend the wedding of a couple they didn't really like? Especially one in the backend of nowhere!

Electric Sheep

lazygal wrote: »

Why do you want to know? Are you trying to plan how to pay for a wedding?

It's a touchy subject - nobody wants to admit they factor in the wedding gifts to the price of the wedding, but most people having a large wedding do it.

clint_silver

Electric Sheep wrote: »

Why would someone attend the wedding of a couple they didn't really like? Especially one in the backend of nowhere!

family obligation? reciprocal invites?

lazygal

Electric Sheep wrote: »

It's a touchy subject - nobody wants to admit they factor in the wedding gifts to the price of the wedding, but most people having a large wedding do it.

They're setting themselves up for money worries so. Why plan a large wedding and then expect guests to foot the bill?


If I knew the op and that they described their wedding as a loss making venture I'd be strongly tempted to give a toaster.

Melanoma

lazygal wrote: »

They're setting themselves up for money worries so. Why plan a large wedding and then expect guests to foot the bill?


If I knew the op and that they described their wedding as a loss making venture I'd be strongly tempted to give a toaster.

Lazygal I am not getting married I am just interested in what the net cost of big wedding is. Rather than think about the splinter in my eye maybe ......

Of course you are trolling. Totally trying to take over a discussion about what the net cost of wedding is by trying to make it into a discussion about the person that posted the question.

So sad that your actually getting annoyed by somebody for being greedy that
A is not greedy
B is not getting married
C is not interested in making money from getting married
D will not be making a profit or a loss from a wedding

This is a genuine question that people that are getting married are entitled to have answers to and it would be a hard question to ask in the real world because people like you might jump to conclusions.

So my advice is to spend some time come up with some toast to describe someone who gets things a bit wrong and likes to not answer a question asked but make up a reason to get annoyed.

lazygal

Melanoma wrote: »

Lazygal I am not getting married I am just interested in what the net cost of big wedding is. Rather than think about the splinter in my eye maybe ......

Of course you are trolling. Totally trying to take over a discussion about what the net cost of wedding is by trying to make it into a discussion about the person that posted the question.

So sad that your actually getting annoyed by somebody for being greedy that
A is not greedy
B is not getting married
C is not interested in making money from getting married
D will not be making a profit or a loss from a wedding

This is a genuine question that people that are getting married are entitled to have answers to and it would be a hard question to ask in the real world because people like you might jump to conclusions.

So my advice is to spend some time come up with some toast to describe someone who gets things a bit wrong and likes to not answer a question asked but make up a reason to get annoyed.

Genuine question, why do you want to know this information? Are you a wedding planner who wants to advise couples how much they'll "make"? Why is anyone "entitled" to know what invited guests will give as gifts? The conclusion I've come to is that people plan weddings outside their budget, and build projected cash gifts in to bulk up the spend they decide on or plan on using cash gifts to offset the expenses, when they speculate on their loss making ventures, or weddings.

Millem

Electric Sheep wrote: »

It's a touchy subject - nobody wants to admit they factor in the wedding gifts to the price of the wedding, but most people having a large wedding do it.

I agree! I got completely disillusioned with it after adding up all the costs and then not to mention the cost on the guests! My friends and family told me not to be silly and that guests don't mind the cost of going to a wedding. I just want to elope

username123

Millem wrote: »

I agree! I got completely disillusioned with it after adding up all the costs and then not to mention the cost on the guests! My friends and family told me not to be silly and that guests don't mind the cost of going to a wedding. I just want to elope

I hate the cost of going to a wedding. I've attended weddings where the couple got married early in the day in the back ar$e of nowhere (not near or between either sets of families) necessitating staying two nights somewhere to attend. Having to take time off work is a killer too, one year I was invited to 7 different weddings and only 1 was on a weekend day, needless to say, there was no holiday that year for me, between hens and weddings I'd barely any holidays left to take from work let alone the cost.

Having experienced all of the above, I DID elope!

The Master.

I got married abroad but not many people cam abroad but we went for a chinese buffet back in Ireland when a few went not 250 thoughb but we got some presents abroad and some people who gave gifts didnt pack many big things because it was the time of baggege restrictions at airports but it was lucky because we went to Spain where they were using euros and we spent a few euros in Spain so dont really know what we got as presents and when we came back we didnt get a lot of money presents because a few who werre at the buffet had been abroad and had already gave some things.
Really hope this helps.

Melanoma

Millem wrote: »

I agree! I got completely disillusioned with it after adding up all the costs and then not to mention the cost on the guests! My friends and family told me not to be silly and that guests don't mind the cost of going to a wedding. I just want to elope

Hi Millem,

Its always an expensive day out and I usually go alone and give between 80 and 100 euro and 100 sterling for cousins (in the north).

I've gone to maybe 15 of my cousins wedding and about another 30 from friends, neighbours to people I work with.

I always enjoy weddings. They are a great way for family to meet though my Aunts and Uncles are all getting old now they'd be annoyed if a year went by with out one (40 cousins on one side).

I think if you invite people you know and neighbours everyone is always okay with it. Sometimes you can't cause of the hotel costs involved. You have to be selective. But once I'm going to a wedding I never mind the present too much.

I'd say most people are glad to see people they know getting married. Sometimes with neighbours that you don't know their kids getting married its a bit like ... but then these local weddings are a great way to get to know people.

It really is a huge day and you'll always remember it so I'd agree with what people say and just go for it enjoy it and have the memories after that. Starting out its a cost most couple can do without but if you don't do the big day you can't do it again after.

Best of luck hope your day is great!!

Dietsquirt

Melanoma wrote: »

Hi folks wondering if you had a wedding costing 25,000 for 250 guests. Well what type of presents might you get and how far into the cost of the wedding would it go.

This is not for myself I'm not getting married I'm just curious if anyone did get married without 250 guests.

Variables like if your from a wealthy background obviously I'm just thinking about if it was your average couple getting married.

That said I don't mind any answers but I don't want to qualify it with answering loads of questions, just looking for a quick answer.

Thanks,

P

€8769

Toots

Melanoma wrote: »

Does that matter? I am curious, I'd like to know. I suppose if I ever was to get hitched it might be good to know ahead of time instead of asking people closer to the time. I enjoy knowing things. I'm fairly mathematical. It would be embarrassing to ask someone in person and it might be hard for them to answer. Only so many people you ask would remember or have recorded it.

Please only answers. Why so many questions for a very simple question??

I dunno maybe I sound annoyed but I'm just trying to satisfy my curiosity.

Ok then......so long as you're not looking for information to populate a survey or write an article.....

You're not going to get a straight answer on this, there are an absolutely massive amount of variables when it comes to weddings. Also there's no way to know what guests will give as presents until the big day.

kippy

Lots of variables.
You could make a rough guess that on average you'll get about 75 euros per person (this would take into account those that gave less/more and/or gave actual gifts as opposed to cash), that average would change depending on the "how long is a piece of string" variables mentioned earlier.
Which would be around 18000 for 250 people.

We spent about 2/3 of our budget on the wedding and 1/3 on a four week "extravagant" (some might say) honeymoon and if I were doing it again I'd have made the honey moon even more extravagant and cut back on the little bits and pieces in the wedding to cover it.
Really enjoyed the honeymoon, great memories and I'll never be able to do that trip again.
Really enjoyed the wedding day too mind, great to have all friends and family in one place, if none of them gave a gift it wouldn't have bothered me. Its not what its about.

Electric Sheep

lazygal wrote: »

They're setting themselves up for money worries so. Why plan a large wedding and then expect guests to foot the bill?


If I knew the op and that they described their wedding as a loss making venture I'd be strongly tempted to give a toaster.

I totally understand where you are coming from, but it does seem that over the past few years the peer pressure around weddings has become ridiculously intense, and everyone seems to feel the need to keep up with/outdo their friends' weddings. Of course, they can't afford to pay for it, but they'll have it anyway.

Millem

username123 wrote: »

I hate the cost of going to a wedding. I've attended weddings where the couple got married early in the day in the back ar$e of nowhere (not near or between either sets of families) necessitating staying two nights somewhere to attend. Having to take time off work is a killer too, one year I was invited to 7 different weddings and only 1 was on a weekend day, needless to say, there was no holiday that year for me, between hens and weddings I'd barely any holidays left to take from work let alone the cost.

Having experienced all of the above, I DID elope!

One of the weddings we got invited to this year started on a Thursday and finished on a Sunday! I didn't go just sent the OH It was the other side of the country so OH had to stay in a hotel for 2 nights and came home the Saturday! Him and the lads shared and it just worked out so much cheaper! We were talking about the whole wedding presents in work a few months ago and one woman was complaining saying she had two weddings (down the country) to go to this summer (herself, her husband and 3 kids, 2 of which are 17 and 19) she reckons it was going to cost her €400-€500 for each wedding. She was delighted with herself as she bought a cutlery set in house of Fraser that was on sale (reduced from €300 to €100) I laughed to myself as I thought of all the cutlery my friend got!

username123

Electric Sheep wrote: »

I totally understand where you are coming from, but it does seem that over the past few years the peer pressure around weddings has become ridiculously intense, and everyone seems to feel the need to keep up with/outdo their friends' weddings. Of course, they can't afford to pay for it, but they'll have it anyway.

Did that carry on not all stop post 2007/2008?

Melanoma

Toots* wrote: »

Ok then......so long as you're not looking for information to populate a survey or write an article.....

You're not going to get a straight answer on this, there are an absolutely massive amount of variables when it comes to weddings. Also there's no way to know what guests will give as presents until the big day.

Okay so I am looking for the experience others have not a definitive answer as I already said.

BTW I feel other folks answers have now answered the question to my satisfaction.

Some day maybe I dunno not exactly a dream but maybe I'd have liked to have had a big day out in any case

lazygal

Electric Sheep wrote: »

I totally understand where you are coming from, but it does seem that over the past few years the peer pressure around weddings has become ridiculously intense, and everyone seems to feel the need to keep up with/outdo their friends' weddings. Of course, they can't afford to pay for it, but they'll have it anyway.

I've noticed weddings have become a lot simpler in recent years. Lots of couples paring back guest lists, not bothering with cakes/favours/getting less expensive dresses and not having honeymoons right after the wedding. If you want to keep up with the Jones' don't rely on or except your guests to pay the shortfall.

Melanoma

username123 wrote: »

Did that carry on not all stop post 2007/2008?

That is true, for me its about a good meal, good speeches and a good couple and how well you know them.

The extra on top of extra stuff got out of hand and I often heard guests complaining about the extra stuff as being a little foolish.

God knows the brides and grooms this type of stuff it must put them under a lot of pressure.

Every wedding is a bit different but essentially they are pretty much the same. Things like having jugglers in and fireworks well often at the back of that are rich parents but the guests really are like ????

Fair enough though for those with lots of money.

Electric Sheep

username123 wrote: »

Did that carry on not all stop post 2007/2008?

Judging by the two weddings I attended in 2013, no.

Toots

Melanoma wrote: »

Okay so I am looking for the experience others have not a definitive answer as I already said.

BTW I feel other folks answers have now answered the question to my satisfaction.

Some day maybe I dunno not exactly a dream but maybe I'd have liked to have had a big day out in any case

Honestly, the best advice I can give you is if you're planning the wedding, leave out offsetting gifts altogether. Just don't think about it that way at all. Most people have a rough figure in the back of their minds about what they estimate to get, however nobody talks about it because it is fairly crass to discuss. Also, no matter how well founded your expectations are, if you're budget includes money you expect to make as gifts then you're heading into dangerous waters you never know, auntie mary who gave all the other cousins massive cash gifts might have had a tough year and is only springing for a toaster!

Here's a rough amount from my own wedding, can't remember it exactly but here goes:

Cost of wedding: Roughly €17,000
This included the dresses, suits, car hire, flowers, church donations etc, legal fee, photographer, dj, hairdos, hotel package, cake, upgrade to champagne on arrival for all the guests and round of drinks of guest's choice for toast. I could be leaving stuff out but that's what I remember.
Gifts is harder to estimate because we were given most of them on the day, however a lot of people gave them to us if they saw us in the weeks running up to it. I think in cash we got about 3-4k, and I've no idea what value would be on the other gifts because I never considered how much they were worth moneywise, to me they're priceless because of sentimental value.

Oh forgot to add, we had 119 at our wedding, 96 adults and 23 kids.

pwurple

Our wedding was just less than 70 people in the noughties.

I'm also an excel nut, and still have the budget tracker document. The wedding cost was 9673.

We kept a list of gifts, so I could thank people specifically for what they had given us when we went to write the thank you cards later on. Had a quick check, 60% of attendees gave us monetary gifts (cash). I didn't record the individual amounts... expect for a handful of couples who were engaged at the time, where we were going to their wedding shortly.


The advice given by Toots is sound. Don't include expected cash gifts as part of your budget. You will in turn be invited to those weddings or similar, so it all balances out.

ABajaninCork

pwurple wrote: »

I'm also an excel nut, and still have the budget tracker document. The wedding cost was 9673.

Funny you should say that. I too married in the noughties, and I still have my budget spreadsheet with all the costs in £'s as well as Euro. (I organised my wedding from the UK). Worked out the VAT too and was pleasantly surprised to find all prices here included it! I also have my list of presents and who gave what so that we could personalise the Thank You cards mentioning the gift.

I won't go into specifics though!