Anyone else fed up with being single right now?

LizzieJones

czechlin wrote: »

I've got a nice pair of heels and I need some special occasion to wear them! No pressure folks... :cool:

Alright but dibs on the bouquets.

livemusic4life

deise08 wrote: »

Livemusic I'll meet ya next time I'm in cork.
I love a good band
I'm not a fella but I'll be your wing girl.
missy you coming?

Well i know a few good live music spots everyone is welcome, lets have a great night out

Pissy Missy

deise08 wrote: »

Livemusic I'll meet ya next time I'm in cork.
I love a good band
I'm not a fella but I'll be your wing girl.
missy you coming?

I'm on board Ha! Get it? Board. As in Boards.ie? Ah the hell with ye

Kichote

LizzieJones wrote: »

They've not even gone out on first dates yet and you've got them walking down the aisle already. Sheesh.

Surely we'd want a few good Boards orgies before everyone gets married?

jimbo32123

thegreatgonzo wrote: »

Own teeth AND own hips too:D

Your a keeper then so.

Mr_Spaceman

Lou.m wrote: »

A woman is always twenty one in my family.

deise08 wrote: »

21 Plus V.A.T in ours

:pac:

Sephiroth_dude

Pissy Missy wrote: »

I'm on board Ha! Get it? Board. As in Boards.ie? Ah the hell with ye

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bcYppAs6ZdI

Pissy Missy

oh tis bedtime...Gona ride the arse off me! sweet dreams

deise08

Pissy Missy wrote: »

oh tis bedtime...Gona ride the arse off me! sweet dreams

well all be here tomorrow
well I Will anyway
Sweet dreams missy

thegreatgonzo

jimbo32123 wrote: »

Your a keeper then so.

Right so Jimbo, where's this drink going to be?

NordieSteve

beks101 wrote: »

First thing I notice when I come back to Ireland for a visit is that people don't look at each other in the same way. Sounds mad, but sometimes I'll be walking down the street and notice people will intentionally avoid eye contact, look the other way if I see them looking, disengage. Whereas abroad it's different. People stare, smile, strike conversation etc.

This is very on the button. I think it's the fear of being labelled a creep or worse, therefore we try and avoid eye contact. Cynical wee nation we are.

chrisb1

I'm a creep i'm a wiredo what the hell i'm i doing here i don't belong here i'm coupled woop

jimbo32123

thegreatgonzo wrote: »

Right so Jimbo, where's this drink going to be?

Sure pm me and we'll see where suits!!

deise08

jimbo32123 wrote: »

Sure pm me and we'll see where suits!![/quote

Adda boy. jimbo :-) good man!!
that's what I like to see

OnTheCouch

Whereas being single is clearly not great for many reasons, I don't really have that much respect for people who go from relationship to relationship within a matter of days (or less) in between. The lack of independence there is a little bit scary in all honesty.

Plus, think of many of the oft forgotten advantages about being single - granted many of these are directly linked to trying to get out of the single life but anyway:

Far more disposable income
Do what you want, with no responsibility towards anyone else e.g. can take a job in another city without worrying about whether it will affect a partner
Possibility of travelling - can also do this as a couple of course, but far more restrictive for obvious reasons
See friends more often, this is not true for every couple but there are certainly enough examples where time with friends is cut down considerably
You tend to make more of an effort socialising in order to meet new people
By the same token, you work on yourself more, take up new hobbies, generally become a more interesting person
Dress better
Generally in far better shape, as no chance of getting into a comfort zone and settling

Minimix

livemusic4life wrote: »

I thought i had a boyfriend recently until contact just stopped with no explanation. At this rate i'm seriously thinking of joining the nuns......

Why do men do that?? So frustrating.........is it just me or why does it always seem so difficult to have proper communication in the early stages after meeting someone?

Raging_Ninja

Minimix wrote: »

Why do men do that?? So frustrating.........is it just me or why does it always seem so difficult to have proper communication in the early stages after meeting someone?

Maybe its just the men you are attracted to who are the problem?

Borat_Sagdiyev

Minimix wrote: »

Why do men do that?? So frustrating.........is it just me or why does it always seem so difficult to have proper communication in the early stages after meeting someone?

All men don't do that, A-Holes who are men do that !

Sinister Kid

Borat_Sagdiyev wrote: »

All men don't do that, A-Holes who are men do that !

Its the cowards way out, some guys just don't have the balls to say it out straight.
When it happened to me I was left wondering what I did or said... Didn't do much for my confidence!! I did get an apology a couple of years later through a mutual friend, only because there was an event coming up that we would both be at... My friend that passed on the message pointed out that he was probably only apologizing because if his girlfriend found out that he did that she would kill him!

krustydoyle

Well folks, just gonna join the conversation..

Single chap, 30, living in carlow and back in college.

I find it very hard to meet women, Just tired of getting that look some (not all) give you as you try to start a conversation.
I am sick of it and i dunno how im going to meet someone special anymore.

I am sure most fellas have the same problem from time to time so all sane advise is welcome

Pissy Missy

krustydoyle wrote: »

Well folks, just gonna join the conversation..

Single chap, 30, living in carlow and back in college.

I find it very hard to meet women, Just tired of getting that look some (not all) give you as you try to start a conversation.
I am sick of it and i dunno how im going to meet someone special anymore.

I am sure most fellas have the same problem from time to time so all sane advise is welcome

Firstly, thanks for joining the conversation and sharing, we're all here in the same boat me thinks.

Would you say your fulfilled with yourself right now in the sense that you are focusing on being the best and happiest you possibly could be? e.g. top mental and physical health, doing hobbies or interests that you'd love to do, study a course of interest, making the most of your time with family and friends etc.

krustydoyle

Pissy Missy wrote: »

Firstly, thanks for joining the conversation and sharing, we're all here in the same boat me thinks.

Would you say your fulfilled with yourself right now in the sense that you are focusing on being the best and happiest you possibly could be? e.g. top mental and physical health, doing hobbies or interests that you'd love to do, study a course of interest, making the most of your time with family and friends etc.

Great question, I need to lose the belly and have a few unresolved issues from growing up so i tend to not think things out in regards to relationships (last gf i had i broke up with her after a year because she wanted me to meet her parents) i just panicked and looking back now i feel at times that i should of gave it a better go. Im a music fanatic so im learning the guitar at the moment (slowly until after college exams) I have some great friends and im a bit distant with my family because i live on my own. With me been 30 now i feel more pressure to meet someone, most of my friends are in relationships and i feel like shíte whenever they're all out because im usually the only single one there. Overall im a happy person but then like anyone theres times when im so lonely but it passes. Like everyone i just wanna be happy ye know??

Alf. A. Male

Did anyone get any action as a result of this thread or has it been 50 pages of reinforcing previous disappointments?

Borat_Sagdiyev

krustydoyle wrote: »

Great question, I need to lose the belly and have a few unresolved issues from growing up so i tend to not think things out in regards to relationships (last gf i had i broke up with her after a year because she wanted me to meet her parents) i just panicked and looking back now i feel at times that i should of gave it a better go. Im a music fanatic so im learning the guitar at the moment (slowly until after college exams) I have some great friends and im a bit distant with my family because i live on my own. With me been 30 now i feel more pressure to meet someone, most of my friends are in relationships and i feel like shíte whenever they're all out because im usually the only single one there. Overall im a happy person but then like anyone theres times when im so lonely but it passes. Like everyone i just wanna be happy ye know??

Why?!

For the love of christ why are you doing this to yourself ? Putting more pressure on yourself or accepting pressure from others is a surefire way to shoot down potentials in the future. If you go out hunting for a relationship, you will STINK of desperation.

Be happy and content in yourself and then you'll instantly become more attractive.

Look, we all get the "are you still on the shelf?" crap, but it's all down to how you react to that. I usually say "sure the shelf is a great place, loads there !".

Friend of mine visited me the other day with his wife. They're both spot on and we had a great evening together. There were more than a few reminders of why I'm single though, I couldn't do what they are doing.

I'm not ruling out a relationship, I just don't want to be in one for the sake of being with someone. I would rather someone, ahem, blew me away and then I would very much be interested.

Pissy Missy

krustydoyle wrote: »

Great question, I need to lose the belly and have a few unresolved issues from growing up so i tend to not think things out in regards to relationships (last gf i had i broke up with her after a year because she wanted me to meet her parents) i just panicked and looking back now i feel at times that i should of gave it a better go. Im a music fanatic so im learning the guitar at the moment (slowly until after college exams) I have some great friends and im a bit distant with my family because i live on my own. With me been 30 now i feel more pressure to meet someone, most of my friends are in relationships and i feel like shíte whenever they're all out because im usually the only single one there. Overall im a happy person but then like anyone theres times when im so lonely but it passes. Like everyone i just wanna be happy ye know??

I'm the same, I'm trying to be in the best physical shape and health and best mental health as possible, so that means i'm following a sensible exercise plan and eating as healthy as possible. Remember exercise is important as it releases seratonin (positive mood and calm yet focused outlook) and endorphines (natural pain relievers) and these chemicals can also be produced by junk foods so be aware of a dependency there, try eat as healthy as you can, easier said than done!

How are you career wise atm? Content? Sounds like you have college to keep you busy and well done on learning the guitar! I'm focusing on my career goals atm so that takes up my time too.

Great that you get on with your friends but do you think you could call over to your family more or vice versa to hang out and catch up?

I know what it's like when all your friends are in relationships, at times it can be a pain in the ass, but you don't know what goes on behind closed doors, so it might not be as appealing as it looks really. I think its so true to wait for someone worth waiting for rather than to settle.

Now that you've reflected on the past with your ex, do you think you would want to get back in contact and explain what was going on at the time or would that not appeal to you?

Did the panic come from commitment issues? You don't have to answer any of these questions but maybe just something you can think about for your own personal reflection.

I def know what you mean, with at times being lonely, hopefully more happy times are coming, but it starts with you focusing on how you can get that. We are all responsible for our own happiness, so go make it happen!

Borat_Sagdiyev

Pissy Missy wrote: »

I'm the same, I'm trying to be in the best physical shape and health and best mental health as possible, so that means i'm following a sensible exercise plan and eating as healthy as possible. Remember exercise is important as it releases seratonin (positive mood and calm yet focused outlook) and endorphines (natural pain relievers) and these chemicals can also be produced by junk foods so be aware of a dependency there, try eat as healthy as you can, easier said than done!

How are you career wise atm? Content? Sounds like you have college to keep you busy and well done on learning the guitar! I'm focusing on my career goals atm so that takes up my time too.

Great that you get on with your friends but do you think you could call over to your family more or vice versa to hang out and catch up?

I know what it's like when all your friends are in relationships, at times it can be a pain in the ass, but you don't know what goes on behind closed doors, so it might not be as appealing as it looks really. I think its so true to wait for someone worth waiting for rather than to settle.

Now that you've reflected on the past with your ex, do you think you would want to get back in contact and explain what was going on at the time or would that not appeal to you?

Did the panic come from commitment issues? You don't have to answer any of these questions but maybe just something you can think about for your own personal reflection.

I def know what you mean, with at times being lonely, hopefully more happy times are coming, but it starts with you focusing on how you can get that. We are all responsible for our own happiness, so go make it happen!

That is a brilliant way of putting it.

krustydoyle

Pissy Missy wrote: »

I'm the same, I'm trying to be in the best physical shape and health and best mental health as possible, so that means i'm following a sensible exercise plan and eating as healthy as possible. Remember exercise is important as it releases seratonin (positive mood and calm yet focused outlook) and endorphines (natural pain relievers) and these chemicals can also be produced by junk foods so be aware of a dependency there, try eat as healthy as you can, easier said than done!

How are you career wise atm? Content? Sounds like you have college to keep you busy and well done on learning the guitar! I'm focusing on my career goals atm so that takes up my time too.

Great that you get on with your friends but do you think you could call over to your family more or vice versa to hang out and catch up?

I know what it's like when all your friends are in relationships, at times it can be a pain in the ass, but you don't know what goes on behind closed doors, so it might not be as appealing as it looks really. I think its so true to wait for someone worth waiting for rather than to settle.

Now that you've reflected on the past with your ex, do you think you would want to get back in contact and explain what was going on at the time or would that not appeal to you?

Did the panic come from commitment issues? You don't have to answer any of these questions but maybe just something you can think about for your own personal reflection.

I def know what you mean, with at times being lonely, hopefully more happy times are coming, but it starts with you focusing on how you can get that. We are all responsible for our own happiness, so go make it happen!

I know what your saying about the exercise and healthy eating so once college wraps im gonna start exercising more.

In regards to career , college keeps me fairly busy.. without sounding stupid i just need to correct the personal stuff first so i didn't look for anything over the summer in order to work on these issues.

The query on the commitment issues is spot on, I get to a certain point in all of my relationships where i panic and want out. It stems from my childhood and growing up. I lost my first real GF to illness and its left a big enough scar on me so i just turn into a recluse after a certain amount of time.

In regards to the ex, thats not gonna happen because shes living with someone now. I talk to her now and again, we discussed getting back together but i'm hesitant. i am afraid of me over worrying about silly stuff again. I still care about her a lot and who knows maybe again in the future we might get back together but i need to sort myself out before anything can happen with her or anyone else.

Thanks for the replies

Pissy Missy

krustydoyle wrote: »

i need to sort myself out before anything can happen with her or anyone else.

I know we live in Ireland and the stigma to counselling and talking about ones problems to a qualified stranger is abundant but I highly recommend it if this is a possibility for you. I had the biggest stigma to going for counselling myself but thank god a friend pushed me into it, It's the best thing I could have ever done to understand and to try move forward from my past to the future. Even talking to anyone about it might help; Hopefully someone that you can trust in and who has empathy.

Minimix

Borat_Sagdiyev wrote: »

All men don't do that, A-Holes who are men do that !

I seem to meet my fair share so! I don't get it though.....i feel like it's the rule that I'm
supposed to play it cool and not show im interested in case I look too desperate.....that the fella will let you know if he's interested? This definitely hasn't been working for me......I've taken the chance and been the more open/direct one, asking a guy to meet etc yet I get no response at all. I don't understand why communication stops ...I didn't realise a guy would be so put off!!!

howamidifferent

Minimix wrote: »

.I didn't realise a guy would be so put off!!!

Some guy would be put off...Far from most men. I would imagine most men would be flattered.

Pissy Missy

Minimix wrote: »

I seem to meet my fair share so! I don't get it though.....i feel like it's the rule that I'm
supposed to play it cool and not show im interested in case I look too desperate.....that the fella will let you know if he's interested? This definitely hasn't been working for me......I've taken the chance and been the more open/direct one, asking a guy to meet etc yet I get no response at all. I don't understand why communication stops ...I didn't realise a guy would be so put off!!!

I hate the rules of the game, Ugh head wrecking, I can't be dealing with them, they want the chase but as soon as you're interested, they're out the door, what ever happened to just being yourself?!

ryan101

Minimix wrote: »

I seem to meet my fair share so! I don't get it though.....i feel like it's the rule that I'm
supposed to play it cool and not show im interested in case I look too desperate.....that the fella will let you know if he's interested? This definitely hasn't been working for me......I've taken the chance and been the more open/direct one, asking a guy to meet etc yet I get no response at all. I don't understand why communication stops ...I didn't realise a guy would be so put off!!!

It doesn't matter how you 'play' it
If a guy was interested in you, but you were'rt really, would it matter how he 'played' it with you. No.
You'd either like him for him, and consider him compatible, or you wouldn't, no end of playing it would make any difference, he might be a great guy, but just not for you.
It takes both people to decide they might be compatible, not one person, so it's no reflection on you.
So the old saying really is true, just be yourself, go with the flow, and don't bother 'playing' anything to anybody, one way or another.

Borat_Sagdiyev

Minimix wrote: »

I seem to meet my fair share so! I don't get it though.....i feel like it's the rule that I'm
supposed to play it cool and not show im interested in case I look too desperate.....that the fella will let you know if he's interested? This definitely hasn't been working for me......I've taken the chance and been the more open/direct one, asking a guy to meet etc yet I get no response at all. I don't understand why communication stops ...I didn't realise a guy would be so put off!!!

Pissy Missy wrote: »

I hate the rules of the game, Ugh head wrecking, I can't be dealing with them, they want the chase but as soon as you're interested, they're out the door, what ever happened to just being yourself?!

Look, don't take any of it personally - some people will be into you, some won't.

I used to get ladies saying to me that they weren't into me and then I would think "she's a b**ch anyway" - this is totally stupid behaviour. It's not her fault she wasn't interested in me, it just didn't happen for her, end of. There is nothing I could have done to change it.

I find that the best way to do it is not dwell - move on to the next one ASAP.

Also, if I suspect a lady is playing games, I am instantly turned off the situation. Just be honest !

This doesn't excuse treating people badly though - if you're not into someone, say it to them and let them move on instead of leaving them hanging.

Minimix

Borat_Sagdiyev wrote: »

Look, don't take any of it personally - some people will be into you, some won't.

I used to get ladies saying to me that they weren't into me and then I would think "she's a b**ch anyway" - this is totally stupid behaviour. It's not her fault she wasn't interested in me, it just didn't happen for her, end of. There is nothing I could have done to change it.

I find that the best way to do it is not dwell - move on to the next one ASAP.

Also, if I suspect a lady is playing games, I am instantly turned off the situation. Just be honest !

This doesn't excuse treating people badly though - if you're not into someone, say it to them and let them move on instead of leaving them hanging.

In my case I've been left 'hanging'....this is when I haven't been trying to play it one way or another....I was really myself. I thought we were at a stage where we both got each other. I didn't chase him....the opposite.....i was easy going about it, felt there was no pressure. When he didn't text I didn't text, was no big deal! Then he makes contact again.....I wanted to know where I stood so I asked him out......haven't heard a thing since!

krustydoyle

Pissy Missy wrote: »

I know we live in Ireland and the stigma to counselling and talking about ones problems to a qualified stranger is abundant but I highly recommend it if this is a possibility for you. I had the biggest stigma to going for counselling myself but thank god a friend pushed me into it, It's the best thing I could have ever done to understand and to try move forward from my past to the future. Even talking to anyone about it might help; Hopefully someone that you can trust in and who has empathy.

Ive had a few sessions with a therapist and im saving for more now. Best decision i ever made to be honest.

Pissy Missy

Minimix wrote: »

I wanted to know where I stood so I asked him out......haven't heard a thing since!

It means you have the opportunity to get with an even hotter guy - look at the positive

Minimix

Pissy Missy wrote: »

I hate the rules of the game, Ugh head wrecking, I can't be dealing with them, they want the chase but as soon as you're interested, they're out the door, what ever happened to just being yourself?!

Exactly! So true.

Pissy Missy

krustydoyle wrote: »

Ive had a few sessions with a therapist and im saving for more now. Best decision i ever made to be honest.

Maybe college could set you up for some free sessions? That's where I got mine

ryan101

Minimix wrote: »

I wanted to know where I stood so I asked him out......haven't heard a thing since!

That was actually a good enough idea, saves having to waste any more time wondering or worse any on-off shyte, and now that you know you can move on. The reason you haven't heard is that some people are not very good at explaining the "you're dead on but I don't think we're compatible" thing. So don't worry about it.

krustydoyle

Pissy Missy wrote: »

Maybe college could set you up for some free sessions? That's where I got mine

The college therapist referred me to a another as she was too busy at the time to take on more patients.

Pissy Missy

krustydoyle wrote: »

The college therapist referred me to a another as she was too busy at the time to take on more patients.

That's poo, especially in this current economic climate! So need more health facilities! Maybe there is a voluntary organisation that give free sessions in your area.

Borat_Sagdiyev

Minimix wrote: »

In my case I've been left 'hanging'....this is when I haven't been trying to play it one way or another....I was really myself. I thought we were at a stage where we both got each other. I didn't chase him....the opposite.....i was easy going about it, felt there was no pressure. When he didn't text I didn't text, was no big deal! Then he makes contact again.....I wanted to know where I stood so I asked him out......haven't heard a thing since!

Congrats on having the cojones to ask someone out. Don't let the fact that you had a negative experience with it put you off. Keep doing it.

If someone doesn't want to spend time in your company, it's their loss.

limk2014

Hi people. I hope I can jump into the conversation there myself. I'm struggling away myself to try and get into the dating scene. It seems next to near impossible. I'm physically fit, tall enough and I don't think my face is that repulsive lol. I can't seem to get into the whole thing at all. I don't drink and I don't think that helps. I've no intention of taking up drinking either. Does anybody else find problems meeting people in ireland because of the drinking culture? And does anyone know a way around it?

Graces7

no. been single in the fullest sense of the word 70 years and no regrets. have been free to do more for more needy ones in so many ways.

ryan101

limk2014 wrote: »

Hi people. I hope I can jump into the conversation there myself. I'm struggling away myself to try and get into the dating scene. It seems next to near impossible. I'm physically fit, tall enough and I don't think my face is that repulsive lol. I can't seem to get into the whole thing at all. I don't drink and I don't think that helps. I've no intention of taking up drinking either. Does anybody else find problems meeting people in ireland because of the drinking culture? And does anyone know a way around it?

Clubs and societies, find a few that have a good gender mix/balance, or one in your favour. Best way. Random pick ups in pubs and bars are a lotto anyway. With a club / society you get to know people a bit better and if you're interested in anyone, you'll either get similar vibes back or you won't, and take it from there.

Daveysil15

limk2014 wrote: »

Hi people. I hope I can jump into the conversation there myself. I'm struggling away myself to try and get into the dating scene. It seems next to near impossible. I'm physically fit, tall enough and I don't think my face is that repulsive lol. I can't seem to get into the whole thing at all. I don't drink and I don't think that helps. I've no intention of taking up drinking either. Does anybody else find problems meeting people in ireland because of the drinking culture? And does anyone know a way around it?

It can be difficult when you don't alright. Have you tried online dating? Most of the people I've met recently have been online in some form of another. OD, facebook and meetup.

Pissy Missy

limk2014 wrote: »

Hi people. I hope I can jump into the conversation there myself. I'm struggling away myself to try and get into the dating scene. It seems next to near impossible. I'm physically fit, tall enough and I don't think my face is that repulsive lol. I can't seem to get into the whole thing at all. I don't drink and I don't think that helps. I've no intention of taking up drinking either. Does anybody else find problems meeting people in ireland because of the drinking culture? And does anyone know a way around it?

I think this thread is evidence that people are finding it challenging to meet someone. I don't drink the majority of the time that I go out but still every now and again strike up conversation with someone who takes my fancy or vice versa. I don't believe its easy to meet someone who wants more than just the one thing on a night out however both my sisters met there partners on a night out and have been together for years, they also told me they were only on a night out for a laugh and not looking for anything serious so maybe it really does happen when you least expect it/ when you're not looking for it.

martinosullivan

Pissy Missy wrote: »

Anyone ever get a bit peed off with being single? Maybe I'm just bored but when it seems impossible to meet someone nice or someone that wants more than an easy ride over three years, it does kind of get to you a little.

I have tried dating sites and I'm not saying all guys are the same, but the guys I met were just looking for the one thing. I socialize and put myself out there but in vain it seems. I have lovely friends and family so I'm grateful for that. Before you say anything, I am focusing on myself, trying to keep myself busy but can't help feeling a bit lonely sometimes. Anyone in the same boat?

Sorry cant help out there, I am currently in a grate relationship with a fantastic woman
:-)

But perhaps the following ramblings will help you.

You could always setup a meet up group for something you are interested in, I don’t mean a singles meetup group, but a meetup group for something which you really enjoy doing.

A lot of people really like dining out groups, and they give you a chance to talk to people.

The webpage for meetup is meetup.com

You could start a group for anything there., and you will find that the local media may even help you promote it, if you promote it as something fun to do.

Meetup do charge to setup a group, however if you are going to be bringing businesses a pile of customers, they may sponsor your group.

Or even easier, just pass a hat around at each meetup, and ask everyone to throw in a euro.

You could also have a house party, and ask your friends to bring along a guest. This is a grate way of meeting people, and as it is your house, you are at home and more relaxed.

On the sex thing well I will tell you a little secret guise wont have sex unless they feel something either. If you are seen as a leader in a group you will get a lot of offers, and you can choose the person who makes you feel what ever it is you look for to have a relation ship, or even just hot passionate sex. There is nothing sexier or hotter, than confident strong women. It trumps looks any time. Any guy who tells you otherwise is a lyre.

A guy who cant handle a confident woman is best staying away from.

By the way if I feel something for a women I will always approach her and if it is right I will take her to bed, and I wont care about the length of time I have known her. I have taken women to bed, within half an hour, or I knew one women for 4 years before I thought it was right to take her to bed.

by the way I was at a house party one time when a woman told me that all she wanted from a relationship was a man who could make her laugh, and make her scream, She then said a relation ship ends not when you stop screaming, but when you stop laughing.

Ps Love the username, sounds like you are a fun person, so I hope you have some fun and find a person who can make you laugh and scream.

Borat_Sagdiyev

Pissy Missy wrote: »

I think this thread is evidence that people are finding it challenging to meet someone. I don't drink the majority of the time that I go out but still every now and again strike up conversation with someone who takes my fancy or vice versa. I don't believe its easy to meet someone who wants more than just the one thing on a night out however both my sisters met there partners on a night out and have been together for years, they also told me they were only on a night out for a laugh and not looking for anything serious so maybe it really does happen when you least expect it/ when you're not looking for it.

I think that when you are actively looking that it is plain as day that you are and comes across in the wrong way. People read "desperate" from it and that scares them off.

Your sisters admitted they weren't even looking when they found partners, that means that when they were in conversation with the lads, they were not that pushed whether the lads stayed or went.

Being easygoing and carefree and happy in your own skin is crucial !

Pissy Missy

Borat_Sagdiyev wrote: »

Being easygoing and carefree and happy in your own skin is crucial !

Yeah good point...Focus on yourself, the rest will follow