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Birneybau wrote: »

Slightly tenuous but the sense of entitlement from this one:

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/jan/22/my-parents-in-law-have-gone-back-on-a-promise-to-give-us-their-house

Edited version below.

arayess wrote: »

well they did lie to her.
I'm not say she isn't entitled - but nothing boils my piss than people like her in-laws who promise to do something and then back out.

terrible idea anyway doing anything of that sort with family

kylith wrote: »

They didn't lie to her, they changed their minds. And frankly I can't say I'd blame them; she sounds like a horrible person.

The problem with these kinds of stories is that no clue is given as to the nature of the agreement. Was it something that someone brought up one Christmas after a few glasses of wine, or did they actually sit down to discuss and agree something? Who initially proposed the idea? The in-laws' change of mind appears very different depending on which of those scenarios the 'agreement' emerged from in my opinion.

But I have to agree with kylith that the tone of the letter really comes across as horrible, plus the revelation in the reply that the letter-writer is now withholding access to the grandkids, as punishment for the in-laws.

arayess

kylith wrote: »

They didn't lie to her, they changed their minds. And frankly I can't say I'd blame them; she sounds like a horrible person.

saying you'll do something and then not doing it is lying - in my simple world.

of course, changing your mind and leading somebody along is perfectly reasonable because "she sounds like a horrible person" ...ok so...

It sounds like they didn't even change their mind just chose to ignore the situation and divert it sideways.
Nonetheless it was a dicks move on the part of the parents in law , not saying she comes out of it much better,.

but I agree with the above poster too - we've no idea the context.

kylith

Well, yes, context is everything. If they'd drawn up a legal agreement and the family were all packed up and ready to move in then that would definitely have been a dick move. As it stands we have no idea if they meant it at the time and then decided that it actually wouldn't suit them (or they just plain decided they wanted to stay in their own home), in which case they could have handled it better, or if they got tipsy and the complainant really pushed the idea and they drunkenly agreed only to sober up and think 'she didn't actually think we were serious, did she?' Moving into someone's home is something I'd be asking 'are you sure? Are you absolutely certain?' right up until unpacking had been done.

Actually, it reminds me of a situation in my family. My uncle owns a house which is inhabited, maintained, and rented by his youngest child. An older brother moved back from abroad with his wife and kid and the wife started demanding that the youngest be evicted and her husband given the house because it's in Dublin and he 'needs it for work' because he has a job in Dublin, even though she insisted they rent a family home near her family in Wexford.

rawn

I get the feeling that the woman in the article pushed the idea onto them and they felt cornered. Then went away and tried to plan a way to gently let her know it's not happening (i.e. showing her available houses for rent). I couldn't imagine ANYONE wanting to move from the house they worked hard to pay for, and most likely put a lot of money into making it their home, to move into a poky flat and have to rely on someone else to pay the rent on it for you? How on earth does the woman think that it was an attractive idea to them 10 years into their retirement, it's not like she's homeless!

Canterelle

Had flu last week and on Friday boss asked if I wanted to leave a bit early, at 5 minutes to usual quitting time! Takes that long to shut down etc anyway.

liz lemoncello

Birneybau wrote: »

Slightly tenuous but the sense of entitlement from this one:

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/jan/22/my-parents-in-law-have-gone-back-on-a-promise-to-give-us-their-house

Edited version below.

My favourite line:

They had a golden chance to help us,

As if the in-laws had just been waiting for the honour.

charlietheminxx

That article made me so angry. The CHEEK of that woman. Ah sure, she gave them grandkids, they owe her a house.

bottlebrush

Am single and live on my own in a small four bedroomed house, I work fulltime and I have two dog.
Am regularly asked, not just by family, why I wouldn't make do with a single or two-bed apartment or house, why I work and why I would be bothered with dogs..
Of course, single people don't entertain or have people stay over, single people don't have to pay bills and don't love animals. Simples.

rawn

A few tips from Britain's most frugal Gran

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/how-live-like-britains-most-7251953?ICID=FB_mirror_main

Toots

rawn wrote: »

A few tips from Britain's most frugal Gran

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/how-live-like-britains-most-7251953?ICID=FB_mirror_main

Mother of god.....

TitianGerm

rawn wrote: »

A few tips from Britain's most frugal Gran

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/how-live-like-britains-most-7251953?ICID=FB_mirror_main

How does bathwater keep your house warm exatly?

Eutow

A couple of splashes of quash in hot water equals a coffee how? Sounds depressing and is depressing.

M5

The hazards of stinginess

Don’t worry about keeping the house perfect. I think of mine as just a pile of bricks. It has a few roof tiles missing and could do with a new window, but it does for me.

Ends up with wet rot in the roof, water damage to exterior walls and electrics, ends up forking out 30k to fix when the tiles would cost 50 quid to resolve.

Markcheese

emmetkenny wrote:

How does bathwater keep your house warm exatly?

If she was properly mean she wouldn't have a bath,showers use less water and energy, mind you not washing at all 'd be even cheaper :-)

Squall Leonhart

I know of two brothers in their 30s who when they decide to have a pint go to the local bar, buy one pint, and share it between then and then leave. Same lads if they turn up at a house party will find other peoples nearly empty (warm!) bottles and cans and finish them off..

razorblunt

rawn wrote: »

A few tips from Britain's most frugal Gran

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/how-live-like-britains-most-7251953?ICID=FB_mirror_main

Winding down your time on this Rock and not enjoying yourself. That's a very depressing situation.

Then again, being frugal makes her happy, I guess.

BeardySi

emmetkenny wrote: »

How does bathwater keep your house warm exatly?

Well if it's warmer than the air in the room, heat will transfer until they're the same temp... I'd imagine the effect would be pretty negligible by the time you've actually had the bath though. Plus the energy to heat that much water surely could heat the room more efficiently.

cowboyBuilder

Originally Posted by rawn
A few tips from Britain's most frugal Gran

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news...FB_mirror_main

This doesn't bother me, she needs to be stingy, she has a crappy pension..

What does annoy me is when people live like that and have about $500,000 stuck in a bank ..

Fakman87

One sad story always stick with me. My dad worked with the guards for several years and told me about an elderly man that died.

He rented a small shed that was in a woman's back garden. Over time the woman, who was in her 60's became appalled at the man's poor standard of living and began buying him food, clothes and so on when she was doing her own shopping. She would also invite him into her home daily as he refused to heat the shed and kept it in poor condition.

This went on for 15 years until the man eventually died. The woman had taken care of him for all that time and was his only friend. When he died it was revealed that he had over 4 million punts in his bank account and had left every penny of it to a distant nephew in England.

cowboyBuilder

Fakman87 wrote: »

One sad story always stick with me. My dad worked with the guards for several years and told me about an elderly man that died.

He rented a small shed that was in a woman's back garden. Over time the woman, who was in her 60's became appalled at the man's poor standard of living and began buying him food, clothes and so on when she was doing her own shopping. She would also invite him into her home daily as he refused to heat the shed and kept it in poor condition.

This went on for 15 years until the man eventually died. The woman had taken care of him for all that time and was his only friend. When he died it was revealed that he had over 4 million punts in his bank account and had left every penny of it to a distant nephew in England.

Jesus christ .... my blood is boiling !!!

Thargor

Treadhead wrote: »

Well if it's warmer than the air in the room, heat will transfer until they're the same temp... I'd imagine the effect would be pretty negligible by the time you've actually had the bath though. Plus the energy to heat that much water surely could heat the room more efficiently.

You just leave it to cool, that way the heat comes back into the house instead of being flushed down the drain, I remember my grandmother doing similar.

Gandhi

Am I the only one whose brain put the last two posts together like this?

cowboyBuilder wrote: »

Jesus christ .... my blood is boiling !!!

You just leave it to cool, that way the heat comes back into the house instead of being flushed down the drain, I remember my grandmother doing similar.

wally79

Gandhi wrote: »

Am I the only one whose brain put the last two posts together like this?



You just leave it to cool, that way the heat comes back into the house instead of being flushed down the drain, I remember my grandmother doing similar.

No

gimmick

Birneybau wrote: »

Slightly tenuous but the sense of entitlement from this one:

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/jan/22/my-parents-in-law-have-gone-back-on-a-promise-to-give-us-their-house

Edited version below.

Back to this again. What a spa. The line which really stands out is

We struggle in this poky flat while every day these people who haven’t worked a day in the last 10 years swim around in space and a garden they don’t need. They don’t socialise.

I am guessing they are retired. They own the house outright as is mentioned in her letter. So one would assume they worked for some time to clear the mortgage. But now she feels that they don't deserve the house to relax in their retirement?

perhaps they reneged on the agreement because this person is a horrible person who doesn't deserve "a golden opportunity" to be helped.

MaryMD

I used to live with a girl who would try and save money here and there on heating the water but at everybody elses expensive not her own. The water was on a timer so when she would jump in the shower she would turn the water to off and then just before we would get up she would turn the water on again, so we would think it had been on all morning. We would end up having cold showers.

Fakman87

cowboyBuilder wrote: »

Jesus christ .... my blood is boiling !!!

It's a really awful story. My dad told me that when I was about 8 and it's always stuck with me. It gives me a pain in my chest if I think about it too much

cowboyBuilder

Fakman87 wrote: »

It's a really awful story. My dad told me that when I was about 8 and it's always stuck with me. It gives me a pain in my chest if I think about it too much

Not that she could have , but did the woman take a case or anything ?

Like he was misleading her and she spent a lot of money on him ?

all impossible to prove of course ..
:mad::mad::mad:

wally79

cowboyBuilder wrote: »

Not that she could have , but did the woman take a case or anything ?

Like he was misleading her and she spent a lot of money on him ?

all impossible to prove of course ..
:mad::mad::mad:

I'd need to know more details before I got angry about it.

Maybe he had mental issues and it was an old will. Might not have been any badness in it. Sounds like a lovely woman and kindness is its own reward

Birneybau

gimmick wrote: »

Back to this again. What a spa. The line which really stands out is



I am guessing they are retired. They own the house outright as is mentioned in her letter. So one would assume they worked for some time to clear the mortgage. But now she feels that they don't deserve the house to relax in their retirement?

perhaps they reneged on the agreement because this person is a horrible person who doesn't deserve "a golden opportunity" to be helped.

Who, me?

Samsgirl

A friends brother in law charges her Mam €15 per week to run her into town to collect her old age pension. The lady is also receiving treatment for breast cancer and he charges to drive her to the hospital and back. None of the family have challenged him over this. If it was my Mam I would fcuking kill him!!!!