Revenge on Bullys.

AngeGal

jane82 wrote: »

Its rather unfortunate he got pushed around by kids his own size then body slammed a mislead child. See the interviews on this. See the kid his own size stepping in to stop it before he runs off.

If you poke around youtube you will see his da admitting he had no time for him. You will also see they both got suspended. Great video but in fairness it was a boy getting bulleyed by everyone until somebody alot younger and smaller tried it and lashing out at him.
If I get bulleyed in work should I powerslam the kids when I get home because they eyeball me??
Wrong lesson here. He should fight in his own weight division not wait until he can beat on somebody smaller than him.

The 'misled' child came up to him and started grabbing him and punching him. If the bodyslam taught him not to be a sheep and punch someone, it's a good lession imo.

Calhoun

jane82 wrote: »

Its rather unfortunate he got pushed around by kids his own size then body slammed a mislead child. See the interviews on this. See the kid his own size stepping in to stop it before he runs off.

If you poke around youtube you will see his da admitting he had no time for him. You will also see they both got suspended. Great video but in fairness it was a boy getting bulleyed by everyone until somebody alot younger and smaller tried it and lashing out at him.
If I get bulleyed in work should I powerslam the kids when I get home because they eyeball me??
Wrong lesson here. He should fight in his own weight division not wait until he can beat on somebody smaller than him.

Yes because sitting there and letting a younger kid bully him and smack him in the face would really have improved his street cred and his confidence.

You should totally powerslam kids if they eyeball you because its exactly the same thing.

Motivator

jane82 wrote: »

Its rather unfortunate he got pushed around by kids his own size then body slammed a mislead child. See the interviews on this. See the kid his own size stepping in to stop it before he runs off.

If you poke around youtube you will see his da admitting he had no time for him. You will also see they both got suspended. Great video but in fairness it was a boy getting bulleyed by everyone until somebody alot younger and smaller tried it and lashing out at him.
If I get bulleyed in work should I powerslam the kids when I get home because they eyeball me??
Wrong lesson here. He should fight in his own weight division not wait until he can beat on somebody smaller than him.

Rubbish, that slackjawed yokel who got buried with a bodyslam deserved everything he got. The fat youngfella was getting bullied for ages - the skinny peckerhead deserved it.

Frank Lee Midere

jane82 wrote: »

Op you should go after the fella that bullyd him and made him the bullyer.
No wait go after the bulleyers bullyer. No no go after the bullyers bullyers bullyer.
Itd be alot simpler if you decided to just not become a bully and break the cycle.

The idea that all bullys were bullied is a myth.

The Dagda

Let it go OP. Yer man was a dick for picking on you but he was a dumb kid who didn't know any better.

I would hope he's grown up and copped on but even if he hasn't the best thing you can do is move on and have a great life. If he's still a dick that'll hurt him more than any slap or words.

monkeysnapper

I was bullied for a while in primary school, I moved away years ago and I saw one of the guys a few years ago while visiting my mum and he was a nice guy. I could tell he was feeling bad about it . Some people grow up and change. Some people don't .
You reap what you sow

Sitec

I think everyone is bullied and is a bully trough out their whole life.

Frank Lee Midere

Sitec wrote: »

I think everyone is bullied and is a bully trough out their whole life.

No

Wabbit Ears

Its kinda sad that someone would still hold onto anger from things that happened a lifetime ago.

enfield

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enfield

Years ago, 1973 in fact, when I was stationed in the Army in Second Field Signals, in Collins Barracks, Dublin, when Don Baker was in 2 fld Sigs also, there was this lad who used to push me around. The real big man. I would say F off and he would ignore it and keep on doing what ever he thought would annoy me. I presume he got a high from looking tough in front of the lads. The lads would see this as disrespect to me and ignore it. One day, across the square from the now Museum, I was in the top billet, going down the stairs, there was just me and him. He started flicking his belt at me. I told him to F off, he didn't, and kept on flicking his belt at me. The red curtain came down. I vaguely remember bodily picking him up, hauling him down the stairs.........around Collins Barracks square there is a gully that drains off rainwater. Its about 6 inches deep and twelve inches wide. When the red curtain had gone, I had the back of his neck in the gully with my knee on his wind pipe saying it he ever tried anything like that again I would f ing kill him. He was shocked and asked me where I learned this?. I said nothing, walked away and he never went near me again. i have no idea which angel that gave me the strength to do it but he was there on that day, God bless him. Another time when I was in school a bully in front of his mates started the same thing and told me to be outside the Tech in Finglas West after school so we could 'sort this out'. I had no choice, I had to be there. After school, outside, he stood there, in front of his mates, shouting abuse, and he lost. When it came to an actual fight he was s---ite, just all talk and bluster. He was not the bully after that. I am not a hard man, just a decent sort of bloke. You can only push someone so far before they snap.
Cheers.
Tom

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sam34 wrote: »

20 years later, I met her in her place of work - she was working on the tills in dunnes, the establishment she once despised and ridiculed, and I was a customer there, earning about ten times what she was earning.

They pay you to be a customer in Dunnes?

The Dagda

enfield wrote: »

Years ago, 1973 in fact, when I was stationed in the Army in Second Field Signals, in Collins Barracks, Dublin, when Don Baker was in 2 fld Sigs also, there was this lad who used to push me around. The real big man. I would say F off and he would ignore it and keep on doing what ever he thought would annoy me. I presume he got a high from looking tough in front of the lads. The lads would see this as disrespect to me and ignore it. One day, across the square from the now Museum, I was in the top billet, going down the stairs, there was just me and him. He started flicking his belt at me. I told him to F off, he didn't, and kept on flicking his belt at me. The red curtain came down. I vaguely remember bodily picking him up, hauling him down the stairs.........around Collins Barracks square there is a gully that drains off rainwater. Its about 6 inches deep and twelve inches wide. When the red curtain had gone, I had the back of his neck in the gully with my knee on his wind pipe saying it he ever tried anything like that again I would f ing kill him. He was shocked and asked me where I learned this?. I said nothing, walked away and he never went near me again. i have no idea which angel that gave me the strength to do it but he was there on that day, God bless him. Another time when I was in school a bully in front of his mates started the same thing and told me to be outside the Tech in Finglas West after school so we could 'sort this out'. I had no choice, I had to be there. After school, outside, he stood there, in front of his mates, shouting abuse, and he lost. When it came to an actual fight he was s---ite, just all talk and bluster. He was not the bully after that. I am not a hard man, just a decent sort of bloke. You can only push someone so far before they snap.
Cheers.
Tom

School and the Army are 2 of few places where that action would be appropriate.

I'm glad you got resolution but the OP's situation does not seen similar to either of yours.

razorblunt

gumbo1 wrote: »

I waswas a 6ft beanpole of a lad with ginger hair, bit of a soft touch tbh, and got picked on/bullied from as young as I can remember, starting in primary school, bout 3rd or 4th class. Being the stereotypical ginger with a short fuse I started to find myself in the principles office a lot more often. Right upto 3rd year I was a regular outside, and inside, the office of the principal! I've fought my way into suspensions regularly for being bullied, I told the teachers and parents like we're all told to do, to no avail, so I took things into my own hands an that's how things in my personal and social life started to go t*ts up.
After about 10 years of fighting back, physically against the lads who were making my life hell on a daily basis I just decided, don't know what it was that made me change my frame of thought, but at some stage I just said f*ck it let them at it!
From about 15/16 I tried to forget about all that had gone before, mainly because I knew I wouldn have to deal with these assholes anymore, I was doing a job that I loved and was happy with how things were goin and pretty much forgot bout school life until I randomly encountered one of the lads when walking down my parents neighbour hood. I had no intention of doing anything but this lad acknowledged my with a name that I was regularly taunted with as a kid, back comes ALL the aggression that I felt for him 14 15 years ago came back with a vengeance and ended up in a lot of trouble with the officials.
OP, quick answer us, it's not worth it, if you do retaliate for past mistakes of others it won't be benificial in any way whatsoever! I'm not a religious person but I really belive that there is a time to forget and move on! You like I, may never forgive or truly forget about it, it did make you the person you are today. So look around you and be grateful for what you have and the moral judgement you gained from your past!

I agree with this, sounds eerily close to an experience I had, luckily he threw the first dig but he didn't fare well. I felt great afterwards but the more I think about it the more I cringe and feel slightly ashamed I lost control. Had I walked away after his first attempt I think I'd have come out of it a lot better.

Corkfeen

Wabbit Ears wrote: »

Its kinda sad that someone would still hold onto anger from things that happened a lifetime ago.

Horrible experiences can hang over a person unknown to themselves, half the time.

Aongus Von Bismarck

I regret to say I was somewhat of a bully to a rather dim lad I went to school with back in the day. Impeccably impersonating his terrible pronounciation in German class etc. Although, in my defence, everyone else laughed along with me, including our teacher and his own cousin.

He dropped out after the Junior Cert, I left the village immediately after school for university and promptly emigrated after that, so I had not seen him for over ten years before I ran into him one Stephen's Night a few years ago.

Graciously he forgave me immediately after I had apologised and bought him a pint. I also found out he worked in an Esso service station near my parents' house so I always make sure to pay him a visit and tip him generously for washing the car or checking the tyre pressure. Even though I am almost always driving a rented car.

It's a small price to pay to compensate for my past transgressions, for putting a little smile on his face and to cheer him up for not being able to escape our little town like I did. I hope he is doing well.

ray_burley

darkpagandeath wrote: »

I have no idea how people carry anger or resentment around for so long.

then you are a lucky person

beakerjoe

beakerjoe wrote: »

There was this guy made parts secondary school from 3rd to 5th year a misery for me. I was picked on now and then, and eventually I stood up to him in 5th class and fought back. Anyway I had the chance to fight him after school, after the initial fight (well by chance I mean others were egging me on to fight him and give him a few slaps) which i declined. He didnt really bother me from then on but he was still a little prick in general, and I was wondered what Id do if I met him again.

Well I grew up and became a much bigger lad than the little weiner kid I was in school, and Ive had this revenge fantasy that if Id ever see him in town and kick the ****e out of him as he tourmented me for years.

Well this day came, 2 nights ago I saw him in town and I was tempted to go over and say something to him. I literally mulled it over the entire night but eventually the cons of confronting him out weighed the pros and I went home with out saying a word.

Has anyone else had a similar experience? Has anyone ever lived out their revenge fantasy?

Personally I still would have loved to knock the bollox outta him but it wouldnt be worth it no matter how much hatred I have for him.

This quote from unknown but believed to be Conficius is very true. Ive used it on boards before to someone on the PI thread and ill happily use it again

"Before you embark on a journey of revenge, best dig two graves"

jane82

[Deleted User] wrote: »

This quote from unknown but believed to be Conficius is very true. Ive used it on boards before to someone on the PI thread and ill happily use it again

"Before you embark on a journey of revenge, best dig two graves"

I would change it to

before you embark on your journey of revenge, be prepared to dig two graves. JANE82

I think the bloods and the crypts will be more into it with the slight change.

pharmaton

I don't know if it's revenge but it's something constructive, like a text book way of dealing with someone with issues. I've been sitting next to someone since the beginning of the year (there's actually a spare seat between us) and she just happens to be one of those brash, pithy undermining, manipulative, bullish types of creature, but only to me it seems. To everybody else she's just a ray of sunshine who makes cupcakes and stuff.
In order to stay out of her way I just tried to not react or interact with her as best I could and kept my head down and focused on my work. Her previous attempts at communicating with me had resulted in knocking a bit of the stuffing out of me, lost a lot of confidence, so I turned inward and became a bit isolated. That's how I deal with things and being aware that was my responsibility, I took ownership of the problem and left it at that.

Couple of weeks ago we get a trainer who also happens to profile individuals for companies. Fun times, it was an opportunity for us all to see our strengths and weaknesses and as it happens, those things which only I saw became apparent to others, especially in group work exercises. It was all very productive, no one got hurt but it brought a lot of clarity to a situation and once the fog lifted I grew confident enough to get more involved with my group again. I'm a lot happier, she's no longer got control of me and that's sweet enough result for me. (I didn't really do anything but that trainer is a miracle worker)

pharmaton

pharmaton wrote: »

I don't know if it's revenge but it's something constructive, like a text book way of dealing with someone with issues. I've been sitting next to someone since the beginning of the year (there's actually a spare seat between us) and she just happens to be one of those brash, pithy undermining, manipulative, bullish types of creature, but only to me it seems. To everybody else she's just a ray of sunshine who makes cupcakes and stuff.
In order to stay out of her way I just tried to not react or interact with her as best I could and kept my head down and focused on my work. Her previous attempts at communicating with me had resulted in knocking a bit of the stuffing out of me, lost a lot of confidence, so I turned inward and became a bit isolated. That's how I deal with things and being aware that was my responsibility, I took ownership of the problem and left it at that.

Couple of weeks ago we get a trainer who also happens to profile individuals for companies. Fun times, it was an opportunity for us all to see our strengths and weaknesses and as it happens, those things which only I saw became apparent to others, especially in group work exercises. It was all very productive, no one got hurt but it brought a lot of clarity to a situation and once the fog lifted I grew confident enough to get more involved with my group again. I'm a lot happier, she's no longer got control of me and that's sweet enough result for me. (I didn't really do anything but that trainer is a miracle worker)

I think the big problem is that we havent skilled middle people to observe and handle these issues before they get out of hand. We need specialists in jobs to observe interactions between people and rather then getting all around them sacked, learn to find common ground between the two parties

pharmaton

Deleted User wrote: »

I think the big problem is that we havent skilled middle people to observe and handle these issues before they get out of hand

I believe that's exactly what she's trained to do, never seen anything like it. She runs a company which provides those services to other companies and organisations, but yeah, I agree they should be in place as a norm.

Galwayguy35

I was regularly beaten up in primary school by a few other kids, it went on for years.

Saw one of them in the pub one christmas when he was back here for the festive season, he grew up to be a narrow string pf piss and I'll admit I thought about whacking his head off the counter but realised that would solve nothing.

Skeleton XIII

Is anyone else slightly bothered by this notion that losing ones hair is some kind of karmic punishment for a past transgression?

"Ha ha, you're going bald/have gone bald! I.....win?"

Because that's a little ****ed up and unfair imo. Sounds like a bullies mindset.

kerry4sam

Have a read here

on a recent study carried out tracked 7,771 children born in 1958 from the age of seven until 50.
Found:
Those bullied frequently as children were at an increased risk of depression and anxiety, and more likely to report a lower quality of life at 50.

With those in power in this country, they'd probably wait until the UK have found something they'll label as a 'solution' and then try follow suit instead of tackling this head-on themselves!

"We need an urgent review of how bullying and cyberbullying is tackled in this country led by an anti-bullying tsar - covering the role of industry, schools and government, and ensuring that children who are bullied receive the counselling support they desperately need."

kerry4sam

Stained Class

Was picked on in secondary school as I was a very small skinny kid with not a lot of confidence.

As the years rolled on, I got bigger & one day I decked one of my tormentors.

First time I ever punched anyone! Felt brilliant, I got such a high.

I drew up a hitlist of all the people who bullied me in school & vowed to beat the crap out of them as time went along...........

Did the leaving a few weeks later & never got around to my mission. I grew up too slowly. Damm!

In all seriousness, your best revenge against bullies is to live a good life.

Bullies are fooked up people & would hate any of their victims to do better than them.

FullblownRose

darkpagandeath wrote: »

I have no idea how people carry anger or resentment around for so long.

Youve never been through it, so. Its not necessarily anger or resentment, simplya hard thing to forget I would imagine. OP did the right thing in the end!

FullblownRose

The Th!ng wrote: »

"Anyone who double crosses Tuco The Th!ng and leaves him alive knows nothing of Tuco The Th!ng"

Eat up your fajitas there

RiseToMe

My brother was getting his lunch stolen at school by some unknown little **** years and years ago (they had to leave their bags at the back of the room).

Anyway was going on for weeks before he told my mam.

So once she finds out she's like "well I think we should give this bully a really nice lunch before we tell the teacher" me and my brother were like Wtf as we watched her take out cookies and crisps and a bottle of fizzy drink.

Then came the good stuff.

She sliced the back of the crisp packet open and shuck salt and vinegar n white pepper in, literally a **** ton, sealed it back up with clear tape.

Then she licked the back of three cookies and rubbed salt into them.

She poured chilli sauce into the coke.

I cant remember what she did to his sandwiches but it was vile.

They never once stole his lunch again.

mfceiling

Hello 1996 wrote: »

Wel lads!

My little sister is in 3rd and long story short, it was the worst year of her life.
The summer of 2nd year, her supposedly 'Best Friend" turned on her for no reason whatsoever. (I know some of ye will say oh there has to be a reason, but there wasn't, this particular little bitch always wanted to move up the "social ladder" in her year and she felt my sister was holding her back, ). Anyway, as well as turning her back on her, she completely turned most of my sisters classmates on her. I presume she did this by spreading lies about my sister, saying that she was always bitching about them, etc. This little demon's sister is in the year below me and her sister is constantly doing the same thing but thankfully, most people have now realized that she is dangerous! Unfortunatly, the 3rd yrs dont see the truth about this girl and since there is only a few girls in the year, my sister has no escape. Constantly being given dirty looks, excluded from everything, she used to come home in tears during the year. Since the holidays, the ringleaders sidekick apologised to my sister and my sister accepted gladly. However< im afraid that the rest of the girls arent ever going to see the truth about this other girl as they have her on a pedestal and worship her! The little yolk will probably begin to blacken the apologetic girls name now also!

Opinions?

Straight to the head mistress or master and tell them what you've told us. They should have bullying guidelines in place.

TiGeR KiNgS

beakerjoe wrote: »

There was this guy made parts secondary school from 3rd to 5th year a misery for me. I was picked on now and then, and eventually I stood up to him in 5th class and fought back. Anyway I had the chance to fight him after school, after the initial fight (well by chance I mean others were egging me on to fight him and give him a few slaps) which i declined. He didnt really bother me from then on but he was still a little prick in general, and I was wondered what Id do if I met him again.

Well I grew up and became a much bigger lad than the little weiner kid I was in school, and Ive had this revenge fantasy that if Id ever see him in town and kick the ****e out of him as he tourmented me for years.

Well this day came, 2 nights ago I saw him in town and I was tempted to go over and say something to him. I literally mulled it over the entire night but eventually the cons of confronting him out weighed the pros and I went home with out saying a word.

Has anyone else had a similar experience? Has anyone ever lived out their revenge fantasy?

Personally I still would have loved to knock the bollox outta him but it wouldnt be worth it no matter how much hatred I have for him.

So you wussed again.

Lou.m

beakerjoe wrote: »

There was this guy made parts secondary school from 3rd to 5th year a misery for me. I was picked on now and then, and eventually I stood up to him in 5th class and fought back. Anyway I had the chance to fight him after school, after the initial fight (well by chance I mean others were egging me on to fight him and give him a few slaps) which i declined. He didnt really bother me from then on but he was still a little prick in general, and I was wondered what Id do if I met him again.

Well I grew up and became a much bigger lad than the little weiner kid I was in school, and Ive had this revenge fantasy that if Id ever see him in town and kick the ****e out of him as he tourmented me for years.

Well this day came, 2 nights ago I saw him in town and I was tempted to go over and say something to him. I literally mulled it over the entire night but eventually the cons of confronting him out weighed the pros and I went home with out saying a word.

Has anyone else had a similar experience? Has anyone ever lived out their revenge fantasy?

Personally I still would have loved to knock the bollox outta him but it wouldnt be worth it no matter how much hatred I have for him.

Hatred and revenge is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to get sick.


There are a couple of people I have contempt for. Hopefully one day I will be free of that and they will mean nothing to me.

It is a first world problem. We are very lucky all of us and to be bothered by the little things is a sign of weakness.

Don't let assholes get in the way of your happiness. Stand up for others. I have never been a bully. There have been people who were awful to me but I refuse to allow myself be seen as a victim of bullying. I am BADASS.

I will be so nice to the bullies I will make them puke :mad: that'll learn em.

Nah seriously you know most people will grow out of it and if they don't well that's on them.

I have had so much more serious issues happen that stuff is not worth worrying about.

I focus on welcoming the people who are kind to me and who are there for me. I give them time in my mind. Don't allow yourself to give any time of thought to people who are not worth it.

Forget the nasty people and remember the nice ones.

Tigger

Skeleton XIII wrote: »

Is anyone else slightly bothered by this notion that losing ones hair is some kind of karmic punishment for a past transgression?

"Ha ha, you're going bald/have gone bald! I.....win?"

Because that's a little ****ed up and unfair imo. Sounds like a bullies mindset.

shup baldy :pac:

ardle1

beakerjoe wrote: »

There was this guy made parts secondary school from 3rd to 5th year a misery for me. I was picked on now and then, and eventually I stood up to him in 5th class and fought back. Anyway I had the chance to fight him after school, after the initial fight (well by chance I mean others were egging me on to fight him and give him a few slaps) which i declined. He didnt really bother me from then on but he was still a little prick in general, and I was wondered what Id do if I met him again.

Well I grew up and became a much bigger lad than the little weiner kid I was in school, and Ive had this revenge fantasy that if Id ever see him in town and kick the ****e out of him as he tourmented me for years.

Well this day came, 2 nights ago I saw him in town and I was tempted to go over and say something to him. I literally mulled it over the entire night but eventually the cons of confronting him out weighed the pros and I went home with out saying a word.

Has anyone else had a similar experience? Has anyone ever lived out their revenge fantasy?

Personally I still would have loved to knock the bollox outta him but it wouldnt be worth it no matter how much hatred I have for him.

Fair play to you for not bothering going over to have a word(even with a few beers in you).... I reckon starting a 'street' fight in a pub at the weekend would look a lot worse than school yard sha-nan-agans, and cause you a lot more issues!

steddyeddy

This guy used to bully me terribly in school. One day I hit him with a baseball bat , he had two broken arms... Which is what gave me the courage in the first place.

Sir Arthur Daley

Sleep with their mother.

DildoFaggins

Kill their parents and feed them to the bully:pac:

Cork Lass

Aongus Von Bismarck wrote: »

I regret to say I was somewhat of a bully to a rather dim lad I went to school with back in the day. Impeccably impersonating his terrible pronounciation in German class etc. Although, in my defence, everyone else laughed along with me, including our teacher and his own cousin.

He dropped out after the Junior Cert, I left the village immediately after school for university and promptly emigrated after that, so I had not seen him for over ten years before I ran into him one Stephen's Night a few years ago.

Graciously he forgave me immediately after I had apologised and bought him a pint. I also found out he worked in an Esso service station near my parents' house so I always make sure to pay him a visit and tip him generously for washing the car or checking the tyre pressure. Even though I am almost always driving a rented car.

It's a small price to pay to compensate for my past transgressions, for putting a little smile on his face and to cheer him up for not being able to escape our little town like I did. I hope he is doing well.

This has got to be the most condescending post on this thread. Look at me - I throw the soft lad a few cents and that makes me a nice person. Seriously!!!!

stoeger

Find out ware hi lives and shag is wife 😂

MY CUP OF TEA

I think its all well and good sayin to the OP to just forget about it but its def easier said than done.,,

I was in a pub recently and a group of girls came in that made my life absolute hell in school..I'm a grown woman, in my local, with big gang of my friends but honestly,within a couple of seconds of them walking it was like been 14 again.

Dya know that sick,stomach through the floor feelin?I came out in a cold sweat, was completely rattling and tried to just shrink into the corner...My friends hadnt a clue what was going on, I generally never shut up but I just froze, I made my excuses and left..as soon as I got out the door I was raging with myself!!..I definitely didnt think it was still somethin that still affected me..and its not this big resentment I carry around every day, but being faced with it out of the blue, 15 years later just thrown me completely

I looked them up after that (thank you staker-book) and they're all living great lives for themselves...ehhh Karma???.you missed a bit!

GalwayGuy2

Originally Posted by Aongus Von Bismarck View Post
I regret to say I was somewhat of a bully to a rather dim lad I went to school with back in the day. Impeccably impersonating his terrible pronounciation in German class etc. Although, in my defence, everyone else laughed along with me, including our teacher and his own cousin.

He dropped out after the Junior Cert, I left the village immediately after school for university and promptly emigrated after that, so I had not seen him for over ten years before I ran into him one Stephen's Night a few years ago.

Graciously he forgave me immediately after I had apologised and bought him a pint. I also found out he worked in an Esso service station near my parents' house so I always make sure to pay him a visit and tip him generously for washing the car or checking the tyre pressure. Even though I am almost always driving a rented car.

That would be like rubbing salt into a wound for me.

blaze1

I was bullied for a couple of years by 3 lads, got to year 7 in middle school after spending the summer holidays scrapping with my bro and his older mates. 1st Day back I walked up and hit the main one a dig in the face he eventually become a mate. A few weeks later another wanted to fight at the back of the field at lunch time i said ok and went to head over and he came running up crying to me saying sorry hahaha.
Paybacks a biatch....

Technophobia

Aongus Von Bismarck wrote: »

I regret to say I was somewhat of a bully to a rather dim lad I went to school with back in the day. Impeccably impersonating his terrible pronounciation in German class etc. Although, in my defence, everyone else laughed along with me, including our teacher and his own cousin.

He dropped out after the Junior Cert, I left the village immediately after school for university and promptly emigrated after that, so I had not seen him for over ten years before I ran into him one Stephen's Night a few years ago.

Graciously he forgave me immediately after I had apologised and bought him a pint. I also found out he worked in an Esso service station near my parents' house so I always make sure to pay him a visit and tip him generously for washing the car or checking the tyre pressure. Even though I am almost always driving a rented car.

It's a small price to pay to compensate for my past transgressions, for putting a little smile on his face and to cheer him up for not being able to escape our little town like I did. I hope he is doing well.

This actually has to be PT. NO ONE is that obnoxious surely...

Stone Deaf 4evr

Got hassled by a fella for years in school, eventually worked up the courage to fight him, and managed to land a lucky punch which broke his nose ending it early.

years later i got to know a bit more about him, and it turned out his mother had left them when he was very young and his father was a functioning alcoholic.

I wont say that I felt bad about it, but It definitely gave me a reason to pause. I met him in a pub a few years back and he actually apologised to me, I just told him not to worry about it and he seemed genuinely happy about that.

BBJBIG

Well ... Jayzus would want you to forgive n forget and turn d'other cheek - and, you can repect that approach if you want.
Personally, I'd knock 5 shades of sho1te ourra the little Foooker ...

PLUG71

darkpagandeath wrote: »

I have no idea how people carry anger or resentment around for so long.

I totally understand the o/p as I was very badly bullied at school and it stays with you for life.

I too have met said bullies again in later life one of which thought it would be entertaining to do it again!

Sadly for him I too have changed in size and I broke his jaw first and last punch.

I met this guy a year after and he actually apologised to me for being a prick!!

whisky_galore

darkpagandeath wrote: »

I have no idea how people carry anger or resentment around for so long.

Count yourself lucky.

pojfexcsc

I was never badly bullied in school, you get slaggings off other groups and all but isnt that part and parcel of school.

Do wish I stood up for the people who got it mercilessly every day alot of the times by people who would be sound as anything to them on their own and turn into a bollix when their pals show up.

I dont know what went on behind the scenes but the teachers dont seem to do near enough to stop all that ****e from going on.

zcorpian88

Got bullied quite a bit both in primary and secondary, always carried some bitterness around with me over both schools more so with secondary but primary had it's off days too. Like I got made fun of for having the "less hip" pair of glasses from the age of 7 to about 12 or so,

Specsavers didn't exist for a few years when I was in school so we had to go to these crappier cheap opticians for glasses and they had awful selections, so I got stuck with these awful glasses, best way I could descibe them was a pair of large square sort of glasses you'd see belonging to a convicted paedophile or something and if I stood up to anyone who made me the laughing stock of the class it would end in a fight which I didn't throw the first punch, but I'd naturally try prevent getting my ass kicked, and the other dude never got in trouble and I did naturally, and I f**king know the reason too, anyone that usually got under my skin in primary were muppets on the schools hurling team and they more often than not got away with wrongdoing where the normal students got punished for everything because they weren't representing the school. Only thing that really boiled my piss about primary.

Secondary was worse, I couldn't get into the local CBS because apparently there is a rule where if you don't have a father or a brother that went to the school your chances of getting in were slim to none, I have no brothers and my father didn't attend the CBS, he went to a vocational school in the 70's. I was disgusted to find out that I would have to attend the same school which I knew to be a total s**thole full of troublemakers, degenerates, drug addicts, and some who would soon be if not already were convicts.

It was a job and a half to even get a mediocre Leaving Certificate out of the place. Pretty much all my classes consisted of constant disruption which was deemed "Having the Craic" which is just mainly driving the teacher mad and not getting anything done, like there is having the craic and then there is just being a dickhead. I got verbally abused everyday for the smallest of things, things like actually doing my work in class, not going skanger drinking or smoking weed at the weekend, refusing to tell them details of my personal life for example "Who are "meeting" at the moment?" or "did you "meet" anyone in the past?", for not disrupting the class and following them like a sheep, doing what little homework I got, (it was piss easy anyway most of the time) my music taste and the fact I didn't listen to Tiesto, Cascada or any other shyte music, homophobic verbal abuse too with the teacher in the room there to hear it, and do f**k all about it. I'm not even gay, but it's downright infuriating when you're stuck in a class with such misfits and they would distract and throw your train of thought off in class.

Also got physically attacked a few times, got punched in the stomach by this cockeyed inbred 3rd year on my second day in the school on the corridor, had my head pretty much used as a rugby ball by an itinerant 3rd year when I was in 1st year, he trampled on my feet on purpose, just because he can, when I sat outside my class just before 9 in the morning, I only being in the school about 3 months at the time and had already been pissed off about having been put in there against my will, told this traveller to "F**k off" he approached me tipped the chair over and laid three kicks into my head, the school caretaker witnessed it and reported it, I gave a statement to the school expecting to get some form of justice where it be a suspension or expulsion and nothing happened in the end, he shows up to the school the next day, not wearing a uniform even when the rest of us wear it, of course there is one rule for students of a different "culture" and another rule for everybody else.

I have many other stories of what went on in my school, even told my mam who reported to the local VEC, nothing came of it then either, the school was in the local papers for all sorts between 2002-2007, (my time there) and major papers between 2007 and 2011 because of the stuff that went on in there for the previous 10 years. It was let go.

Whatever ye do folks, if you have kids, do not under any circumstances send them to a vocational school, I've heard horror stories of a lot of these places, not just my own school. The kid will grow up to resent other people who had it better in school, and resent you for sending them to such a place.

I'm probably sounding harsh but that is the reality of it.

spurious

zcorpian88 wrote: »

Whatever ye do folks, if you have kids, do not under any circumstances send them to a vocational school, I've heard horror stories of a lot of these places, not just my own school. The kid will grow up to resent other people who had it better in school, and resent you for sending them to such a place.

I'm probably sounding harsh but that is the reality of it.

There are some fine vocational schools as there are some downright ****ty fee paying schools.

You went to the tech - are you a scumbag?

Generalisations are always wrong, every where and every time.