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Anyone else fed up with being single right now?
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Pissy we'll have to find ourselves a county/country where the man/woman ratio is in our favour
10 to 1 or something :-)
I might stand a chance then haha
according to endless web pages, the British are considered to have the most sexiest men in the world...up for a night out in London? lol
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Pissy Missy wrote: »POF is a bad place for vulnerable peeps like u and me, stay away for now, especially if you have an addictive personality
I went on POF for a while. On the first page of suggestions it showed three girls I work with. Two of them are absolutely horrible people with no redeeming qualities.
I did get a laugh by doing a search and choosing "Drug use Daily" as the only criteria. There were some very strange people there.
okcupid was better but I actually deactivated the profile after a week because I realised I was jsut too busy. I'm doing a full time college course and working fulltime. Come July I fully intend to explore internet dating.
Cos yeah, like you said in the OP, you can get fed up being single.0 -
Pissy Missy wrote: »according to endless web pages, the British are considered to have the most sexiest men in the world...up for a night out in London? lol
:-) road trip :-)
or would that be air trip?0 -
I went on POF for a while. On the first page of suggestions it showed three girls I work with. Two of them are absolutely horrible people with no redeeming qualities.
I did get a laugh by doing a search and choosing "Drug use Daily" as the only criteria. There were some very strange people there.
okcupid was better but I actually deactivated the profile after a week because I realised I was jsut too busy. I'm doing a full time college course and working fulltime. Come July I fully intend to explore internet dating.
Cos yeah, like you said in the OP, you can get fed up being single.
The very best of luck with it. I'd imagine match.com would be taken more seriously due to the fact you have to pay for it.0 -
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Pissy Missy wrote: »I've never really heard of it tbh...what does it entail?
Farmers, and lots of 'em 0 -
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Pissy Missy wrote: »I've never really heard of it tbh...what does it entail?
Ah every few months they have 'gatherings' usually bank holiday weekends
an excuse for a session
every October is the main one and that's held in a different place each year. last year Carlow was some craic.
locally there are clubs which organise their own events like tag rugby, walking,local stuff. as I said though,two years and a few gatherings and I can't even get anyone to look at me.
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OP I assuming you're in Ireland. Are you in a city or countryside?
I found it pretty hard to meet someone decent in Ireland too, emigrated four years ago though. I love Irish men (ye're all great!) but just found the lack of a dating culture combined with drinking culture and sort of deathly fear that people have of "embarrassing themselves" socially meant that there's no real casual approach or opportunity to meet someone in the normal way that people do in other countries.
When I lived in the States I got approached about once a week, in Canada I'd get asked out or asked if I had a boyfriend in the same way you'd order a coffee or ask what someone does for a living. And currently in the UK there's a less in-your-face culture, but people still approach each other.
First thing I notice when I come back to Ireland for a visit is that people don't look at each other in the same way. Sounds mad, but sometimes I'll be walking down the street and notice people will intentionally avoid eye contact, look the other way if I see them looking, disengage. Whereas abroad it's different. People stare, smile, strike conversation etc.
We're great ones for the banter (arguably the best in the world) but I think there can be a real fear of intimacy/rejection amongst strangers which combined with the lack of dating culture, means the same confidence and ease of approach doesn't exist. I'd probably still be single and disgruntled if I was in Ireland too.
Here's a humourous illustration
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I find it weird that so many people are needy of physical relationships and having a partner. Of course, thats just my opinion.
I dont think I could handle something like that.
My last (and only) relationship lasted 2 weeks, and that was 6 years ago when I was a teenager.
I'm too content the way I am. Bit lonely at times but eh.
As Aristotle said "we are social animals" 0 -
OP I assuming you're in Ireland. Are you in a city or countryside?
We're great ones for the banter (arguably the best in the world) but I think there can be a real fear of intimacy/rejection amongst strangers which combined with the lack of dating culture, means the same confidence and ease of approach doesn't exist. I'd probably still be single and disgruntled if I was in Ireland too.
Here's a humourous illustration
Ha the savage eye - nice! Yeah I'm from the countryside in the Midlands. I think you might be on to something. I was in America and Italy and England, and guys were selling themselves left, right and center. Italy was in a league of it's own though, never saw anything like it, married men and even men thinking I was a hooker when I was wearing a tracksuit of all things!!! (Perhaps a horny nation?).
But yeah unless its in a work environment or through a friend, I think meeting someone in Ireland is as common as winning free liposuction!0 -
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Ah every few months they have 'gatherings' usually bank holiday weekends
an excuse for a session
every October is the main one and that's held in a different place each year. last year Carlow was some craic.
locally there are clubs which organise their own events like tag rugby, walking,local stuff. as I said though,two years and a few gatherings and I can't even get anyone to look at me.
they must smell that I'm not a farmer
you'd be surprised how backward some young farmers are....this coming from someone who is a farmer (have real job aswell)
Im not involved with macra myself...believe its great crack though:)
or on boards :pac:Pissy Missy wrote: »Well you won't find them in the clouds
right that's it...im getting ready and going into town not staying in again!!0 -
tomwaterford wrote: »or on boards :pac:
right that's it...im getting ready and going into town not staying in again!!
Go Get em Tommy boy...Giver one for me 0 -
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Have a drink for me
don't really drink though....first time in ages out:D:DPissy Missy wrote: »Go Get em Tommy boy...Giver one for me
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OP I assuming you're in Ireland. Are you in a city or countryside?
I found it pretty hard to meet someone decent in Ireland too, emigrated four years ago though. I love Irish men (ye're all great!) but just found the lack of a dating culture combined with drinking culture and sort of deathly fear that people have of "embarrassing themselves" socially meant that there's no real casual approach or opportunity to meet someone in the normal way that people do in other countries.
When I lived in the States I got approached about once a week, in Canada I'd get asked out or asked if I had a boyfriend in the same way you'd order a coffee or ask what someone does for a living. And currently in the UK there's a less in-your-face culture, but people still approach each other.
First thing I notice when I come back to Ireland for a visit is that people don't look at each other in the same way. Sounds mad, but sometimes I'll be walking down the street and notice people will intentionally avoid eye contact, look the other way if I see them looking, disengage. Whereas abroad it's different. People stare, smile, strike conversation etc.
We're great ones for the banter (arguably the best in the world) but I think there can be a real fear of intimacy/rejection amongst strangers which combined with the lack of dating culture, means the same confidence and ease of approach doesn't exist. I'd probably still be single and disgruntled if I was in Ireland too.
Here's a humourous illustration
Very interesting. And I'd agree to a degree. But did you notice how you emphasized that you get approached? You didnt say anything about approaching.
This isnt just me, this is practically every bloke, Irish and foreign, handsome and the ordinary that I've talked to about this - Irish women, whether it's the fact that they think they can swing Ryan Goslin if they wanted to or are entitled to a Ryan Goslin, they shoot blokes down in semi-automatic fashion. This is the reality. I'm not saying they shouldnt. You dont have to settle for anything less that you feel you are worth.
I have friends who are funny, sound, very smart, handsome, good shape and Irish women wont have any of it. It's truly bizarre. What makes it even more bizarre, and explains our culture, is that the blokes that do seem to pull are often sloshed, full of ****, and look like they are about to break open the last button of their shirt and start playin a bango.
I have one friend who constantly looks hungover and famished and gets abusive when he drinks (whiskey) and some of the Irish women he's pulled would make Darwins theory look silly. You mentioned dating scene. From what I've seen, the opposite sex are a lot more easy with being friends on other countries. It's very normal for both men and women to be friends in other European cultures. Relationships can develop this way. Here, for most blokes it seems, it's some bird in the job or the lottery on a night out.0 -
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thegreatgonzo wrote: »Aren't you two both in Waterford...why don't ye have a drink together;)
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Pissy Missy wrote: »Sounds like an idea. I may look into some activities but I guess Portlaoise is so tiny, I'm sure there must be a few things out there. Thanks
Amen to that, portlaoise is just too small with not enough happening unless you're into the GAA0 -
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guitarzero wrote: »Very interesting. And I'd agree to a degree. But did you notice how you emphasized that you get approached? You didnt say anything about approaching.
This isnt just me, this is practically every bloke, Irish and foreign, handsome and the ordinary that I've talked to about this - Irish women, whether it's the fact that they think they can swing Ryan Goslin if they wanted to or are entitled to a Ryan Goslin, they shoot blokes down in semi-automatic fashion. This is the reality. I'm not saying they shouldnt. You dont have to settle for anything less that you feel you are worth.
Funnily enough the only place I hear this about Irish women is on boards tbh, I can only speak for myself of course but I've always been very open to approaches and can't to my recollection remember ever 'shooting anyone down' in this seemingly rude and abrupt fashion that is commonly spoken about. Same goes for any female friend I've ever seen being approached.
I love being chatted up and asked out as anyone does and always respond positively and politely to it, even now while in a relationship. It's flattering.
Unless of course yer man is being a rude gee-eyed disruptive twat which is sadly common on the Irish bar/club scene. Never was into that much though.
In terms of making the approach - I've done that a handful of times with Irish men, call me overly-sensitive but having gotten massively burned by an ex or two who I approached and chased for the majority of the relationship, I prefer to lead with flirting and open body language and leave the chap to follow the cues.
I've a pretty open and friendly personality and would say generally I'm pretty approachable and make it more than obvious when I'm into someone - I've never had trouble with that since I emigrated. Only, it would seem, if the target of my affections is Irish! 0 -
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Pissy Missy wrote: »Your sadness is most welcome here - first 5 minutes are free, €2.44 for every additional minute
It's ok. Just gonna listen to this on a constant loop for the next 3 months
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Missy (don't want to keep calling you pissy)
You're only a young wan how come you're not out on a Saturday night?
Actually was out last Sat night, approached a guy and all, he got my phone number but haven't heard from him, ah well, it was a confidence boost at the very least, he was fair fit 0 -
Pissy Missy wrote: »Ha well I was out last weekend, have a head cold atm so going to rest up until it's better, are you heading out? With TomWaterford perhaps? ha ha you're gas ha ha think he was out the door like speedy gonzales hahaha
na I've work in the morning and dentist and physio next week,so funds are a bit low 0 -
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It's ok. Just gonna listen to this on a constant loop for the next 3 months
Great Song Siblers and great attitude. She might have been amazing but you deserve someone even more amazing for you. Chin up kid If she didn't stick around, then that's her loss. There's only one you in the world and that's what makes you unique, it's what make you YOU. Never apologize to be yourself coz if someone doesn't accept you for being you then Fu## them! 0 -
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Some of us aren't talking months
sometimes it would just be nice to be on the inside looking out for a change
ya I do know a few alright who need to be wit someone and get with someone as soon as a relationship ends!
wouldn't be my cup of tea at all now!0 -
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