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  • 17-06-2014 4:36pm
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    thedeer
    Registered Users Posts: 9 ✭


    Hi folks,

    I'd really appreciate some advice here. My wife and I separated last summer. We have 3 kids (ages 10,14,17). Soon after I moved out I got involved with a new lady who's expecting a baby in November (I know, it's nuts, scandalous, call it what you like) but we are where we are. My question is when and how should I tell my kids? My wife knows already and in fairness has been very good about it. Not happy obviously but a lot of women would have me shot. I'm really worried about how kids will take it especially the youngest. Any ideas? Thanks.


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    Taltos
    Registered Users Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    OP you may get a better answer in Parenting or Personal Issues as strictly speaking this isn't a Separation type of issue. I will leave it here for the moment (in case others here have had similar experiences) but if you do want it moved please let me know.

    Taltos


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    thedeer
    Registered Users Posts: 9 ✭thedeer


    Ok. Sorry about that! Can you move it please? Thanks.


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    Taltos
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    Thread moved at OPs request. For anyone who has followed it here please read the local charter before posting, there will be differences.
    OP - best of luck.

    Taltos


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    Orion
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    I'd say it'll be the oldest who'll take it worst rather than the youngest. At 10 they are fairly pliable. The 17 year old could see it as a betrayal of his/her mother - and possibly the 14 year old too. I assume the kids know you're involved with another woman? If so, for the youngest one you just need to tell them (before they hear from someone else) that there's a brother/sister on the way and that it won't lessen your love for him. For the teenagers just be honest with them - that you're in a new relationship and you're having a child. Again stress it won't lessen your love for them but be prepared for the silent treatment or worse and take it on the chin.


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