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Anxiety and/or depression discussion.

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    #3212
    Hugo Stiglitz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    Gongoozler wrote: »
    Yeah can't be doing with this, going to get the first bus home tomorrow. And I'm not sure if I'll ever be back again.

    What's happening GG?


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    #3213
    Gongoozler
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,263 ✭✭✭Gongoozler


    Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »
    What's happening GG?

    Had a bit of an argument with someone. Or more like I got told about things I'm doing wrong from someone who is less than qualified to be telling anybody. Hugo I don't get on with my family, on account of them being awful people.


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    #3214
    Hugo Stiglitz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    Gongoozler wrote: »
    Had a bit of an argument with someone. Or more like I got told about things I'm doing wrong from someone who is less than qualified to be telling anybody. Hugo I don't get on with my family, on account of them being awful people.

    Sorry to hear that GG. :(


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    #3215
    fr336
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    I can relate to that Gongo :)


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    #3216
    Gongoozler
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,263 ✭✭✭Gongoozler


    Thanks for the thoughts and replies guys.
    Hope your days are going better


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    #3217
    allandanyways
    Registered Users Posts: 1,960 ✭✭✭allandanyways


    If I get told "Smile, it's Christmas!" or "What have you got to be upset about, it's Christmas" one more time I may scream.

    One poxy (and **** and pointless) holiday does not override all of my problems. You all know I'm unstable at the moment and yet keep pressuring me into partaking in this sham of a "celebration".

    How I'm going to get through two more days of this, I have absolutely no idea. My family do not understand me at all and my sister is absolutely unbearable. Cannot cope at all. Half thinking of paying the extortionate taxi fare to just go home to my own apartment.

    Third Christmas in a row that I am absolutely miserable. It's horrendous and I am so upset that I just can't be normal and enjoy the mindless bull**** talking that is going on for 8 and a half hours at this stage. Sitting around doing nothing and talking about nothing just to pass the time like.

    Sitting in my room in tears cos downstairs are a bunch of people who love me but don't understand me or my illness and expect me to just turn it off and smile and be jolly and no bother on me like. I can't do this. I'm so unwell at the moment that I can actually recognize it in myself and am just about keeping it together. I am doing my best. Why can't they understand that???

    Rant over. Sorry guys.


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    #3218
    fr336
    Registered Users Posts: 10,179 ✭✭✭✭fr336


    Don't be sorry at all, allandanyways. Can totally relate here. Why do you have to do two more days though?


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    #3219
    allandanyways
    Registered Users Posts: 1,960 ✭✭✭allandanyways


    fr336 wrote: »
    Don't be sorry at all, allandanyways. Can totally relate here. Why do you have to do two more days though?

    Because I moved out two years ago to get away from this ridiculous bunch of people and I never hear the end of it, especially at Christmas. I was told I had to come home for a minimum of 4 nights because I don't come home enough.

    I feel so depressed and lonely and sad and I just want to be on my own but nobody will leave me alone for a minute. I'm actually talking to myself here so they'll think I'm on the phone.


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    #3220
    fr336
    Registered Users Posts: 10,179 ✭✭✭✭fr336


    allandanyways wrote: »
    Because I moved out two years ago to get away from this ridiculous bunch of people and I never hear the end of it, especially at Christmas. I was told I had to come home for a minimum of 4 nights because I don't come home enough.

    I feel so depressed and lonely and sad and I just want to be on my own but nobody will leave me alone for a minute. I'm actually talking to myself here so they'll think I'm on the phone.

    This really isn't doing you any good. Make your excuses and leave tomorrow. Don't allow people who just happened to be there towering over you in the past to have such an impact on you now...they can't control you it's a big world out there you have other things to be doing for 4 days it's none of their business what.


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    #3221
    Reggie.
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    Worst christmas ever


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    #3222
    Gongoozler
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,263 ✭✭✭Gongoozler


    I'm facing a similar situation here allandanyways. I am going tomorrow though, regardless of what the consequences are. As it is I don't visit much, but no matter what you do, it's never good enough. There'll always be a problem with something.

    After that I just have to decide if I'm ever going to visit again.


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    #3223
    Hugo Stiglitz
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    Sorry to hear that ye're having a rough time there AAA and Reggie


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    #3224
    handbagmad
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    Sorry your Christmas' sucked too guys.

    I've stopped projectile vomiting 3hours ago now so fingers crossed. Feel very unwell.

    Who wants bastard dry turkey and evil sprouts anyway. Stupid f--king season. Bullsh1t small talk in paper hats.

    To the two posters who want to go home make up some excuse and go.


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    #3225
    Reggie.
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    allandanyways wrote: »
    If I get told "Smile, it's Christmas!" or "What have you got to be upset about, it's Christmas" one more time I may scream.

    One poxy (and **** and pointless) holiday does not override all of my problems. You all know I'm unstable at the moment and yet keep pressuring me into partaking in this sham of a "celebration".

    How I'm going to get through two more days of this, I have absolutely no idea. My family do not understand me at all and my sister is absolutely unbearable. Cannot cope at all. Half thinking of paying the extortionate taxi fare to just go home to my own apartment.

    Third Christmas in a row that I am absolutely miserable. It's horrendous and I am so upset that I just can't be normal and enjoy the mindless bull**** talking that is going on for 8 and a half hours at this stage. Sitting around doing nothing and talking about nothing just to pass the time like.

    Sitting in my room in tears cos downstairs are a bunch of people who love me but don't understand me or my illness and expect me to just turn it off and smile and be jolly and no bother on me like. I can't do this. I'm so unwell at the moment that I can actually recognize it in myself and am just about keeping it together. I am doing my best. Why can't they understand that???

    Rant over. Sorry guys.

    Very similar situation here


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    #3226
    allandanyways
    Registered Users Posts: 1,960 ✭✭✭allandanyways


    My mam just got really frustrated with me and asked me why I can't just be normal.

    If I knew, do you not think I'd have gone and made it happen already?? Yay for crying in the bathroom on Christmas day.


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    #3227
    fr336
    Registered Users Posts: 10,179 ✭✭✭✭fr336


    allandanyways wrote: »
    My mam just got really frustrated with me and asked me why I can't just be normal.

    If I knew, do you not think I'd have gone and made it happen already?? Yay for crying in the bathroom on Christmas day.

    What does she mean by normal exactly?


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    #3228
    Hugo Stiglitz
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    allandanyways wrote: »
    My mam just got really frustrated with me and asked me why I can't just be normal.

    If I knew, do you not think I'd have gone and made it happen already?? Yay for crying in the bathroom on Christmas day.

    Does your mam know you're actually depressed A3?


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    #3229
    allandanyways
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    fr336 wrote: »
    What does she mean by normal exactly?

    I presume more like my younger sister who is just saccharine sweet fake everything. She's the type of person who stages a big break up with her boyfriend two week before Christmas so she got a better present from him. She says all the right things at the right time to make my parents think she's Miss World but underneath it all, she's a fake, phony liar who loves putting people beneath her and has significantly contributed to my mental health issues from a variety of horrific things she did when she was a teenager that my parents have completely whitewashed.

    I feel like I'm right in the middle of a nervous breakdown. I can't even type this properly. The most wonderful time of year eh?


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    #3230
    fr336
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    allandanyways wrote: »
    I presume more like my younger sister who is just saccharine sweet fake everything. She's the type of person who stages a big break up with her boyfriend two week before Christmas so she got a better present from him. She says all the right things at the right time to make my parents think she's Miss World but underneath it all, she's a fake, phony liar who loves putting people beneath her and has significantly contributed to my mental health issues from a variety of horrific things she did when she was a teenager that my parents have completely whitewashed.

    I feel like I'm right in the middle of a nervous breakdown. I can't even type this properly. The most wonderful time of year eh?

    :hugs: I think it's clear from what you wrote who is the completely not normal one here! So many people like your sister, who are considered 'normal' due to their utter fake lives. If this were a movie you'd be the hero, just saying.


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    #3231
    allandanyways
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    Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »
    Does your mam know you're actually depressed A3?

    Yes, I've been to a variety of doctors and counsellors since I was 15, ten years ago.

    She gets really angry at me because I find it very difficult to hide it when I'm not feeling well and she likes everyone to be on top form when it comes to holidays and events.


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    #3232
    Hugo Stiglitz
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    allandanyways wrote: »
    Yes, I've been to a variety of doctors and counsellors since I was 15, ten years ago.

    She gets really angry at me because I find it very difficult to hide it when I'm not feeling well and she likes everyone to be on top form when it comes to holidays and events.

    That's not fair on your whatsoever when you're not feeling well. So sorry to hear that it's like that there. :(


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    #3233
    3rdDegree
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    allandanyways wrote: »
    Yes, I've been to a variety of doctors and counsellors since I was 15, ten years ago.

    She gets really angry at me because I find it very difficult to hide it when I'm not feeling well and she likes everyone to be on top form when it comes to holidays and events.

    What would you like your mother and sister to do or say? Can you talk to them?


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    #3234
    fr336
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    3rdDegree wrote: »
    What would you like your mother and sister to do or say? Can you talk to them?

    Not treating them like dirt while their own lives (well her sister's at least) are far from rosy and very hypocritical (in both cases).


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    #3235
    stop animal cruelty
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    allandanyways wrote: »
    Yes, I've been to a variety of doctors and counsellors since I was 15, ten years ago.

    She gets really angry at me because I find it very difficult to hide it when I'm not feeling well and she likes everyone to be on top form when it comes to holidays and events.

    Hey your not alone, my father is the extact same way. Ever since he heard me balling my eyes out for the 2nd time in 2weeks hes been v cold and passive aggresstive towards me. My mother acts like nothings wrong.

    Jeez to have some support off them, half the battle would be won.


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    #3236
    Hugo Stiglitz
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    stop animal cruelty wrote: »
    Hey your not alone, my father is the extact same way. Ever since he heard me balling my eyes out for the 2nd time in 2weeks hes been v cold and passive aggresstive towards me. My mother acts like nothings wrong.

    Jeez to have some support off them, half the battle would be won.

    Sorry to hear that SAC :-/


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    #3237
    fr336
    Registered Users Posts: 10,179 ✭✭✭✭fr336


    stop animal cruelty wrote: »
    Hey your not alone, my father is the extact same way. Ever since he heard me balling my eyes out for the 2nd time in 2weeks hes been v cold and passive aggresstive towards me. My mother acts like nothings wrong.

    Jeez to have some support off them, half the battle would be won.

    I'm another one who would agree with this. I swear too many families are way too manipulative, it just takes things to go wrong for the truth to emerge.


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    #3238
    allandanyways
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    3rdDegree wrote: »
    What would you like your mother and sister to do or say? Can you talk to them?

    Can't talk to my sister. She thinks she is the official voice of mental health in Ireland. She hasn't a blues clue and the way she goes on is just insulting to people with mental health problems tbh.

    I just want them to stop this fake American "we are fa-mi-ly" bull**** and act like normal. Nobody talks to me or asks me what's going on in my life and all they do is talk about stuff that has nothing to do with me cos I don't live here anymore. I want them to stop acting like I'm the problem and treating me like I'm a petulant child throwing a tantrum when the likelihood is that I'm probably going to need to spend some time in hospital in the next 6 months.


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    #3239
    greenfrogs
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    Hi I hope everybody is feeling a little better today. If people still are contemplating whether to stay with their family or head back to their own house then I say do whatever suits you. Life is too short for putting up with unnecessary stress.
    Before I used feel under pressure to behave like a 'normal' person. For example socialising with family, neighbours, acquaintance or just going out to places etc. Now if I don't want to do it then I won't. Before I used feel my family pushed me to do those things and I used feel pressured into doing it and then afterwards I usually felt worse and guilty. My family are a bit more understanding now. But they still wouldn't know much about my dark days/thoughts/moods.


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    #3240
    Gongoozler
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    My Christmas visit ended with my sister shouting at me to not bother coming back.

    She's a horrible person. And I'm done with her. Unfortunately it means never seeing my nephews again, but it's not worth it anymore.
    On my way home now, going to see my boyfriend and maybe visit his family. They're actually nice to me.


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    #3241
    greenfrogs
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    Gongoozler wrote: »
    My Christmas visit ended with my sister shouting at me to not bother coming back.

    She's a horrible person. And I'm done with her. Unfortunately it means never seeing my nephews again, but it's not worth it anymore.
    On my way home now, going to see my boyfriend and maybe visit his family. They're actually nice to me.

    It seems that you made the right decision. I hope you enjoy the rest of your holidays and that your boyfriend spoils you. :)

    Also hopefully your sister will calm down and recognise that it is important that you and your nephews should stay in contact.


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