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Anxiety and/or depression discussion.
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handbagmad wrote: »that's good to know thanks Hugo. I shall not blame the sweets so, its dry mouth
Those damn tasty sweets eh?! :mad::D0 -
Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »Hey you two!
Not the worst here thanks Fr. How are you sir?
How is H?
I'm still on my rollercoaster, but it's been a good year if I take everything into account. Been a year on Boards tomorrow
:p, god I was a different person back then in terms of my anxiety progress. In some ways things have got far worse, but importantly I've got far more hope, vision and the means to pull myself up. 0 -
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Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »You mean to say that man-flu has jumped and infected the opposite sex?! We're doomed! :eek::D
Yep...doomed is right. Best get to the underground bunker with the survival kit!:) 0 -
handbagmad wrote: »Yep...doomed is right. Best get to the underground bunker with the survival kit!:)
Luckily I bought a year's cache of Galaxy chocolate and Diet Coke in Tesco today. 0 -
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Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »Luckily I bought a year's cache of Galaxy chocolate and Diet Coke in Tesco today.
Tesco still hanging on in there in Ireland? I hope them and the rest of their corporate chums leave Ireland alone as they all come crashing down (If you're not aware, Tesco's dominance in the UK has been nipped in the bid in recent times to say the least )
Anyway enough of my business university degree getting in the way of my weekend...0 -
Tesco still hanging on in there in Ireland? I hope them and the rest of their corporate chums leave Ireland alone as they all come crashing down (If you're not aware, Tesco's dominance in the UK has been nipped in the bid in recent times to say the least )
Anyway enough of my business university degree getting in the way of my weekend...
I hope not! I got myself 10 litres of Diet Coke for a fiver there today.0 -
Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »I hope not! I got myself 10 litres of Diet Coke for a fiver there today.
That won't help your body much 0 -
Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »I hope not! I got myself 10 litres of Diet Coke for a fiver there today.
They were out of Coca-cola and Cidona there in our local. We had to get everything else 0 -
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Firstly, sorry for this excerpt from my autobiography I just want to tell my story. I don't really need advice, but if anyone has some feel free to tell me.
I have pretty severe social anxiety. I was diagnosed when I was 16, but it's obvious that it's been present since I was a "shy" child. In my teen years the only way I could deal with it without having to resort to meds was to pretty much avoid talking to people, friends and family included. That had its perks in school because teachers knew about it so I was never asked anything in class and never put on the spot. My family understood why I didn't talk and understood that it was something I had to do in order to be in control. It annoyed the hell out of the few friends that I had, but they still tried to include me in conversations, etc. That was the way it was until I was about 24, and I was content with that. Around that time my friends and siblings were starting careers or having families of their own, and generally getting on with their lives. My anxiety got a whole lot worse because I felt as though the only people who understood me were no longer part of my life. Over the next couple of years I lost pretty much all contact with my friends, but I learned to live with that. Last year I decided that I needed to get out of my comfort zone and put myself in social situations that completely terrified me in order to try and cope better with the anxiety. The way I did that was by applying to college and basically starting from square one. New location, new people who were in the same boat as me in so much that they'd know no one, etc. I started last September, and all was going well for the first week or two. I wasn't surrounded by new friends, but I managed to make a couple. The first thing I told them after meeting was about my social anxiety, just so they'd understand that when I got quiet it wasn't by choice. Problems started after a couple of weeks when my new flatmates stopped trying to get me to talk to them. I never told them about my anxiety because I was managing to make small talk without having a panic attack. We never really had a proper conversation, and I think that they thought that because of that I didn't want anything to do with them beyond talking about the weather. The last weekend of September I decided that I was going to tell them because I wasn't handling them seemingly not liking me very well. I had been at home for the weekend and when I got back to the flat they were relaxing in the living room, TV on, laptops out, cups of tea. All very cosy. It would have been a great time to tell them because it was all very laid back so it was like I would have been just casually mentioning it. Within the time it took me to roll a fag they had cleared the room. That upset me because it was then that I realised that there was no hope of friendship if they can't even stand to be in the same room as me for 30 seconds. For the past couple of months any interactions between us have consisted of me being completely silent after saying hi and them looking at me like they want to hurt me. Since that day I've had responses prepared for when they bring up how little I talk, like everyone else I've had to spend an extended period of time with. There hasn't been one mention of it from them, which is very irritating. I'd like to tell them why I don't talk. Not so much to try and salvage any sort of friendship, but as a lesson not to judge people without hearing their side of the story.
My autobiography will be available in all good books stores in time for Christmas 0 -
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Fame and Demise wrote: »Firstly, sorry for this excerpt from my autobiography I just want to tell my story. I don't really need advice, but if anyone has some feel free to tell me.
I have pretty severe social anxiety. I was diagnosed when I was 16, but it's obvious that it's been present since I was a "shy" child. In my teen years the only way I could deal with it without having to resort to meds was to pretty much avoid talking to people, friends and family included. That had its perks in school because teachers knew about it so I was never asked anything in class and never put on the spot. My family understood why I didn't talk and understood that it was something I had to do in order to be in control. It annoyed the hell out of the few friends that I had, but they still tried to include me in conversations, etc. That was the way it was until I was about 24, and I was content with that. Around that time my friends and siblings were starting careers or having families of their own, and generally getting on with their lives. My anxiety got a whole lot worse because I felt as though the only people who understood me were no longer part of my life. Over the next couple of years I lost pretty much all contact with my friends, but I learned to live with that. Last year I decided that I needed to get out of my comfort zone and put myself in social situations that completely terrified me in order to try and cope better with the anxiety. The way I did that was by applying to college and basically starting from square one. New location, new people who were in the same boat as me in so much that they'd know no one, etc. I started last September, and all was going well for the first week or two. I wasn't surrounded by new friends, but I managed to make a couple. The first thing I told them after meeting was about my social anxiety, just so they'd understand that when I got quiet it wasn't by choice. Problems started after a couple of weeks when my new flatmates stopped trying to get me to talk to them. I never told them about my anxiety because I was managing to make small talk without having a panic attack. We never really had a proper conversation, and I think that they thought that because of that I didn't want anything to do with them beyond talking about the weather. The last weekend of September I decided that I was going to tell them because I wasn't handling them seemingly not liking me very well. I had been at home for the weekend and when I got back to the flat they were relaxing in the living room, TV on, laptops out, cups of tea. All very cosy. It would have been a great time to tell them because it was all very laid back so it was like I would have been just casually mentioning it. Within the time it took me to roll a fag they had cleared the room. That upset me because it was then that I realised that there was no hope of friendship if they can't even stand to be in the same room as me for 30 seconds. For the past couple of months any interactions between us have consisted of me being completely silent after saying hi and them looking at me like they want to hurt me. Since that day I've had responses prepared for when they bring up how little I talk, like everyone else I've had to spend an extended period of time with. There hasn't been one mention of it from them, which is very irritating. I'd like to tell them why I don't talk. Not so much to try and salvage any sort of friendship, but as a lesson not to judge people without hearing their side of the story.
My autobiography will be available in all good books stores in time for Christmas
Maybe you'll put some paragraphs in it so we can read it without getting a headache. *Leaves room* :P
You don't really have to explain anything to them. You have an illness. The way i'd look at it- Does a person with asthma have to go around telling people they have it just in case they get an attack. Your flatmates lack of interaction with you says more about them really. They could at least be civil and finish a conversation with you. I mean why should you have to make all the effort?
They have no power over you. You owe them no explanation. 0 -
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Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »I find the real dark chocolate to be very bitter and strong tasting though
well, it may not taste that nice maybe, but it will make you feel good.
as in, the taste of mushrooms (depending on the person) may not like a earthy taste, but its effects are good for your health.0 -
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