Are you an extrovert/introvert/confused?

I am primarily an extrovert. I love the company of others and I'm constantly out socialising, despite my high post count

I would have some introverted tendencies though. If I'm having a particularly bad day I would rather be on my own - and that even includes posting on here. I like to switch off from everything. I think that's more down to me not feeling I can present the best of myself to whoever I'm with, of course there's a couple of people who I can comfortably sit in absolute silence with and I love that too. I do love my own company, and wouldn't be bored on my own but feel sort of, fulfilled, maybe, when I'm with other people.

I'd say everyone goes through different phases of it at different points of their lives, to some degree at least.

NordieSteve

About 80% introverted. I've always been socially awkward to a degree, I find it exausting being in large social events. In a group of about 2-3 I'm grand though.

I find being an introvert is a serious hindrance as practically all aspects of life are tied to some form of extroverted function. Especially the auld love life.

Roquentin

NordieSteve wrote: »

About 80% introverted. I've always been socially awkward to a degree, I find it exausting being in large social events. In a group of about 2-3 I'm grand though.

I find being an introvert is a serious hindrance as practically all aspects of life are tied to some form of extroverted function. Especially the auld love life.

Team players are generally sociable and extroverted. Not all but a lot of them.

And most professional jobs involve working in teams unless you are the boss.

I dont mean by teams that you are glued to each other 9-5. But you have to go to meetings and liaise with customers and so on, which those with good interpersonal skills find easier.

I myself am very good working alone and doing repetition. Dont like working with people or customers.

gugleguy

Being the definitive introvert I am look back and wonder how I worked 6 years straight in callcentres which ended in Feb 2008:p

NordieSteve

Roquentin wrote: »

Team players are generally sociable and extroverted. Not all but a lot of them.

And most professional jobs involve working in teams unless you are the boss.

I dont mean by teams that you are glued to each other 9-5. But you have to go to meetings and liaise with customers and so on, which those with good interpersonal skills find easier.

I myself am very good working alone and doing repetition. Dont like working with people or customers.

I'm lucky enough in that I can act well in a professional setting that makes it seem like I've got a handle on things. It's mentally exhausting though.

Roquentin

NordieSteve wrote: »

I'm lucky enough in that I can act well in a professional setting that makes it seem like I've got a handle on things. It's mentally exhausting though.

I can identify with the mental exhaustion. I used have to pretend to be sociable in such situations. Drove me crazy.

Gave it up thankfully

--LOS--

NordieSteve wrote: »

About 80% introverted. I've always been socially awkward to a degree, I find it exausting being in large social events. In a group of about 2-3 I'm grand though.

I find being an introvert is a serious hindrance as practically all aspects of life are tied to some form of extroverted function. Especially the auld love life.

It shouldn't hinder the auld love life, that's only concerning two people :P

It is pretty annoying all right how most work places are very extrovert focused, I find it really like that in an academic environment too. Whenever I've classes where some marks are awarded for discussion and participation I really struggle, or doing group problems or doing stuff on the spot, I hate it! That's just not how I function at all, I need to be on my own somewhere quiet, or I literally can't think. And this is in the sciences, not really an area that attracts extroverts, I wish people would stop trying to make introverts into extroverts >.<

Tardful Slakerly II

--LOS-- wrote: »

It shouldn't hinder the auld love life, that's only concerning two people :P

It is pretty annoying all right how most work places are very extrovert focused, I find it really like that in an academic environment too. Whenever I've classes where some marks are awarded for discussion and participation I really struggle, or doing group problems or doing stuff on the spot, I hate it! That's just not how I function at all, I need to be on my own somewhere quiet, or I literally can't think. And this is in the sciences, not really an area that attracts extroverts, I wish people would stop trying to make introverts into extroverts >.<

I'm similar to you. I mostly don't have to deal with any forced social situations.

There is one person in particular that goes climbing all over the place, constantly asking open ended rhetorical type questions, going off on this or that liberal cause rather than staying on topic. One of these people that tries to tell you how you should think. He's very awkward. Thinks he's a radical... he's just a tosser.

Muise...

--LOS-- wrote: »

It shouldn't hinder the auld love life, that's only concerning two people :P

It is pretty annoying all right how most work places are very extrovert focused, I find it really like that in an academic environment too. Whenever I've classes where some marks are awarded for discussion and participation I really struggle, or doing group problems or doing stuff on the spot, I hate it! That's just not how I function at all, I need to be on my own somewhere quiet, or I literally can't think. And this is in the sciences, not really an area that attracts extroverts, I wish people would stop trying to make introverts into extroverts >.<

I fcuking hated team exercises in academia too - I don't think they're trying to make an extrovert of you though; they'll do anything to cut down on papers and exam scripts to mark!

That said, I have worked really well on projects where I have chosen collaborators (why is that a dirty word everywhere but arts? ) or agreed to take part because I liked the others' work. Forcing team work out of a random group, with a completely unforseeable dynamic, is just torture.

Gongoozler

I though I heard my housemate coming in the door, first thought I had was how quick i could make it to my room.

gugleguy

I can interact with the utmost chatterboxes, but it drains my batteries that much more quicker

NordieSteve

The whole Facebook thing is a bitch too. Being surrounded by a sea of people taking hundreds of photos every time you go out is feckin annoying.

shopaholic01

NordieSteve wrote: »

The whole Facebook thing is a bitch too. Being surrounded by a sea of people taking hundreds of photos every time you go out is feckin annoying.

Why are so many people now incapable of getting through the day without gathering photographic evidence? I wouldn't mind if they were actually doing something interesting.

Edit: it's a birch Steve.

NordieSteve

shopaholic01 wrote: »

Edit: it's a birch Steve.

:rolleyes: :P

Roquentin

Muise... wrote: »

I fcuking hated team exercises in academia too - I don't think they're trying to make an extrovert of you though; they'll do anything to cut down on papers and exam scripts to mark!

That said, I have worked really well on projects where I have chosen collaborators (why is that a dirty word everywhere but arts? ) or agreed to take part because I liked the others' work. Forcing team work out of a random group, with a completely unforseeable dynamic, is just torture.

For projects i used come in to meetings, sit down and say nothing. They told me to do this and that and i went off and did it. Worked well.

Theyd all be arguing over F.A. as well. "use this, do that." I was like its ireland, its harder to fail than it is to pass

we'llallhavetea

Definitely an extrovert mainly, I can have my off days where I'm quiet and in a foul mood but I can generally snap out of it.

Muise...

Roquentin wrote: »

For projects i used come in to meetings, sit down and say nothing. They told me to do this and that and i went off and did it. Worked well.

Theyd all be arguing over F.A. as well. "use this, do that." I was like its ireland, its harder to fail than it is to pass

My trouble is I'm an introvert and a typical middle-child peacekeeper type, so I'd spend ages trying to find consensus, or at least a spot of synthesis, so we could just get on with the job. I think they just wanted to see who was the Queen bee, so silly me. :mad:

jimgoose

Muise... wrote: »

My trouble is I'm an introvert and a typical middle-child peacekeeper type, so I'd spend ages trying to find consensus, or at least a spot of synthesis, so we could just get on with the job. I think they just wanted to see who was the Queen bee, so silly me. :mad:

This is precisely it. You get a surprising number of people in situations like this who simply like the sound of their own voices, are looking for attention, are driving some horsepuckey agenda known only to themselves, or all of the above. Luckily, I am a somewhat introverted Alpha Male type with some serious shirts, so I can usually control and direct these things when I bother my hole!

Muise...

jimgoose wrote: »

This is precisely it. You get a surprising number of people in situations like this who simply like the sound of their own voices, are looking for attention, are driving some horsepuckey agenda known only to themselves, or all of the above. Luckily, I am a somewhat introverted Alpha Male type with some serious shirts, so I can usually control and direct these things when I bother my hole!

Alpha Goose. My new Superhero!

jimgoose

Muise... wrote: »

Alpha Goose. My new Superhero!

More along the lines of Duck Dodgers in the 24th-and-a-half Century, but thanks!

gugleguy

we'llallhavetea wrote: »

Definitely an extrovert mainly, I can have my off days where I'm quiet and in a foul mood but I can generally snap out of it.

But your boards handle description mentions cats
I would think dogs are more extroverted in nature? Are you catty then when you are on foul mood?:P

maguic24

gugleguy wrote: »

I would think dogs are more extroverted in nature? Are you catty then when you are on foul mood?:P

You'd be surprised. My cat is not introverted at all, he loves people and gets lonely. He's happiest when I'm at home, the fecking purrs out of him. He'd sit with you the entire day.

mr.anonymous

I'm definitely an Introvert. I would like to be more outgoing but I still like my alone time.

I can't stand people who would talk the hind legs off an ass. Especially if they expect you to keep on chatting. If it's about how drunk they got the other night and all the gossip, I just don't want to know.

I'm very reserved and a bit shy. It takes me a while to be comfortable with new people. School didn't help my confidence and I'm still seeing if I become more Extroverted with increasing confidence, since I started college.

jimgoose

How do you recognise an extroverted programmer? He looks at your shoes when he talks to you!

mr.anonymous

And introverts stay at home and vote in Boards polls!

jimgoose

mr.anonymous wrote: »

And introverts stay at home and vote in Boards polls!

As my breakfast burrito is now rapidly congealing, I shall be blunt: I didn't vote.

czechlin

I like penguins but think I would make a great lion. Be a badass for an hour or two and then sleep for the rest of the day!

I think I'm a mix. I enjoy socialising, I have no problem with talking to strangers and I guess my friends would say I'm extroverted because I'm always up to all sorts with them and wouldn't spoil any fun. But I need to balance all this with a serious alone time, I like my space very much. Always have.

maguic24

jimgoose wrote: »

I shall be blunt: I didn't vote.

You're letting the penguin side down! :mad:

Tardful Slakerly II

jimgoose wrote: »

How do you recognise an extroverted programmer? He looks at your shoes when he talks to you!

I heard this before but it was about Finnish people. they're all a bit introverted by the sounds of it.

jimgoose

maguic24 wrote: »

You're letting the penguin side down! :mad:

Never, dear lady. Done!! :cool:

we'llallhavetea

gugleguy wrote: »

But your boards handle description mentions cats
I would think dogs are more extroverted in nature? Are you catty then when you are on foul mood?:P

One of my male cats is a fcuking diva, he's like a dog, opens the fridge and swipes the ham, starts wrecking the place if he's being ignored! I have to try and get a video of his antics, he's unbelievable! So, cats can be extroverts!