What women like in men...

astonaidan

Id say the whole not getting complimented on the ass thing is obvious, like its way more aggressive than saying you have lovely arms
Now in my life the most thing I get complimented on is
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Legs (Im a shorts guy surfing and rugby )
Eyes (I dont get it myself)
Being Good looking (This I get, Im a uber babe )

Now I realise all the things I get complimented on are not the top thing so need to start padding my shorts/jeans again

This time on the back side :pac::cool:

Lou.m

Talib Fiasco wrote: »

It's just the ass is something that guys comment on about women normally not the other way around. Any of my girl friends have never said "oh he's hot, he's got a great ass". It's always been stuff like face, hair, eyes, smile, arms etc. I just find it quite funny when a girl says that I've a nice ass and it's the thing that made her click the buy button so to speak. I understand why women would like that but it's just weird or maybe unusual and uncommon to hear for search of a better word.

Were have you been??

http://youtu.be/FMogMOjIH8M?t=3m12s

Well now you know your power don't abuse it.

Lou.m

Also it helps if you can breath through your ears!


http://youtu.be/GJQxfEWxkzw?t=1m15s

tee hee.

Morf

astonaidan wrote: »

Ok guys I just asked my sisters and the four of them said arms :mad:

I have a 2 scars on my forearm from a double compound fracture.

Ladies will just have to deal.

I honestly think I have great shins/calves less so, decent thighs from exercise and I would spend 12 months in shorts if I could.

I get complimented on being tall and wide-shouldered. The non-locals like the red hair which is reciprocal.

czechlin

Morf wrote: »

I have a 2 scars on my forearm from a double compound fracture.

Ladies will just have to deal.

I honestly think I have great shins/calves less so, decent thighs from exercise and I would spend 12 months in shorts if I could.

I get complimented on being tall and wide-shouldered. The non-locals like the red hair which is reciprocal.

Scars are sexy. It was agreed on in another thread a while back

Lou.m

Precious flower wrote: »

Oh God, I hate beards!! Never ever got that attraction! Yeah stubble can be nice. The slight roughness is a nice feeling!:o



It's hard to explain and I'm probably the only one who feels like this, but it's just...I think it's because I'm small and slight as well that just you feel safe around a man with nice broad shoulders, like he can protect you..from what I don't know, but it just feels like to me like an instinctual thing that I'm attracted to it. A nice tall guy with broad shoulders....I just love it!

Hate stubble...either beards or clean shaven. I do NOT like the roughness OUCH.

Morf

czechlin wrote: »

Scars are sexy. It was agreed on in another thread a while back

Great.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eLZEoQluidM

One choice "f" word in there.

My lack of confidence must really show itself on my online dating profile based on the number of replies I get. :pac:

Lou.m

czechlin wrote: »

Scars are sexy. It was agreed on in another thread a while back

Whilst they do not detract from overall sexiness I don't men thinking they have to go into a couple of fights.

Vulnerability and the quiet type can be very sexy to me!

There is no love like gentle love

czechlin

Lou.m wrote: »

Whilst they do not detract from overall sexiness I don't men thinking they have to go into a couple of fights.

Vulnerability and the quiet type can be very sexy to me!

There is no love like gentle love

I never said all women like scars. I'm not scar obsessed, I'm not into the rough/dodgy kind of men but I know few, who have a facial scar. And it has nothing to do with vulnerability or their quietness. One of them had quite a large scar on his cheekbone due to an accident as kid. He was quite conscious about it, I thought it was incredibly sexy. I don't think lads would be purposely looking for fights to get scars in an order to attract the ladies

Precious flower

Lou.m wrote: »

Whilst they do not detract from overall sexiness I don't men thinking they have to go into a couple of fights.

Vulnerability and the quiet type can be very sexy to me!

There is no love like gentle love

I like the type of guy that doesn't have to constantly talk talk talk because he feels he has to say something. The quiet, sensitive, but kind guy is nice. Feels like he's considering what he says. He strong and able to handle himself but he can become soft and kind when needed, that's sexy! I hate negative guys too, the type that always find something wrong or can never relax an just enjoy the moment but most find something to complain about. I find it hard to be around those type of people.

Actually, my mum (though I do love her) is very like that, no matter where we go, she has to find something to complain about. For example the family went out to dinner for my birthday and she was complaining the whole time about the service and anything she could, loud enough so the staff could hear. I was really sick of listening to her as her complaining every five seconds to the rest of the people at the table didn't make the food appear any faster. I just hate those types of people.

czechlin

Precious flower wrote: »

I like the type of guy that doesn't have to constantly talk talk talk because he feels he has to say something. The quiet, sensitive, but kind guy is nice. Feels like he's considering what he says. He strong and able to handle himself but he can become soft and kind when needed, that's sexy! I hate negative guys too, the type that always find something wrong or can never relax an just enjoy the moment but most find something to complain about. I find it hard to be around those type of people.

Actually, my mum (though I do love her) is very like that, no matter where we go, she has to find something to complain about. For example the family went out to dinner for my birthday and she was complaining the whole time about the service and anything she could, loud enough so the staff could hear. I was really sick of listening to her as her complaining every five seconds to the rest of the people at the table didn't make the food appear any faster. I just hate those types of people.

This is incredibly rude, no way I would let anybody get away with such behaviour. Especially at my own birthday dinner. Some people are just piece of work...:mad:

Morf

Lou.m wrote: »

Whilst they do not detract from overall sexiness I don't men thinking they have to go into a couple of fights.

Vulnerability and the quiet type can be very sexy to me!

There is no love like gentle love

I had a fight holding onto my handlebars and I lost.

I'm not sure if if ever had a girl say they really like it or dislike it though (the main visable one, the other is far less so).

czechlin

Morf wrote: »

I have a 2 scars on my forearm from a double compound fracture.
Ladies will just have to deal.
I honestly think I have great shins/calves less so, decent thighs from exercise and I would spend 12 months in shorts if I could.
I get complimented on being tall and wide-shouldered. The non-locals like the red hair which is reciprocal.

Morf wrote: »

I had a fight holding onto my handlebars and I lost.
I'm not sure if if ever had a girl say they really like it or dislike it though (the main visable one, the other is far less so).

The girls are probably too busy complimenting your shoulders, shins and red hair to even notice the scars! :P

Precious flower

czechlin wrote: »

This is incredibly rude, no way I would let anybody get away with such behaviour. Especially at my own birthday dinner. Some people are just piece of work...:mad:

I was incredibly annoyed and made it clear to my mum but she just acted like I had no right to tell her to close her mouth because she's the parent! :mad: It really annoyed me and put a kind of downer on the night for me tbh, when you have someone b*tching and moaning that the service is so slow or this is not right etc. but my mum seems to take no notice of her behaviour when she does that and just laughs it off at the end of the night as if it was no big deal!:mad: Mothers!:p

Her complaining did not make the meals come any faster and they were fairly busy. I didn't bother me at all, I think I'm fairly patient in that regard. Things just happen and you just have to relax let it happen. I'd be immediatley turned off a guy if he's constantly complaining or can't just relax, let it go and enjoy himself. TBH, it's draining being around that kind of negative mentality.

Morf

czechlin wrote: »

The girls are probably too busy complimenting your shoulders, shins and red hair to even notice the scars! :P

It's was so obvious! It was right in front of my face!

BQQ

Wibbs wrote: »

There would be a large cultural influence too I'd imagine. Just like with female beauty. EG I have found Irish men tend to prefer women "with a bit of meat on the bones", whereas Spanish men would tend to prefer thinner women. I'd say similar is in play the other direction. I've heard enough Irish women say they prefer a "cuddly" man and have never heard that elsewhere.

A relatively new phenomenon.

In the old Brehon Laws, a man being fat was grounds for divorce.

Precious flower

BQQ wrote: »

A relatively new phenomenon.

In the old Brehon Laws, a man being fat was grounds for divorce.

The Brehon Laws were pretty kick ass! Bring 'em back I say? Its amazing how we actually regressed when it came to some of the Brehon Laws!

the blunder years

I always wonder about these lists do people check them off in their head when the meet someone, or are they particularly attracted to those traits. Like if your soulmate doesn't have a great ass, are they truly your soulmate. I know the list is light hearted and of course everybody has their personal preferences, but at times its cheap stereotyping.

McChubbin

On the subject of facial hair, I like neat and tidy beards. My ex had a particularly bushy one, however, and it was gross pulling hairs out of my mouth when we kissed. Scruffy hobo beards are not nice but something short, well groomed and regularly conditioned is perfectly fine by me.
I also enjoy a man in a suit because I think they look smart, presentable and ravishing. It's true what they say- suits are the male equivelent of lingerie!
I also enjoy a British accent... this one in particular... it sounds so sofisticated and elegant.

snowflaked

Guys who think of others more than their own interests.

Guys who are modest- any guy into selfies is red carded, put away the six pack and leave it as a surprise to someone special to appreciate

Guys who are positive and see the best in any situation and in people too

Guys who can make a girl laugh and laugh with a girl- you got to laugh at our craziness

Physical traits- some element of strength, happy smile and eyes, fit and healthy

😊

Morf

snowflaked wrote: »

Guys who think of others more than their own interests.

Guys who are modest- any guy into selfies is red carded, put away the six pack and leave it as a surprise to someone special to appreciate

Guys who are positive and see the best in any situation and in people too

Guys who can make a girl laugh and laugh with a girl- you got to laugh at our craziness

Physical traits- some element of strength, happy smile and eyes, fit and healthy

😊

Just checking this all fine to apply to women too, yeah?

McChubbin

On the subject of beards: Anyone got any good tips for conditioning one? Would you use regular shampoo/conditioner or is there a secret special serum for making the hair look glorious? Asking out of curiosity. I like beards.

Juanmorethyme

McChubbin wrote: »

On the subject of beards: Anyone got any good tips for conditioning one? Would you use regular shampoo/conditioner or is there a secret special serum for making the hair look glorious? Asking out of curiosity. I like beards.

Just normal conditioner works a treat

entropi

Shampoo and conditioner as per the hair on the head Also: combing it helps with loose hair.

Bafucin

entropi wrote: »

Shampoo and conditioner as per the hair on the head Also: combing it helps with loose hair.

It also help soften facial hair....no beard rash :-D

designbydan

McChubbin wrote: »

On the subject of beards: Anyone got any good tips for conditioning one? Would you use regular shampoo/conditioner or is there a secret special serum for making the hair look glorious? Asking out of curiosity. I like beards.

You can get beard oil, I've never used it but seen ads for it on youtube, https://www.youtube.com/user/thebeardbaron <<<This guy sells some on his website.

Bafucin

designbydan wrote: »

You can get beard oil, I've never used it but seen ads for it on youtube,

You've blown my mind! :-) Is their a beard/facial hair forum??

designbydan

Bafucin wrote: »

You've blown my mind! :-) Is their a beard/facial hair forum??

I've no idea but there should be !

Bafucin

designbydan wrote: »

I've no idea but there should be !

There is a facial hair and hats forum. They have a daily shave thread!

Lucifer MorningStar

Don't understand how skinny is number 2 on that list. From what I've observed the majority of women wouldn't really be attracted to skinny men. Heck, I even reckon they prefer men with a bit of weight on them than a stick, which isn't good news for me considering I'm skinny

strobe

Lucifer MorningStar wrote: »

Don't understand how skinny is number 2 on that list. From what I've observed the majority of women wouldn't really be attracted to skinny men. Heck, I even reckon they prefer men with a bit of weight on them than a stick, which isn't good news for me considering I'm skinny

Tis an American site. Skinny seems to just mean 'not fat' in the US. Versus the 'skin and bones' kinda meaning it has here.

EdenHazard

The media tells women what they want. Por ejemplo, the recent fad with beards.

Morf

EdenHazard wrote: »

The media tells women what they want. Por ejemplo, the recent fad with beards.

Recent?

Hardly!



Fighting them off with a willow stick he was . . .

Not just women either! Every mans' infatuation with Angelina Jolie and the woman every girl would kiss etc. blah. blah. blah..

The Wild Bunch

Not getting this recent beard fad........

Liam McPoyle

EdenHazard wrote: »

The media tells women what they want. Por ejemplo, the recent fad with beards.

Translation - I cant grow a beard yet so its obviously a fad.

:pac:

lufties

I was dating a girl for the last month or two. She rang me and told me there wasn't any chemistry from her side. A bit of a blow to the ego alright, especially after I paid for 2 expensive dinners :eek: Anyway she probably did me a favour, I was a little bit meh about the whole thing too. I got me wondering what I was doing wrong, I was funny, confident, open, a gentleman, I'm not bad looking, etc. In fairness she wasn't exactly a supermodel either if I'm honest, you'd also think a girl in her thirties would be a bit more willing to engage and perhaps give it more of a go. Sounds like I'm bitter but I'm really not, just wondering what I should take from this :cool:

Tasden

lufties wrote: »

I was dating a girl for the last month or two. She rang me and told me there wasn't any chemistry from her side. A bit of a blow to the ego alright, especially after I paid for 2 expensive dinners :eek: Anyway she probably did me a favour, I was a little bit meh about the whole thing too. I got me wondering what I was doing wrong, I was funny, confident, open, a gentleman, I'm not bad looking, etc. In fairness she wasn't exactly a supermodel either if I'm honest, you'd also think a girl in her thirties would be a bit more willing to engage and perhaps give it more of a go. Sounds like I'm bitter but I'm really not, just wondering what I should take from this :cool:

Sometimes its just not there, no logical reason as such

The Wild Bunch

Tasden wrote: »

Sometimes its just not there, no logical reason as such

This

Don't beat yourself up.

Re-group, and go again

Katgurl

lufties wrote: »

I was dating a girl for the last month or two. She rang me and told me there wasn't any chemistry from her side. A bit of a blow to the ego alright, especially after I paid for 2 expensive dinners :eek: Anyway she probably did me a favour, I was a little bit meh about the whole thing too. I got me wondering what I was doing wrong, I was funny, confident, open, a gentleman, I'm not bad looking, etc. In fairness she wasn't exactly a supermodel either if I'm honest, you'd also think a girl in her thirties would be a bit more willing to engage and perhaps give it more of a go. Sounds like I'm bitter but I'm really not, just wondering what I should take from this :cool:

What do you mean by this? Presumably she was giving it a go by dating for a month or two. Do you think because she was in her thirties she should just stay in the relationship for the sake of it?

The Wild Bunch

Katgurl wrote: »

What do you mean by this? Presumably she was giving it a go by dating for a month or two. Do you think because she was in her thirties she should just stay in the relationship for the sake of it?

He never used the word 'relationship'


I think he means she could have made more of an effort

lufties

Katgurl wrote: »

What do you mean by this? Presumably she was giving it a go by dating for a month or two. Do you think because she was in her thirties she should just stay in the relationship for the sake of it?

No not at all, we live far-ish from each other and used to meet in mutual place, I just felt that to get to know someone properly its better to do it in a more comfortable environment. Regarding her being in her 30s, lets face it most of us become less choosey than we are in our 20s, me included.

Katgurl

The Wild Bunch wrote: »

He never used the word 'relationship'


I think he means she could have made more of an effort

yes and she dated him for 1 or 2 months. so how is that not making an effort with someone she felt very little chemistry with? I don't know why guys take it so personally anyway when somebody doesn't fancy them anyway, it's not an indication of how goodlooking they are, just if there is a connection there or not - i have been absolutely wild about a few guys that are in no way typically goodlooking and being left cold by some guys that i know in the looks scale definitely surpass me. That's why I don't think lists like the one in the OP are really relevant when it comes to what women want; i've never been too bothered about looks. Men are obviously much more visually driven.

Oh and to get back to the OP - wtf is up with no9 being so far down that list?

lufties

Katgurl wrote: »

yes and she dated him for 1 or 2 months. so how is that not making an effort with someone she felt very little chemistry with? I don't know why guys take it so personally anyway when somebody doesn't fancy them anyway, it's not an indication of how goodlooking they are, just if there is a connection there or not - i have been absolutely wild about a few guys that are in no way typically goodlooking and being left cold by some guys that i know in the looks scale definitely surpass me. That's why I don't think lists like the one in the OP are really relevant when it comes to what women want; i've never been too bothered about looks. Men are obviously much more visually driven.

Oh and to get back to the OP - wtf is up with no9 being so far down that list?

You are right, men are more visually driven at first but there has to be a connection too. I'm currently living with a pretty russian girl, but have no attraction for her whatsoever.

Pawwed Rig

lufties wrote: »

you'd also think a girl in her thirties would be a bit more willing to engage and perhaps give it more of a go.

Katgurl wrote: »

I don't know why guys take it so personally anyway when somebody doesn't fancy them anyway

Katgurl wrote: »

Men are obviously much more visually driven

Mod note - enough with the lazy generalisations

RDM_83 again

Lucifer MorningStar wrote: »

Don't understand how skinny is number 2 on that list. From what I've observed the majority of women wouldn't really be attracted to skinny men. Heck, I even reckon they prefer men with a bit of weight on them than a stick, which isn't good news for me considering I'm skinny

strobe wrote: »

Tis an American site. Skinny seems to just mean 'not fat' in the US. Versus the 'skin and bones' kinda meaning it has here.

I don't know about that, I migh try and dig out a better link later but I read in New Scientist a while back that woman are attracted to skinny men because it shows they have a strong immune system.

http://www.livescience.com/25079-females-prefer-thin-over-macho.html

RDM_83 again

Actually what I find interesting, but unfortunately its easy to come seem a bit racist when talking about it is the difference in attraction between men and woman in terms of dark skin, the rate of inter-racial relationships (running of US stats but I would hazard its the same in Europe) is hugely different between genders. I have heard the 'out-breeding' idea put forward as an explanation but that has never made much sense to me 'scientifically' as males should be subject to exactly the same evolutionary drive.

Mayweather vs Maidana

lufties wrote: »

I was dating a girl for the last month or two. She rang me and told me there wasn't any chemistry from her side. A bit of a blow to the ego alright, especially after I paid for 2 expensive dinners :eek: Anyway she probably did me a favour, I was a little bit meh about the whole thing too. I got me wondering what I was doing wrong, I was funny, confident, open, a gentleman, I'm not bad looking, etc. In fairness she wasn't exactly a supermodel either if I'm honest, you'd also think a girl in her thirties would be a bit more willing to engage and perhaps give it more of a go. Sounds like I'm bitter but I'm really not, just wondering what I should take from this :cool:

Maybe it felt to her like you were buying her time, that you felt beneath her. I think most women essentially like a man who is cooler than they are in order to have chemistry.

Mayweather vs Maidana

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Morf

I think there are trends in attraction and many, many, many exceptions.

Some because of nature, nurture or just quirks picked up from early experiences.

I like what I like in a lady and it's not a source of pride or shame. I imagine i'll have to make compromises but that's life.