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Turning 40 and miss my mum

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  • 30-01-2014 8:15pm
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    LegacyUser
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    Hi,

    I'm a 39yo guy with 2 days left til I hit the big 40. I lost my mum to cancer 5 years ago and to be honest, while it was an horrific time , life has got back to normal and things are good. But this last week, it's really all coming back and I suppose it's because I'm feeling slightly nostalgic about the birthday. I miss her. Isn't that a bit silly for a 40 yo married Dad? Aren't men supposed to be stronger than this?

    Don't really know why I'm posting this but typing it out makes me feel a bit better so hey!!


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    CaraMay
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭CaraMay


    I'm sorry for your loss.

    It's not a but silly. I would be worried if you didn't have periods like this - she was your mum after all.

    Are you able to talk about your loss? It might help.

    Hope you feel better soon and happy birthday!!!


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    jack7
    Registered Users Posts: 51 ✭✭jack7


    Of course, its only natural to miss her especially around your birthday.
    HAPPY BIRTHDAY


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    Mam of 4
    Registered Users Posts: 21,932 ✭✭✭✭Mam of 4


    Happy Birthday!!

    Only natural to miss your mam, the fact that it's your birthday probably makes it more poignant that she's not here to celebrate this milestone with you. Just give yourself a moment somewhere during the day to just think about how you feel and go with it, strong men are allowed to have feelings too :-)


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    Mariasofia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,887 ✭✭✭Mariasofia


    Agree its because its a milestone birthday that you are naturally going to feel emotional. Allow yourself to cry.....
    I lost someone 20 long years ago and some days it can feel like yesterday...only takes a song on the radio to make the tears come flooding. Time doesnt erase the pain you just learn to live with it!


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    finix
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 325 ✭✭finix


    my Mam Died a year ago tomorrow, I am 52 but feel less. She was the glue that held the family together. My dad died 15 yrs ago. I have 6 siblings and try to keep in touch but It's not the same anymore. Its ok to feel as you do. We all used to run to ''Mammy'' Take care.:)


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    Graciefacey
    Registered Users Posts: 498 ✭✭Graciefacey


    My mam is nearly 20 years dead (im 26) and I still can't talk about her to anyone without welling up. We are reminded of her on every occasion that she misses, every birthday etc. I usually feel silly for getting upset but a good cry helps. Hope you had a lovely birthday


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