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September 2014 Babies Club
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Aww mia sounds like ye are having a tough time alright, but things always seem a lot worse when sleep deprived and sick
Please don't beat yourself up about it .... He should take a break from the running and get himself better and ye should try and get a new nanny (if at all possible). It is always hard when your support network is limited, and it is probably more so for him as social groups are probably more of the mommy-baby variety :-/ Are there any kiddy places nearby that he can bring R to? Indoor / soft play areas? Just getting out of the house for even an hour a day can make all the difference. At least the baby is becoming a toddler now and he is more interesting 
they are pretty boring for the first year!! 0 -
Aww hugs MIA, it's so tough when you feel like you've no support system. For the first 11 months of A's life we were living in a different city to our friends and family so I was very much on my own with the baby while hubby worked. I thought people would be flocking to babysit but I was wrong
I'm lucky that we've moved now, not long after I went back to work, so family help with childcare. My sis lives abroad and I think being far from family makes it hard for her to want kids, it really is difficult.
Lol Karmella, I thought the first year was super interesting!!!
Quick question: A has been standing since 10 months, she cruises around furniture and will walk short distances holding your hand or pushing a cart. But she's nearly 13 months now and she's not showing any interest in standing and walking unaided. It's like she's lacking confidence? It makes me paranoid maybe they missed something with her hip xray at 6 months, although probably unlikely. I'm inclined to leave her to it, as she seems to be a talker instead of a walker, but when should I start getting concerned? If she hasn't walked by 15 months? 0 -
FurBabyMomma wrote: »
Lol Karmella, I thought the first year was super interesting!!! Quick question: A has been standing since 10 months, she cruises around furniture and will walk short distances holding your hand or pushing a cart. But she's nearly 13 months now and she's not showing any interest in standing and walking unaided. It's like she's lacking confidence? It makes me paranoid maybe they missed something with her hip xray at 6 months, although probably unlikely. I'm inclined to leave her to it, as she seems to be a talker instead of a walker, but when should I start getting concerned? If she hasn't walked by 15 months?
Ha ha FBM I kinda meant from a dad's point of view
Regarding walking - EVERY child is different
My older boy could push a little trolley at 10 months but didn't take a step on his own until 16 months! And the baby at 13 nearly 14 months is really only showing interest in cruising now and has no interest in taking steps whatsoever. And if I put a pair of prewalker shoes on him he goes mental. So even my 2 boys are different!
I'd say she's grand a while anyway, taking steps while holding your hand or pushing a cart is a great milestone and she'll take those steps when she's ready 0 -
Ah thanks ladies for your support It is hard being away and I'm sure there are plenty in the same boat with all the people who have moved away (although if I was living next door to my own mother I'd have another list of complaints!). It is good to have somewhere like this to vent. I must say that hubs has actually got on very well as a stay-at-home dad, but full time is a bit much for him along with being sick etc. (getting him to stop running is a whole other thing, but his doctor might make him). He does go to baby music and story time sessions a couple of times a week, and to the local playground most days. He talks to other parents there but yeah it is all mums. They are friendly to him but he hasn't made any friends from there. He hasn't really any Dad-friends or Mom-friends but he hasn't tried to make any either. I make a lot of effort to meet Mom-friends and go to groups and keep in touch with people even though I'm back at work. It sucks as I'm not really a very social person but I think I need to do it because I can't do it all in isolation!
He has a lot of fun with R which is lovely to see. In many ways I'm really glad that he gets to spend this time with him and get so close to him, which wouldn't have happened if we stayed in Ireland and he was working. I try to think of that when the whole 'he is living here because of me' thing gets me down (FYI we moved to the US because I got a job and hubs followed me)
We are trying to get R into a daycare here rather than another nanny (nanny is too expensive and as we found, not secure) but the waiting lists are insane. One associated with my work is very long, we signed him up the day before he was born (early) and we are now number 55 on the list! Another, we are about 15 on the list. another only takes kids at certain times of year, next intake is Jan. And the other place we found is from 18 months up, so that'll be the end of Feb. the other daycares are either way out of our price range (>$1000 a month for just 2 days a week) or like dungeons in basements. Seriously, no windows at all and no outdoor access! and still not cheap! What is childcare like in ireland, price wise?
I'm just back from a 'women's careers' seminar here and one of the main problems was access to affordable childcare! So I'm not alone. Maternity leave and imposter syndrome were the others. sigh.
Enough moaning! Yeay for all the cruising! it is such a fun stage to see them motoring along and start to wobble off. R was totally content cruising and was not happy at all if he wasn't holding on to something, he wouldnt take a step for ages. So I thought it would be ages before he took off by himself and it did take a while but he is walking properly now. (He came 3 weeks early in August so he is a bit older than most babies here). Now we are on the next level of baby proofing and he gets super excited if we chase him around the apartment, he squeals laughing and waits for us to catch him then runs/toddles off again, it is hilarious and lovely
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MIA I think being a stay at home parent is such a strange one after being working. It really depends on your personality. Before I gave birth I thought I'd be rushing out the door to work at 6 months. But even though I had a bit of cabin fever on my orwn with baby every day, I didn't want to go back! The only thing that made it bearable at 10 months was I was pregnant so already on a countdown. I think at this point if I could work 2 days and stay at home the others it would be perfect.
Karmella that makes more sense
Yeah everything in their own time. Although since I posted she's figured how to stand up from the floor unassisted for a couple of seconds so reassuring to know she will get there eventually! 0 -
FurBabyMomma wrote: »MIA I think being a stay at home parent is such a strange one after being working. It really depends on your personality. Before I gave birth I thought I'd be rushing out the door to work at 6 months. But even though I had a bit of cabin fever on my orwn with baby every day, I didn't want to go back! The only thing that made it bearable at 10 months was I was pregnant so already on a countdown. I think at this point if I could work 2 days and stay at home the others it would be perfect.
Karmella that makes more sense Yeah everything in their own time. Although since I posted she's figured how to stand up from the floor unassisted for a couple of seconds so reassuring to know she will get there eventually!
Part-time work would be lovely alright!0 -
I got R a new pair of shoes. the weather is a bit colder here now and he can't go barefoot all the time so I got him a pair with a nice soft sole. He was all interested in them after I put them on him, sitting on the ground and touching them while making his 'look at the new thing!' sound (he has no words yet just sounds). It was very cute 0
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Aww that is so cute. My little spud is pointing and making little sounds instead of words too. it's just adorable!!
He hates shoes though!! I have a couple of pairs of the soft ones from my older boy and he kinda loses it and rips the off , I'll have to persevere maybe, as he is starting to get a little stronger on the legs and socks are a disaster they are so slippery.0 -
I got AJ'S first pair of shoes last week, 4.5 wide. They are so dear and you get so little time out of them! He figured out how to get up and down his slide by himself
. 4 weeks walking alot more stable though still has his drunk walk when he is tired. No words here yet, no pointing or waving either. Clapping though! Today he made the same repetition of sounds when I asked him what he said, so I think he is trying to communicate. Uh oh the only phrase here, and strings of mamamamuma when upset 0 -
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comongethappy wrote: »I got AJ'S first pair of shoes last week, 4.5 wide. They are so dear and you get so little time out of them! He figured out how to get up and down his slide by himself . 4 weeks walking alot more stable though still has his drunk walk when he is tired. No words here yet, no pointing or waving either. Clapping though! Today he made the same repetition of sounds when I asked him what he said, so I think he is trying to communicate. Uh oh the only phrase here, and strings of mamamamuma when upset
Yes the Clarks are fierce expensive alright! I remember the first pair I bought for E and thinking jeez I wouldn't spend this much on a pair of shoes for myself And I can only find one of them as well! But C is much later getting on his feet anyway so maybe the 2nd pair I got will do him. Suppose I'll have to get him measured anyway. No doubt he's a completely different size! 0 -
comongethappy wrote: »I got AJ'S first pair of shoes last week, 4.5 wide. They are so dear and you get so little time out of them! He figured out how to get up and down his slide by himself . 4 weeks walking alot more stable though still has his drunk walk when he is tired. No words here yet, no pointing or waving either. Clapping though! Today he made the same repetition of sounds when I asked him what he said, so I think he is trying to communicate. Uh oh the only phrase here, and strings of mamamamuma when upset
Ah the drunk tired walk! So funny!0 -
How are the little babs doing?
My little guy got croup last weekend. It's nasty out. Well it sounds an awful lot worse than it actually is, but grim all the same. I rang the out of hours doc last Sunday morning because he had an awful wheeze and a cough that sounded like a seal - a real bark. Anyway it was a quick consult and he confirmed my google search that it was croup. And its viral so there's nothing to be done really. So I just had to sit there (or lie there all night) and listen to the wheeze for 3 days Everyone at work said it was doing the rounds right now. He was happy enough in himself but at night it was worse and he would wake himself up.
So needless to say I am absolutely exhausted and am now sick myself with a cold
So, 14 months now & he still has no interest in walking and his only words are 'uh-oh' and 'there' - so cute although he does kinda say night night too while waving bye bye. 0 -
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Croup is doing the rounds here at the moment too. R has had a cough for a couple of weeks and its got worse in last few days, walking him up at night very upset. He threw up from coughing on Friday night, scared the hell out of me as he is not a puker usually. Brought him to the doc Saturday morning and its just a bad cough, nothing worse, we just have to ride it out. He's all stuffed up now too. Poor pet, he's miserable at night! It could be worse though. There is also some hand-foot-and-mouth disease going around the city, hope to God he doesn't get that! I regret googling it
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comongethappy wrote: »Hi MIA, heading home for Christmas, will be our first flight! Are you heading home for the holidays?
Nope, we'll be here but my parents and brother are coming over on Dec 26th for a week. I think my parents have their bags packed since September! They're dying to come over. Good luck with the flight! Bring lots of toys and snacks for entertainment i found that people were generally very understanding and helpful, which surprised me! 0 -
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Bit of an eventful few days here. Went down south to visit friends over thanksgiving and we weren't in the door but I hurt R's arm holding his hands going down a step and he wouldnt move the arm. it was just there by his side and he'd cry any time we touched it. Of course, we were in the middle of nowhere on a holiday evening and we'd just changed health insurance so I had a mild internal panic attack with visions of not finding a doctor or finding one but getting massive bills. I swear, fear of the health system here will drive me home. Rang our doctor's office which was closed but got put through to a nurse in the hospital who thought his shoulder was dislocated and to bring him to an emergency care center but it wasn't life threatening so no major panic. I also called a friend of mine who is a paediatrician and she said the same. I found a place 2 hr drive away. So, long story short, we gave him some dinner and then I breastfed him with the hope of putting him to sleep so we could drive there. But when feeding, he just started using the arm again and pushing himself up with it like normal. He was back to normal! No idea why or anything. Anyway, he seemed fine so we just put him to bed and he was fine since. We had his 15 month check up today so I thought we'd get him checked out then. Doc reckons it was 'Nursemaid's elbow' and some part of his elbow slipped around. So got a few xrays done to make sure he didn't chip a bone or something. all ok in the end. But also the doctor was concerned that R doesn't have any words yet. She said he should have about 2-5 words. She checked him out a bit more and said that his interaction is fine, so she didn't suspect autism, but she wants to send him for an ear test and to a speech therapist. That was a bit of a shock, I know that most kids have a few words at his age but I wasn't concerned for him as I thought it would just come in time. I told her that his Dad was very late to talk, which seemed to make her more concerned. So have to go make those appointments now. Whatever it is I'm sure we'll deal with it, but still can't help worry over it 0
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Oh mia that was very eventful few days alright!!! I can just imagine the panic when the little mite wasn't moving his arm?!!
I don't know what to say about the speech though, I'd be of the opinion that all kids are different but I guess if the doctor wants to check it out maybe there's no harm. :-/. My fella doesn't have many words really either, just uh-oh & no. But his dad reckons he is way more chatty than his brother at the same age... As in he is more interactive - maybe not saying an actual word but you'd know that he is shouting at his brother about something. I put it down to him having the sibling.
Like your little man is probably not around other kids all the time so maybe not so chatty as a result? I don't know - nor am I an expert!! Sure see what they say....
He only started clapping his hands over the weekend and still has no interest in walking
Ps: hope his elbow is ok!?!0 -
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A question for ye - do ye tell the grandparents about any worries or issues with your kids?
I don't tell my parents anything negative about R at all, as they are so in love with him they get awful worried if there is anything at all going on with him, especially my mother. She has dreams about him being hurt or drowning (I don't want to think about how that reflects on me as his mother!) So I just don't tell them, I don't see the point in worrying them about something they can't do anything about. But my husband will tell his parents stuff like R's arm or the speech issue just as bits of news. I've asked him not to this time as our parents occasionally talk but also I don't want to worry his parents. He thinks I'm nuts! Am I being too overprotective of my parents? 0
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