Stingiest things thread(op for R&R access)

Sue Pa Key Pa

Thankfully, my mates dropped the round system. It was leading to lads having more to drink than they intended, but, more importantly, grumblings were starting to come about 1 lad who suddenly started getting urgent calls to get home when his turn approached. It nipped a potential drift in the bud

Capt'n Midnight

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learn_more

BOARDS ANNOUNCEMENT

Due to new information received here at boards it has been decided to close the stingy thread, permanently

It has been brought to out attention that all stingy behaviour can ( or at the very least could) be explained away due to a phenomenon knows as Financial Restrictions.

We feel that people, who are not even being named, are being unfairly slighted which is against our terms and conditions.

Thanks to user Shinto for bringing this information to our attention.

Shint0 wrote: »

It might be wilful but it could be due to financial restrictions which can be a bit embarrassing if people find themselves in that situation socially and a round system is going on especially if they've already been out a few nights in a row.

If they said they wanted to opt out of the round that would focus the spotlight on them too. If they could afford it and were known to be quite comfortable financially then it would be a case of genuinely being tight. Always hard to know other people's circumstances which is why I never like rounds for that reason.

Shint0

learn_more wrote: »

It has been brought to out attention that all stingy behaviour can ( or at the very least could) be explained away due to a phenomenon knows as Financial Restrictions.

Where did I say "all"?

I have commented on this one specifically as I have known people who felt the pressures of being caught up in a round system where they can't afford it. Simples. It happens. Sorry if that harsh reality affects your enjoyment of the thread. I also know people who are genuinely stingy even with lots of money at their disposal.

s8n

Huh !!

Ken.

Mod-More stinge, less bitching.

Lyaiera

My opinion on rounds is that the only people allowed skip a round are young wans/fellas when they're with a bunch of middle aged, or elderly professionals. When I was doing the leaving cert and in college I was on a team with people in their thirties/forties/fifties. I didn't have a job, but my Mammy (God bless her) always gave me a few quid to get my round in. The people in jobs never let me get my round in, outright refused.

HeidiHeidi

Lyaiera wrote: »

My opinion on rounds is that the only people allowed skip a round are young wans/fellas when they're with a bunch of middle aged, or elderly professionals. When I was doing the leaving cert and in college I was on a team with people in their thirties/forties/fifties. I didn't have a job, but my Mammy (God bless her) always gave me a few quid to get my round in. The people in jobs never let me get my round in, outright refused.

Did you refund your Mammy?

Cos if not, that would be REALLY stingy!!

Lyaiera

HeidiHeidi wrote: »

Did you refund your Mammy?

Cos if not, that would be REALLY stingy!!

I did, on occasion she'd tell me to keep it, on other occasions she'd take it back, but after the first few times she told me to start buying food for people, sandwiches, crisps, chips, soup, etc. for the people drinking. She was friends with some of the people, and their wives and they all had a pow-wow about the situation and determined feeding the team was a good move from me, also to buy people soft drinks, water, chocolate, etc. before we set out for the day. They wouldn't take a round off me, but they were happy for me to buy them sweets, soft drinks, etc.

elfy4eva

Lyaiera wrote: »

I did, on occasion she'd tell me to keep it, on other occasions she'd take it back, but after the first few times she told me to start buying food for people, sandwiches, crisps, chips, soup, etc. for the people drinking. She was friends with some of the people, and their wives and they all had a pow-wow about the situation and determined feeding the team was a good move from me, also to buy people soft drinks, water, chocolate, etc. before we set out for the day. They wouldn't take a round off me, but they were happy for me to buy them sweets, soft drinks, etc.

Your mam is like the anti-stinge, what a hero.

ProudDUB

Shint0 wrote: »

I'm simply offering another point of view. We don't know their financial situation and I tend not to make assumptions when I don't know the facts.

Rounds can be a form of social pressure which can be sometimes hard to avoid. As this is the 'stingy' thread it's understandable that posters might want to read every post from that angle. Fortunately, I tend to be a bit more open minded about most things in life without jumping to conclusions. Otherwise I might end up being judgemental where it might not be warranted.

I do know their financial situation. It is just fine. They are my family. They were just back from 2 weeks in Portugal & are already planning a ski holiday to somewhere in Austria after Xmas.

Even if they were in straightened circumstances, we know each other well enough, to be able to admit that money is tight at the minute, so they are keeping an eye on their budget. I normally socialise with them at day time family events like First Communions, Confirmations, Baptisms etc etc. I don't normally go on night time drinking sessions with them, so I wouldn't be all that clued into their pub foibles, but we do all know each other pretty well.

Hollister11

I'm reading an article on the Daily Mail about babysitting, and one of the comments says that after a 20 babysitting shift which included feeding the feeds and cleaning the kitchen, she got paid 1 pound.

XR3i

Hollister11 wrote: »

I'm reading an article on the Daily Mail about babysitting, and one of the comments says that after a 20 babysitting shift which included feeding the feeds and cleaning the kitchen, she got paid 1 pound.

well thats better than getting a slap of a wet fish

Fakediamond

My favourite is a couple who won over €1m on lotto but wouldn't pay the €120 each Ryanair flights to a friends wedding, so took two flights via London instead to save €80. It took all day, instead of 3 hours, but they arrived tired but satisfied with their bargain.

Kat1170

XR3i wrote: »

well thats better than getting a slap of a wet fish

I'm sure there are people that would pay more than the said £1 for a slap of that wet fish :D

K_Everdeen

Have a friend who is set to inherit a huge sum of money, who has no mortgage to pay and whose partner is earning a decent wage (along with hers) and she wouldn't so much as buy you a cup of coffee on your birthday. I have often shouted her when we're out but very rarely will it be reciprocated. She avoids me around my birthday with the usual 'we must meet up for lunch to celebrate your birthday' and then waits until it's 'safe' so she isn't obliged to buy me anything. She's good in other ways but she HATES spending money and gets as many freebies as she can.

It amuses me at this point. Can't imagine being that tight and i have a lot less than her!

Hollister11

K_Everdeen wrote: »

Have a friend who is set to inherit a huge sum of money, who has no mortgage to pay and whose partner is earning a decent wage (along with hers) and she wouldn't so much as buy you a cup of coffee on your birthday. I have often shouted her when we're out but very rarely will it be reciprocated. She avoids me around my birthday with the usual 'we must meet up for lunch to celebrate your birthday' and then waits until it's 'safe' so she isn't obliged to buy me anything. She's good in other ways but she HATES spending money and gets as many freebies as she can.

It amuses me at this point. Can't imagine being that tight and i have a lot less than her!

What's the point of having money if you can't go out and enjoy it.

4ensic15

Hollister11 wrote: »

What's the point of having money if you can't go out and enjoy it.

Some people enjoy having it and keeping it. You cant have your cake and eat it!

Esel

K_Everdeen wrote: »

Have a friend who is set to inherit a huge sum of money, who has no mortgage to pay and whose partner is earning a decent wage (along with hers) and she wouldn't so much as buy you a cup of coffee on your birthday. I have often shouted her when we're out but very rarely will it be reciprocated. She avoids me around my birthday with the usual 'we must meet up for lunch to celebrate your birthday' and then waits until it's 'safe' so she isn't obliged to buy me anything. She's good in other ways but she HATES spending money and gets as many freebies as she can.

It amuses me at this point. Can't imagine being that tight and i have a lot less than her!

If / when they inherit, and if they are still stingy (was going to say mean, but you know what I mean...) then you know what you have to do. Buy them a Lotto ticket, and start talking Japanese. Sayonara is a good word.

LynnGrace

ProudDUB wrote: »

I do know their financial situation. It is just fine. They are my family. They were just back from 2 weeks in Portugal & are already planning a ski holiday to somewhere in Austria after Xmas.

Even if they were in straightened circumstances, we know each other well enough, to be able to admit that money is tight at the minute, so they are keeping an eye on their budget. I normally socialise with them at day time family events like First Communions, Confirmations, Baptisms etc etc. I don't normally go on night time drinking sessions with them, so I wouldn't be all that clued into their pub foibles, but we do all know each other pretty well.

If you do happen to be in their company in a similar situation again, I would call them on that. Ask them do they want to stay out of the round, or something. Fecks sake, getting two drinks bought for every one they bought! Nice for them.

Bandana boy

I knew a couple who thought they were singular in the round as well .
To make things worse they both always drank spirits with a mixture when everybody else would be on pints, and to rub it in they always would ask for spirit and the mixer but on there own round they would just buy two spirits and top it up with left over mixers from the previous rounds.

endacl

ProudDUB wrote: »

Is there some rule, that I am not aware of, that a couple counts as one person, when it is their turn to get their round in?

I am playing host to some visiting US rellies. We just spent a weekend socializing with some mutual cousins. We went out for dinner 3 nights in row and had good sessions in the pub, before and after dinner each night. There were 2 couples and 3 solo people present. I wouldn't be a massive fan of the round system, but as it was family, I just went with the flow. (I was one of the solo people.)

In the pub, we sat around an oval shaped table, so our seating position was how we kept track of whose round it was. My cousin Dave & his partner usually sat beside me. Whenever it was his round, either he or his partner paid for the round. When it was time for another round, they made it obvious that it was the turn of whoever was sitting to their right. They didn't get a round in, one after another. So they as a couple, got 2 drinks bought for them per round, but only one of them was actually paying for a round of drinks.

Is it just me, or is this being stingy? Or am I over thinking this? :P

The Round System moves to the left, not the right. T'was always thus, and ever thus will be. That's the problem right there. Directional confusion. Probably because there were yanks at the table, sending out their 'driving on the right' vibes.

ProudDUB

LynnGrace wrote: »

If you do happen to be in their company in a similar situation again, I would call them on that. Ask them do they want to stay out of the round, or something. Fecks sake, getting two drinks bought for every one they bought! Nice for them.

Yeah, in hindsight someone (oh ok, me) should have said something, coz it was every night, for 3 consecutive nights. But we were having such a good time, I didn't want to do, or say anything to spoil it. I suppose it's that "not wanting to rock the boat" passive aggression, that the stinge merchants take such great advantage of.

Geuze

osarusan wrote: »

No, it's not you. They're just stingy.

This topic has come up on this thread before - the idea of a couple getting one round rather than two, and it's a load of bollocks.

Fortunately, I've never seen this myself.

Does it depend whether they are a one-earner couple or a two-earner couple?

ProudDUB

Geuze wrote: »

Does it depend whether they are a one-earner couple or a two-earner couple?

No. Where in da rulz does it say that housewives are absolved from getting their round in? If you are accepting drinks from people, you should be willing to reciprocate, regardless of your income situation. (In this case, both of them have decent jobs....not that it should matter imo.) If someone is a stay at home parent, why should I (and the other drink buyers) have to pay for their drinks on their night out?

If I know someone is unemployed, hard up, a student etc etc, I often tell them to put their money away, or say I am ok for a drink when they are buying. But I think it's rude/stingy to rock up to a drinking session and automatically presume that others are going to pay for your drinks, if you are unable or unwilling to do so.

Lollipops23

Unless the couple were sharing one drink between them, they're liable to buy one each back.

Kolido

^^^ This, if I came across a couple like this I would buy them one drink to share during my round.

benjamin d

endacl wrote: »

The Round System moves to the left, not the right. T'was always thus, and ever thus will be. That's the problem right there. Directional confusion. Probably because there were yanks at the table, sending out their 'driving on the right' vibes.

This was my first thought too! That round was doomed from the start.

Katgurl

rawn wrote: »

A few of us in work live in the same general area. Myself, A (my brother) and B. For the last 3 years A has picked up myself and B from our doors and dropped us to our doors too. He never asks for petrol unless he really needs it, in return i make him lunch everyday. B gives nothing. Sometimes A has to work an earlier shift or take days off so we have to make our own way in. I get 2 buses in and my dad collects me afterwards. B drives his own (uninsured) car in and out. He made it clear that if i want a lift with him i have to walk to his place (about 30 minutes walk) to be picked up, and be dropped off there after. Considering I'm young, female, pregnant and we don't finish work until after midnight, i find it incredibly mean/stingey that he doesn't want to drive 5-10 minutes slightly out of his way to pick someone up when he gets dropped to his door for free every day.

Am I reading this right? You're a pregnant girl and he doesn't drop you to your door after midnight?

osarusan

Geuze wrote: »

Does it depend whether they are a one-earner couple or a two-earner couple?

Seriously?

No, not even a little bit.