Anyone else fed up with being single right now?

eternal

tomwaterford wrote: »

what of those who looked like they've escaped from some mental institution/just creepy when they smile:o

We need to work on this Tom

Mister Vain

What's the furthest you'd travel for a date?

Gannicus

I've stopped going up to women I've actually become somewhat afraid to approach a woman I'm interested. I rarely, if ever drink and even then its only literally 2 or 3 pints. My confidence in approaching someone is nigh on 0 now thanks to women (not all just the ones I've encountered). I used to talk to girls in pubs but because of all the drunk creeps in this city anytime I spoke to a girl I was met with a venomous mean spirited reaction or straight up blanked (which I think is worse) before someone even gets talking to me.

chrysagon

i have done a 300 mile round trip.... in a day..

eternal

chrysagon wrote: »

i have done a 300 mile round trip.... in a day..

Hope she was worth it.

siblers

Mister Vain wrote: »

What's the furthest you'd travel for a date?

Travelled to cork city a share of times from kerry, which is about 80 mins. Won't do it again though I'd say

chrysagon

siblers wrote: »

Travelled to cork city a share of times from kerry, which is about 80 mins. Won't do it again though I'd say

depends on who yer doing it for...sometimes it just feels worth the effort.

eternal

siblers wrote: »

Travelled to cork city a share of times from kerry, which is about 80 mins. Won't do it again though I'd say

Ah go on. I'm waiting for you haha.

Mister Vain

Gannicus wrote: »

I've stopped going up to women I've actually become somewhat afraid to approach a woman I'm interested. I rarely, if ever drink and even then its only literally 2 or 3 pints. My confidence in approaching someone is nigh on 0 now thanks to women (not all just the ones I've encountered). I used to talk to girls in pubs but because of all the drunk creeps in this city anytime I spoke to a girl I was met with a venomous mean spirited reaction or straight up blanked (which I think is worse) before someone even gets talking to me.

I know how you feel. When you get those sort of reactions it can affect your confidence. Approaching women on a night out, at least in Ireland anyway, has never exactly being an enjoyable experience for me personally. I prefer to meet women outside of the pub/club environment now.

Gannicus

Mister Vain wrote: »

I know how you feel. When you get those sort of reactions it can affect your confidence. Approaching women on a night out, at least in Ireland anyway, has never exactly being an enjoyable experience for me personally. I prefer to meet women outside of the pub/club environment now.

I've tried that mainly on dating sites which is to my own detriment knowing the way a vast majority of people on them operate.

A lot of the interests I have are a bit costly (to me) so I can't partake of them regularly. And there's not many women who take part in them anyway, and the ones who do are 99% of the time already spoken for.

Mister Vain

Gannicus wrote: »

I've tried that mainly on dating sites which is to my own detriment knowing the way a vast majority of people on them operate.

A lot of the interests I have are a bit costly (to me) so I can't partake of them regularly. And there's not many women who take part in them anyway, and the ones who do are 99% of the time already spoken for.

The odds are stacked against you when it comes to online dating, but I've found the likes of Meetup and a couple of the groups on facebook to be very good. There's a photography group on facebook for example which I have met a lot of people from. Photography is certainly a costly hobby though, but its worth it.

Sephiroth_dude

Mister Vain wrote: »

What's the furthest you'd travel for a date?

I've travelled to galway and dublin , It didn't work out but I'm glad I went.

siblers

chrysagon wrote: »

depends on who yer doing it for...sometimes it just feels worth the effort.

It's a fecking balls so it is, nearly all my matches on Tinder come from Cork. If I lived there, i'd be sorted for dates

Mister Vain

Sephiroth_dude wrote: »

I've travelled to galway and dublin , It didn't work out but I'm glad I went.

Did you drive or get the train?

eternal

siblers wrote: »

It's a fecking balls so it is, nearly all my matches on Tinder come from Cork. If I lived there, i'd be sorted for dates

I live in Cork and I'm not sorted. I keep getting cancelled on. Twice this week alone.

The Wallflower

eternal wrote: »

I live in Cork and I'm not sorted. I keep getting cancelled on. Twice this week alone.

I don't see why someone would cancel if they decided to go in the first place. He's missing out hun

Fat Christy

I set up a POF for the craic there, we'll see how it goes...

Sephiroth_dude

Mister Vain wrote: »

Did you drive or get the train?

Bus, Train is too expensive :-/

The Wallflower

I was so optimistic about POF but it was a bust. Donegal isn't the best spot for meeting women on it I found. Plenty in Dublin, Belfast Cork, Louth etc but that is too far.

Mister Vain

Sephiroth_dude wrote: »

Bus, Train is too expensive :-/

TBH I'd drive to any county before I'd drive into Dublin city centre. I'd get the train there though.

Sephiroth_dude

Mister Vain wrote: »

TBH I'd drive to any county before I'd drive into Dublin city centre. I'd get the train there though.

I dont drive though, although I plan to change that this year.

Mister Vain

Sephiroth_dude wrote: »

I dont drive though, although I plan to change that this year.

Back in the day you could impress the young wans with your modified car. Simple times. Now its all 50 shades of this that and the other.

Gannicus

Has anyone tried Speed Dating?

heyday30

POF is all lies in fairness. I mean some people say they are looking for Mrs Right a relationship when all they want is the shag.

Fat Christy

Gannicus wrote: »

Has anyone tried Speed Dating?

No but I'd love to give a go just to see what it's like.

yournerd

I love Tinder

Gannicus

Fat Christy wrote: »

No but I'd love to give a go just to see what it's like.

A friend of mine suggested it but I'm a little too apprehensive

Mister Vain

heyday30 wrote: »

POF is all lies in fairness. I mean some people say they are looking for Mrs Right a relationship when all they want is the shag.

Is it too much to ask for both?

Sephiroth_dude

Gannicus wrote: »

Has anyone tried Speed Dating?

I'd love to try it

Fat Christy

Gannicus wrote: »

A friend of mine suggested it but I'm a little too apprehensive

I'd be a bit nervous but sure give it a go anyway. I haven't been single since I was a teenager so I have no clue how people actually get with people. Seems a lot harder as you get older. No shifting the face of some young wan in the local dishco....

chrysagon

speed dating/...i dont do drugs so not for me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Mister Vain

Speed dating could be good for a confidence boost if anything. Get you used to meeting new people.

Trebor176

I've just noticed that we've almost reached 10,000 posts on this. Will it be Au Revoir to this and Bonjour to a continuation of this topic? It has been great fun between sharing our experiences, getting to know one another through it and just generally having the "bants." I for one have been thoroughly enjoying it

eternal

This is like my support group. I'll probably have to start doing stuff if the thread closes.

The Wallflower

heyday30 wrote: »

POF is all lies in fairness. I mean some people say they are looking for Mrs Right a relationship when all they want is the shag.

And those guys buck it up for the people that are genuinely trying to find Mrs Right.

Mister Vain

Whoever has post 10,000 gets a free date.

Sephiroth_dude

yournerd wrote: »

I love Tinder

Did ya get lucky nerd?

tomwaterford

Mister Vain wrote: »

What's the furthest you'd travel for a date?

once travelled upto Kilkenny city

skittles8710 wrote: »

Yeah I gave it to him Friday night.. We spent a couple hours chatting and he said he wanted to take me out Sunday night I said I'd be up for that and to give me a text....

Era sure it happens!

balls....have you tried texting him??

Fat Christy

I feel really lonely at the moment desperately seeking attention. It's been 2 months since I broke it off with my bf. I'm really feeling the loneliness now that I'm apartment bound trying to do a project but actually just procrastinating.

yournerd

Lucky would be an understatement.

Hugo Stiglitz

eternal wrote: »

This is like my support group. I'll probably have to start doing stuff if the thread closes.

We'll just start a new thread E. The fun shall go on.

Sephiroth_dude

yournerd wrote: »

Lucky would be an understatement.

Ohhhh my

Hugo Stiglitz

yournerd wrote: »

Lucky would be an understatement.

Out with it YN! We're all dying to know!

Ted_YNWA

Mister Vain wrote: »

Whoever has post 10,000 gets a free date.

Who with ?

eternal

What do people think of men inviting themselves to your house without having ever met them in person? I find this very off putting and wrong and I'm getting really sick of it. Am I not good enough to even be met in a bar cafe etc?

Mister Vain

Ted_YNWA wrote: »

Who with ?

Me.

tomwaterford

eternal wrote: »

What do people think of men inviting themselves to your house without having ever met them in person? I find this very off putting and wrong and I'm getting really sick of it. Am I not good enough to even be met in a bar cafe etc?

dangerous as fcuk...if my sisters were at that craic id give out to them

Ted_YNWA

i'll takje that at this stage.

eternal

Mister Vain wrote: »

Me.

You better hope it's a girl so.

Sephiroth_dude

eternal wrote: »

What do people think of men inviting themselves to your house without having ever met them in person? I find this very off putting and wrong and I'm getting really sick of it. Am I not good enough to even be met in a bar cafe etc?

I'm not a fan of anyone inviting themselves to my house